Just for a change to my normal workwear (and, in part, because my favourite work trousers are in the wash), I left this house this morning wearing a dress. Nothing outrageous, just a red and black print jersey long-sleeved shift dress that comes to just above the knee, with thick black tights and burgundy mary janes.
First step out of my door and someone leers at me. I ignore it – they’re only looking. At least they didn’t whistle or make that horrible kissy noise.
I get to the crossing at the end of the street. A man comes to stand beside me, and falls into step as I cross the road. “This is a new look for you, innit?” he says, conversationally. I glance at him. He’s a tall black guy with a shaved head and several gold teeth, probably in his 40s. He looks vaguely familiar, someone I see around the neighbourhood to nod to but as far as I know we’ve never spoken.
“I like it,” he continues, “You look nice.” I mumble a non-committal “Thanks” and keep walking.
He’s still alongside me. I’m feeling a bit on my guard now. Very rapidly I run over scenarios in my mind. It’s 8.30 a.m. and I’ve not slept well. My reflexes may not be at their best, and I’m in heels so probably couldn’t run. What if he touches me? There’s plenty of people around. Will anyone intervene if he doesn’t leave me alone? Maybe not.
He carries on. “You used to always wear a lot of black. I like this better. I fancy you now. You look really nice.”
I cringe inwardly, and I’m glad that I’m across the road and can reasonably make the excuse that I have to run for my train to get away from him. I wonder if he has any idea how creepy that sounded. Has he been watching me? How often? Does he know where I live? Maybe I should start carrying an attack alarm again, and double-lock the door at night.
By the time I get onto the train I’m furious. How DARE he pass judgement on my appearance like that? How DARE he make me feel unsafe walking down my own street?
I’m still fuming.
– Karen
Location: SW2 3BU, London
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Beckie says
that is so scary. I am so sorry that happened. I hope it doesn’t prevent you from dressing up in the future. He has no right. I would report him if it happens again!