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Archives for November 2015

The Netherlands: From Paris to Amsterdam: Connecting the Dots

November 16, 2015 By Correspondent

Eve Aronson, Amsterdam, the Netherlands, SSH Blog Correspondent

The events in Paris last week, just a few hours drive from Amsterdam, were tragic and appalling. They also represent an extreme form of a familiar foe.

The Paris shooters targeted people in public venues—sports stadiums, restaurants and concerts—dictating their movement and using violence to carry out their agenda.

What such a choice in venues and tactics makes clear is that the perpetrators targeted spaces designed for public use and leisure and used violence towards people they did not know within these spaces.

We can therefore look at the events in Paris as examples—albeit extreme ones—of the broader power structures that define how safe people feel in public spaces.

Not unlike a man groping or catcalling a woman on the street, the incidents in Paris show how important it is to understand seemingly mundane ‘everyday’ street harassment incidents as part of broader notions of freedom and safety in public spaces.

You might be thinking: Wait a second. That’s a bit of a stretch. Street harassment is, for one, typically gendered (e.g. a man catcalls/whistles at/gropes a woman), whereas the Paris events were not.

That is a valid point to raise and indeed, the Paris events were not explicitly gendered (although they do have implicit echoes of links between terrorism and masculinity that have been raised in relation to previous violent attacks in public spaces).

However, there are a few important connections to highlight that bring these issues closer together than you might expect.

But before I do, I want to note why I am taking the time to do so. By showing how different and seemingly unrelated forms of violence within public spaces connect, my hope is that better, more lasting and enduring solutions can be found to a larger number of problems that affect people in public spaces. In addition to finding better solutions, underlining the similarities among these issues can also lead to more resources and brains available to prevent them in the future. But I digress.

One main connection between the incidents in Paris and everyday street harassment are that the feelings of powerless, confusion and fear that were evoked last Friday were the same feelings that people in Amsterdam, for example, reported feeling while and after they were harassed.

And, at least for the short-term, the feelings of apprehension that many people in Paris are feeling when they step out into the public sphere is not so dissimilar to the feelings expressed by people as a result of their experiences with street harassment in Amsterdam.

Below is a chart of some of the primary feelings about their surroundings that people in Amsterdam reported after experiencing various forms of street harassment:

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A look on the conversations happening on Twitter about the Paris events reveals a similar spectrum of emotions. What this shows, is that in order to more fully understand and fight against issues like street harassment and violent attacks in public spaces, we have to start making connections between different manifestations of impeding or restricting movement within public spaces.

By doing this, we can start to see broader power structures emerge that reveal why these incidents occur and the factors that drive people to be physically or verbally violent towards others they do not know within different public spaces around the world.

The majority of reasons that people in Amsterdam, for example, think that their harasser(s) did what they did is that they believe their harasser(s) want to fit in with others in some way and to be accepted and applauded for their actions. The second most common reason people cited that was that they believed that their harasser(s) thought it was the ‘normal’ or ‘natural’ thing to do.

The fact that many perpetrators (street harassers or others) are motivated by group acceptance and by what they think is normal are just more of the many commonalities between issues like street harassment and other forms of violence in public spaces.

In a time where people are increasingly fearful, anxious or weary of moving through public spaces—whether because they do not want to be catcalled or groped, or whether because they do not want to be harmed or attacked in another way—it is absolutely essential that we make it our priority to examine the links between different forms of violence in public spaces more closely.

Looking at these links and using them to our advantage in the fight against street harassment and against violence in public spaces will lead to more informed policies, more helpful solutions and to more individuals feeling safer in public spaces. So what are we waiting for?

You can find the full analysis of the Amsterdam survey results here or by contacting Eve at evearonson@gmail.com. Follow Eve and Hollaback! Amsterdam on Twitter at @evearonson and @iHollaback_AMS and show your support by liking Hollaback! Amsterdam’s Facebook page here.

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Filed Under: correspondents, News stories Tagged With: paris, terrorism

USA: What Would the World Be Like If All Women Were Safe?

November 15, 2015 By Correspondent

Sara Conklin, Washington, DC, USA, SSH Blog Correspondent

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What would that be like? I’ve spent the past several days in quiet contemplation on the matter. After “planning” (read: pinterest’ing) my probably-not-happening-anytime-soon trip to Burning Man, I came across this striking art installation by The Bliss Project, of a 40-foot woman that poses the question, what would the world be like if all women were safe?

Well, for starters, my world would be drastically different. I have built a life around women survivors; women who have braved incomparable odds and battled life’s challenges. I work in a community center and housing complex for women experiencing homelessness. I drum alongside an all-women’s cohort of marching percussionists. I keep a tight-knit group of women warrior friends. And I champion daily, my mother and grandmother who came before me and all they’ve taught me about strength and veracity. (Heck, I even write for this blog.)

What I love the most about this sculpture of the female form is that you can’t hide from it. She is vivaciously and fiercely alive. Her presence is notably dominant on the landscape. But, as the artist Ian Mackenzie mentions, “that very energy is dangerous for women to do in the real world.”

If I closed my eyes and imagined a world in which all women were safe, I see a huge void. Would my all-women’s drumline have the same necessary element of female empowerment? Would my girlfriends have the same compassion and vitality each time we meet? And more interestingly, would the organization I work for simply exist?

Perhaps this speaks more to the lifestyle I’ve chosen, then the dramatic question the artist poses. Nonetheless, it got me thinking about my daily environment and mainly that the threat of being unsafe is what permeates my everyday life.

And what an interesting thought that is – Do you pity the person who lives with that in mind each passing day, or in solidarity, do you choose to champion her?

These are a lot of questions that I do not have the answer to. But, what I can begin to conclude is that if we are faced with a world where women will not, have not, and cannot always be safe, then I am proud there are so many sisters with me. If the impossibility is permanent, together we can lessen it. If we do indeed share the burden, I’m happy at least to know I am sharing it. For being alone in a fight is a scary thing.

Sara works in fundraising events at an organization that empowers women who face homelessness through recovery, wellness training, and housing. She runs her own photography company (saraconklinphotography.com) and a popular website that seeks to connect the world through pictures, sarapose.com.

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Filed Under: correspondents Tagged With: safety, solidarity, violence

On World Kindness Day – Ask if They are Okay

November 13, 2015 By HKearl

Eight years ago when I conducted research on street harassment for my master’s thesis, I attended a Street Harassment Summit in New York City organized by Girls for Gender Equity. During a breakout session, the women in the room, from various diverse backgrounds, took turns sharing a story.

While each story was moving and infuriating and I included several in my thesis, one woman’s story still stands out to me today. She shared this:

“Street harassment is a huge part of my day and it makes me very angry and I think it’s always tied in with my racial identity. The worst thing that happened to me lately was I was on my way to work at a new job and I was very happy, and this guy said something to me and I kept walking. Then he came up around me in my face and said, ‘You look just like Bin Laden’s sister.’

My mouth was closed, and I was like, why aren’t I responding? He continued to scream at me and I kept walking, and he said, ‘You should get home, women like you don’t work. Don’t your men keep you locked up? Oh that’s right, your men aren’t real men. I’ll show you what a real man is.’ And he proceeded to tell me the actions that real men do to their women.

People on the street were stopped and were staring at me but no one said anything.”

As terrible as every part of her experience was, I will never forget the pain and betrayal she voiced at the end: that no one said anything.

In the years since then, I have heard her hurt echoed in so many people’s stories who feel doubly traumatized by the lack of kindness or even simple acknowledgement from the people around them. The sentiments also appear in stories submitted to my blog Stop Street Harassment, including incidents in Denver, London, and the Bahamas.

Street harassment can be annoying and upsetting, but it can also trigger deeper concerns. A study released last year by researchers at the University of Mary Washington found that sexual harassment is often traumatizing for women, especially for those who have experienced sexual abuse. A 2014 national study on street harassment in the USA showed that it can be frightening; 69% of harassed women and 49% of men said they feared the harassment would escalate into something worse.

Feeling alone and as if there must be something wrong with you since no one around you is speaking up can add to these feelings of trauma and fear.

There are many reasons why people may not speak up when they see street harassment happening. They may not be sure it IS harassment. They may not know what to do. They may think someone else will intervene. They may fear for their own personal safety. Those are all legitimate concerns and organizations like Green Dot and government entities like New York Department of Health provide tools and trainings to walk people through them.

Image via http://bitsofpositivity.com
Image via http://bitsofpositivity.com

But as we commemorate World Kindness Day, in addition to the obvious request to be kind and NOT harass others, the plea that I have to bystanders is a simple one: Ask the person if she or he is okay.

I am not the first to say this, of course, and last year social worker and avid Twitter user Feminista Jones launched the hashtag #YouOkSis? to especially encourage persons of color to reach out to women of color who are being harassed to check in and possibly interrupt a street harassment situation. But it warrants repeating.

What I want to emphasize is that if you feel too unsafe or cannot react in time to interrupt harassment, you can still check in with the person after the harasser is gone or the harassment has stopped. Let the person know you saw what happened and that you understand it can be upsetting. Let them know what happened is not okay.

A woman named Sara recently penned an open letter to her street harasser, a man in a car who told her to “move her fat ass along” as she walked through a crosswalk. Included in her piece was this: “To the woman on the sidewalk who said, ‘that’s so rude’ and shook her head when he drove off, thank you. Your three simple words in solidarity were my saving grace and snap back to reality, that no one, not even myself, has the right to disrespect my body.”

After hearing so many stories about the devastation people felt when no one around them acknowledged what was happening or how much of a difference it made when someone did, whenever I overcame my shyness and began asking women I saw if they were okay.

The first time I did this was in 2011 in Florida. I was attending a conference and I was out on a run. As I approached a bus stop where a young woman was waiting alone, men in a car swerved over and it looked like they yelled at her. When I reached her, I stopped and asked, “Hey, were those men bothering you? Are you okay?” She said that the men had circled around and harassed her three times. I told her how sorry I was and offered to wait with her. The bus came around the corner then, so she said it was okay, she could get on the bus now. I told her about my website and told her to reach out if I could help.

The next time I did it I was in New York City at Penn Station. A woman and a man were walking toward me and he was gesturing and talking loudly and she looked very uncomfortable and like she was trying to inch away from him. As they approached, I said, looking directly at the woman, “Are you okay? Is he bothering you?” She thanked me and laughed and said he was her coworker and he was just messing around and being annoying but she was fine.

I felt a little foolish — and that’s a perfect example of not knowing if someone is a harasser or not – but I have no regrets about asking. What if she had needed help?

The third time I spoke out I was walking from my office in Washington, DC to the Metro and I could see that as a woman ahead of me passed by a man, he reached out to touch her and talk to her and she recoiled. By the time I caught up to her, he was gone, but I told her I saw what had happened and that I was sorry – she shouldn’t have to deal with that. I asked if she was okay. She gave me a quick yes and thank you before she hurried on to catch her bus.

Street harassment, especially the accumulation of it, can be so tiring. So upsetting. With the three kind words of “Are you okay” or “You ok sis?”, you can help lighten someone’s load just a bit and let them know they are not alone.

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Filed Under: Resources, street harassment Tagged With: bystander

Two Women in Washington, DC Sexually Assault a Man

November 11, 2015 By HKearl

womengropemanWhile the street harassment usually centers around women because we experience it and are usually impacted by it the most, some men experience street harassment and violence too. In our 2014 nationally representative study, 25% of men said they’d experienced it, with a disproportionate number of them identifying as LGBQT. While most said other men harassed them, there were some who said the perpetrators were women. This recent news story in Washington, DC, is an example of what that can look like:

Via NBC Washington:

“Ayanna Marie Knight, 22, of Las Vegas, was charged with third-degree sexual abuse, police said late Tuesday, explaining that an “observant pedestrian” alerted them of Knight’s location. Police are still looking for the second woman.

Video released Monday by the Metropolitan Police Department shows the man waiting in a checkout line at a gas station on the 1700 block of New York Avenue NE about 4 p.m. Oct. 7 when a woman in front of him begins to dance and rub her body against him. A second woman, dressed in red, follows the man and appears to grope him repeatedly.

According to a police report, the women “used force and grabbed (the victim’s) groin and buttocks multiple times in a very aggressive manner without his permission and without his consent.”

The victim told News4 he was humiliated by the attack. “I was assaulted sexually,” he said, asking that his name be withheld. “I felt 100 percent violated. I felt really humiliated also, because when someone is just grabbing your body parts without your permission, no matter who it is, that’s just a violation completely.”

The man said he tried to back away, but the woman continued to advance. “As they were grabbing me, it wasn’t like they were grabbing pants or anything like that,” he said.

The victim asked two cashiers at the gas station to call police, but they “just sat there,” he said. Frustrated, he walked outside and started dialing the number himself. He said he tried to get into his car, but the women grabbed his arm and in an effort to prevent him from leaving. He broke free, walked into the gas station’s car wash and called police. The women eventually left, he said.”

Groping, assault, and sexual harassment are never okay. Everyone should be treated with respect and should be asked for consent before anyone does anything physical (even for a hug). I hope he will be okay.

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Filed Under: male perspective, News stories, Stories

France: New Anti-Harassment Transit Campaign

November 9, 2015 By HKearl

A member of Stop Harcèlement de Rue - by the new French anti-harassment transit campaign
A member of Stop Harcèlement de Rue – by the new French anti-harassment transit campaign

France just rolled out a nationwide anti-harassment transit campaign!

Info via The Local FR:

“Stop – That’s Enough!”

This is the tagline used by the French government in an active push to stop sexual harassment on public transport.

The government launched the awareness campaign on Monday together with rail operator SNCF and Paris transport chiefs RATP.

It will see flyers handed out and a set of posters put up in key places around the capital, encouraging victims and witnesses to speak out with confidence about sexual harassment.

The campaign also aims to remind the culprits that sexual harassment is punishable by law and groping can lead to five years in prison….

Outspoken French feminist group Osez le Féminisme! was one of the organizations behind the push to get authorities to take notice, and welcomed the move on Monday.

“I’ve seen the posters everywhere in the subway now, it’s great that the public service takes this point so seriously,” one of the group’s members, named Aurelia Speziale, told The Local on Monday…

The campaign has taken to several channels to push the message, including encouraging women to share their experiences on social media with the hashtag #HarcèlementAgissons (“Act now against harassment”). The topic was trending on Twitter in Paris on Monday morning.

Other measures saw the implementation of the emergency number 3117, which can be used to report cases of harassment, and to trigger the intervention of security staff. It will soon work via text message too for situations when women aren’t able to speak on the phone.
Night buses in western France’s Nantes have also introduced “on demand” bus stops, meaning people can get off the vehicle as close to their home as possible rather than at the bus stop with everyone else….

When its survey of 600 women in Seine-Saint-Denis and Essonne, two areas in the outer suburbs of Paris, revealed shocking responses. It found that 100 percent of the women said they had experienced at least some form of gender-based sexual harassment in their life while riding the train.”

In Lille in northern France, Ville Sans Relou released a video showing some of the comments that people have been subjected to while out and about in Lille. The video, with English subtitles below, sees one woman recount how someone asked her “Hi, can I rape you please?”…

 

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Filed Under: News stories, public harassment Tagged With: france, transit campaign

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