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Archives for November 2011

Way to go Togo’s

November 21, 2011 By HKearl

I wish I was in California right now so I could buy a sandwich at Togo’s.

This evening, the marketing project manager for this California restaurant chain sent me the following email:

“I am writing with regard to your post regarding Togo’s TV commercial on the Stop Street Harassment site. It was never our intent to trivialize sexual harassment. We appreciate your dedication to  stopping harassment of women and want you to know that the ad is no longer running.”

Thank you, Togo’s, for taking our complaints seriously when we contacted you about how your new television ad trivialized the problem of men who flash women on the streets, a form of street harassment. Other companies can learn from your prompt response to customer concerns.

A special thanks goes to California resident Dr. Wendy Stock for her guest blog post about the ad and the information she provided on how to contact Togo’s after she saw the ad on television. This evening, Dr. Stock wrote to me saying, “This is a victory, and an example of the importance and efficacy of speaking out against sexual harassment and sexually degrading media.”

Absolutely, and as Margaret Mead said, “Never doubt that a small group of concerned citizens can change the world,” one small change at a time.

Thanks again, Togo’s!

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Filed Under: News stories Tagged With: dr. wendy stock, ending street harassment, good companies, sandwich shop, Togo's

“Words not fists”

November 21, 2011 By Contributor

Well, it was in a pub rather than the street, but this drunk guy kept insulting my boyfriend who I was standing next to at the time, saying that I was way out of BF’s league, I shouldn’t be with him, his own (drunk guy’s) mates were all so much better looking, I’d be better off with them etc etc. Eventually I just lost it and punched him on the jaw (not hard). He got very angry, but luckily his own friends stopped him hitting me back.

The thing is I don’t feel at all good about it. I scared myself with my own anger and loss of control, and feel very ashamed of my behaviour. Girls, it’s better to confront with words not fists. I wish I had.

– Anonymous

Location: London, UK

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Snapshot of Street Harassment Stories, News, & Tweets: November 20, 2011

November 20, 2011 By HKearl

Read stories, news articles, blog posts, and tweets about street harassment from the past week.

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Street Harassment Stories:

Share your story! You can read new street harassment stories on the Web from the past week at:

Stop Street Harassment Blog

HarassMap Egypt

Resist Harassment Lebanon

Many of the Hollaback sites

Activism Alert:

* Contact Togo’s sandwich shop to tell them their new ad trivializing street harassment is not okay!

* If you’re in Mumbia, participate in the Stop Harassing Me campaign (ends Nov. 21)

* Watch the new anti-street harassment video from The Adventures of Salwa folks and download their guide for fighting all forms of sexual harassment

In the News, on the Blogs:

* Good Men Project, “6 Ways to Help Your Daughter Deal With Sex-Based Harassment on the Street and In School” & syndicated: AlterNet.org, “6 Ways to Teach Girls How to Deal With Idiots That Sexually Harass Them on the Street“

* Jezebel, “Police Searching For Bronx Man Who Groped Six Women In Six Hours“

* Rooted in Being, “Street Harassment“

* Youth Change Global, “Egyptian women fight sexual harassment“

* Human Rights First, “Women Carving Out New Role in Egypt“

* Occupy Patriarchy, “Women Have The RIGHT To Occupy (W)all Street(s) Without Fear“

* The Times of India, “Girl assaulted, father loses his life“

* In These Times, “The Girl’s Guide to Staying Safe Online“

* Elucidated Perspectives, “Street Harassment: On taking my Power back“

* Gossip-Monthly, “Scousewives star Elissa Corrigan: Girl About Town Shouting at women in the street is not acceptable!“

* The Times of India, “Victims’ families to rally support for Zero Tolerance“

Announcements:

New:

* You can purchase the Stop Street Harassment book for 50% off right now!

Reminders:

* Sign the Zero Tolerance Campaign’s petition calling for stronger enforcement of laws banning street sexual harassment in India.

* Contact the California sandwich chain Togo’s and tell them that trivializing street harassment in their television ad is NOT okay.

* Street harassment is not okay: Watch a new 2 minutes cartoon about street harassment

* Sign the petition to tell Toronto Police to stop blaming victims for street harassment and sexual assault!!

* Contribute to the Monday “Street Respect” series that highlights the type of stories we want to see instead of street harassment stories!

10 Tweets from the Week:

1. Ssebaye7 #EndSH My harrasser today kept on saying sorry while running away..THEY R ALL COWARDS..وعلى فكرة ماكنش بدقن #Nov18

2. rickileek #streetharassment drunk dude in elevator put arm around me, pissed when I shove him and say NOPE. xcuse me, YOU violated MY personal space.

3. maps4aid Any Activists/NGOs Fighting #StreetHarassment in Delhi? Like to team up with maps4aid 4 Delhi – Stop Harassing Me! Online Reporting Site?

4. Taniaaaaa Reporting a street sexual harassment incident. (@ NYPD 115th Precinct) 4sq.com/sJLQDV

5. Salencita Oh street harassment. It’s been two whole days since I’ve seen you.

6. FeministGriote What will it take for us to take sexual harassment & sexual abuse against women/ children seriously in this society?!

7. maps4aid Today- Drunk youths molest girls going to school and flee, angry locals set liquor shop on fire. maps4aid.com/reports/view/6… #StreetHarassment

8. aliciasanchez just got a dose of #streetharassment at the colubia heights metro @hollabackdc. but the guy handing out express papers, tristan was an ally!

9. HadeelG Being at the street after mid night does NOT mean am a prostitute #endsh #egypt

10. hkearl “Stares”: Spoken Word by Philly Youth Poetry Movement Members stopstreetharassment.org/2011/11/stares/ #streetharassment

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Filed Under: hollaback, News stories, Resources, Stories, street harassment, weekly round up

Transgender Day of Remembrance

November 20, 2011 By HKearl


One of the groups of people who face the most street harassment and the most vicious levels of violence are transgender persons. At least 20 transgender individuals were murdered since the beginning of 2011, according to the folks who run the Transgender Day of Remembrance website.

This is an outrage. No one should be harassed or killed simply for being who they are.

From the Transgender Day of Remembrance website:

“The Transgender Day of Remembrance serves several purposes. It raises public awareness of hate crimes against transgender people, an action that current media doesn’t perform. Day of Remembrance publicly mourns and honors the lives of our brothers and sisters who might otherwise be forgotten. Through the vigil, we express love and respect for our people in the face of national indifference and hatred. Day of Remembrance reminds non-transgender people that we are their sons, daughters, parents, friends and lovers. Day of Remembrance gives our allies a chance to step forward with us and stand in vigil, memorializing those of us who’ve died by anti-transgender violence.”

Today we remember and honor those 20 individuals murdered this year:

Reana ‘Cheo’ Bustamente
Génesis Briget Makaligton
Krissy Bates
Fergie Alice Ferg
Tyra Trent
Priscila Brandão
Marcal Camero Tye
Shakira Harahap
Miss Nate Nate (or Née) Eugene Davis
Lashai Mclean
Didem
Camila Guzman
Gaby
unidentified male dressed in women’s clothes
Gaurav Gopalan
Name Unknown
Shelley Hilliard
Jessica Rollon
Astrid Carolina López Cruz
Cassidy Nathan Vickers

We also honor and remember the 600+ people that have been documented by the Transgender Day of Remembrance folks and all those who have not yet been accounted for.

May there be a year in the near future when there are no new people to remember, when hate crimes cease.

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Filed Under: street harassment Tagged With: gender policing, hate crime, murder, street harassment, transgender, transgender day of remembrance

Do you have a “go-to” phrase you use when you’re harassed?

November 19, 2011 By HKearl

Please share it in the comments.

If you don’t have a go-to response, that’s okay! It’s not necessary. But if you’re like me and often find yourself stunned to silence by harassers, a go-to phrase can be really useful.

So if you’re looking for a response you can practice and give without thinking twice, you may find a conversation that occurred yesterday on the Stop Street Harassment Facebook page helpful.

Stop Street Harassment: Do you have a go-to phrase when dealing with harassers?

Mine is, “Don’t harass women.” I like it because I can say it quickly and it applies to any situation. Plus the phrase allows me to identify the behavior and tell them not to do it and I feel like I’m standing up not only for myself but for all women who are harassed!

1. mine has become, “you can’t talk to women like that. you have no right to harass anyone. it’s gross.”

2. It depends on the context, obviously, but I’m a big fan of just yelling ‘NOT A COMPLIMENT’ or ‘NOT FLATTERED’. Also short and gets the point across.

3. Do you always walk with it in your hand – used this one a couple of times in Hindi

4.  Mine’s a little more….direct. Two words- the second word’s ‘off’.

5. i’ve said, “don’t talk to me like that,” “i didn’t walk by for your pleasure.” i want to start saying, “would you talk to your mama that way?” but i think talking about someone’s mama could get a little tricky in certain situations. oh, and my favorite finger.

6. no i don’t.my response depends on the situation and how i am feeling.

7. Mine is “go ___ yourself”. I change it to “leave me the f’ alone” if the situation is more precarious. With either, you must have a total ‘don’t f with me’ attitude to pull it off. I do.

8. I said this to a man once: He told me to smile and I said “stop harassing women.” He said – “I’m gay!” I should have asked him if being gay means it is impossible for him to treat women in a condescending way.

9. I sometimes say “Don’t talk to me (or look at me) like that – I don’t like it.”

10. “Effing perv” seems to be my standby, in the loudest voice I can lay my vocal chords to.

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Filed Under: Resources, street harassment Tagged With: responses to street harassment

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