In days past, a canary in a coal mine was critical for safety. Miners would keep a caged canary in a mine and as long as they heard the canary singing they knew they were safe from the noxious gases that they were exposed to. If the canary stopped singing and/or dropped dead, miners also knew the mine was no longer safe to work in. Our neighborhoods are our mines and street harassment is a noxious gas that threatens our community safety and stability but goes unacknowledged. The time has come to notice the canary is no longer singing, our communities are getting less and less safe and if we don’t take notice, no one will.
As a member of and activist within the Black community I’ve often thought of street harassment as an unfortunate yet excusable inconvenience. I didn’t grow up in an area where there was a great amount of street harassment but I do recall learning after school or on weekends that calling out to women about their bodies wasn’t a problem, it was a rite of passage. When with male friends, one would dare another to speak to a passing woman and the next would egg on the next friend to up the anti, “I bet you won’t tell her she has a nice ass.” Like the adolescents we were the bet was attempted and others were waged in escalation. Like many young males, this socialization set in motion a pattern of engaging women, not as people but as passing object of male sexual desire and power.
Many argue that street harassment is simply an ill-conceived attempt at getting a date or a woman’s attention, but I’m not convinced of this perspective. Not too long ago, I was speaking with a number of young Black men about “hollering.” They told me that they’d shout at women on the street, make sounds like “psssstttt” to get their attention, and when they really wanted her attention they’d break awa from their boys and yell from the stoop or trailing behind women like, “hey ma! Let me talk to you. Why you walking so quick? Slow down.” The young men were all confident that what they offered up as their way of engaging young women was doing them a service of getting them closer to these women. When I asked, “How many of you can name someone’s wife or significant other they got in a conversation that started with, ‘Ay, daammmmmnnnn your ass is fat. Where you going? Let me holler at you?” They laughed and rebuffed my questions but then began to unpack their assumptions about gender relations, sexual pursuit, and power.
More than anything else, street harassment is about power for boys and men. For Black men who have been locked out of many of the proposed social opportunities of American society, be it work, education, healthy living conditions, etc. power feels a bit foreign. This lack of power exists along with media that inundates us images of “success” that are far from our grasps. In response, many young Black men look for local spaces to have power over something. This power over usually crystallizes in our relationship to women in our community. As boys and men harass women who pass by and feen interest in women responding favorably to grotesque advances and comments about their bodies, it’s all too common to hear these encounters end with, “Fuck you then, bitch!” This last ditch statement reflects males attempt to salvage the “power” in the interaction. The catch is that the final statement not only fails to provide the harasser with power, it also further disempowers the harassed.
Street harassment is so harmful for our community because it serves to dually disempower the Black community. Street harassment is constant in the places I travel daily but seldom do men engage the work of dismantling this “power play.” Both women and men are disempowered, though I must note that women bear the brunt of this disempowerment by have having their sense of safety, their body image, and notions of worth constantly tried in public places. Street harassment is tied to larger gender issues that pervade our community that often result in unstable homes, intimate partner violence, and increased police surveillance. All of which weaken our community. While most men I encounter on a daily basis, to my knowledge, do not harass on the street, most that harass are men. As men, our silence is deafening and we continue to ignore the canary in the mine which says our community needs to deal with issues of gender and power. Until we see street harassment as the problem that it is, we’ll continue to live in our neighborhoods like the miner who labors in a mine with a dead canary, until it’s too late to get to safety.
– Dr. L’Heureux Dumi Lewis, Assistant Professor of Sociology and Black Studies at the City College of New York
This post is part of the weekly blog series by male allies. We need men involved in the work to end the social acceptability of street harassment and to stop the practice, period. If you’d like to contribute to this weekly series, please contact me.
Jen says
Very interesting post. I live in a very ethnically diverse area of London and my worst street harassment experiences have always been at the hands of young black men, usually but not always in groups. These experiences have stood out for me as being particularly aggressive, with one guy threatening to kill me when I objected to him greeting me in the street as ‘Bitch’, and a real inability to take no for an answer. People have suggested that these weren’t unusually aggressive instances, but that I – as a perpetually frightened little white girl – have blown them up into something they are not. I do however, know the different between threatening behaviour and being afraid of the ‘big black man’. Up until now, I’ve never been able to figure out why I might experience a disproportionate amount of problems from young (because they invariably are young) black men, but this post has raised a lot of important issues that would be really important in educating men (of all backgrounds) and helping them understand why they harass. I also think you make a very important point about the “Fuck you then!” being ultimately an admission of failure – at the time, when this happens to you, it’s difficult to remember that. Thank you for a fantastic post!
Golden Silence says
Very, VERY powerful piece about street harassment in the black community. Thank you for sharing this!
TruckerDesiree says
Excellent Post!
The deterioration of our society is evident when a Women can barely walk into a McDonalds & it seems to be okay to visually rape her & let her know it.
I am stunned as I drive across this country as a long haul trucker how frequent poor behavior has become even when I am in small towns, just because I am a Woman does not mean I am on display for whoever wants to visually accost me.
It seems someone stopped teaching any level of class & conduct to these young Men that we are not on this planet for their entertainment anytime anywhere.
I have been called a Radical Feminist for speaking out about these things in the trucking industry by other Women in the industry!
Thanks for this post!
This is a problem in trucking because some of the industry Women like to be corporate apologists rather than leaders and that is why we need more Men standing up for what is right.
This is a problem in our society as a whole.
Women should not have to worry about verbal attacks because they rejected obnoxious advances, verbal or otherwise.
Women need to raise the standard so our young girls do not think this is normal acceptable behavior.
Thanks again for this post!
Desiree Wood
@TruckerDesiree
Strata says
Growing up, I learned early on about the fine line between “baby” and “bitch” in street interactions. I habitually ignore males who honk horns, yell catcalls or even ask for the time. I avoid eye contact and walk briskly past persons attemting to invade my personal space. I only respond to males who are polite and respectful in tone. Harassers have become non-persons to me.