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Archives for July 2013

USA: Street Harassment is an Important Problem

July 12, 2013 By Correspondent

By Britnae Purdy, SSH Correspondent

I have a thing for coincidences. The very same day that I accepted this role as a correspondent for SSH, my local newspaper posted a Facebook status asking for commentary from women who have experienced street harassment in the Fredericksburg, VA, area, to be used for an upcoming story. I was excited – until I read the quickly-accumulating comments below the status. The most-repeated sentiment was, “Don’t we have more important things to worry about than catcalling?” closely followed by “Why can’t women stop being so uptight and just take it as a compliment?”

It upset me, especially because equal amounts of these comments were coming from women as from men. I admit to being an overly sensitive person at times, and these comments bothered me, to the point where I briefly considered re-thinking this whole feminist-writing thing and staying in bed all day instead –I was having a bad hair day already, after all (thank you, Virginia humidity). But I couldn’t help thinking it through a little.

Start. Don’t we have more important to things to worry about than cat-calling? Let’s see – violent crime, corrupt governance, prime time television…Yes, it would appear that we, the collective, faceless “we” that make up our sense of modern society, do indeed have bigger things to worry about.

But let me ask you this – do I have bigger things to worry about than my own personal safety and well-being? No. I do not. As an individual being, keeping myself safe is my own top priority, and that is what is threatened when I am yelled at, followed by, or touched by strangers in a public place.

Expand. As an active member of my community, I am similarly concerned with the safety and well-being of my friends, family members, coworkers, and the super-friendly Starbucks barista who made my much-needed latte this morning. And as a contributing (financially and otherwise) member of my community, I expect my safety, health, and concerns to be just as respected and adequately addressed of those of my non-harassed male counterparts.

As for “taking it as a compliment” and “not being so uptight?” If you, as a self-assured, intelligent, confident woman can take a whistle or sexually-explicit comment and use it as fuel to brighten your day, then all the more power to you. I cannot. There are times when a “compliment” is actually the indicator of more aggressive behavior to come, and I need to be scared in order to stay safe – if I act a little too “uptight” about a whistle, it is because I am remembering that time I was followed home at night.

Regardless of threat level, a lewd, unwelcome comment is indicative of a patriarchal society that grants men verbal, visual, and physical access to my body with or without my consent. I fear that saying anything you want about a woman’s body with no consequences is only a few steps away from feeling like you can do whatever you want with a woman’s body. A society that does not equally value the safety of its women cannot be trusted to ensure the safety of any of its members that are not white, privileged, heterosexual males. Cue violent crime. Cue corruption and lack of morals. Cue media that perpetuates the image of women as weak, sexualized commodities meant for consumption.

Conclusion. We don’t have bigger problems because the mentality behind street harassment provides the basis for most of society’s “bigger” problems. I cannot just take it as a compliment because that would mean accepting a second-class version of myself, and even on the worst of bad hair days, that is not something I can bring myself to do.

Britnae is a graduate student at George Mason University, in Virginia, where she is pursuing a Master of Arts in Global Affairs with a specialization in Security and Conflict Studies. She also writes for First Peoples Worldwide and you can read more of her writing on their blog and follow her on Twitter.

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Thesis results: “Gender in Public Space”

July 11, 2013 By Contributor

In April, I completed my senior thesis for Princeton University examining the policy frameworks that sustain street harassment. As a public policy major, I was especially interested in the way government policies defined the problem of sexual violence and, going forward, how policy at every level of government could effectively address street harassment. Through this analysis, I identified a complex structure of policy that makes street harassment appear to be an inevitable fact of life, though it is anything but. While writing my thesis I came to realize that none of the needed reforms are insurmountable. Further, there is great precedent for the type of policy changes needed.

Examining government rhetoric about sexual violence, the first theme I noticed was that most official advice and information on sexual violence focuses on minimizing victims’ risk. A fact sheet from the US Department of Health and Human Services’ Office on Women’s Health illustrates this position.

“How can I lower my risk of sexual assault? These are things you can do to reduce your chance of being sexually assaulted…Be wary of isolated spots, like underground garages, offices after business hours, and apartment laundry rooms. Avoid walking or jogging alone, especially at night.”[1]

It is hard to imagine what kind of life a person would live if she wished to follow this advice. More worrisome, though, is that in this construction of sexual violence people are able to prevent their own victimization. In terms of policy solutions, this conceptualization is frighteningly close to a ‘blame the victim’ approach. And of course—if women could prevent being victims of sexual violence, it is hard to justify policy interventions to reduce this type of violence. This understanding of sexual violence explains the lack of coherent and effective laws to combat street harassment, as well as police inattention to the problem.

The narrative of sexual violence that frames the problem as an inevitable way men interact with women is one cause of street harassment’s frequency. What is less often discussed is the role police play in exacerbating street harassment, both by perpetrating it themselves and by fostering an institutional culture unconcerned with sexual violence. One NYC study found that

“Quite unexpectedly, almost two-fifths of the young women surveyed indicated that in the past 12 months, male police officers had flirted, whistled or ‘come on to them.’”[2]

Similarly, women often do not report incidents of street harassment. A Manhattan Borough President’s Office survey found that 96% of respondents who reported being sexually harassed on the subway had not filed a report with the New York Police Department or Metropolitan Transit Authority nor did they call the police for help.[3] Indeed, police sexual harassment is pervasive enough that there is a sub-field of criminology which focuses on “police sexual violence” toward other police officers, a phenomenon that has been documented worldwide.[4] Although there is great value in creating specific policies to combat street harassment, the corrupt institutional culture of police departments is equally important to change: without adequate enforcement, most policy to combat street harassment will be meaningless.

Though in my thesis I spent considerable time looking at the policy frameworks and failures that contribute to street harassment’s prevalence, my research also left me feeling optimistic that societal attitudes toward street harassment could change quite quickly.

Bullying, for instance, was recently seen as a fact of life, immune to societal intervention and harmless for its victims. In the early 1990s, within academia the idea that bullying had larger, more negative consequences gained traction. By the 2000s, activist groups formed to combat bullying. Now, government is involved in addressing the problem through law, school-level policy changes, and public awareness campaigns. Social norms toward bullying have changed dramatically, too.

Remarkably, the definition of bullying today is quite similar to street harassment. According to the American Psychological Association,

“Bullying is a form of aggressive behavior in which someone intentionally and repeatedly causes another person injury or discomfort. Bullying can take the form of physical contact, words or more subtle actions. The bullied individual typically has trouble defending him or herself and does nothing to “cause” the bullying.”[5]

Leaving aside the ‘repeated’ nature of bullying in the APA definition, the behavior outlined above could equally describe street harassment. Indeed, given the strength of the movement to reconceptualize the harms of bullying, I found it somewhat surprising that perceptions of street harassment hadn’t already begun to change.

By the time I submitted my thesis, despite the fact that street harassment has been ignored by policymakers for decades, I was not convinced that changing norms and social behaviors would be that difficult. With varying levels of success, bullying, sexual harassment, and smoking have all undergone massive norm shifts within a few decades. Even limited bans or targeted policies can have wide reaching effects, especially in changing societal perceptions of what is normal and acceptable. This, of course, would be the use of ‘harassment-free zones’, or areas of cities like schools or parks where harassing behavior is disallowed.

With street harassment, there is a general lack of clarity about whether harassing behavior is normal and acceptable. Still, it is easy to imagine how small, well-designed policy changes could have far-reaching impacts: changing government approaches to sexual violence, reforming police departments so they can adequately respond to sexual violence, and creating ‘harassment free zones’ could together change the social norms of street harassment. Now, what remains is convincing legislators to pass these reforms—and making street harassment an obsolete part of public life.

Jarrah O’Neill recently graduated from Princeton University where she wrote her senior thesis, “Gender in Public Space: Policy Frameworks and the Failure to Prevent Street Harassment.”


[1] Womenshealth.gov, “Sexual Assault Fact Sheet.”

[2] Fine, “”Anything can happen with police around’: Urban Youth Evaluate Strategies of Surveillance.”

[3] Stringer, “Hidden in Plain Sight: Sexual Harassment and Assault in the New York City Subway System,” 6.

[4] Kaska, “To Serve and Pursue: Exploring Police Sexual Violence Against Women.” and Eschholz, “Police Sexual violence and rape myths: Civil Liability under Section 1983.”

[5] American Psychological Association, “Bullying.”

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“I felt SICK”

July 11, 2013 By Contributor

I was buying groceries & an older man, apparently German, in back of me in the line started laughing & making rude sounds, apparently because I have a large butt. He began whispering to the male cashier, and then they both laughed at me. If it had just been the old German guy, it wouldn’t have been so distressing. But when the harasser gets another male to join in, it is much worse, at least for me. I felt SICK. I felt like I was just a target, not a person who deserves respect.

It was the second time I’d been harassed by a customer/cashier combination — and the previous time my complaint to the (male) manager weren’t taken seriously (astonished they didn’t fire the clerk), so I didn’t complain. (I’d complain if I knew there was a woman in charge.)

– Grace

Location: Fred Meyer Store, Portland, Oregon

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“If I were a guy, I’d probably receive a high-five.”

July 11, 2013 By Contributor

I was at the Staples at 19th and L during my lunch break, shopping for a few supplies. As I was browsing their storage clipboards, some guy stood next to me and reached over me to grab something. No “excuse me” or anything. “You’re excused,” I said. He doesn’t respond.

Moments later, he’s standing behind me, saying nothing. I cannot stand it when people hover and wait instead of saying, “Excuse me.” I’ve had so many negative interactions in public that I’m always guarded and on edge about people being too close to me and hovering, so I said, “If you want me to move, all you need to do is say ‘excuse me.’ You hovering behind me is not going to make me move.”

The guy simply stares at me, then seconds later says, “I was about to say ‘excuse me’. You could be a little nicer about it.” Then under his breath, he says, “You bitch.” Oh, the irony of him asking me to be nicer but him calling me a gendered slur.

As much as I wanted to tell the guy to “f*** off!” I didn’t. I said, “I can’t be nice to jerks like you.” He went elsewhere in the store and I went about my business, but my mood was dampened from that interaction. It also didn’t help that when I returned to work, some man asking for change on the street said, “Your dreads are gorgeous!”, when I just wanted to be in my headspace and be left alone. Instead of responding in kind to his unasked for compliment, I just stared at him and kept on moving.

The guy at Staples didn’t fit the stereotype of the crude harasser. This guy was polished and wearing a very sharp and expensive-looking suit. Though I have the most experiences with cruder harassers who hang out on the street corner, this experience was a reminder that a harasser can look like anyone.

This incident was also a reminder that no matter what I do to defend my movement and space in public, I’m always being told that I’m “rude,” “curt,” and “abrupt” in my interactions with people on the street. I’m “defensive” and I have an “attitude.” I’m always being told that I need to change my behavior so I can get along with people better, but rarely does anyone come to my aid and say, “They need to show you more respect.”

People expect me to be a smiling and docile little girl, but that’s not who I am. If I were a guy and had the same interaction with the gentleman who called me a “bitch” at Staples, no one would expect me to soften my approach. If I were a guy, I’d probably receive a high-five.

No matter how many negative interactions I have with people when I’m out in public, I’m not going to change my ways. As I said, being cute and demure is not my way. I’m not changing for anyone.

– Anonymous

Location: Staples at 19th and L, Washington, DC

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“It gave me hope!”

July 10, 2013 By Contributor

An interesting experience I had today- a fundraiser shouted at me today after he attempted to get me to stop and I carried on walking- it was a pretty innocent comment, nothing sexual, but it made me feel intimidated and stressed.

It bothered me so much that when I got back home I went straight back out to confront the guy- he turned out to be a very nice guy who was very apologetic- he hadn’t realised how intimidating his behaviour was and was glad that I had gone back to speak to him. Being the older brother of 4 sisters he was keen to express his abhorrence of men that harass women.

I was pleasantly surprised at his attitude- he was happy to listen and learn. It gave me hope!

– Anonymous

Location: Harrogate, UK

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