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Archives for May 2009

Polite Smile = Invitation to Stalk?

May 23, 2009 By Contributor

Almost everyday I deal with men who are trying to get my attention just because I am a young woman who commutes to work everyday by myself, so I am always keeping to myself. However, if spoken to I am usually a cheerful person and will smile and take the other person into consideration in certain cases.

One day while commuting home during rush hour, I accidentally smiled politely as I walked by a man boarding the train a couple of cars down from where I was walking to, and without realizing it he started following behind me to board the same car as me.

After that, he wouldn’t stop trying to talk to me, and made it clear that he assumed many things about me like he thought I was a German foreigner (probably because I hadn’t acted like he either didn’t exist or scowled at him or something), and he insisted on trying to find out as much as he could about me and following me off when I was trying to transfer. I eventually lost him in the rush of people while going to another train, but ever since I have changed my commute route after work so that I don’t have to run into this guy again.

-anonymous

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Filed Under: Stories Tagged With: following, public transportation, sexual harassment, stalking, street harassment

“Zipper Men”

May 20, 2009 By HKearl

In Sri Lanka, thousands of young girls travel from their rural villages to places like Biyagama to work in factories. They usually work for five years before returning to their villages to marry (this description reminds me of factory girls in New England during the Industrial Revolution). The living and working conditions are generally grueling.

An article from the Sunday Times says:

“For the girls working in the FTZ, malnourishment and poor facilities such as lack of water and lavatories sans doors a distance from their rooms are the least of their problems.

Away from their families and villages, these girls not only face sexual harassment on the road but also within the congested compounds they live in.

Sexual harassment was seen as a serious problem for young girls going to or returning from work, by 21-year-old Kumari*, who says with stoic resignation that they are compelled to come to towns far away from home because they cannot get the same wages. ‘We are forced to come to the city for work,’ she laments, explaining that they move around in groups to avoid these problems.

As girls work at odd hours and also sometimes have to go to the common well for their baths, chain snatchings have become routine, while catcalls and obscenities are also everyday happenings which they ignore. “Zipper men”, the girls’ name for perverts, stalk them.

“Three-wheeler drivers stop and ask, ‘Nangi koheda yanne’, offering to give a ride,” said Kumari.
Certain groups in these areas think they can do whatever they want with the girls, stresses Mr. Marcus, explaining that in addition to harassing them, they sometimes strike up love affairs to get money from the girls. “The girls are lonely and sometimes gullible,” he says adding that many of them fall into trouble and undergo illegal abortions.

There are many quacks operating in these areas, according to him, but these problems are never discussed in the open. “It’s accepted and forgotten.”

A recent trend has also been cyclists and motorcyclists “putting vettu” (veering) towards them and sometimes going out of control and actually knocking them down. A girl who was seriously injured was not even paid for her medical treatment, some alleged, adding that even though a complaint was made to the police no action was taken against the culprit.”

This story breaks my heart. What power do they have against these men? What power do they have to change their lives of poverty?

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Filed Under: News stories Tagged With: sexual harassment, sri lanka, street harassment, zipper men

"Zipper Men"

May 20, 2009 By HKearl

In Sri Lanka, thousands of young girls travel from their rural villages to places like Biyagama to work in factories. They usually work for five years before returning to their villages to marry (this description reminds me of factory girls in New England during the Industrial Revolution). The living and working conditions are generally grueling.

An article from the Sunday Times says:

“For the girls working in the FTZ, malnourishment and poor facilities such as lack of water and lavatories sans doors a distance from their rooms are the least of their problems.

Away from their families and villages, these girls not only face sexual harassment on the road but also within the congested compounds they live in.

Sexual harassment was seen as a serious problem for young girls going to or returning from work, by 21-year-old Kumari*, who says with stoic resignation that they are compelled to come to towns far away from home because they cannot get the same wages. ‘We are forced to come to the city for work,’ she laments, explaining that they move around in groups to avoid these problems.

As girls work at odd hours and also sometimes have to go to the common well for their baths, chain snatchings have become routine, while catcalls and obscenities are also everyday happenings which they ignore. “Zipper men”, the girls’ name for perverts, stalk them.

“Three-wheeler drivers stop and ask, ‘Nangi koheda yanne’, offering to give a ride,” said Kumari.
Certain groups in these areas think they can do whatever they want with the girls, stresses Mr. Marcus, explaining that in addition to harassing them, they sometimes strike up love affairs to get money from the girls. “The girls are lonely and sometimes gullible,” he says adding that many of them fall into trouble and undergo illegal abortions.

There are many quacks operating in these areas, according to him, but these problems are never discussed in the open. “It’s accepted and forgotten.”

A recent trend has also been cyclists and motorcyclists “putting vettu” (veering) towards them and sometimes going out of control and actually knocking them down. A girl who was seriously injured was not even paid for her medical treatment, some alleged, adding that even though a complaint was made to the police no action was taken against the culprit.”

This story breaks my heart. What power do they have against these men? What power do they have to change their lives of poverty?

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Filed Under: News stories Tagged With: sexual harassment, sri lanka, street harassment, zipper men

Harassment on Public Transportation in Singapore

May 19, 2009 By HKearl

I came across this last night:

“4 out of 10 Singapore Management University (SMU) students in our survey [of 135 women] have been sexually harassed while taking either a bus or a train. Sexual harassment is something that happens everyday on public transport, and it’s wrong. Yet, people don’t talk about it. This is something that needs to change.

So a team of us at SMU have set out to bring about this change by organizing an open forum, emPOWER!HOUSE, to discuss issues relating to sexual harassment on public transport.”

The forum took place in March, 2009, and was sponsored by AWARE; I couldn’t find information about how it went (have you?).

In the comments of the post, there is an interesting discussion about the sample size, what is sexual harassment, how accurate the survey information is, etc.

And regardless of what how many respondents said they were sexually harassed, the young woman who helped conduct the survey said she and many of her friends have been sexually harassed on public transportation and, when I hope a societal goal is to have 0 people getting harassed, that shows there is a problem. And with the number of countries that have had to engage in anti-sexual harassment subway campaigns or created women–only cars to handle the harassment, I’d be surprised if it wasn’t a real problem in  Singapore too. In fact, just two weeks ago women-only cars were suggested in Beijing in part becasue of sexual harassment.

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Filed Under: Events, News stories Tagged With: harassment survey, public transportation, sexual harassment, singapore, street harassment, women-only cars

Street Harassment Round Up – May 17

May 17, 2009 By HKearl

Stories:

On Holla Back DC! a contributor talks about her bystander efforts to challenge street harassers. She says, “If I’m close enough when I spot men ogling women who are unaware they’re being ogled, I usually say something in the lines of ‘I saw you do that, and you better not try it with me! Nasty!’ to embarrass them.'”

As mentioned in the last two week round ups, since April 26, HollaBack NYC has been posting one photo a day of street harassers. They will continue to do so for a month. All of the photos are being submitted by one woman, Sally N., a New York City resident. Emily at HollaBack NYC says, “We believe these pictures tell the story of what it’s like to be a woman in the big apple.” Visit HollaBack NYC to see these photos.

Share your street harassment story today and help raise awareness about the problem!

In the News:

  • A man disguised as a woman gropes a woman on the women-only subway car in Mexico City
  • A man in Vancouver, Canada, and a man in West Redding, UK, were arrested and tried, respectively, for sexual assault of young women in public places.

Upcoming Events:

  • May 21: Fundraiser for RightRides
  • June 8 (7-9 p.m.): New Yorkers for Safe Transit are holding a community forum about the rampancy of gender-based violence in the New York City public transit system. “Taking Back Public Transit: Confronting Violence on Board” will be held at Brecht Forum, 451 West St. (btwn. Bank & Bethune), New York.
  • June 27 (2-4 p.m.): Girls and women ages 12-25 are invited to share their stories about sexual harassment on the Chicago buses and subways with the Rogers Park Young Women’s Action Team. Berger Park Cultural Center, 6205 N. Sheridan Road, Chicago, IL.

Street Harassment Resource of the Week:

  • “Let me tell you how to talk to me” and “I Need Respect;” songs written by the Girls’ Leadership Council (HOTGIRLS Street Team) in partnership with FIREGRL Club program at the Harland Boy & Girls Club in Atlanta to raise awareness about street harassment. Find more resources on the Stop Street Harassment website.
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