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Archives for January 2015

Street harassment and women’s equality in Africa

January 11, 2015 By HKearl

There have been numerous incidents of men scrutinizing, harassing, and stripping women of their clothing in the streets from Cameroon to Zimbabwe, from Kenya to South Africa as “punishment” for dressing “immodestly.” Sisonke Msimang writes about this alarming practice in a very powerful New York Times piece today and how street harassment is connected to women’s equality. This is an excerpt:

“Public strippings represent the front lines of a cultural war against women’s advancements in traditionally conservative but rapidly urbanizing societies. They aren’t really about what women are wearing. They are much more about where women are going.

And many African women are going places quickly. Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala became the first female finance minister in Nigeria; Liberia’s president, Ellen Johnson Sirleaf, is one of a handful of elected female heads of state in the world. Lupita Nyong’o’s Oscar win and Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie’s literary successes have brought attention to the artistic triumphs of a younger generation of women.

Nowhere has progress been more remarkable than in Africa’s legislatures. Africans have significantly outpaced their female peers in America and Europe. In the United States, women hold less than 20 percent of the seats in Congress; similarly, in Britain, women make up just over one-fifth of the members of the House of Commons. Compare this to South Africa, where more than 40 percent of representatives in the National Assembly are women, or Rwanda, where 64 percent of all members of Parliament are women — making it the only country in the world where women outnumber men in the legislature.

Beginning in the 1980s, many African countries started to invest in girls’ education and in small enterprise projects. A generation later, an equal number of girls and boys are enrolled in primary schools across the continent. Many women are successful entrepreneurs and, of course, politicians. Precisely because of these rapid changes in women’s status, the backlash from churches, political parties, traditional leaders and rural officials has been forceful. Outrage at bold women is both spontaneous and organized. The mob mentality that leads to public strippings arises in urban milieus where male aggression against women is seen as acceptable. Meanwhile, many churches systematically preach female subservience, while traditional tribal leaders often blame women for dislodging men from their rightful places in modern societies…

Ordinary African women, it seems, are bearing the brunt of their sisters’ progress. Street harassment is often a sign of deep-seated resentment of women’s changing status in society. For men who were raised to believe that they are entitled to be breadwinners and receive sexual gratification and domestic subservience from women, the shift hasn’t been easy. For younger men, modern values have jostled sharply against the lessons about manhood they learned at home. With high levels of unemployment and gaping inequalities, old conceptions of masculinity die hard.”

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“I was followed by about six teenage boys”

January 11, 2015 By Contributor

While I was still attending high school, I would often walk to meet my mother at her place of work. My mother is a middle school teacher and her school is very close to mine. Walking to her school was hardest when I was alone and the boys would comment about how “fine my body was” or how pretty I was, often in rude and creepy detail. Once I made the mistake of leaving my school late, because I had a club meeting. Consequently, I was followed by about six teenage boys, a posse I suppose. They were cat calling me, and became angry and aggressive when I calmly refused to respond. It wasn’t until I finally saw a security guard still on campus that my body stopped shaking and the fear subsided. The boys saw him as well and walked in the opposite direction. I ran to my mother’s school that day.

– Miramar

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Nepal: Separate buses now, separate walking lanes in the future?

January 9, 2015 By Correspondent

Aakriti Karki, Kathmandu, Nepal, SSH Blog Correspondent

Image via ekantipur.com

Recently, a female only bus service launched in Nepal. The idea behind this service is to provide more safety to women from harassment.

When I read about it in the morning paper, I smiled. I was glad that the public transport authorities were finally paying heed to our concerns. Moreover, to know that the bus services would soon have lady drivers and lady conductors meant that more opportunities were going to be provided to women. Also, this would break the gender stereotypes in our society. We don’t see women as bus drivers or as conductors in Kathmandu even though there is a rise in the number of women who drive their own cars. Even the tempos have more female drivers compared to bus drivers. As for conductors, I’ve seen only a handful in Kathmandu so far. So I was really happy about the news that morning.

That very day, while I was returning home, I was treated rather rudely by a male bus conductor. As soon as I took my seat next to a window, he stared at me. A few other passengers gave me quizzical looks. A few minutes later, the conductor started yelling and pointing his finger at me. I had my earphones in so I removed them in time to hear him yell at me for not sitting in the “women’s seating area,” meaning the few seats designated for women-only on the bus.

I apologized and sat where he wanted me to be seated. Throughout that ride I kept questioning myself – Why could I not sit any other place? Wasn’t this “seat reservation” system put in place for the ladies who couldn’t find a seat in a packed buses? Why did I have to sit here if I could sit anywhere else? The bus wasn’t completely occupied! I didn’t have to sit just there. I knew I could sit anywhere else. But how was I supposed to explain it to them? The conductor followed the system. But was that the right way? He just did that to avoid the scolding from the police in case there was an inspection.

This is where our problem lies. No matter how much our society chants “women equality”, “women empowerment”, “women safety”, we never manage to make that happen. Will females not be allowed to travel in regular buses because there are “all-women buses” available for us? What if I want to travel someplace with my guy friends? Will we have to use separate buses? I hope this doesn’t become another misinterpreted system or another excuse for people to tell me where to sit. The last thing I need now is people telling me which bus to travel in and whom to travel with.

The new women-only bus “tactic” will surely help physically challenged women and older women. It’ll definitely put parents with young daughters at ease. But not me. I don’t mind defending myself when someone makes lewd comments about me or even stares me with that grin on his face. I like fighting with perverts and harassers. I like my freedom and I want all that any guy in my society gets.

I also like making people aware about the inequalities and dangers our society holds for girls. I like it when men show some respect to women – not because they are women but because they are humans. I like it when one human respects another human.

With these new buses, maybe we’ll be safe. But what about the “perverted” minds that will still wander free? Will we start having separate lanes to walk in? Because hey! We aren’t safe on the streets either, are we?

Aakriti is a student at Jalalabad Ragib Rabeya Medical College and member at Women LEAD Nepal – the only leadership development organisation for young women in Nepal. You can follow her on Twitter @karki_aakriti or Facebook.

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The First Blog Correspondent Cohort of 2015!

January 8, 2015 By HKearl

This is the third year of our volunteer blog correspondents program. The first cohort of 2015 (not all are pictured) will be writing about street harassment issues in their communities for the next four months. They hail from nine countries and six continents and will bring great global perspectives to the blog. Here is the first post, by LB in the USA.  

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USA: Three Problems with the “Slap Her” PSA

January 8, 2015 By Correspondent

LB Klein, Georgia, USA, SSH Blog Correspondent

**Trigger Warning** for themes of gender-based violence, nonconsensual touching, adults asking children to commit violent acts

Near the end of a new Italian viral video dubbed “Slap Her: Children’s Reactions,” a man off camera asks boys to slap a girl. They refuse. Then comes the tagline “In the kids’ world, women don’t get hit.”

In theory, I would be ecstatic to see a PSA on this topic reach 12.5 million viewers, particularly one that engages young people, especially boys, in the conversation.  But “Slap Her” is not that video, it only masquerades as a PSA about gender-based violence. In reality, it doesn’t actually address the critical global public health problem of gender-based violence. Instead, it trivializes the issue while it perpetuates the exact cultural norms that perpetuate violence.

I watched this video and felt emotional, not because I was moved by the message of “Slap Her,” but because I was deeply uncomfortable. Here are three reasons why:

1. Martina is depicted as a prop, not a person.

The video begins on a light note with the boys answering questions about their names, their ages, what they want to be when they grow up, and why they want to pursue those careers.  There is significant time dedicated to helping us get to know the boys and who they hope to become.   It’s impossible not to like them and feel a connection.

Romantic music swells, and–enter Martina.  Martina isn’t asked any questions, and we are not given exposition to see her as a real person. She is literally voiceless.  We hear about her only through the boys’ descriptions of her appearance. The one adjective used to describe her (repeatedly) is “pretty.”  We don’t find out about Martina’s goals for the future.  While the boys are full characters in the story, Martina is just a prop.

The off-camera male voice asks the boys to talk about what they like about Martina, to caress her, and to make funny faces at her. In the video’s climax, they are asked to “slap her, hard.”  The boys are depicted as having the agency to obey or disobey the voice, but what about Martina’s agency?  She is not asked for her consent. In fact, she is completely silent and looks nervous throughout. While the video sends a message that even young boys know that hitting a girl is wrong, it also depicts girls as lacking in bodily autonomy.  What if this so-called “social experiment” had gone the way of Milgram, and the boys had obeyed the authority figure and hit Martina? Does anyone ask her how she feels?

2. Gender-based violence is oversimplified to a slap.

This video reduces gender-based violence to a slap. In reality, abusers would rarely, if ever, (knowingly) slap a woman on camera.  Abusers are also rarely strangers.  I am NOT relieved that the boys don’t hit Martina on cue. I would be truly shocked if one of them did.

Gender-based violence involves power and control and abuse that is not only physical but emotional, psychological, economic, and spiritual.  Physical violence can certainly be a part of abuse, but it is used as one tactic to gain control and dominance.  Abuse typically escalates over time and includes dominance, humiliation, isolation, threats, intimidation, and denial.  A small percentage of men hit their partners, but they are allowed to get away with it because of the exact culture of male dominance that “Slap Her” perpetuates.

The boys say they don’t slap Martina because men shouldn’t hit (pretty) girls, and they’re “real men.”  The moral of the video seems to be that even young boys know it’s not okay to hit women, thus shaming any adult who would think gender-based violence is acceptable.  By framing the boys’ responses in this way, the video uses the exact gender stereotypes that perpetuate violence to speak out against it. Violence is reduced to a slap, and the boys are not called to question their power.  These gender stereotypes limit children of all genders and can be, quite literally, deadly for women and trans people.

The same logic that keeps these boys from slapping Martina props up male entitlement.  Street harassment is so often dismissed because women and girls should “take it as a compliment.” This video endorses Martina as a pretty thing for the boys to desire, admire, and even touch, as long as they don’t hit her on command.  That is not revolutionary. That’s patriarchy.

3. It’s not a PSA; it’s Clickbait.

I asked an Italian friend to help me wade through information about this site and video, as I don’t speak Italian beyond what I’ve learned visiting the restroom at Macaroni Grill.  It appeared so abruptly that I needed to know its origins.

“Slap Her” is not a PSA created in partnership with survivors or violence prevention organizations. Fanpage.it is a news site focused on generating clickbait. Luca Iavatore, who has been identified as the off-screen voice, is a video journalist/cultural media reporter for Fanpage.it.

There is no trigger warning. There are no resources listed for survivors, abusers, or folks who are triggered by its content. There are no links to websites to learn more about the issue. There is no call to action.  There is not context or discussion of who debriefed with the boys or Martina. In fact, there is no other information on Fanpage.it about gender-based violence. This video is generating profit for Fanpage.it, and there is no information on their site about proceeds going to benefit gender-based violence advocacy or prevention causes.  The intentions of folks at Fanpage.it might be excellent.

However, without further information, I can’t help but think “Slap Her” is a publicity stunt. The children in this video, and the viewers’ emotions, are being exploited, and Fanpage.it is pocketing advertising dollars.  It would be a truly brilliant marketing ploy, if it weren’t completely unethical. The creators of this video owe its viewers, the children who were filmed, and survivors an apology.

One small edit could have taken this video from harmful to thought-provoking. The video ends, seemingly for comic relief, with one of the boys asking the off-camera man “Can I kiss her on the cheek or on the lips?”  One line of additional dialogue could have completely changed the message to one of liberation. “Slap Her” could have simply added: “Why don’t you ask Martina?” That one line could have taken the boys’, and the audience’s, commitment to ending violence one step further by acknowledging Martina’s bodily autonomy and humanity.  Without this addition, “Slap Her” is a missed opportunity at best and a harmful perpetuation of status quo at worst.

LB is an Atlanta-based advocate and educator dedicated to ending gender-based violence, supporting survivors, and advancing social justice.  You can follow her on twitter @LB_Klein.

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