When I was living in Cincinnati, OH, I frequently walked or biked everywhere. On several occasions I was harassed, hollored at, whistled at, and at times grabbed. On one particular occasion, a young man yelled at me as I was walking by. I ignored him. The he yelled, ” Damn baby- You thick. Mmm” I guess this was his eloquent way of expressing he was impressed by my curves. I turned, looked at him, shook my head with disgust, and started to walk away again. He followed me and continued his harassment. “Keep walking baby, I wana watch it bounce.” I was so embarrassed, and so angry that I told him, “If you ever speak to me like that again, I will BOUNCE YOU into that telephone pole!” His response, “Oh, baby, be cool, I just wana get to know you.” My response, ” Well, I don’t want to know you.” And I kept walking. As I walked away he yelled, “You’se just a dumb white ho, any damn way.” I felt so angry, and hurt. In hind sight, I probably shouldnt have threatened him, but I felt scared when he kept following me. I just felt dirty and violated.
-Angela
Golden Silence says
“In hind sight, I probably shouldnt have threatened him, but I felt scared when he kept following me. I just felt dirty and violated.”
Don’t apologize for your reaction. You were justifiably angry and reacted. Scumbag men like that aren’t worthy of an apology. That man had no regard for you as a human being, as an individual, so don’t worry about hurting his feelings and making him mad. Let him be mad. He had no right to talk to you like that.
Charlotte says
You shouldn’t feel guilty for your reaction. He referred to your body as an “it”! That takes guts to snap back at that scumbag.