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Archives for June 2012

“We apologize for the whistling construction workers, but man you look good!”

June 16, 2012 By HKearl

A real sign in Princeton, NJ. Image via Feminist Philosophers

“We apologize for the whistling construction workers, but man you look good!” — this statement is found on a real life construction sign in Princeton, NJ, sent to the blog Feminist Philosophers by one of their readers who saw it.

Has anyone else seen this? Do you know what company produced it? Once we know that, then the letter-writing, phone calls and petitions to get this sign removed can begin.

This tongue in cheek, joke-y sign is NOT funny because it makes light of street harassment (hahaha, we apologize, but not really), it construes it as a compliment (man, you look good, lady in a skirt and tight shirt and tall boots…don’t you know you’re asking to be whistled at?), and it helps perpetuate the stereotype that it’s construction worker-type men alone who engage in this and that they can’t help it, because man, you look good, instead of acknowledging the whole range of men who engage in this behavior.

It ignores rape-culture, the widespread sexualization of girls, the fact that by age 12, nearly 1 in 4 girls has experienced street harassment, that over 80 percent of women have been the target of a sexually explicit comment from a man on the street and over half of them have been groped by men on the streets, and that street harassment is a global problem.

Often when I give interviews or talks about street harassment, someone will ask me, what needs to happen to stop street harassment.

And I say, right now, the biggest thing we need to do is change the normalization of it and end its social acceptability. For example, get rid of things like THIS SIGN!!! This sign normalizes street harassment. It contributes to why it happens and why so many of our friends/family tell us it’s a compliment or laugh when we share our street harassment stories.

So how do we change the normalization of it? We can do this by sharing stories (even if people tell us we’re over reacting or it’s a compliment), talking about it, educating our friends/family, speaking out when we see it happening, etc.  We can organize community action. And, once we know what company produced this sign, contact them and ask them to take it down!

No country will achieve gender equality and no country ever will as long as men are allowed to freely harass women and girls on the streets.

(h/t to @kbster for telling me about this sign)

UPDATE: The sign is at MarketFair Mall. Still doing research to find out who we need to contact to get the sign down.
UPDATE: Here is the petition

UPDATE: MarketFair Mall took down the sign!! (Also, E A Reeves, a construction company in PA, was not the ones responsible for the sign as had originally been thought. Apologies to them for associating them with the sign.)

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Harassed while walking home from work

June 16, 2012 By Contributor

I was walking home at about 7 p.m. on a Friday. I walked past two men and a woman who were drinking on the street, very smartly dressed. As I went past, one of the men started to follow me and yelled that he was going to “shag me in the arse.”

– JS

Location: Surbiton, UK

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“We won’t be broken”

June 15, 2012 By HKearl

“Sexual harassment is a tool to keep women out of the public spaces (streets) and forcing them into the private spaces (homes),” wrote @jazkhalifa during the Egyptian-led #EndSH day of online activism this week. – via ABC News

That is why we must speak out against street harassment. It keeps women out of public spaces, and out of public life. There can never be gender equality as long as we’re relegated to the home.

It’s been one week since the attack on activists protesting against street harassment in Tahrir Square, Egypt. They’re still re-grouping, deciding on next steps and responses. In the meantime, where is a powerful video from the protest (before the attacks) you can watch and testimonies of people who were there that you can read.

“Women are at the heart of the revolution. We march, we lead chants, we sleep in sit-ins…We won’t be broken,” says one woman in the video.

Exactly. And so we’ve got to keep talking about this issue. We can’t let it fade away. Street harassment is real, it’s a problem, and it’s got to end.

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“Once you touch me without my consent, boundaries are crossed”

June 14, 2012 By Contributor

A man had asked my grandfather for money so he could get onto the subway. We had no change, so we apologized and said no. Minutes later, while stepping into the subway, the same man walked by, and slapped my ass.

I can deal with cat-calls, wolf whistles, whatever. It’s annoying, and disrespectful, but it’s not going to ruin my day. However, once you touch me without my consent, boundaries are crossed. As a result of childhood rape, I don’t like being touched by anyone, even (especially?) family.

All I had time for after this man slapped me was a gasp. I didn’t get to tell him “hands off,” or “get the fuck away from me,” or “back off, asshole!” Just a gasp, and I think the fact that I was too shocked to tell him off makes me angrier than anything.

– SF

Location: Washington, DC’s metro system

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“A mother breaking generational cycles of the silent acceptance of harassment”

June 13, 2012 By Contributor

I took self defense classes and taught Jasmine, my girlchild, what I learned. On an early evening we were walking on SE 14th St. in Springfield Oregon. To increase her independence, Jasmine, then 11 years old, was allowed to walk about a hundred feet ahead of me as long as she stayed in my sight.

A man on a ten speed bike was riding in our direction and I was surprised to see him stop, incline his head closely into my daughter’s face. It happened suddenly and I felt freaked out. All of a sudden Jasmine snapped back away from him, turned on her heel and sprinted back toward me yelling at the top of her lungs, “MOM, MOM, HE’S TRYING TO GET ME! HE’S TRYING TO GET ME MOM!” She continued yelling and I tore into him, also yelling, “HOW DARE YOU, BASTARD SON OF A BITCH, SICK EFFING FREAK STAY AWAY FROM MY DAUGHTER!”

I wondered for a moment “what if nothing happened,” but my instincts told me otherwise, and I remembered the warm breath of Tess Wiseheart, former director of Portland Womens Crisis line, when she was reassuring me about telling my story during my self produced workshop “little experiments, yes we exist.” Tess breathed words of life into me, “what if you’re RIGHT.”

In this moment with my daughter, I innately knew we were right, though pushing though the internalized oppression caused the old fears that I was “bad, stupid, ugly or crazy.”

What mattered most was my daughter felt safe enough in her own skin, and from the inside out, to immediately take steps for her own protection. As a mother breaking generational cycles of the silent acceptance of harassment and myriad abuses, I felt great! Girlchild knew she could come to me and that I would support and believe her. And across 4 lanes of traffic and two turn lanes, I saw people stop in their tracks, stare across the street in wonder at what our noise was all about.

– Rachel and Jasmine Cerise

Location: SE 14th St. in Springfield, OR

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