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Archives for May 2014

What Some of the People Who Don’t “Get” Street Harassment Say

May 30, 2014 By HKearl

After going through The OpEd Project‘s public seminar about how to have a public voice, including how to write op-eds, in 2010, I began writing op-eds on street harassment. I quickly learned not to read the comments, but today, as I did research for an op-ed, I went back to the comments of my second op-ed — the first one where I shared a street harassment experience. Ugh, most of them are upsetting.

I was 27 years old, on a business trip in Oregon, and had a scary experience while running. In my op-ed, which opened with that experience, I connected my verbal harassment experience to recent stories of men raping and murdering women runners to explain why my experience scared me. I concluded with suggestions for what needed to change so that women runners would be safer.

Most of the commenters were quite upset with me and very dismissive. These are excerpts of just a few of their charming remarks:

“Wait til you lose your looks, become middle aged and the male attention stops. Then you’ll really have something to complain about. Lighten up honey.”

“If common cat calls bother her then she should grow a thicker skin and if she is scared then she should learn to protect her self. She should be happy that she has the ability to run and is pretty enough to get a cat call once in a while.”

“Find an appropriate place to run where other runners go. If you choose to just run along the side of the road in spandex or tight shorts, you will receive catcalls. That is just human nature.”

“Ms. Kearl, your picture, unless it’s been photoshopped, suggests you’re attractive. I assume that at least one reason you run is to remain so. If you’d like to avoid whistles, stop running and put on fifty pounds.”

“I would like all women to express their appreciation of my physique when they pass me. I feel harassed when they dont. I am thinking of writing a book which details the harassment of this silence. I call it “Start Public Complements: Making Public Places Welcoming for Men”. I want laws passed that make it illegal for women to pass a man and not make a positive comment about their physical features”

“Boo hoo lady get over your self. Life must be hard for you with your big problems. Grow a thicker skin and learn how to protect your self.”

“A review of Ms Kearl’s web page makes one think that Ms Kearl must seek out this type of harassing response in order to support her thesis for the book. Male predators are a very serious social danger, especially to younger women and this questionable attempt for publicity only demeans the real problem and the need to combat it. (I hope the obvious satire of the above comment helps you to appreciate how misguided Holly’s position is!)”

When I’m in the thick of street harassment activism and largely surrounded by people who get it, I can forget how many people simply do not. They think it’s no big deal, a compliment, or our fault.

In reading these comments, I am very glad that the national report on street harassment will be out on Tuesday proving this is a pervasive problem that negatively impacts people’s (primarily women’s) lives. I hope it can make a difference!

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“It is very disrespectful and unwelcome for me”

May 29, 2014 By Contributor

Everyday I pass through this situation of cat calling in public places. It is very disrespectful and unwelcome for me. This is the way I feel everyday. I feel very sacred because I have to pass through the same spot just to go to High School. I don’t know what to do or how to respond to them because I think they might do something that could hurt me. Even when I walk with my mom or sister. They still do it. And is around my community where there is cops but they don’t do nothing about it. This is very unsafe because it is a human rights issue.

– SG

Location: Brooklyn where I live

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“More people need to get involved when they witness street harassment taking place”

May 29, 2014 By Contributor

I live in Barbados and street harassment is a serious problem there. I have witnessed men blatantly calling women out their names and imposing their unwanted attention onto them. Leaving home one has to garner oneself in preparation for the onslaught of rude comments and suggestions that are sure to come. Verbal and physical harassment are so interwoven into the fabric of our culture that it has become accepted as the norm. So accepted that a song called “Meat gotta pull” actually got air play on the radios here.

There is a common expression in Barbados that Bajan women are unmannerly and difficult to approach but no exploration of how this came to be the case. I’ll be generous and say that at least half of your daily encounters with men here will end with some inappropriate and unwanted comment. So is it any wonder that females are apprehensive when males approach them?

The worst part is that I believe some of them think they’re flattering you.

Do you have any suggestions for dealing with harassers and/or ending street harassment in general?

I believe more people need to get involved when they witness street harassment taking place and be the keepers of our brothers and sisters. Men are the perpetrators in many cases but they are also the victims.

– Anonymous

Location: Barbados

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Men Harass and Attack Transgender Women in Atlanta

May 28, 2014 By HKearl

Trigger Warning —

A group of men on a MARTA train in Atlanta, Georgia harassed two transgender women, theb stripped one nude and violently attacked them both. The men ignored the women’s requests to stop. Bystanders, the women said, did nothing to help and some videotaped the attack. Allegedly MARTA staff did nothing when the women tried to report it, but now, after their story has received media attention, MARTA is looking into what happened.

It’s too late though. Both women are moving away from Atlanta after the attack. “I don’t feel safe here,” one of the women said.

The attack began with the type of harassment familiar to many transgender people:

“[They] just kept of asking us was we real,” said Janell Crosby. “Like really trying to get us. ‘Are you real?’ ‘Are y’all this or that?’ Just trying to embarrass us.”

“They were trying to find out if we are men or women,” said Tyra Woods. “I shouldn’t have to disclose who I am to an innocent person who I’m not even interested in talking to.”

Exactly. Their attention, time, and personal history is not the business of random people they encounter in public spaces. They — and everyone — should have the right to be safe and respected in public spaces and have the freedom to just be themselves. And they — and we — need bystanders, transit agencies and law enforcement officers to take street harassment seriously and take appropriate action.

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“It causes women to feel unsafe walking down the streets”

May 28, 2014 By Contributor

I was walking towards my bank and a passing car slowed down. The driver brought out his head to tell me that I am a W#**e and a s**t and I should get in his car and let him f#@% me …

Do you have any suggestions for dealing with harassers and/or ending street harassment in general?

Strict laws to let them know that it is a crime and it causes women to feel unsafe walking down the streets

– Anonymous

Location: Tripoli-Libya

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