I have been pushed once by a road side young man popularly called ‘agbaro’ and when i asked him why he pushed me, he ask me what am gonna do to him if he pushed me. Though i exchanged words with him and told him i was going to get him arrested but he was not moved by it. He asked me if i had enough money to feed myself before arresting him. I know i didn’t look hungry and neither was i. One thing that bothers me is if we (women) are the cause for our own harassment or these guys are just manless. I was dressed in a long sleeve shirt and a knee skirt.
There is hardly any day that i go out that some guy don’t say some thing or want to say some thing. I was not bothered but this incident was different because there was a strong physical contact. Now i have to keep a very serious look to scare them away though it doesn’t work for some as no matter how scary i try to make my face look, there is this thing about my looks that shows that am a calm person. I think an authority should be made to check sexual/ physical harassment for ladies and even men. I have had the opportunity to talk with a young man concerning sexual harassment.
Did you know that some men feel sexually harassed by some ladies? How do you mean? I asked. He said by their seductive dressing. He further said that men are moved sexually by what they see and women are moved sexually by touch and words. A person is addressed the way he/she is dressed but not in all cases though some people just have this bad behavior of harassment.
I just hope that some day, this whole harassment issue will come to an end.
I must say that i felt very bad that that i couldn’t do anything to him. I guess i will have to watch carefully the places that i pass through and the people that walk along side with me and most especially…my dressing.
– Camilla
Location: Port Harcourt, Nigeria
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