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Archives for September 2013

USA: “Titstare”, Harassment Videos, and Claiming Online Spaces

September 22, 2013 By Correspondent

By: Molly Redding, San Francisco, CA, USA, SSH Correspondent

My last blog post was about Carolyn Criado-Perez, who was harassed on Twitter after fighting to get a woman on British bank notes. I’m sad to say that Carolyn has since decided to shut down her Twitter account due to the barrage of threats she received. I’m incredibly upset by this, an action that says to me that we are a culture that can’t tolerate other people and their different beliefs. I only hope that Carolyn continues her fight for women’s rights both on and off the Internet.

Her story, and two other recent incidents, demonstrates how sexism in the tech sector is strong and how it can influence daily behavior, specifically, street harassment.

First, earlier this month, at the start of one of the biggest tech conferences of the year called TechCrunch Disrupt, two men from Australia kicked off the conference by introducing their new app called, ingeniously, TitStare. It was meant to be a parody, but all it did was highlight the idea that women’s bodies in public are men’s property.

The fact that (1) these guys thought up this app, (2) they not only thought it would be hilarious, they thought MANY other people would think it was hilarious and (3) whomever was approving the sessions ALSO thought it would be hilarious, demonstrates just how numb to the idea that women’s bodies on display are public property our culture has become.

Not only that, but it propagates the idea that being ogled is something to be taken lightly and laughed at, as well as accepts men’s behavior as “boys being boys.” All of these ideas, even in subtle humor, continue to perpetuate the acceptance of street harassment in our culture.

To add insult to injury, a 9-year-old girl was in the audience excited to give her own presentation on an app she had created. What kind of messaging about her body, at an incredibly vulnerable age, do you think she received?

(To be fair, TechCrunch has since issued an apology.)

Second, there’s this video: “Sweeping Women Off Their Feet.” In this video, which has been viewed more than one million times, two men walk around their campus grabbing women they don’t know and carrying them off without permission– under the guise of being “gentlemanly.”

This behavior reinforces strict constructs of masculinity and femininity, and what does it say about our culture that these men feel that it is their right to get into a woman’s space and pick her up without her permission? If this isn’t an example of women’s bodies being assumed as public property, I’m not sure I know what is.

Since this was done in a building on a college campus, the women, I assume, felt relatively safe. What if this had been done on a random street corner? At night? What messages are people who watch these videos consuming?

But technology and the Internet aren’t all bad. Websites like stopstreetharassment.org are using the power of Internet messaging to try and spread the opposite message, to try and make people stop, think, and discuss what appropriate interactions in public spaces are.

This week, I was excited to see Jezebel post about a woman who used the “missed connections” section of Craiglist to fight back against her harasser. She employed the power of language to make herself more “human” to her harasser,  an important idea when many of our interactions online and offline are anonymous, allowing harassers to separate their own humanity from the person they are harassing. The harassers never see their victim’s emotions, and so can ignore the fact that they have the same human feelings we all do.

Finally, if you’re like me, you might think that Tumblr posts are an amazing tool for disrupting the social world. Lucky for you, there are many Tumblr sites devoted to combatting street harassment:

http://stopstreetharassment.tumblr.com/

http://fuckyoustreetharassment.tumblr.com/

http://streetharassmenttumblr.tumblr.com/

http://www.tumblr.com/tagged/street-harassment

I love that these sites use a combination of pictures, words and videos to contest “normal” social order, help victims realize they are not alone, and provide many, many options for making women’s place in the public world just a little bit easier, and a little bit safer.

Just like the street, the internet is a public space where women can easily be harassed and shamed, but they can also claim the space for their own. So let’s keep claiming – keep writing, keep tweeting, keep posting!

Molly received a graduate degree in International Development and Gender from the London School of Economics in 2011, where her dissertation focused on websites allowing victims of harassment to post about their experiences. She has worked in the non-profit sector for over 10 years. You can follow her on Twitter, @perfeminist.

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Buy Your Advance Copy of the New Book!

September 21, 2013 By HKearl

You can buy an advance copy of the new book, 50 Stories about Stopping Street Harassers, for $10, before it even hits Amazon.com!

 

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“Mind your business”

September 21, 2013 By Contributor

I had an experience with harassment not too long ago. I was about to get on the Metro, so I took the escalator up to the waiting area. I bought my fare-card, then walked towards the slot where I had to insert it. Ahead of me walked an extremely attractive woman who was heading in the same direction. There were not many people in the area, and I saw two of the guards looking at her too long. I knew she was going to get harassed. I could not hear what the guard said to her, but she was disconcerted. She cringed, and walked away quickly. I would have said something, but she was too far away by the time I was at the fare-card slot. Then one of the guards said to me, “Let’s see a SMILE on that pretty face.”

I made eye contact with him and told him firmly (without smiling, of course), “Mind your business.”

He giggled nervously, but did not say anything else. I walked away.

I was disgusted that he was using his time searching for opportunities to make women uncomfortable. Passengers need to be aware that public transportation employees, not just other passengers, abuse their time by making women uneasy.

Do you have any suggestions for dealing with harassers and/or ending street harassment in general?

Even though what I went through was not as severe as other women’s experiences, it taught me that confronting the behavior has a lot of pluses. It made me feel in control, and it took power away from the guard making the comments to women.

– Anonymous

Location: Franconia, Springfield, VA

[Note: SSH works with the DC Transit Authority on addressing sexual harassment. Anyone who experiences or witnesses it is encouraged to complete this online form to describe what happened. It will help WMATA with their trainings of their employees and their handling of harassment on the system.]

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USA: Harassment is Not the Victim’s Fault

September 20, 2013 By Correspondent

By Angela Della Porta, SSH Correspondent

When someone asks why I am involved in the fight to end street harassment, they often ask with some exasperation. It seems to many that street harassment – the entire spectrum from unwanted advances to following, stalking, masturbating in public – just isn’t as bad as the alternative: physical violence and sexual assault. Many chalk up harassment on the street to compliments or attention that the harassed person really wanted but just won’t admit.

As we continue to point to pop culture for a reflection of our culture’s values (who could have missed the debates about Robin Thicke’s summer jam/rape anthem?), we all can’t help but get the message that no matter what a woman is saying, she really does want men’s sexual advances. We can’t help but to internalize those messages to some degree.

In my personal experience, I have always said that harassment is not the victim’s fault – it’s the harasser. However, as many of us do, I find myself holding myself to different standards. I’ve often thought about what I’m wearing as not the cause of the harassment necessarily, but as a contributing factor. I knew that having dyed hair, wild outfits, large, printed glasses, and body piercings distinguished me from many other women. I still felt like I should dress in whatever way I chose, but I let harassers convince me that I was making the choice to be harassed by wearing a certain style.

As my college years came to a close, I took out the piercings. I was surprised when the level and frequency of being harassed on the street didn’t change at all. I thought, “Well, I do still have a unique presentation.” After I graduated, I began looking for jobs within education, and so all the tattoos were covered, and my off-the-wall style was reduced to khakis, blouses, and cardigans, my hair returned to a very natural brown. When the harassment didn’t stop, or even slow, I knew it couldn’t have been the clothes that garnered all the attention, and my hair wasn’t what was causing harassers to stop and comment. When I swapped out my pink and leopard frames for small, black ones, I was still harassed. In business casual, with no piercings, visible tattoos, colored hair, or glasses that stand out, I was forced to understand that harassers do the harassing, and nothing I wear or don’t wear could change that.

If I was no longer “asking for attention” with my appearance, then why was I still getting so much of it? Because as long as we all continue to treat harassment like a compliment and allow Robin Thicke to determine whether women “want it” or not, even the most enlightened, progressive minds will internalize the oppression that continues to guide their choices, even if they meant to subvert it all.

So what does that mean? We’re all doomed to patriarchy if we listen to the radio? No – but we do have to use our networks, friends, and web 2.0 to continue to change hearts and minds. We have to quiet every voice that says, “It’s not a big deal,” even if that voice is in your own head.

And if all that fails, just jam to The Law Review Girls’ Defined Lines parody.

Angela Della Porta is a recent graduate of Clark University in Worcester, MA. She will join with Teach for America in Detroit in the fall. Until then, she’s spending her time in rural Maine. Follow her on Twitter: @angelassoapbox

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“That night, I had nightmares”

September 19, 2013 By Contributor

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I had a class that ends at 9 p.m., but my friend wanted to leave a little early, so she asked me to walk her to her car -that was parked a few blocks away- because she felt unsafe to go alone .

As we were walking down the dark desert street a group of men showed up, they started screaming obscenities. “I wanna f**k you so hard” “I’m gonna rape you” “Hey don’t go” we were really terrified so we started running .

One of the men followed us …

I can’t tell you how fast we ran that night to reach the car and lock ourselves . I felt very scared and very disgusted. As soon as my friend left I started crying.

I usually stand up to my harassers, I either give them the finger, tell them to shut up or scream at them. But that time I felt really unsafe, and I knew the best thing I could have done was to run.

That night, I had nightmares.

– Anonymous

Location: Lebanon

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