I just got home from an evening out with friends, but on my way out to my car is where this story starts.
I’m wearing jeans, sneakers, and a sleeved v-neck top. As I approach my car I see that I have a parking ticket, and so does a guy (We’ll call him DB) who decides to come up to me to “help.” When I found this spot, I was being flagged in by one of the guys that stands around and does that kind of thing, tipped him a couple bucks, and went to where I was going.
So anyway, the same guy who flagged me in walks by as DB is saying something to me, and I just asked the guy, “Hey man why didn’t you tell me I had to pay to park here, I tipped you…Never mind, I should have read the signs anyhow..”
When I said that I had tipped the man who flagged me in, this is where DB starts in:
Him: “Do I get a tip?”
Me: “No, what for?”
Him: “No, I mean I wanna see those tips.” pointing at my breasts
Me: “What?”
Him: “Just the tip?”
Me: “Um, no.”
I stop a moment and then decide to say, “Actually that’s not okay because what you just said is harassment.”
Him: “Woah no it’s not I was just flirting!”
Me: “No, that’s not flirting, because you just made me into a sexual object and that is not okay.”
He went on to say that we could have this “argument” and that he would win because he was “really good with words” and that he has “slept with women all his life”. He said he was from Massachusetts, came down for X Factor and they “really liked him”. He said he was trying to help and then he decided to flirt with me, but that he could have just come up and said I was hot.
I said “That still would have been harassment – just because I am a woman alone on the street doesn’t mean you can talk to me like that.” At which point he said, “Well if that’s how you’re going to look at this then I can’t win…”
I said, “That’s how I’m looking at it.” And finally got into my car and left.
– Anonymous
Location: Austin, Texas
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