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Archives for October 2012

“The driver motioned to me to get in”

October 31, 2012 By Contributor

This may be very, very triggering for some people so if you get triggered by street harassment I would suggest you don’t read this.

One time I was walking down the street in a summer dress to get some bread and happened to be smiling – I remember a man in a car started yelling at me about my smile.

Another time I was walking to the tube station in a cardigan and leggings when a van pulled up beside me. I was in a nice middle-class area where people often have work done so I assumed the driver was working there and kept walking.

The van kept following me – no big deal, the driver might be going to some other place. The van pulled up besides some other workers and the driver motioned to me to get in as I passed them. I assumed he was talking to the other workers but no, he kept following me – even when I turned a corner, at which point I was getting quite terrified. The driver pulled up on the far side of the road and motioned to me to get in again. At that point I walked far more quickly into the tube station and fortunately nothing came of that.

Both times I was 16  years old.

– Anonymous

Location: Hendon, London, UK

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Classroom Lesson Plan for Download

October 30, 2012 By HKearl

A few weeks ago, I was contacted by Jake Winn, a Peace Corps volunteer and a youth development facilitator in northern Azerbaijan, on the Russian and Georgian borders. He is also a member of Peace Corps Azerbaijan’s WID/GAD (Women in Development/Gender and Development) executive committee.

He said, “Inspired by your ‘Shit Men Say to Men Who Say Shit to Women on the Street,’ some of my male students made their own Anti-Street Harassment video. The title, “Ay Gardash! Kishi Ol!”, can be translated to, ‘Hey man, be a gentleman!” We now plan on distributing the video throughout the country, along with a lesson plan and discussion questions for other volunteers to use with their own students.”

He recently sent me the lesson plan and said Stop Street Harassment readers were welcome to use it!

Download it: Street Harassment Lesson Plan (English) | Street Harassment Lesson Plan (Azerbaijani)

Thanks, Jake!

If anyone else has classroom resources on street harassment they’d be willing to share, please let me know. This site is all about idea and resource sharing.

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I Deserve…

October 30, 2012 By HKearl

I love this graphic from the Canada-based group ConsentEd!

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Hurricane Sandy: 5 Stop Street Harassment Activities to Fill Your Time

October 29, 2012 By HKearl

I know a lot of Stop Street Harassment’s readers are on the American east coast (and so am I), so if you’re like me and are stuck in doors, waiting to see what will happen and you have some extra time on your hands, here are some ideas for what you can do.

1. Watch it on YouTube!

There are SO many humorous, poignant, and get-your-blood-riled-up YouTube clips about street harassment. On the Stop Street Harassment YouTube channel, you can find 142 relevant videos. One of my favorites is the Shit Men Say video that was released for Meet Us on the Street: Street Harassment Awareness Week in March. (There’s also a decent selection of videos here.)

And if you  have time to watch a whole movie, War Zone, a documentary about street harassment, is now available for free online. (FYI – there is a very triggering 911 call near the end of the film.)

2. Pin it on Pinterest

Stop Street Harassment is new to Pinterest. Check out our boards and share some of your own street harassment-related images.

3. It’s time for an Art Project

Are you in need of an art project? Illustrate one or some of these stories where people were able to shut down their street harasser! Art work will be added to the SSH website and social media accounts. Email to: stopstreetharassment AT yahoo.com

4. Read all About It

As long as you have internet, there are tons of blog posts and articles and even books you can read about street harassment. There are nearly 900 street harassment stories on the SSH blog, plus dozens of interviews with activists. If you’re academic-leaning in your reading pursuits, there are many street harassment articles available online for free. If you have a Kindle, you can purchase and read my book, Stop Street Harassment: Making Public Places Safe & Welcoming for Women for $15. One of my favorite books about street harassment activism is also available for Kindles: Hey, Shorty!: A Guide to Combating Sexual Harassment and Violence in Schools and on the Streets.

5. Share Your Story

Do you have a street harassment story you want to get off your chest? Have you shut down a street harasser before and want to inspire others to do the same? Share your story and it will be added to the collection of stories on the SSH website.

I hope all the East coasters are dry, safe and with electricity!

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“Around the age of 11/12 years old the honking, catcalling, etc, from strangers started”

October 29, 2012 By Contributor

As a young woman, sexual harasment is something I’ve been experiencing since I was very young. Most girls experience it around the age they hit puberty, which is mostly around the age of 12/13 years old. Well, for me, I hit puberty at a very young age, my breasts started to grow and my hips got wider when I was 7/8 years old. My sister experienced the exact same progress going on in her body growing so fast, we got both send to the doctors but they couldn’t find anything. We were exceptions in this case. But there we sat at school, as mini-women who didn’t liked their changing bodies at all.

I didn’t get harassed on the streets back then, but at school. The other kids noticed I had growing breasts; they made fun of me by groping them multiple times or calling me ‘Big Boobs.’ Not only boys would make fun of me, girls would do the same thing. Laughing behind my back with it, gossiping around it (there was this one gossip going around back then that I would have gone to the doctors and had surgery to make sure they wouldn’t grow any bigger anymore) and also groping my breasts as well.

I felt absolutely horrible about having breasts and wide hips at such a young age. Being a 7/8 year old, I should have been enjoying childhood, not having to worry about puberty, and I didn’t feel like a child anymore. And the bullying went on and became worse every year. At the end of Elementary school I didn’t experience harassment anymore since the other girls of my class had grown a good pair of breasts and wide hips themselves, I didn’t felt alone anymore, however- the years there for where a hell to go through.

Once, a girl who was a bit younger than me, got her brother and his friend to insult me and they groped my breasts, walking away laughing, how they liked insulting me with doing such a horrible thing. I went to the director’s office to tell him what happened; a lot of people had seen what was going on, I couldn’t be lying. The man reacted shocked and told me it was absolutely unacceptable for those kids to do something like that to me. But has he ever punished them for what they did to me? No. Did the kids get punished for groping my breasts, laughing in my face for it? No. I didn’t tell my teachers what was going on, but I’m sure they secretly knew I was getting bullied because I was becoming a woman. No one did ever interfere when some kid groped one of my breasts again at the playground. One time the teacher used me as an example to say why I couldn’t breastfeed yet because a boy in my class said: ‘Sophie has breasts, that means she can feed a baby already!’ Why use me as an example for a subject like this?

I also remember the times we went to the swimming pool and I got a lot of stares from kids from other schools. My classmates didn’t ask about it after a while; they were used to it by then. But kids from other schools got curious, they stared at me, pointed fingers at me, laughed with it, you name it. I always hided my breasts behind my arms until I got into the swimming pool, once I got out of the water, they got hidden again.

I will never forget the day my period once came though on a school day, I was 9 years old. Every Friday we went to the swimming pool for swimming class, unfortunately my period came earlier than expected, making me forced not to go swim anymore. Everytime I couldn’t go swim I said to my classmates that I wasn’t feeling well, they didn’t got suspicious since they didn’t knew what menstruation meant. But this time, I was in tears because I looked forward to go swimming and I was in complete shock that my period had come this early. But it was a few months later and one of them knew what it was. The guy told everyone I had my period, in just a few minutes the whole school was aware of my little ‘problem down there’. Then people asked me what a period was, people stared at me, and whispered while I walked by, giving insults, you name it. All that because that ‘time of the month’ came too early for me.

Around the age of 11/12 years old the honking, catcalling, etc from strangers started. The stories about all the street harassment I endured during the years is too much to sum all up, but it made me feel even more horrible about my body and myself. I didn’t understand, I wasn’t provoking anything, I was a child who didn’t wanted this at all. I never asked for this sort of attention, not as a little girl and not as a young woman!

Is this the price I had to pay to be a woman? Breasts getting groped by other kids, gossip going around about me, getting nicknames like ‘Big Boobies’, etc. I had to endure all that because I hit puberty earlier than all the other kids, because I was becoming a woman, and apparently I needed to get punished, as I still get punished by men for walking down the street. I only just realized ever since the sexual harassment-stories are coming up I’ve been sexually harassed ever since I was a little girl.

I wish I could send this story to all the kids who bullied and groped me back then and let them think of all the horrible things they did to me and that they are no better than the men who still honk at me down the streets. Hopefully they became better human beings than they were back then. I really do.

-Sophie

Location: Belgium

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