I unfortunately have too many stories to share. But the ones that stand out most in my head are all the same. I’m walking alone (in my neighborhood, to my car, into a building) and see a group of males. I immediately become nervous (I have anxiety disorders). I try to find another way around, or try to walk by as fast and as quietly as I can so they don’t notice me. But they always do. They always completely stop what they’re doing, stand up, move towards me and say “Damn!” as I pass. I pass in shame, with my head hung low, wishing I could disappear. They make me feel degraded, threatened, nervous, and in complete danger. It’s gotten to the point where I try not to go anywhere at all alone. It’s not ok.
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It’s time society begins to teach males new ways to interact with women that do not make them feel threatened, degraded, objectified, or uncomfortable. It’s parents’ responsibility, and the responsibility of other men at this point, because nobody is listening to the women who are speaking out against it. We get brushed off, or ridiculed, or accused of overreacting to a “compliment”. It’s not ok to allow this to continue.
– Feliz
Location: Santa Fe, New Mexico
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