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Archives for July 2014

“No wonder women don’t want to ride bikes.”

July 9, 2014 By Contributor

In many car-centric cities around the U.S., riding a bike on a city street is equivalent to sticking a target on your back. Being a woman on a bike makes that target 10 times bigger and 10 times brighter.

As much as I love riding my bike, there are times when I feel unsafe and violated, such as when I pull up alongside a bus shelter and a man yells out, “Damn girl. Where you going? You must be riding a lot with an ass like that!” I can’t wait for the light to change so I can get the hell away from this situation.

I never know quite how to respond. A motorist rolls down his window to tell me how lucky my bike is to be ridden by me. I just smile and try to shrug it off, knowing who holds the power in this situation, Often I try to avoid potential situations altogether, changing routes where I know I often get yelled at or not riding at certain times. I once spent a summer as a pedicabber (one of my favorite jobs I ever had), but never took the night shifts after my boss warned me I’d probably be harassed by drunk male college students. Try as I might, street harassment cannot be avoided. A pedestrian once yelled, “I want to cum all over you” on a Sunday afternoon on one of Kansas City’s busiest streets. I didn’t know how to respond other than to break down in tears as I started to climb a hill.

I endure the catcalls on a daily basis and for the most part learn to live with it. But when a few weeks ago, one of my best friends got to work and started crying because a man yelled, “I want to suck your pussy,” on the ride in, I became furious. Words like that are violating and unjust. Too many women are getting hurt.

“No wonder women don’t want to ride bikes,” she said.

It is a well-known fact that women ride bikes at much lower rates than men. In 2009, women accounted for only 24% of all bicycle trips in the U.S. In addition, 24% of women refrain from exercising outdoors in general in order to avoid public sexual harassment and assault, according to the most recent report by Stop Street Harassment. A few bike advocacy groups nationwide have begun to recognize the importance of getting more women on bikes, by hosting forums and summits. For example, the Washington Area Bicycle Association recently hosted a workshop for female cyclists about fighting street harassment.

I do not have a choice when it comes to exercising outdoors as I do not own a car that I can use as a shield from harassment. My bike cannot camouflage the fact that I wear a skirt or a dress every single day–a fact many of my female friends sometimes have a hard time believing. “I try not to wear a skirt when I bike. I seem to attract more negative attention from men,” a friend once told me. I’m not going to let fear stop me from wearing what I want to wear. A woman on a bike is not eye candy for motorists, she is not riding for the attention or the praise. She is riding because she simply loves to ride her bike. She is a cyclist and the road is as much hers as it is yours.

Sexual harassment is not merely a “women’s issue.” It is a mobility issue. If women do not feel safe biking to work or to run simple errands to the grocery store, how can we expect them to pursue alternative modes of transportation? Just as cyclists have the same rights to the roads as motorists, women must have the same rights as cyclists as men.

Heavy traffic, debris in the road, and a lack of bicycle facilities would be enough to deter any woman from riding a bicycle. It is great that cities are beginning to invest more in building bike facilities, such as bike lanes to encourage individuals to use bicycles as a mode of transportation, but the issue of getting more women on bikes extends beyond infrastructure improvements. A bike lane is not going to make a woman feel much safer when she is going to be harassed every day. Without a dramatic change in culture, female cyclists will remain a minority on the landscapes of our streets, their targets still strapped firmly to their backs.

Rachel Krause is a cyclist who is active in the Kansas City bike community. She publishes a feminist bicycling zine called Velo Vixen.

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Petition: Banjo Billy’s Bus Tours: Stop harassing women on the street!

July 9, 2014 By HKearl

Check out and consider signing this new Change.org Petition!!

“Banjo Billy’s Bus Tours have been helping tourists fall in love with Boulder, Colorado with their nautical bus decorations and fun stories about local folklore since 2005. However, they took their goofy humor too far when they installed a button that the driver can push to make the bus produce a loud and cartoonish wolf whistle towards a women as the bus passes her.

I was that woman a few days ago when I was crossing the street in front of the bus, and felt the familiar embarrassment and disrespect that always comes with street harassment as the busload of tourists laughed at my expense. When I called to complain, the company was sorry I was offended but maintained that the button was all in good fun.

I have recently turned eighteen and I believe it is unacceptable for a bus driver twice my age to make judgments about my appearance to entertain his passengers. Please help me tell Banjo Billy’s Bus Tours that this street harassment has to end!”

H/T Hollaback!

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“I want street harassment to end”

July 8, 2014 By Contributor

I am 14 years old and heading into high school. I am becoming increasingly harassed on an occasional basis by grown men and older teenagers whenever I walk my dog or I am with my friends. I don’t deserve to be hollered, “Hey Baby!” whenever I walk in my neighborhood by a passing car. I don’t want to threaten to call the police to get them to stop after they cat-call multiple times. I want street harassment to end.

– Anonymous

Location: On the sidewalk normally; Southern FL

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“I can’t escape being targeted by him”

July 4, 2014 By Contributor

This one might be unusual, but there’s a man who lingers outside the mall, who asks me for a date, out of the blue, with no previous eye contact or “welcoming signal” from me of any kind, each and every time I go to the area he lingers in. I say no, and he departs.

So why do I consider it harassment? Because I can’t escape being targeted by him, because he doesn’t care what I happen to be doing (as long as I am alone) and because I think one “no” should be enough. But when I brought it up to others, they had nothing but sympathy for the man, and told me his actions were “natural.”

Really? I’m sorry, but don’t I get a right to privately eat my lunch/text on my phone/stare off into space/do anything I wish without being “zeroed in on” by a man I’ve repeatedly rejected and never asked to approach me in the first place?

– Erika W

Location: Cambridge, MA

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USA: #NotJustHello: What’s so bad about starting a conversation?

July 3, 2014 By Correspondent

Lorna M. Hartman, Spokane, WA, SSH Blog Correspondent

Twitter has provided women worldwide with an avenue for mass sharing of harassment and assault experiences.

It seems easy for some men to hear a story from a woman and simply dismiss it, as many women can testify. When hashtags go viral with dozens or even hundreds of women sharing these experiences, though, it’s much harder for people to simply dismiss them.

It’s harder to say, “You must have overreacted. It doesn’t sound like that big a deal,” when you’re saying it to several hundred or several thousand women from all over the world citing similar experiences.

Writer Aja Romano of The Daily Dot published “#NotJustHello identifies a troubling trend in street harassment” on June 22. She reported, “We’re sure Twitter user UJohnsmeyer probably meant well. But his defense of men who talk to women on the street may have sparked the weekend’s most engaging social commentary hashtag.”

Here’s a piece of the Twitter conversation that led to #NotJustHello:

@UJohnsmeyer  @Feminist_Inti @Karnythia ever think that maybe a guy sees a chick he thinks is hot and just wants to try to start up a convo?

@Karnythia  @UJohnsmeyer @Feminist_Inti Ever think women don’t want to strike up convos with strange men?

More women joined the conversation, telling about their experiences. Finally, @Karnythia said:

@Karnythia We do understand that it’s #NotJustHello right? That street harassment is never that calm or polite?

The new hashtag took off. Here are some samples of both women’s experiences, and of men’s reactions to the hashtag:

@dale_in_denver @KaeAltoBella @AJStream If there is an expectation of a response, then it’s #notjusthello. Ignoring isn’t working or this wouldn’t be a #.

@notallmikaylas Your desire to hit on me does not trump my right to be left alone. #NotJustHello

@hannaheff When I refused to acknowledge a stranger’s compliment, he invaded my personal space and said, “I’m stronger than you.” #NotJustHello

@UJohnsmeyer How do you get women if you can’t say hello to them? #notjusthello

@theamandabatty ‘Hello’ is a smile or a respectful nod, not a catcall, a jeer, a crude gesture or name calling when I don’t respond. #NotJustHello

‏@BettorOffSingle [this individual posted several dozen times, attempting to monopolize the hashtag—his post below is representative]

Hey stupid women: #yesallwomen #notjusthello #feminism all lesbian constructs for seducing gullible str8 women by turning them against men.

@cameralinds_ It’s #notjusthello, it’s fear of retaliation for both responding and not responding.

@RynJ21 It’s #NotJustHello when I have a smile I created specifically to deal with street harassment. I call it, “Please don’t kill me.”

Male allies posted as well:

@HolzmanTweed When I was a teen, a guy tried to “teach” me how to catcall, explaining “the rules:” (1/x) #NotJustHello

@HolzmanTweed He told me look for a ring, an ankle chain, something that flagged her as taken so that I wouldn’t disrespect her man. (2/x) #NotJustHello

@HolzmanTweed There’s no pretense on the guy side that it’s about anything but establishing & confirming power, a compliance check. #NotJustHello

@wisemath Brothers, go read the #NotJustHello tag. If that doesn’t move something in you, I’ll pray for you.

@RobScowen For the male “not allowed to flirt” whiners, please read #NotJustHello *carefully* without feeling like the [f******] victim and educate self

As some women tweeted, if men understood the humiliation and the fear women feel when they are harassed on the street, fewer men would do it. Women’s personal risk in possibly being verbally or physically assaulted by a displeased harasser is real.

Last September, blogger UnWinona told of one terrifying experience while commuting on the Metro in California.

On this occasion a bicyclist brought his bike in with him. Despite an empty car, he sat across from her. When he started talking to her, she calmly told him to leave her alone as she was reading.

He walked to his seat in a huff, muttering about it not being his fault she was pretty. But he didn’t stop there; he continued to mutter and complain, and after a few minutes he got back up and started pacing. Then he started screaming at her, and then punching the train.

She was terrified. She froze in her seat, ready with her feet up in case he attacked her, certain that if she got up and walked away she’d be attacked when she turned her back to leave.

For two stops he kept this up. No one came to her aid; no one even came to see what was happening. The second she reached her station, she ran out the door.

She concluded [emphasis hers], “So when people (men) want to talk about ‘legitimate’ forms of assault, tell girls they should be nice to strangers and give men the benefit of a doubt, tell them to consider it a compliment, tell them to ignore the bad behavior of men, I want them to be forced to feel, for even one minute, what it feels like to have so much verbal hatred and physical intimidation thrown at them for nothing more than being female and not wanting to share.”

Lorna is raising three young, kindhearted male allies and has worked on rape and interpersonal violence since the 1990s, including serving on the local rape hotline, answering calls, and driving to emergency rooms to advocate for victims and connect them with resources they needed.

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