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Archives for July 2011

Disgusting: Masturbating at a 14-year-old waiting for a school bus

July 9, 2011 By Contributor

I was fourteen and I took the bus to high school because I wasn’t old enough to drive and my parents left early in the morning for work. One morning I was reading a book at my bus stop and I heard a yell and a honk–when I looked up a bright blue car was going by. At the time, I assumed he was honking at another car or someone on the street, so I went back to waiting for the bus and reading.

I was pretty engrossed in my book a few moments later when he came back and called to my through his open window (he had pulled up to the bus stop). He had pushed his shorts down and was masturbating while laughing at my expression. He then drove off.

He probably shrugged it off and continued with his day, but I was a fourteen-year-old who looked twelve and it’s always bothered me more than the few other times I’ve been harassed.

– Anonymous

Location: San Jose, California

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Indian organization passes resolution against “indecent” clothing

July 8, 2011 By HKearl

The number of reports of street harassment, rape, and murder against women are on the rise in Nagaland, India. In response, the Dimapur chapter of Naga Women’s Hoho has asked women to stop wearing “indecent” clothing so “that they do not attract or provoke crime.”

It feels like I’m reading The Onion. But I’m not. This is real life.

Via Indian Express:

“A resolution passed by the organisation in Dimapur last Sunday said it would take ‘suitable’ action against women seen wearing indecent dresses.

‘This is not just an advisory to young girls but for the attention of all women, young or old. Our resolution has clearly said that it is important to dress modestly and decently. That may not be the ultimate solution to prevent crimes ranging from eve-teasing to molestation, rape and murder, but is definitely one of reducing such crimes,’ Hukheli T Watsa, president of the Naga Women’s Hoho, said over telephone from Dimapur.”

This attitude is exactly why Blank Noise has an I Never Ask for it Campaign through which women show the clothes they were wearing when they faced harassment. The display demonstrates that they are harassed in “modest” clothes, too.

That kind of attitude is also one reason why there are SlutWalks across the world (including India), where women and allies can show that no one “asks” for harassment or assault just by dressing a certain way.

It’s crazy that we have to spend our time and energy noting that it doesn’t matter what we wear.

As long as there are harmful women-hating attitudes, a general disrespect for women, and a culture that doesn’t deter or punish perpetrators of gender-based crimes, those crimes are going to continue regardless of our clothing.

It may be more productive if folks in Nagaland spent their time and energy bringing the Parivartan program to their town instead of policing women’s clothing. The Parivartan program aspires to reduce gender-based violence by working with men and boys through India’s popular sport of cricket.

Let’s work to change gender attitudes, not articles of clothing.

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Filed Under: News stories Tagged With: eve teasing, Naga women's hoho, street harassment

“Men are stronger then us, but we have a sharp tongue”

July 8, 2011 By Contributor

I grew up in Morocco, and street harassment has been part of my daily life since I was about ten. I have always felt a lot of resent, frustration, and fear but never thought I could do something about it.My mother suffered from it as well, and one of the most absurd episodes I recall is that time when my brothers and I were children, playing at the beach, and a perfect stranger sent his sister to propose to my mother, adding that he didn’t mind she already had children!

They know no limits…

Five years ago, I moved to Lyon, France, with my boyfriend. I am not a child anymore, I am now a woman, and every single day, I get comments, whispers, strange sounds, dirty looks and I do not deserve them. I am never flattered, it never makes me smile. I usually feel beautiful and confident when I leave my house, but a few minutes outside are sufficient to destroy my mood.

Today I rebelled against two men, just a few minutes apart, and I felt so relieved, I thought it had to be shared. Men are stronger then us, but we have a sharp tongue. You know all these times you’ve had the right reply on the tip of your tongue, hesitated a few seconds and decided it was too late to shove their disgusting comments back down their throats ? Never let it happen again.

An angry look, a loud ” no!” or just a hiss, every reaction helps. They will never understand if we don’t express ourselves.

I am so tired of feeling like a monkey behind bars, or a piece of meat at the butchers…. From now on, I will say NO to these comments, whenever possible (safety first !)

– LH

Location: Rue Paul Bert, 69003 Lyon, FRANCE

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From Washington, DC to Kabul: Community Marches against Street Harassment

July 7, 2011 By HKearl

Last month I was part of a team of activists who organized a march against street harassment in Washington, DC. It was empowering to walk the streets with a diverse crowd of community members, reminding people that they are “our streets, too.” It also felt empowering to raise more awareness about this important issue offline.

Even though street harassment often is a controversial topic, during the march itself, I felt safe and passersby were generally supportive. I didn’t notice any harassment or heckling, which had been a slight concern going into the march. It probably helped that there were numerous male allies in our midst.

I hope the same will be true next week when feminist activist and Dickinson College sophomore Noorjahan Akbar helps lead a community march against street harassment in Kabul, Afghanistan. I suspect their march will be quite different from ours, especially since many people at ours wore shorts and tank tops in the warm summer sun. In addition to having different clothing choices and probably a lot more chance of facing harassment and even attack from passersby, their march will be historic for marking the first time people are taking public action around street harassment in Afghanistan.

The Facebook event page highlights what will take place:

“Hadia, a group of Afghan volunteers, and Young Women for Change (YWC), an organization working for the welfare and empowerment of Afghan women, would like to invite youth across the city to join hands in a campaign [called Advocacy for Dignity] against street harassment of women on Thursday, July 14, 2011 at 3 p.m.

The majority of the participants of this campaign will be women to guarantee the comfort of female participants, but young men who oppose the disrespect of women are also welcome to this event.

Approximately a hundred youth will start walking from Chahari Sadaarat, Shahr, at 3 p.m. and walk to the Ministry of Women’s Affairs. This [march] … will end after a half hour gathering in front of the MOWA. During the campaign, members of Hadia and YWC will encourage the public to partake in the peaceful walk as a sign of protest and a method for raising awareness on the un-Islamic act of women’s harassment.

In addition to advocating through the walk, Hadia and YWC members want to use media and propaganda as a means of raising awareness to recognize street harassment of women as a violation of their human rights and an issue that discourages women from social participation.”

How exciting! Yesterday I corresponded with Akbar via Facebook about the march. She told me more about why they are holding it:

“The main reason we are holding this campaign is that despite the fact that women’s harassment is a serious problem that discourages many women from active participation in the society, it is not recognized as a problem. Women often remain silent when they are harassed and men believe it is normal to assault women, just like drinking water.

Harassment of women has gotten worse in the last couple of years as more women have started going out of their houses for schooling or jobs. However, that is not the only reason harassment has increased. Governmental regulations to restrict women’s behavior and clothing, for example the proposed wedding law that requires women to dress “modestly’ in weddings, encourages the people who think like the Taliban and believe women should remain in their homes to harass women as they exit their houses and use women’s “inappropraite” clothing as an excuse.

Through our campaign, we hope that sexual harassment will be recognized as a problem, discussed in the Afghan media and men, rather than the victims who are women, will be held responsible for their disrespectful behavior.”

Except for the middle paragraph, her quote could have been written by almost any woman around the world. Globally, street harassment is not acknowledged as a serious problem (though thanks to important groups like the New York City Council and UN Women who are taking on this issue, this is shifting a little bit) and we need to help raise awareness that it is and get men involved in being part of the solution.

This global problem requires a global response and I am so excited to add Afghanistan to the growing list of countries where there is resistance and activism taking place to make public places safer for women and girls.

For more information about this march and related feminist activism in Kabul, read a UN Dispatch published just yesterday called The Rise of Afghanistan’s Fearless Young Feminists.

Stay tuned for a blog post after July 14 recapping how their march went.

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Filed Under: Events, News stories, Stories, street harassment Tagged With: Advocacy for Dignity, kabul, march against street harassment, street harassment, young women for change

“I am speaking out!”

July 7, 2011 By Contributor

I was locking my bike up outside a bank and witnessed three fellows spill out of a local eatery. As they crossed the street, three young women and a fellow were walking down the sidewalk. One of the aforementioned three fellows started in with, “Oooh baby,” and, “Hey girls,” towards the group.

When he got no response he said to the gals’ guy friend, “Buddy, I’ll trade you the one in the yellow for the bread I have in my pocket.”

The target group looked so uncomfortable. I felt soooo uncomfortable that I took a deep breath and yelled across the street, “You, stop harassing these women.”

The perp and his friends booed me, but the young women thanked me.

I witness, hear about, and am subjected to this bullshit daily. I am speaking out!! As a side note….the perp and his friends were heading to a strip club.

– K.Wilkins

Location: London, Ontario, Canada

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