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Archives for October 2015

“Can’t wait to leave this area”

October 29, 2015 By Contributor

I live in Minneapolis and men are consistently saying things to me. I do not have a car so I am always walking and on public transit.

I moved here almost a year ago to save money for a year or so and then move away to London for graduate school. I was hoping to avoid this type of treatment but it seems to be really bad here in various parts of the city, on buses, and the light rail train. I am asked for money (to get my attention), offered rides, just anything to get my attention. Men are trying to get my attention as I walk down the street. Unfortunately it seems to be mostly Black men. I am a Black woman,

I cover myself (no cleavage) and don’t wear heels and makeup from years of being harassed on the street in Chicago where I grew up.

I don’t feel that I can truly wear what I want because of the level of ignorance that I experience here. I do rent a car occasionally and this is heaven to me. There is a car sharing service here that is .41 cents a minute but that gets expensive after a while.

Can’t wait to leave this area.

– Anonymous

Location: Lake Street and other areas in South Minneapolis, MN

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“Any response I could have given would only have gratified him”

October 28, 2015 By Contributor

I was leaving a skate park with a kid I was babysitting. A high-school aged skater yelled at me as I left, “Are you a MILF? Are you a MILF? Are you a MILF?” My back was turned when he started, so I just kept walking without turning back. I felt embarrassed and powerless in the situation. Any response I could have given would only have gratified him.

– Anonymous

Location: Denver, CO

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USA: City Council Member Tackles Street Harassment

October 28, 2015 By HKearl

NYC Hearing on Street Harassment, Oct. 2010
NYC Hearing on Street Harassment, Oct. 2010

Five years ago this week, NY City Council Member Julissa Ferreras called the first-ever hearing on street harassment. My first book was used in the briefing papers and I was the first to testify. More than a dozen of us, ranging in age from 14 to 52 and representing many races and genders, gave testimonies about street harassment and how it impacts our lives. The hearing was covered by scores of outlets and CM Ferreras has remained committed to the issue in various ways ever since.

One of our former volunteers Raquel Reichard works for Latina.com and did a great interview with CM Ferreras this week. Here is an excerpt, but the whole interview is worth a read!

CM Ferreras and Holly Kearl in Feb. 2011
CM Ferreras and Holly Kearl in Feb. 2011

“In 2010, when you were chair of the committee on women’s issues, you organized the first-ever city council hearing on street harassment. Why was it important for you to do this?

As young girls, we are taught to ignore this behavior, but then we are told to not put up with domestic violence when we are grown up. How does that make sense? So, for me, it was a great opportunity to share with women that their situation mattered.

I had just gotten elected in November of 2009, so I felt I had the opportunity to use my authority as a council member to have a hearing on this topic. Seventy-five women came up to testify. Women took time off from their day, sat through testimonies and talked about street harassment, because it’s an important conversation.

How can governments make streets safer for women?

For starters, it’s important to create a space where we can hear women speak about the problem. When I held the hearing, I heard stories about girls and women being harassed when walking up the stairs to elevated trains. If you stand underneath the stairs, you can look up the girls’ skirts. Maybe we need to rethink the way we build train stations and the stairs, and that becomes a governmental issue. Also, here in New York, we deal with Daylight Savings Time, meaning it gets dark when we still have whole days ahead of us. And we know, from studies, that women feel unsafe in dark settings. So we need to work on improving lighting in neighborhoods, and we need to work with small businesses that might leave their lights on throughout the night. I’ve done this in the past, and bodegas are willing to leave their lights lit if it’s for the safety of their community

But also, we need to get police departments to take this issue seriously, to listen to women and take their reports.”

Read more.

The city council hearing is featured in my book Stop Global Street Harassment: Growing Activism Around the World (Praeger 2015) and I will be talking about it, among other issues, at my NYC book event at Bluestockings on Nov. 5.

Also, if you’re in Washington, DC, you can participate in a city council roundtable on Dec. 3, organized by Collective Action for Safe Spaces. Info. 

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USA: Flipping the Script on Homeless Harassment

October 28, 2015 By Correspondent

Sara Conklin, Washington, DC, USA, SSH Blog Correspondent

Credit: ABC7news.com
Credit: ABC7news.com

If I asked you to imagine in your head a scenario involving street harassment and a homeless person, what would you picture? If the hour I just spent scrolling through Google is any indication, you’re imagining an unassuming individual being harassed by a surly person who looks to be sleeping on a street corner. This happens, A LOT. I’ve been harassed by a seemingly unhoused individual on many occasions and as someone who works in the field of homelessness in Washington, DC, I am intimately familiar with the myriad of reasons a homeless person can “act out of order,” related to a series or traumas or serious mental illnesses/addiction stemming from chronic homelessness.

But that’s not what I want to talk about —

Far fewer people are flipping the script on the conversation of harassment and homeless people, choosing also to discuss how people experiencing homelessness are often cruelly harassed themselves.

Try to imagine instead, a homeless person who has struggled with serious depression and mental illness and asks for money on the street in an unthreatening and polite manner. Instead of a humble, “no” the solicited person replies with a vulgar and dehumanizing response. This happens more often that you’d think. I’d recommend watching this heartbreaking video, to give you a good picture of such cruelty (and these were just online tweets; the harassment in person can be much worse). One person even asks, “If home is where the heart is, do homeless people even have hearts?”

I come from an organization that supports 60% of the homeless women in our metropolitan area. Our working mantra is that, “But for a few circumstances of fortune and timing, ‘she’ could be me.” The women I have met here are survivors. They have faced unparalleled odds against them and come out on the other side. If we are discussing “street harassment” as unwanted comments, gestures, and actions forced on a stranger, particularly with an actual or perceived gender-bias, homeless women might take the cake.

I have no intention of ignoring the legitimate case that homeless men are antagonized and harassed every day, but I’ve learned firsthand from clients that identify as female, that unaccompanied homeless women disproportionately face, “multiple forms of interpersonal victimization, including sexual and physical assault at the hands of strangers, acquaintances, pimps, sex traffickers, and intimate partners on the street, in shelters, or in precarious housing situations (vawnet.org).”

In the United States we have already made public spaces unsafe for people experiencing homelessness. Reference for example, how it has been outlawed to sit down in San Francisco, or the effort to make it illegal to give people food in Philadelphia, how Manteca purposely changed the water sprinkler schedule to keep the homeless from sleeping in a park, or how Sarasota just got rid of their park benches altogether.

These degrading and brutalizing efforts coupled with verbal attacks from housed city residents can make the day-to-day life of a homeless person unbearable.

But the bigger conversation centers on how we’ve come to tolerate the harassment of a homeless person more than that of a seemingly housed person. It very well could be that the vast majority of readers are appalled by this and reject entirely the thought. But that doesn’t mean it isn’t happening.

The sad truth is, the majority of Americans treat homeless people like occupied public spaces. In other words, without context, making assumptions about why that person is there and why they can or cannot leave. Those are not our assumptions to make. But once we do, it makes it easier for us to dehumanize a person enough to permit their mistreatment.

Since many of us treat our parks and streets with a certain abandon for retribution, we tend to treat the people who occupy those spaces recklessly as well – it’s as if we feel that since the park is public, the person who sleeps there is publicly owned as well, which leaves me entitled to judge them. That sort of entitlement can lead to vocalizing slurs or prejudicial comments without fear of consequence. When a person is on their knees, it’s easier to knock them down.

As we discuss the innumerable ways in which street harassment exists in our everyday lives, and the inconceivable reality that people can be objectified and reduced to targets of harassment merely by existing in a public space, we should acknowledge the ways we treat all individuals who occupy public spaces, including those facing homelessness.

What compels someone to harass a homeless person is a concept I may never understand. But, I can begin to infer that it has something to do with entitlement in communal areas – how we choose when or when not to vocalize observations or opinions about another person sharing a collective space, can speak volumes about our compassion and empathy.

As I continue to demand respect for myself when I occupy a street or sidewalk, I will also petition others to demand the same respect for others regardless of circumstance. After all, “But for a few circumstances of fortune and timing, ‘she’ could be me.”

Sara works in fundraising events at an organization that empowers women who face homelessness through recovery, wellness training, and housing. She runs her own photography company (saraconklinphotography.com) and a popular website that seeks to connect the world through pictures, sarapose.com.

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“Wow, you can’t even say hi back?”

October 27, 2015 By Contributor

I was walking home from my high school softball game when I stopped at a busy intersection a block away from my house. I was waiting to cross the street when I made eye contact with a man in the parked car to my right. His head was out the window and he looked at me and said, “Hello there.”

I ignored him and kept looking forward. Then he said, “Wow, you can’t even say hi back?” As I started to cross the street I tried to laugh it off uncomfortably and said, “No sorry.”

The words that he said next will never leave my head. He responded by saying, “Yeah? Well why don’t you wipe that dirty ass smirk off your face.” Are you kidding me? Who does this man think he is, hitting on a girl who is at least 15 years younger than him and expecting a postive response? It gets me so angry.

My mother always told me never to say anything back because I never know what kind of person he is and whether or not he will hurt me. It’s so frustrating listening to these rude and disgusting things that these men say when they don’t hear what they want and not being able to say anything.

Optional: What’s one way you think we can make public places safer for everyone?

I would like to see posters all around NYC with slogans such as: I will not smile for you.

– A.D.

Location: Queens, NY

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