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Archives for September 2010

Street harassment in middle age

September 16, 2010 By Contributor

Hi I am a middle age women and you would think that street harassment would not happen to me but it does and is quite painful at my age. I can not believe how disrespectful some young men are. I have been told that I am in pretty good shape for my age and I am petite maybe that what causes that reaction, however it’s very annoying.

– Anonymous

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Filed Under: Stories, street harassment Tagged With: sexual harassment, street harassment

Ways to deal with street harassment in Indonesia

September 15, 2010 By Contributor

It happened when I lived in Jakarta (Indonesia). My family (my husband and I have 2 kids) just moved there. I like taking my bike to see around the neighbourhood or just walk.

Most of the houses have guards. They sit or stand outside of the gate house together, playing card or smoke together. One day I passed them with my bike. When I was right i front of them, they started to whistle at me, a few of them were calling me, “hei hei where are you going?”, they said many things to me.

But, hey, I’m a mature woman. They can not do that to me. I’m not innocent little girl anymore. Be careful you, men!! So, I stopped my bike calmly, I went to them, looked at them calmly and confidence and said lots of things, that i do not like what they did to me. I said that I live in this neighbourhood, they will see me nearly everyday, and that will not be nice for me if they keep doing that, I also can report them to their bosses (they do not want to loose their job of course).

They said sorry.

And then every time I ride my bike or walk going somewhere, I always wear something nice, looking smart and “wealthy”. I realised, after a few experiences, if I wear something too simple (just t-shirt and short pants and sandal no make up) I got this street harassment. But if i wear something nice (at least wear shoes and sunglasses!!), I don’t get this nasty thing. And carry myself with confidence.

I hate street harassment.

– Anonymous

Location: Jakarta, Indonesia

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Filed Under: Stories, street harassment Tagged With: indonesia, Jakarta, power and control, sexual harassment, street harassment

“A guy started calling me names and suggesting I have sex with him”

September 14, 2010 By Contributor

I was walking back home from job interview and all of a sudden a block away from my house a guy started calling me names and suggesting I have sexual intercourse with him. I got so scared because there were no people around, and he was following me. I was not sure if I could call 911, so I ran to my apartment building. When I was safely locked in my apartment I cried…

–  Anonymous

Location: Minneapolis, MN

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Filed Under: Stories, street harassment Tagged With: sexual harassment, sexual propositioning, street harassment

Jets players catcall female reporter

September 13, 2010 By HKearl

Image via NPR

This past Saturday, Ines Sainz, a reporter for a Mexican television network, attended a Jets football team practice and interviewed players with two of her male coworkers in the locker room. During the practice, the assistant coach seemed to purposefully throw the ball in her direction. Then when she was in the locker room, several players “catcalled” at her, making her feel “very uncomfortable.”

Via NPR:

“Of course you feel it when you are being stared at and when you are being spoken of in a certain way,” Sainz told The Associated Press. “I opted to ignore it … I tried to not even pay attention.” She tweeted in Spanish on Saturday night that she tried “not to look anywhere!!”

While this is not exactly street harassment, a lot of the factors are the same.

  1. The men who catcalled her treated her disrespectfully and made her feel uncomfortable, just as street harassers do to the women they harass.
  2. Many men only harass women on the streets when they are in groups and I bet had only one guy been in the locker room, he wouldn’t have harassed Sainz. Often the harassment isn’t for the benefit of the women, it’s to impress or to get a rise out of one’s male peers.
  3. Sainz’s reaction is like so many women’s after they’ve experienced street harassment: pretend to ignore it, suffer through it, and then move on. That’s what we’re told to do and when it happens all the time, sometimes that’s all we have the energy to do.
  4. Just as women are sharing their street harassment stories on blogs, via twitter, and Facebook, Sainz tweeted her experiences afterward. It raised awareness and the Jets owner apologized to her. Afterward Sainz said, “I don’t want to make it a bigger deal. I have confidence in the NFL and the Jets’ management and I know that this will serve as a precedent so that this does not happen to another women.”And that’s how I think a lot of women feel about street harassment. They don’t want to dwell on it or make a big deal as long as it stops so that no woman ever has to deal with it again.

Ladies, let’s take a cue from Sainz and keep speaking out about the harassment we face. And men, don’t take a cue from the Jets players – don’t harass women and don’t ignore it or keep silent when you see your buddies doing it. That makes you complicit.

[9.14.10 update: Amanda Hess at TBD addresses the rampant victim-blaming that seems to be growing as more people hear about what happened to Sainz]

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Filed Under: News stories Tagged With: harassment of Sainz, Ines Sainz, jets player harassment, reporter Sainz, sexual harassment, street harassment, workplace harassment

“This bloke was undressing me in his mind”

September 13, 2010 By Contributor

Today i was out doing some shopping for tonight’s supper with my boyfriend. I enjoyed a cuppa in Sainsbury’s cafe and rode the bus home. The bus journey went ok, no annoying little prats spoiling it, no drunks trying to hit on me and no fat, bald perverts leering at me – OH, hang on, that is until this ugly middle aged man (say in his 60s) got on the bus and sat on one of the side seats.

He then proceeded to stare at me even though i ignored him. I then got up to get off and as i did so, i felt his pervy eyes ogle at me as i walked off (i was wearing a dress) and even when the bus drove off, i saw him staring at me until the bus was no longer in sight.

What a creep.

It made me so mad and uncomfortable knowing that this bloke was undressing me in his mind and had got away with it. I felt degraded and it ruined my night. I’m sure he had ‘lovely’ thoughts about me when he went to bed, gross! Oh and by the way I’m 19!

– Clarice

Location: No 63 bus, north cornelly, south wales, uk

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Filed Under: Stories, street harassment Tagged With: leering, public harassment, street harassment

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