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Archives for December 2011

Gender violence at epidemic levels in the USA

December 15, 2011 By HKearl

1 in 5 women in the U.S. is a survivor of rape or attempted rape, according to the National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey, a 2010 study released yesterday by Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. The first of its kind, the CDC study reveals the US to be a country where violence is rampant, especially against women, and especially against young women.

Via NPR News:

“As many as 29 million women say they have suffered severe and frightening physical violence from a boyfriend, spouse or other intimate partner. That includes being choked, beaten, stabbed, shot, punched, slammed against something or hurt by hair-pulling.

That number grows to 36 million if slapping, pushing and shoving are counted.

Almost half of the women who reported rape or attempted rape said it happened when they were 17 or younger.

As many as 1 in 3 women have experienced rape, physical violence or stalking by an intimate partner in their lifetimes, compared to about 1 in 10 men.

Both men and women who had been menaced or attacked in these ways reported more health problems. Female victims, in particular, had significantly higher rates of irritable bowel syndrome, asthma, frequent headaches and difficulty sleeping.

Certain states seemed to have higher reports of sexual violence than others. Alaska, Oregon and Nevada were among the highest in rapes and attempted rapes of women, and Virginia and Tennessee were among the lowest.”

The findings are not very shocking when you work on issues of gender violence every day. What I want to know is if issues of rape, domestic violence, and stalking will stop being treated as jokes and stop being viewed as non-priorities compared to “real problems,” private matters, and the fault of the victim/survivor. I want to see these issues treated as a national crisis. Because that’s what they are.

Prevention must become mandatory in homes and schools nationwide.

Also, while this didn’t come out in the published study, thanks to input from Shannon Lynberg, co-founder of Holla Back DC!, the survey included questions about street harassment as a form of violence. Holla Back DC! will be interviewing some of the study’s authors to get the data on the prevalence of street harassment. This will be the first time we have national data on street harassment so stay tuned.

About 9,000 women and 7,400 men selected at random took the CDC survey. The CDC plans to conduct this same study annually.

If you are a survivor of sexual assault (woman or man), you can find help at the Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network‘s online hotline or phone hotline. It’s never too late to seek help, even if the abuse happened decades ago. There’s always time to start or continue your healing process.

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Filed Under: News stories Tagged With: CDC study, domestic violence, gender violence, intimiate partner violence, RAINN, sexual assault, stalking, survivor help

“My name is Married Woman and I am here to enjoy some peace and quiet on my lunch break.”

December 13, 2011 By Contributor

It was a beastly morning at work. First Monday of the month, and it is Christmas season too, so it was hard. At lunchtime I clock out and decide to go to the Riverwalk to de-stress and get some fresh air with a side helping of peace and quiet before going back to the chaos (and chaos it was, since 5 minutes after I clocked back in the phones were ringing off the hook…yep it was a Monday).

The Riverwalk is several yards down the street from my building. It is an approximately 2.5 (well that’s what they claim but I swear it’s longer) stretch of concrete winding it’s way through some forestry alongside the Flint River. I can usually go down and count on a good hour of solitude while I walk and work off my temper.

Today solitude was not to be, at least until I opened my mouth and got really nasty.

A few yards down I became aware of footsteps sounding behind me. Didn’t think too much of it at first until I really listened…the footsteps were matched exactly to my pace, step by step. I slowed down and lifted my phone as to check my text messages and turned to look. It was a guy dressed in a white t-shirt and the barely-hanging-on-his-butt jeans that a lot of the guys around here favor and as soon as he noticed me stopping he ventured off to go check something in the woods…or at least pretended to.

This repeated itself for another quarter of a mile and I finally stopped, sat at a bench, and proceeded to pretend to check something on my phone while the guy walked off only to veer off the trail again and go hang out by the water. I noticed he kept looking back at me and at one point when he did I took my cellphone and snapped his picture to forward to the cops or post on Holla Back at the very least.

Finally I guess he decided I wasn’t going to budge and he finally made his move. So he comes up and starts to open his mouth. “What’s your–”

“My name is Married Woman and I am here to enjoy some peace and quiet on my lunch break. I’m in a bitchy mood and if I wanted to get hit on I would have gone to a bar. Now go away before I forward your picture to the cops, whom I have on speed dial, and file charges for harassment.”

He left. Quickly. Good.

But WTF?!!

*********************

After telling this story on my own personal blog I responded to a comment made by a friend with this passage that everyone thought I should repost here:

The stuff is serious because it is evidence of a larger societal problem and a huge degree of sexism and misogyny in particular…that women exist solely for the amusement and gratification of men and that we don’t own ourselves, our bodies, our looks, or the right to exist in public in peace and have our personal space respected. These guys don’t see a woman and think of someone they can get into a long-lasting meaningful relationship with, they see pair of breasts and buttocks and feel entitled to our attention and affections on the sole qualification of having a penis.

And that’s what makes me angry, that guys who do this sort of stuff don’t see you and I as people with our own feelings and desires. They see us as trophies, potential possessions for them to win and own and show off.

It is ultimately dehumanizing and even monstrous. So people who don’t think this is such a big deal can kiss my pale butt. It is a huge deal.

– Tracy Nichols

Location: Georgia

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Street harassment role reversal in Lebanon

December 13, 2011 By HKearl

Last week, as part of the Adventures of Salwa anti-sexual harassment campaign, two trucks drove the streets of Beirut, Lebanon, and on the loudspeakers, they played recordings of women’s voices, harassing passersby. They also played messages about how street harassment is not okay.

This video clip captures what happened and you can see/hear people’s reactions to the truck and the campaign. Most of the video clip is in French, but there is about a minute where one of the campaign organizers speaks about the initiative in English.

How do you think a similar initiative would be received in your community?

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Filed Under: Activist Interviews, street harassment Tagged With: adventures of salwa, beirut, lebanon, street harassment

“I drew this comic in order to cope with street harassment”

December 12, 2011 By Contributor

“I drew this comic in order to cope with the street harassment I face nearly every day. This Thanksgiving was surprisingly bad. Unfortunately, one of my male coworkers told me, ‘Either you have really bad luck or your perception about what’s really happening is confused.’

I hope that sharing my experience will prevent other women from doubting what we already know to be true: it’s not our luck that causes harassment and we’re not confused.”

Liz Rush identifies as a radical feminist, an immigrant, and a pedestrian. She is currently working on a collection of comic short stories and keeps a graphic diary about her experiences in Spain called Sin Hemingway.

“How was the walk?”

“Don’t touch me. Leave me alone.”

“Whore.”

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Filed Under: Stories, street harassment Tagged With: comic strips, groping, Liz Rush, sexual assault, sexual harassment, spain, street harassment

“I don’t step out of my house alone”

December 12, 2011 By Contributor

I was harassed by this man in my early teens. I don’t know his name, I don’t know where he lived and I don’t know what he wanted from me and why was he after me….. He followed me to school in the morning, he followed me back home everyday after school.  He followed me when I went for my math classes in the evening. He followed me everywhere…. He was always stationed outside my house day or night, rain or shine. He contacted my friends and classmates and asked them to request me that I be his friend. He followed my sister to her classes and told her classmates that he is my friend. When my father went to him and scolded him he told everyone that my father likes him. He started to match his clothes to mine. He wrote my name on the walls everywhere. He spoke to everybody in my neigbourhood about me.

No one knows, what I went went through in those three years of my life. The trauma is only mine. It became so bad that my near and dear ones started to tease me and make fun of me because of him.

And then later on I came to know that he was doing the same with one other girl from a different neighbourhood. He stopped stalking me only when he found another girl as his latest victim.

I was put to shame because of him. What was my fault, I ask?

Now, I am a grown up woman with kids and family. Till this date, I don’t step out of my house alone, I don’t go anywhere alone unless until my husband accompanies me.

– Anonymous

Location: Sahibabad, Distt. Ghaziabad U.P., New Delhi, India

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