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Archives for March 2014

India: Men on the Street — Take a Walk!

March 22, 2014 By Correspondent

Via Flickr

By Pallavi Kamat, Mumbai, India, SSH Correspondent

While people talk about and highlight street harassment, primarily amongst women, does anybody wonder about the reasons it happens?

One of the main reasons, according to me, is that women are considered the weaker sex. Men feel that they need to control women in order to show that they are powerful. And one of the ways they can do this is by harassing innocent and gullible women who are simply walking down the street. In fact, experts believe that warped social beliefs and psychological problems are responsible for men indulging in such harassment.

Unfortunately, instead of helping stop it, society tends to worsen the situation. When a woman is harassed, society tells her that she must definitely be at fault. Maybe she was wearing the wrong clothes or had stepped out at a wrong time. Or maybe she had ventured into an area where she should not have. This only encourages the men further.

In cities like Mumbai, it is often alleged (and rightly so) that the police do not take the street harassment complaints of women seriously enough to file an FIR. And passers-by try not to interfere fearing they will get unnecessarily caught in the legal rigmarole. In fact, in October-2011, two youngsters were stabbed to death for trying to stop some goons from harassing their girlfriends.

So, what can be done about this? Nothing? Are women destined to face street harassment and continue pretending as if nothing happened? Sadly, such questions lead to more questions. But, I am an eternal optimist. According to me, women need to come out and speak more against such instances. These need to be highlighted and not shoved under the carpet. Perpetrators of such acts should be named and shamed by citizens groups. This is the thinking behind the ‘Chappal Maarungi’ campaign [literally meaning to hit with a sandal/shoe].

Some experts are also seeking a change in the way cities are modelled in their bid to fight street harassment. Changes such as bright lights and wider pavements are some of the suggestions being considered in Mumbai.

Such solutions need to come from within local people and societies – an external person/organisation cannot provide better answers. Also, buy-in for such solutions needs to be obtained; one needs to emphasize that it is not a woman’s personal problem when she is harassed on the street but a social problem – one that needs to be taken seriously and dealt with like any other crime.

Pallavi is a qualified Chartered Accountant and a Commerce Graduate from the University of Mumbai, India, with around 12 years of experience working in the corporate sector. Follow her on Twitter, @pallavisms.

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Father dead after defending daughter from street harasser

March 21, 2014 By HKearl

On rare occasions, street harassment escalates into murder. This is a case where that sadly, outrageously happened…to a witness/bystander to the harassment.

“Michael Tingling and his 15-year-old daughter Masharah were inseparable.

“He could’ve gave birth to her instead of me, that’s how close they were,” said Masharah’s mother, Yolanda Simmons. “They hung out like they were best buddies.”

On Wednesday, during one of their regular afternoons together, Tingling and his daughter were approached by a man who “made inappropriate gestures” to the girl, police said. The men got into an argument and Tingling, an ex-boxer, was punched in the chest and collapsed in front of his daughter. He died an hour later.

Police arrested Joseph Firek, who is 59 and on parole for residential burglary, and charged him overnight with first-degree murder and a hate crime, saying Firek kept making racial comments while attacking Tingling.”

More about what happened:

Firek “stared at them, looked at her up and down, and her dad grabbed her, put her behind him and he told him, ‘You need to walk away,’” Simmons said. “The guy was just standing there grinning.”

Firek then allegedly said “What, n*****?” and punched Tingling at least twice in the upper chest, said Assistant State’s Attorney Rita Infelise. The two men exchanged punches until an unknown male separated them.

Tingling, who family members said had a pacemaker, walked away with Firek pursuing him into the intersection of Clark Street and Estes Avenue as Masharah called 911. He eventually stopped following the two, who went into an auto shop where Tingling sat down, saying he didn’t feel well and had shortness of breath, Infelise said. Paramedics rushed Tingling in full cardiac arrest to St. Francis Hospital in Evanston, she said, and police arrested Firek at the scene.”

SO HEART BREAKING. This dad was just trying to protect and stand up for his daughter and now he is dead. Street harassment is disgusting, vile, and can have very real consequences. It needs to stop NOW.  Our hearts go out to the 15-year-old girl and the friends and family of her father.

No one should ever be harassed or killed for standing up for a loved one who is harassed.

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“Never in my life had I felt so degraded.”

March 21, 2014 By Contributor

My friend and I were at the gas station and we are both only 17. These two men kept whistling at us, they kept getting closer and closer, we had to stay inside till they left. Never in my life had i felt so degraded.

– MT

Location: Springfield, Ohio

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Reclaim London’s Streets, 30 March – 5 April!

March 21, 2014 By HKearl

Last year’s London Landmarks against Street Harassment event

Rosamund Urwin writes for the London Evening Standard about her street harassment stories

“The road I live off — Acre Lane in Brixton — seems to host regular auditions for the Bad Boyfriend Club. Most days, a couple of men stand near the McDonald’s uttering “Hey, sexy” and other Oscar Wilde-worthy witticisms at passing women. I’m pretty sure that the success rate of this strategy is lower than Lottery jackpot odds (ie, zero), that no woman has ever ripped off her knickers in response. Yet still they persist, day after day….

Almost every woman I know has similar — or worse — stories. They’ve been sworn at. Hollered at. Leered at. Groped. These incidents occur on the street, in buses, trains, clubs and bars — regular reminders that, as a woman, public spaces never quite belong to you…Let’s reclaim the streets from London’s leches.”

If you live in London and want to help reclaim the streets, you can join Rape Crisis South London for their “London Landmarks Against Street Harassment Event” from 30 March to 5 April for International Anti-Street Harassment Week!

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Raise awareness about street harassment with stencils

March 19, 2014 By HKearl

Are you looking for a unique way to bring attention to the problem of street harassment…. especially during the upcoming International Anti-Street Harassment Week (March 30 – April 5)?

You could download these stencils by the Philadelphia-based group Pussy Division and spread anti-harassment messages on sidewalks or walls in your community! (Chalk could be a non-permanent alternative to spray paint.)

The idea is you download the words like “Damn Girl” and “Nice Ass” and also the “No” image and then it’s a two step process to stencil the catcall words and then overlay it with the No.

The leaders shared these tips: “We have them on 12X12 card-stock and found that to be an ideal size.  If you wish to use the stencil many times, its helpful to laminate them before you cut out the black sections with an exacto knife or razor blade.”

PDFs to SAVE:

“No” | “Damn Girl” | “Hey Sexy” |
“Smile Honey” | “Sup Baby” | “Nice Ass”

 

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