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Archives for June 2014

“I would like for him to learn how to treat women with respect”

June 9, 2014 By Contributor

I was waiting for my bus home at McPherson Square today (6/6/14 around 5:20 p.m.), and this bus, number 6569, pulls up. I believe it was an out of service A9. The driver, this guy who appears to be in his mid-30s and is snacking on what appears to be a SlimJim, comes too close to me. He also stares at me for longer than I’d like.

“How ya doin’?” he says.

I pointed to my headphones and said that I wasn’t in the mood to talk to anyone and that I wanted to listen to my music. And I didn’t apologize for not wanting to talk either because I had no reason to. I had a very long day and was looking forward to my weekend. I just wanted to be in my headspace.

He then points to his bus and asks me to board.

“That’s not mine,” I say.

I reiterated that I wasn’t in the mood to chat and then he says, “I don’t mean anything by it, baby.”

I tell him not to call me “baby,” then said, “Didn’t you take WMATA harassment training? Don’t call women ‘baby’.”

He scoffs, says, “Good god,” then walks onto his bus.

This is not the first time that a Metrobus driver has attempted to flirt with me, and this is not the first time that one has called me “baby.” I wish that these men would pay more attention to their jobs and stop trying to hit on women. It’s not a dating service. The only thing I want from these drivers is to get me to my destination.

I did not manage to get a photo of this guy when he was outside of his bus (my phone’s camera doesn’t have a zoom and I did not want to be near this guy to get a close shot), but I got a shot of his bus.
I do not want this guy to lose his job, but I would like for him to learn how to treat women with respect.

I’ve filed this report with WMATA’s harassment site as well.

– D.

Location: McPherson Square (Washington, DC)

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“Raise hell every where you have a voice”

June 7, 2014 By Contributor

It’s been over a year and I’ve done nothing. I’ve walked side by side with my best friend and heard the cat calls. I’ve seen the unwarranted leering and threatening gestures. I’ve seen her have to cross the street in order to avoid a group of men leering. As she grips her arms tightly around her chest from the fear and anger of having to experience this over and over through out her day. I’ve heard her stories of walking alone in a crowd and being confronted by men of all ages, even boys. They tell her, “Smile sexy,” she tells them, “Back off” and they yell out, “What bitch?! I’ll rape you! You need a real man to put you in place.” It’s been over a year and I haven’t done one damn thing to make her world safer.

This is not abhorrent behavior by some creepy man who wanders the streets preying on women. This is normal behavior that every man of any age performs. The dad shopping with his wife and daughter, the young college man, the delivery man, the grandfather walking his grandchildren, your brother and father, your son, nephew and friend. You and me. “Why aren’t you losing your shit over this?!” Throughout the last year this phrase was repeated louder each time I heard it. My best friend felt let down, over and over. I walked right along with her, quiet and passive. As if I had no control over her experience. Like no matter what I did to make her world safer, every woman’s world safer, nothing would come of it.

My best friend, is paralyzed in her apartment from fear of walking in the streets. No matter what she wears, a long coat and scarf covering 95 percent of her body or a tank top and shorts, the abuse is the same. The harassment comes from men and boys from all walks of life. Men who are empowered by society to instill fear on any woman they choose, however subtle or blatant. According to Stop Street Harassment, an organization committed to ending gender-based street harassment worldwide, more than 80 percent of women experience gender-based street harassment: unwanted sexual comments, demands for a smile, leering, whistling, following, and groping. And there’s no age requirement. No matter if she is 9 years of age or 76, there is a man to put her in her place.

Why aren’t we losing our shit over this? It’s simple, misogyny runs deeps in our minds, our behaviors, our existence. You may be saying to your self, “No, not me! I’m not like those creeps.” Well, if you don’t act to tear down the wall of fear, violence and dehumanization, you’re a part of the problem.

What can we do? Reach out to women in your life and hear their stories, talk to other men and boys about street harassment, and intervene in any way you can. Raise hell every where you have a voice; Facebook, Tumblr, blogs, your family, community, and with friends.

Take a stand. Being ignorant of your own power as a man to stop street harassment and violence against women, means that every moment a women walks out in the streets, she walks in fear.

– Josue Rivera Razo

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“I don’t want to think about what they say to my daughter when she is alone”

June 6, 2014 By Contributor

I was walking with my 14-years-old daughter, and some guys started to say that they’d “Do us both”, that they’d first take the mother and then the daughter, stuff like that. If they say those things with an adult present (me), I don’t want to think about what they say to my daughter when she is alone.

Do you have any suggestions for dealing with harassers and/or ending street harassment in general?

More education to respect people, it doesn’t matter how they’re dressed, everyone deserves respect

– EC

Location: Medellin, Colombia

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Meet Our Correspondents for June – Aug 2014!

June 5, 2014 By HKearl

I am thrilled to announce our new Blog Correspondents cohort! These passionate women will spend the next three months writing about street harassment in their communities/countries, including various aspects of the problem and initiatives underway to see the end of street harassment. You will be able to read their blog posts here, starting next week.

Lorna M. Hartman, Spokane, WA, USA

Lorna has studied and written about rape and interpersonal violence since she was a teenager. In the 1990s she spent a year in Thailand as a teacher. She will never forget some of the things she experienced and saw Thai women experience that year. She has a bachelor’s in journalism, and this past June she graduated with a second bachelor’s in interdisciplinary studies, taking classes in journalism, computer programming and design. She is raising three young, kindhearted male allies. In between babies she served on the local rape hotline, answering calls and driving to emergency rooms to advocate for victims and connect them with resources they needed. She likes singing and playing music, traveling, and constantly learning new professional skills. Her favorite dessert is sticky rice with mango and coconut milk.

Kasumi Hirokawa, State College, PA, USA

Kasumi is a recent graduate from Penn State with a BA in journalism. Her writing has been published in Valley Magazine, City Weekend Shanghai, Penn State GeoBlog and Shanghai Daily. Kasumi speaks Japanese, English, Mandarin and Shanghainese. She has lived in Japan, China and the United States and visited many more including Morocco, UK and Thailand. She is obsessed with everything Mediterranean and Maghrebi. Her life goal is to visit every single country in the world and perhaps acquire a new language. In her spare time, she can be found either curling up with books, experimenting on a new recipe, hanging out with fellow feminists or belly dancing. You can follow her on Twitter, @kasumihrkw

Kirstin Kelley, Monterey, CA, USA

Kirstin is a Master’s Student in Nonproliferation and Terrorism Studies at the Monterey Institute of International Studies and a news editor at the Women’s International Perspective (The WIP). She discovered her passion for feminism while studying Psychology and Sociology and Anthropology at Green Mountain College. Kirstin has been a human rights and environmental activist since early childhood. Her research focuses on how otherwise normal people can treat others inhumanely, with a focus on stereotypes. Now she is most interested in how ecofeminism can pave the way to a better world, transactional feminism, and deep ecology. You can follower her on Twitter at @KirstinKelley1, where she regularly posts about human rights issues around the world.

Jessie Koerner, Denver, Colorado, USA

Jessie is a longtime human rights activist with a feminist focus. She’s been involved with multiple organizations, including founding the Amnesty International chapter at her undergrad, being an active participant in JustWorld International, and managing the social media accounts for the Global Women’s Network and winnovating.com, where she also blogs. In addition, Jessie will also be part of the Hollaback! fall class, and starting a chapter of the anti-street harassment group in Denver in late 2014. With an M.A. in Global Health and International Security, she’s committed to making this world a better place. Jessie is also an expert in cheap red wine, Pinterest crafts, and over-sharing on Twitter. Find her @pearlsandspurs there and on Instagram, or at pearlsandspurs.com, where she swears she’s going to start writing more.

Cristina del Mar Quiles, San Juan, Puerto Rico

Cristina es una periodista y productora de noticias de San Juan, Puerto Rico. Posee un bachillerato de la Universidad de Puerto Rico, Recinto de Río Piedras, donde también completa su maestría en Consejería. Ha trabajado como reportera para medios impresos y digitales. Actualmente, es una de las productoras de Hoy en las Noticias de Radio Universidad de Puerto Rico. Su interés en luchar contra el acoso callejero comenzó durante sus años como estudiante universitaria, cuando lo sufrió, más que nunca, mientras caminaba desde su hospedaje hasta el campus. Le apasionan los temas relacionados con la justa representación de la mujer en los medios, la alfabetización mediática y la educación. Además, disfruta de viajar y de la jardinería. Cree en un Puerto Rico y en una sociedad entera libre de prejuicios, donde las oportunidades sean accesibles para todas las personas, sin importar su clase, raza o género. Puedes seguirla en Twitter en @cristinadelmarq.

Cristina is a journalist and a radio producer. She holds a Bachelor’s degree in Journalism and is finishing her Master’s in Counseling, both from the University of Puerto Rico, Río Piedras Campus. She’s worked as a reporter for print and web media and now she is news producer at Radio Universidad de Puerto Rico. Her interest in fighting sexual and street harassment started through personal experience as a student living at one of the main urban areas in San Juan, where she walked everyday from home to college campus. She’s passionate about the equal representation of women in media, education, media literacy, storytelling, traveling and gardening. She envisions a Puerto Rico and an entire society where opportunities are available for everyone, despite the class, race or gender. Follow her on Twitter @cristinadelmarq.

Brittany Oliver, Baltimore, MD, USA

Brittany is a recent graduate of Towson University and holds a B.S in Mass Communications with a focus in Public Relations. She is an advocate and thought leader for civic and societal issues related to feminism, social justice and civil rights. Brittany works in the non-profit communications sector and supports local anti-street harassment advocacy through Hollaback! Baltimore. She is also an organizer for One Billion Rising 2014 and is an avid volunteer within in community. Her goal in writing for SSH is to educate people about the harassment that takes place on the streets of Baltimore, which she’s experienced her whole life. Her offline activities include salsa dancing, arts & crafts, reading and attending local community events. She blogs at brittuniverse.wordpress.com and publicly rants on Twitter, @btiara3.

Dearbhla Quinn, Dublin, Ireland and Brussels, Belgium

Dearbhla (pronounced Der-vla) loves the four ‘Fs’ -Food, film, fiction and feminism. She graduated from BESS (Business and Sociology), in Trinity College Dublin, last year. Since then she’s been deciding what to do with her life, and that journey has brought her to Brussels, Belgium where she is in the midst of a think-tank internship working in the areas of gender, equality and employment. On the weekends she’s a tour guide and enthusiastic wine and Belgian beer drinker. She’s decided to combine here love of books and feminism into the novel idea of, during June, reading exclusively women authors. Feel free to join #WomenAuthorMonth and tweet your experience. You can find her discussing her life, politics and the four F’s on Twitter @imoshedinheels and her blogs. Au Revoir!

Corina Thorose, Melbourne, Australia

Corina is a journalist who is currently in a Masters’ program in Professional Writing. In addition to writing for Stop Street Harassment, she volunteers with White Ribbon Australia and the Women’s Domestic Violence Crisis Service. Her passions include music, literature and pyjamas, and she spends her free time reviewing theatre and film. Corina’s creative and critical work can be found at Thehumbleopinion.me and her women’s opinion pieces can be found at Theirownbells.com. You can also view her articles on social media: @BrandosBride, www.facebook.com/theirownbells, instagram.com/theirownbells.

Suzanne Vyborney, Oakland, CA

Born in South Korea and raised in Northern California, Suzanne studied philosophy and environmental ethics in college and is currently plotting ways to make the corporate world more socially responsible. Often found ranting about the patriarchy, racism, and the prison industrial complex, what Suzanne loves most about her social justice work is connecting with and being inspired by her amazing community in Oakland and beyond. Suzanne is also an editorial board member of the Ella Baker Center for Human Rights’ blog, Ella’s Voice, the special events chair for the brand new Oakland chapter of the national progressive leadership training institute New Leaders Council, and a volunteer for the nationally renowned anti-street-harassment campaign, Stop Telling Women To Smile. In between, Suzanne can be found making mosaics, working on social justice-infused comedy sketches, sending many an unsolicited cat video and recovering from brunch. You can follow her on Twitter @zantropa.

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“Cat calling and harassing strangers on the street shouldn’t be socially acceptable”

June 5, 2014 By Contributor

I shut them both up. I was 21, and me and my girlfriend were going to go out on the town. First we needed some wine to have whilst we got ready. We walk down to the shops, and outside were three males. Two of them comment to each other “they’re sexy” bla bla, as we walk past, I hear the third say, “I’ve seen better.”

Charming. Like our whole purpose in life is to look pretty for you ummmm no. But my friend and I say nothing. As we exit the store the same guy mutters “sluts” just loud enough for us to hear. OK, that’s it.

I whirl round and demand aggressively, “WHAT was that?” This idiot stutters and stammers, he can’t believe I’ve had the guts to say something to him and then replies, “Oh nothing.”

I give him a death stare and snap, “Yeah that’s what I thought.”

My friend and I carry in our journey home, the laughter of this guys’ friends wetting themselves at his humiliation ringing in our ears.

Same night friend and I leave the pub, and a guy shouts, “Show us your tits,” and I shout back “Why don’t you show me yours you fat b***tard.” People around us fall over themselves laughing. If your big enough to dish it out, be big enough to take it back.

Do you have any suggestions for dealing with harassers and/or ending street harassment in general?

If you’re a woman in public, in a crowd/with someone, say something. And make sure it’s nasty and humiliating for the person trying to humiliate you. They won’t do it again. Men, if you see a woman being harassed, stand up for her, tell the guy, “Look, bro, that’s not ok and makes you look like an idiot.” Cat calling and harassing strangers on the street shouldn’t be socially acceptable.

– LM

Location: Queensland, Australia

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