By: Levi Grayshon, Manchester, England, SSH Correspondent
Here in the UK, we are in the midst of a heatwave. The sticky, sunny days are sprawling in front of us, and have been rolling on for the last fortnight.
Sometimes, though, finding something sun-suitable is difficult. When the sun comes out, the clothes go away. Jeans and jumpers are stuffed into the back of the wardrobes and the skirts and shorts are dusted off and worn with pride. Or are they?
Two years ago, I was strolling down the street in a pair of shorts. I was alone. A pair of men walked up to me, sniggering and making comments on my legs. On the way home, another man stopped directly in front of me, looked me up and down and told me that my legs were “too pale to be wearing that.” Since that incident, I have been uneasy about exposing my legs on hot days. What gives people the right to act like this?
Nothing.
Seriously. Not only are magazines scaring us into doing 200 squats a day, and music videos convincing us that we must shave and apply sparkly goop to our legs in order to look passable, strangers feel need the to reinforce the idea that your body does not reach their standards. This is hideous. It is easy for others to tell you that their opinion does not matter. It is also easy for people to say “well why don’t you work out more/tan/go on a diet/stop wearing shorts?”
As simple as it sounds, the only person that you should listen to is yourself. No one has the right to make you feel uncomfortable about your body. It is hard to block out those voices when their words scratch and stab at your self-confidence, and feel as those they are branding themselves onto your thighs like a hot iron, but there is only one person that you should listen to when getting dressed in the morning, and only one question that you should ask: “Do I feel comfortable?”
Legs are legs. Shorts are shorts.
As Laura Bates from The Everyday Sexism Project quite rightly stated this week on Radio 2: “What women wear does not make them responsible for men’s reaction to them.”
She is spot on. If a person on the street harasses you over your outfit – whether honking their horn at you, shouting comments, or even following you – then they are the ones in the wrong. Don’t feel pressured to change anything about yourself – you are not to blame for their ill-judged actions, and don’t allow anyone else to make you feel that you are.
Levi graduated from university with a degree in Film and TV screenwriting this summer. As a freelance writer, she has been writing for The F-Word and Gamer-UK. You can follow her rants and ramblings on Twitter, @part_heart.
