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Archives for October 2012

Help Wanted: Talented People Who Would Like to Stop Street Harassment!

October 9, 2012 By HKearl

Stop Street Harassment is looking for several volunteers to help amplify the stories shared on the blog, spread pro-respect messaging, fund-raise for a national study on street harassment, and prepare for Meet Us On the Street: Street Harassment Awareness Week 2013.

Open positions:

1. Social media:

Can you write concise, compelling messages? Do you know how to find the humor in serious issues? Do you have spots of free time throughout the day? SSH needs 2-3 more social media volunteers to help manage the twitter, facebook, tumblr, and youtube accounts. The time commitment will be about two hours/week, generally spread across a few days, lasting at least through the end of December 2012.

Interested? Please email stopstreetharassment AT yahoo.com with a short résumé, three examples of your work (e.g. a link to your social media account), and a few sentences about why you care about ending street harassment.

2. Graphic design:

Messages spread fast online when they’re in the form of a visually interesting graphic. Are you creative and artsy? Can you create compelling, informative and entertaining graphics? Are you interested in volunteering your time and expertise to create a few graphics for the Stop Street Harassment website and social media accounts? The time commitment is flexible and can be project-based, but ideally, it would be 3-4 hours per month.

Please email stopstreetharassment AT yahoo.com with your short résumé,  three examples of your work, and a few sentences about why you care about ending street harassment.

3. Fund-raising:

Do you have experience with nonprofit fundraising and grant writing? Are you willing to volunteer a few hours of your time and share your expertise? The time commitment is flexible, but ideally would be 3-4 hours per month.

Please email stopstreetharassment AT yahoo.com with your short résumé, two examples of fundraising or grant writing experiences you’ve had, and a few sentences about why you care about ending street harassment.

4. Other:

Do you have another talent you’d be willing to volunteer your time doing to help spread awareness about street harassment? Pitch it to me, Holly Kearl, stopstreetharassment AT yahoo.com

Note: You can live anywhere and have any type of background/identity to apply. Applicants just need to be willing to share their talents and care about ending street harassment!

Deadlines: October 17, 2012

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“I’m old enough to be his mother”

October 9, 2012 By Contributor

I’m driving home and had to stop at 4-way stop sign. A man about my son’s age is crossing the street at crosswalk in front of me. I think I may have glanced at him before I took off, and that’s when I heard him say, “Hey Babe.”
I said, “Yeah right,” out my window, which was rolled down but I’m not sure if he heard me….I’m old enough to be his mother, and I was dressed like a schlub, so what did his remark really mean? It embarrassed me if anything.

– Anonymous

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Five Suggestions for a Better SNL Skit about Street Harassment

October 8, 2012 By HKearl

SNL street harassment skit“Yeah, that’s one clock I’d like to punch all night long.”

“She’s got my privates standing at attention.”

“Call Amtrak because I need two tickets to Booty City.”

During a skit on Saturday Night Live (SNL) this weekend, four constructions workers stood around their construction site, making offensive comments as women walked by, often equating them to food, such as an Arby’s sandwich or a Christmas dinner, or reducing them to body parts.

One of the “humorous” parts of the skit was when SNL guest host Daniel Craig’s character, who was new to the crew, said “weird” lines, like how the woman had “two big breasty squish rags” and that another woman was like a “bowl of butt soup with nipples.” The other men stared at him in disbelief each time he uttered his “catcall.”

Then the foreman enters the scene and says, “I’ve been getting complaints that you’re heckling women and that some of you are really bad at it.”

The men deny that’s what’s happening and the foreman starts harassing women too. When Craig says he bets the woman has a “big ol’ penis,” the foreman tells him he’s fired for being bad at street harassing women. Craig gets to explain himself however, and keep his job.

A flashback shows us his 8-year-old self visiting his dad, who was a construction worker. The dad harasses a woman and she turns around and shoots and kills him. So that is supposedly why Craig says weird things and everyone forgives him, welcomes him, and the skit ends.

It’s not a very good skit. Can you get more stereotypical than construction workers harassing women or the cliché harassment lines? And the ending makes no sense. Why does his experience explain his weird utterances? Wouldn’t he want to NOT harass women?

But the skit does do one thing well, even though I’m sure that wasn’t the intent of the writers. It illustrates how some men feel pressured into being harassers when they’re with their buddies; how it’s an activity they do together to bond, to impress each other, and to one-up each other. It illustrates how the activity was not about the women or what they wore, but about what the men said.

Why this skit is harmful:

I know it’s just a comedy skit, but comedy skits matter. They impact our culture, language, and even our views. As an advocate for street harassment, I’m concerned about the messages people probably took away after viewing this one, including:

* For men: If you want to fit in, you’ve got to do what other men do, including sexually harassing women. It’s okay to harass women as long as you don’t say “weird” things. Remember: you’re just supposed to say things that equate them to food and reduce them to body parts.

* For women: Walk swiftly past construction sites (if you have to walk past them at all) because you’re going to get harassed and there’s nothing you can do about it short of shooting them dead.

* For women and men: Don’t bother reporting offensive harassment to the construction company because the men in charge think it’s okay to harass women too.

I doubt very many people saw it and thought the men’s behavior was inappropriate and decided to become advocates to stop street harassment. I get that SNL isn’t about advocacy, but there are plenty of ways they could have had a FUNNY skit about street harassment that also wouldn’t contribute to its social acceptability.

Suggestion for SNL:
If you’re going to do a skit about street harassment, here are a few suggestions:

1. The construction worker harasser is over-used. Try using business executives. They harass while they walk to or from business meetings, lunches, and happy hours.

2. Let the women talk back! It’d be way funnier if ALL of the men looked foolish for what they said, so let the women verbally outsmart them in their response. Or let them take photos of the harassers and post them all over town and everywhere the harasser goes, they get laughed at and harassed.

3. Related, what if a group of men and women gathered nearby and started harassing the harassers back?

4. Have the mother or grandmother of one of the harassers walk by and start scolding the men for harassing women!

5. Have them harass an undercover female cop and then let her arrest them.

What are your ideas for a funny SNL skit about street harassment?

Share them in the comments and with SNL:

@nbcsnl | SNL on Facebook | Contact Form (select SNL in the drop-down menu)

 

[Note – ironically enough, the same day SNL decided to do a skit contributing to a culture in which street harassment impacts at least 80 percent of women, CNN.com, published a very good article about why street harassment is problematic and featured it on their homepage.]

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“He lost this customer!”

October 8, 2012 By Contributor

I’m 50 and one day a small group of young men said some things to me from across the street as I walked into a grocery store. Honestly! I’m old enough to be their mother! I complained to the manager of the store who said he couldn’t do anything about it. He wouldn’t even go over there to say anything, like stop bothering my customers. Guess what? He lost this customer!

– Anne

Location: Lindsay, Ontario, Canada

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“She doesn’t deserve that”

October 7, 2012 By Contributor

A few days ago, I was walking one block between my parking spot and the restaurant where I was meeting five colleagues for lunch. I was in full Navy service dress blues, just coming from a friend’s retirement party. I had my keys, a credit card and my ID in my hand – no purse, phone, etc. As I took my 10th or so step, a man sitting on the window sill of the building, yelled at me for money. I said I’m sorry but I don’t have any change, but never stopped or looked at him. He then responded that I had a tight ass and nice tits, and I could give him those.

Are you kidding me?

I’m in uniform, serving my country and you think that is what I deserve?

Luckily, unknown to me at the time, the man who parked behind me, was headed to the same restaurant – stopped right in front of the man in the window and started barking at him, “She doesn’t deserve that. She is an officer in the US Navy and she has given enough…”

I didn’t hear the rest, but I did see the man enter the same restaurant a few minutes later. I went to the table, where he had met some others, and said, “Thank you.”He just nodded. I am not sure he wanted the table (full of young men) to know the good he had just done, he looked very embarrassed – so i didn’t press it and moved back to my table.

– DG

Location: San Diego, CA near Horton Plaza

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