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Archives for September 2013

“It’s the other end of the spectrum”

September 18, 2013 By Contributor

Actually, this is more of an observation than a story.

Street harassment has always been unwelcome and uncomfortable so my following thoughts do not indicate nostalgia on my part. As a woman in her late 50s, street harassment is no longer part of my experience. I noticed a decrease as I aged which brought me to think of my objectification as a woman through the lens of ageism. I find myself further objectified as an older woman with little perceived value and viability.

It’s the other end of the spectrum and one I think your project may want to explore as the older woman is still a woman and although on the far end are part of the spectrum of sexual objectification.

-JD

Location: Everywhere

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Street Harassment Workshops in Kabul

September 17, 2013 By HKearl

One of SSH’s Safe Public Spaces Mentoring pilot sites is in Kabul, Afghanistan, where college-age young adults led workshops on street harassment in several high schools. Their project is nearly complete. This is an excerpt from a report that was recently submitted by project co-leads Masooma Maqsoodi and Zeinab Noori.

“If we claim walking in Kabul’s street is a daily mental torture for Afghan women and girls we have not exaggerated. Streets in Afghanistan are men’s territory and they consider it their right to harass these “second class creatures” who have dared to find their place in the territory. Even a 6-years-old boy who is playing in the side walk or in front of a house thinks if he can make fun of a female passerby by verbal harassment, he has scored another point to toward gaining masculinity and becoming “another man” dominating the streets and public spaces of his country.

Almost all Afghan women experience various forms of street harassment every day in their life, but it’s not just a daily experience to be forgotten a few seconds later; it leaves long lasting scars on women’s spirit and sense of confidence which discourages and limits women’s participation in public life. However, due to the predominant culture of “shame” and “honor” and high social stigma attached to issues of sexual harassment, Afghan women often do not talk about their experiences of street harassment. The scar remains invisible and women continue to suffer, generation after generation.

We, ourselves, have been constantly victims and witnesses of street harassment back home. We strongly feel there is great need for public education about women’s right to safe public spaces and social respect and acknowledgment of this right. There were few activities in the last two years to raise awareness about and to combat street harassment in Afghanistan, mostly done by women activists and members of Young Women for Change. These activities included conducting rallies, debates, talk shows, movie screening, poster distribution, and collecting data about street harassment.

We, however, for several reasons wanted to approach a specific group of audience: teenagers and high school students, mostly male students. The first reason was that we wanted to start the discussion about street harassment at schools, where students had never had such kind of programs conducted for them. In addition we wanted to create a bridge among male and female students by helping them exchange messages and ideas through us in order to give them a deeper understanding of the issue. We wanted to hear their opinions and see how these young people think about street harassment and what solutions they offer.

As part of the Stop Street Harassment Safe Public Spaces Mentoring Program we started with a a series of workshops at Star Educational Society, a private coed language academy in west of Kabul. Mostly girls showed up for the first session on 30th July, as we expected (this issue is not of interest to most men in Afghanistan). We had around 30 participants, 8 of whom were male.

The first session in all of our workshops was designed to be an introductory session with Afghan women narratives about street harassment, especially Noorjahan Akbar’s “A Letter to My Harasser” and “The Pathway of Agony” by Fatima Hussaini. It was for the first time that women’s stories about street harassment were read to most of the students. The narratives could literally grab the attention of all the students. We could see profound empathy in the faces of all female and some male audiences. These narratives talked about women’s daily struggle with all kind of harassment. One of the narratives highlighted deprivation of Afghan women from doing natural activities, such as running or laughing on the streets, activities that women are not supposed to do in public spaces only because of the strong and well established traditional, cultural and religious norms that expect women to avoid any kind of behavior that might attract men’s attention toward them.

After reading the narratives we handed the participants some worksheets including some handouts about different ways to help stop public sexual harassment, a questionnaire and a listener’s guide so that the audience learn how they are expected to approach female members of their families and ask them about their experiences about street harassment. The interview activity was designed to encourage boys to listen to women, who live in the same society, but they have never been listened to. We thought it makes more sense for the male participants when they get to know that street harassment happens to women in their families too. Afghan women usually do not share their experiences with male members of their families because they know women are the ones to be blamed for it first. “There must have been something provocative about your dressing or attitude” is what most of whom will hear.

After explaining the assignment to the participants, we had the handicraft activity as an ice breaker and fun part of the program. Participants were instructed to paint papers with water color and write their messages about street harassment, which most participants enjoyed doing it.

During the second session, we showed some documentaries made by Afghan filmmakers in addition to some TV reports and a talk show about street harassment, all in Dari. The challenging part started after presenting the documentaries, when students were encouraged and given the opportunity to have a discussion on the issue and express their opinions freely. Both at Star and in public schools the teachers and other administrative staffs were sent out of the room for creating a more open and comfortable space for students to talk.

Our male colleague, Ali Shahidi, helped us organize and lead the discussion session at Star. The discussion boomed after two of the male participants said they thought women were responsible for attracting and provoking men sexually. One of them complained about one of his classmates talking to male strangers and exchanging contact numbers with them. The other one stated that according to Islam women were only expected to have makeup for their husbands and those women who did not have Islamic dressing were inviting harassment themselves and should not complain. Female participants responded to them firmly that in most cases women were not in any way to be blamed for being harassed. We also had male participants who strongly disagreed with blaming women for street harassment.

There was a participant wearing a long dress, dark scarf and no makeup. She stood up to show her dressing to other participants and said harassment has nothing to do with women’s way of dressing or behavior. She said she had never done anything to attract men’s attention but had always been harassed on her way to university. She also believed that confronting the harassers had not worked for her; they had continued their harassment for they knew there were no consequences, nor by the law enforcement, neither by the public. She asked the male participants, calling them brothers, to help their sisters fight against street harassment. Female participants expressed their appreciation for the opportunity to talk and to be heard and told us they strongly felt empowered and encouraged to continue talking about the issue with others after the workshop.  

During the third session at Star, volunteers who wanted to conduct similar workshops at their communities received a training kit including workshop materials, handouts, and necessary instructions. And we are looking forward to receive their reports, photos and news about their follow-up activities.

The second part of the project was (sponsored by Women in Public Service Project) was held in four public high schools in different parts of Kabul. At each workshop there were more than 40 students showed up and most of them had active participation….

Overall:

Many students found the program interesting, informative, and productive. They believed that the problem of street harassment could not be solved with short term programs and requested us to continue it in the future, and to provide spaces for discussions with the presence of both male and female participants. They suggested having media (TV) coverage for the program to spread the message to the rest of the society and engage more people in the discussions.

Even we could not change the mindset of many male students about street harassment, we made them think about the issue for the first time. We read narratives for them that they had never heard about. We brought them messages from female students of their age who politely asked them to respect women on the streets. For the first time, we made them listen to voices of Afghan women who have been harassed everyday on the same streets Afghan men were walking freely and comfortably. We were shocked by the radical ideas of many of the students about women’s freedom and rights to safe public spaces, but at the same time we were supported and encouraged to by some others to raise awareness and shed lights on the agony of Afghan women. Our time was limited but we feel we had a significant impact on our audience. We are happy to have had the support of many male colleagues and friends at Star Educational Society and Abdul Rahim Shahid high school.

We know we have started a journey during which we will face more and more obstacles, but we will never stop as long as Afghan women are not treated with dignity and respect in streets and public spaces of Afghanistan.”

I applaud these young women and man for bringing the issue of street harassment to high schools and for reaching so many youth!

The people who received training to do the workshops are conducting them this month, so stay tuned for another report.

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“I was really frightened by the frustration/anger in his voice.”

September 17, 2013 By Contributor

It was July 2012 in the afternoon, and I had just stepped off the E line train. As I started to cross the street I saw this group of 4-5 guys standing around talking, clearly blocking the sidewalk, probably in their early twenties. I quickly put my headphones back in; no music playing. Due to the construction in that area, I could only use that sidewalk where they were. As I walk past them quickly making zero eye contact, all I hear is, “Hey baby…come here, talk to me beautiful.”

Within seconds that followed by a loud shout, “Hey!” as one of them proceeded to follow me for a few steps. While other guys began laughing at the guy walking towards me because, “She’s ignoring you.” Then, immediately I heard him yell, “This bitch! Walk away, bitch!”…which infuriated me so much!

There were other people around, so I know others heard that loud and clear. At that moment I felt as though the best thing was to just keep ignoring him. He had already repeatedly called me a bitch, so I picked up the pace to get out of there quickly. I was afraid of what he might do if I was to stop and say something back, considering he had no problem calling me (a woman he doesn’t know) a bitch in public.

I was so disgusted that it literally ruined my mood that day. I had been looking forward to visiting a patient recovering at BWH and when that happened, it was all I could think about. I kept running through it again in mind, as to maybe what I should have done differently. The enraged part of me wished I could have yelled back to him, but then again I can’t imagine intentionally disrespecting someone in that way. Someone who knows nothing about me. Absolutely horrible. I’ve heard catcalling before, and frequently…but this time was different. I was really frightened by the frustration/anger in his voice.

– Anonymous

Location: Green Line: E train at the Brigham Circle Train stop in Boston, MA

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One Week until the New Book is Out!

September 16, 2013 By HKearl

Here’s the book cover! The photograph of Dienna Howard was taken by Mark Hutchens. Cover design by moi.

WOOOO!!

Next Monday, Sept. 23, my second book about street harassment will be available on Amazon.com for a mere $10 (and 50% of the profits will go directly to SSH to fund our work).

From unwanted catcalls on the street to flashing on the subway and groping in bars: gender-based street harassment is a huge problem. Most people are unsure what to do or how to respond. I know I was, especially as a college student when I faced constant harassment each time I left my campus in northern California.

While there is no “best” way to deal with harassers, my new book 50 Stories about Stopping Street Harassers contains 50 one-page stories from people in 16 countries that offer creative, entertaining, and empowering techniques and strategies for readers to consider trying out when they feel safe. The people in the stories call out harassers, publicly shame them, demand apologies, report them, and stand up for other people being harassed.

All of the stories were either submitted to or featured right here on the SSH Blog!

The book also includes 20 photos of awesome people speaking out against this issue!

What is great about this book is how it approaches the serious topic in an entertaining and approachable way. It offers concrete examples and advice for what to do when faced with unwanted harassment in public spaces.

For journalists and bloggers out there:

I am happy to provide an excerpt of the book, do an interview, or just provide an embargoed PDF of the book manuscript if you want to write about it or mention it in a relevant article. Just contact me, hollykearl AT yahoo DOT com. Thanks!

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“Let’s pursue the concept of mutual respect”

September 16, 2013 By Contributor

Let me set the scene: imagine you’re having a really good day. You just got a “job well done” from your boss, you did laundry and you’re wearing your favorite clothes, the shirt that matches your eyes, the beat up shorts that you’ve worn in just right. It’s a beautiful day, the sun is shining, the sky is blue, and you’re walking around the block just because you can. Suddenly a car pulls up and four men are inside. They look you up and down in a way that makes you feel less like a human being and more like a piece of meat behind the glass in a butchery. You look straight ahead, chin raised and avoid eye contact, unsmiling, in order to minimize contact. Your chest is tight.

“You’re sexy baby,” one of them calls out lasciviously, less a compliment than a declaration of dominance. You don’t respond and keep on walking, head high, and hope they keep driving, but instead the car creeps beside you for long minutes, they are hoping to illicit a reaction. Your heart is racing and you hope more than anything that they’ll just keep on driving. Eventually, when they realize you aren’t going to respond, they drive off and scream, “Whatever BITCH,” at you as they screech away. Heart still pounding, you continue on your way, looking over your shoulder and hoping they won’t return for another round.

Will I get harassed today?

Welcome to my world.

Here’s the reality of being a woman in the current age: every day when I get dressed, I have to consider the implications of my outfit and the feedback it will receive from men on the street. Going out on the weekend becomes an internal struggle between my desire to wear the clothes that highlight the things I like about myself and the desire to preemptively stop the unwanted catcalls made by drunk strangers, who often become aggressive and combative when I deign to point out how unwelcome their comments are.

Strange men have solicited me for sex; I’ve been called a bitch and told to f*** off by strange men. I’ve gotten marriage proposals and heard “damn girl” and “beautiful” and been beeped at and stared at and screamed at and I didn’t ask for any of it. It doesn’t matter if it’s a compliment or an insult, polite or rude as hell – I don’t want it, and I’m sick of keeping my mouth shut because society has tried to program me into thinking I should feel grateful for the attention of all men, as if their admiration of my body is some sort of gift that I should cherish.

Let’s pursue the concept of mutual respect, shall we?

As in, I will continue not to comment on your body parts as though they exist for my personal pleasure, and that simple gesture of respect will be returned.

– Glorious BE

Location: Boston, MA

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