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Archives for 2011

“… And I don’t like pedophiles.”

October 25, 2011 By Contributor

I’m almost 20 now, and I’ve been harassed all of my life.

But before I was 16, either a cute boy was flirting with me, or it was an older man in which I would calmly declare my age followed by “… And I don’t like pedophiles.”

Now I’m older, and the “I’m 15” excuse has lost most of it’s believability. And honestly, that scares me. (I’m SUPER happy I found this site, however!)

I have a boyfriend, and even if I didn’t I’m not interested in hooking up with strangers. I’ve been interrogated, followed, “hit on” by men ranging from an 11 year old on a skateboard to a drunk man old enough to be my grandpa, and harassed helplessly in front of others. While I have MANY stories to share with you, I have one particularly disturbing tale to tell.

I was 14, walking home from my friend’s house in sweats and a long sweater in the afternoon. On the opposite side of the road, two men in their 40’s were stopped at a stop light. The driver cat called at me. I kept on walking. His buddy beside him leaned over and said, “Hey, wanna have sex?”

Shocked and slightly frightened I shouted back, “No thanks!” And kept walking.

The sad thing is that my mom thinks this behavior, when done by men my own age, is “harmless.”

My boyfriend often blames ME for it, although he says, “I know it’s not YOUR fault,” there’s always a BUT added onto that (“but I just get upset that you let it happen,” or sometimes he even says I provoke it).

The extra bad part is when it happens with someone you know or have already started talking to. For example, you meet a man on the bus, and he seems nice. He starts an innocent conversation with you, respectfully. And perhaps you even agree to let him walk with you to your next destination. Then out of nowhere he compliments your looks or asks if you have a boyfriend. Then, that’s when the panic sets in. You don’t want to be rude, but you also don’t want to let him think this is OK.

What do you do?

I still haven’t figured it out.

Sometimes, I just avoid all men, which is it’s own form of sexism. And others I just give them the wrong number then say I need to be somewhere. I know it’s wrong, but what am I supposed to do?

– Stephanie

Location: Vancouver, WA

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Street Respect: “Tasetful” compliment

October 24, 2011 By Contributor

This is part of the Monday series “Street Respect. “Street respect” is the term for respectful, polite, and consensual interactions that happen between strangers in public spaces. It’s the opposite of “street harassment.” Share your street respect story and show the kind of interactions you’d like to have in public in place of street harassment.

I guess this may count as street harassment, but compared to the harassment I receive almost every time I go out on the town, this was quite pleasant!

I was walking to the mall with my boyfriend. A young man and two girls were waiting at the cross walk. I walked by and decided he looked safe to smile at… Then he opened his mouth to talk. “Oh God, no. Not now! Can’t he see I’m with someone?! What am I going to do?” I thought, as my smile immediately disappeared.

“Hey, you have a really pretty face!”

My smile immediately reappeared, as I said, “Thank you.”

Then looking back to my boyfriend, who was NOT happy someone else was talking to his girlfriend, my smile went away. The guy must have seen it, too, because immediately afterward he said, “I’m not hitting on your girl or anything, man- I’ve got my girl right here!” he said gesturing to the girl beside him, “I just think she has a pretty face.”

NOTE: In a perfect non-sexist world, women would not be seen as sexual objects or valued based on their beauty alone. However, if you do feel the need to compliment a pretty girl, keep it tasteful! And please, whatever you do, do NOT make public spaces a place to hook up with someone!

A woman walking to work or to go see her boyfriend doesn’t want to be asked or pressured into going on a date with you, coming back to your place or giving out PRIVATE INFORMATION like her phone number! We are not being “snooty” or “bitches” if we ignore you. We probably honestly have no desire to have relations with you, or most of the time anyone!

Don’t assume a woman is single, looking for sex and willing to “just give you a chance.” If you want to find a date, there’s dating sites, classified ads, singles night at clubs, bars, etc. A public place is NOT the place to scout out your next date or sexual adventure!

– Stephanie

Location: Lloyd Center in Portland, Oregon

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Snapshot of street harassment stories, news articles & tweets

October 24, 2011 By HKearl

Read stories, news articles, blog posts, and tweets about street harassment from the past week and find relevant announcements and upcoming street harassment events.

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Street Harassment Stories:

Share your story! You can read new street harassment stories on the Web from the past week at:

Stop Street Harassment Blog | “Street Respect” stories

HarassMap Egypt

Resist Harassment Lebanon

Hollaback

Hollaback Croatia

Holla Back DC!

Hollaback Des Moines

Hollaback France

Hollaback Israel

Hollaback Mumbai

Hollaback NYC

Hollaback West Yorkshire

Via Wall Street Journal India

In the News, on the Blogs:

* Mid-Day, “Vengeful eve-teaser’s gang kills youth, injures two“

* Good Intentions Co., “An Open Letter to All Cat Callers“

* Ses Turkiye, “Turkish women organise against harassment“

* Pakistan Today, “Harassment on public transportation a daily ordeal for women“

* CNN, “Covert peepers try to skirt Hong Kong police“

* Wall Street Journal India Real Time, “Mumbai Journal: You Are Being Watched — And Snapped“

* Youth and Culture, “Nasawiya and YCC on a roll-up-your-sleeves campaign to stop sexual harassment“

* Jezebel, “Women Told They Must Ride In The Back Of The Bus In Brooklyn”

* EcoSalon, “Handling Street Harassment Like Thelma and Louise“

* The Times of India, “Stress on tough measures to curb crime against women“

* Fem2.0, “What Steven Greenstreet Doesn’t Understand About Space, Gender, and Occupying Wall Street“

* Asian Communities for Reproductive Justice, “Taking back our power: SAFIRE talks about street harassment“

* Amy Elizabeth, “The One With All The Street Harassment“

* SWSL, “Stop Whistling, Start Listening”

* Time, “Emily May, Harassment Avenger“

* CNN, “One of two suspects released in connection with sex attacks“

Announcements:

New:

* Participate in a “Taking Back Halloween” contest and show off your creativity for creating non-sexy costumes

Reminders:

* Donate to Students Active for Ending Rape so they can mentor and teach students to advocate for safer campuses!

* If you’re in London, help a Ph.D. student out with her dissertation research by meeting to share your street harassment stories.

* Contribute to the Monday “Street Respect” series that highlights the type of stories we want to see instead of street harassment stories!

* Call for men to share views/stories about street harassment

* Sign Mend the Gap’s petition to address subway harassment in Delhi, India

* Are you in Egypt? Use HarassMap to report your street harassers

* Have an iPhone? Download the Hollaback iPhone app that lets you report street harassers

10 Tweets from the Week:

1. Femmeniste Getting catcalled while wearing oversized raincoat w/my hood up. #streetharassment is about gender, power, not clothing

2. MediaCupid All I heard was “young lady! Can I pay you for..” before I completely tuned out. #streetharassment

3. NadaHKandil Standing in Makram Ebeid waiting for the uni bus makes me feel like a cookie around a bunch of ants. :/ #EndSH

4. amarshabby Walking on talaat harb, a bunch of men started singing love song to 3 women who don’t no them. #endSH in Cairo

5. SpookSquad It is too f*!king early in he morning for this. Stop Street Harassment at gas stations at 5 something in the F’ing morning.

6. toriaar Teaching young boys to reaffirm their masculinity through harassing women makes for a pretty pathetic male population. #Egypt #EndSH

7. amarshabby Some guy just tried chatting me up and wouldn’t go away. #EndSH in #Egypt

8. UrbanBedu does co-ed education help men develop emotional maturity and in effect help reduce sexual harassment on the street?

9. kiranmanral RIP Keenan Santos. You stood up for what is right. You protested against street sexual harassment. You didn’t deserve to lose your life.

10. Karnythia How many of you have been terrified by #streetharassment? How many have had to resort to fight/flight?”

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Women in Pakistan leave jobs because of commuter harassment

October 21, 2011 By HKearl

 

via Pakistan Today

Some women leave their jobs because of the street harassment they face during their commute, according to a new article about sexual harassment on public transportation in Islamabad, Pakistan.

“This single issue is directly damaging the careers of working women,” reads the article in Pakistan Today.

I’m not surprised. I know street harassment can significantly impact women’s lives. When I conducted an informal study of more than 800 women in 23 countries and 45 US states for my book research, 9 percent of women said they had changed jobs because of harassers along their commute and, related, street harassment had caused nearly 20 percent of the respondents to move neighborhoods.

What does the harassment in Pakistan look like?

Via Pakistan Today:

“Street sexual harassment for a woman in public transport is similar to claustrophobia because she feels trapped in a small place with fear of no escape until she reaches her destination.

If a bus or train is crowded or if a woman is sitting by the window and the man harassing or assaulting her is sitting behind her, she cannot scream or raise her voice since most of the women do not want to get people’s attention in cases like these.

Faiza Bibi is a resident of Bhara Kahu which is a suburban area of the city and she has to travel daily using public transport to reach her workplace. She said most of the drivers harass female passengers; sometimes they even touch the female passenger sitting next to them on the front seats while pretending as if they were merely shifting the gear.

She complained that the behaviour of drivers, especially of the vans plying on the Route Number 127, was unbearable.

“Women have no other option since they have to sit on the front seats, next to the driver, because they are the only seats meant for women,” she explained.

She lamented that the drivers took advantage of the situation by harassing women; sometimes by touching, staring or playing loud vulgar songs but the women commuters usually avoided complaining to anyone because they felt too embarrassed to tell anybody.”

Of course Pakistan is not the only country with this problem. New York City, Boston, and Chicago all have PSA campaigns focused on sexual harassment on the buses and subways because studies showed more than 60 percent of riders faced harassment.

Many countries like Japan, India, and Brazil have women-only subway cars offered during rush hour because of the problem of sexual harassment and this is a “solution” Islamabad may turn to as well if they can get the finances for it. 92 percent of women surveyed there said they want to have women-only public transportation. But actually, what they probably want is just no harassment, not necessarily segregation. Since no one in the government seems to care about actually ending the harassment, segregation probably sounds appealing and certainly could be a short-term solution to offer them relief. But it will not fix the problem in the long run.

Fortunately, there are people speaking out against street harassment in Pakistan whose efforts may lead to more long-term change. One example is in Karachi, Pakistan, where a new NGO called Gawaahi creates media for awareness and advocacy. They recently produced two short video clips about street harassment in Pakistan as a way to start raising awareness about the problem.

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Stab Street Harassers with Purple Needles

October 19, 2011 By HKearl

Via SES Türkiye:

“One of the most famous campaigns against street harassment in Istanbul began in the early 1980s. It was the “Purple Needle” campaign, so-called because campaigners handed out needles with purple ribbons to women on the streets. The needles were used to stab attackers.

‘According to reports, street harassment went down substantially during the campaign,’ Lyn Kocher said.”

Wow!! I’m not sure if that would work anymore today without repercussions, but I’m glad it worked back then! It reminds me how women in the USA used to poke men who groped them on public transportation with their hatpins back when women used to wear hats with hatpins! Unreal what women have to do to try to stop harassers since too often a, “No thanks,” or, “Stop!,” or “Go away” isn’t sufficient.

The article the excerpt is from highlights the problem of street harassment today:

“A car begins to follow a woman on the narrow streets of Istanbul’s Beyoğlu district after a night out with the girls. She is almost home when the car stops and the two men inside ask her to join them. The woman runs to her door and enters the building quickly.

This is one of the many stories of street harassment in Istanbul, which has become a regular part of life for many women.

“Istanbul is unfortunately a city where street harassment is a part of daily life. This is not a new problem, and is largely linked to the population hike in Turkey’s recent history,” Istanbul resident Gaye Sevengil, 31, told SES Türkiye.

Beril Ozutopcu, 44, agrees. “On the street where I live, it is less common, but in the neighbourhood I work in I am harassed almost everyday.”

This year a Hollaback website launched in Istanbul, Turkey, and instead of passing out needles, they’re working to combat the problem using the internet.

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