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Archives for August 2016

“Even after I got home, I felt rattled”

August 9, 2016 By Contributor

I was walking through an unfamiliar, mildly questionable neighborhood. A man on a bicycle with sunglasses said hello to me. I replied by saying good morning politely, and continued walking. Several blocks later, I looked backward and saw the same man pedaling leisurely beside me. We were the only people on the street, and I was becoming rapidly very uncomfortable.

Knowing that I was only a few blocks from a well-peopled place market, I started speed-walking. He mockingly asked why I was running and where I was rushing to. To which I replied curtly, “The farmer’s market.” He inquired as to whether that was really where I had been going, then asked what I was going for. After I answered that I was going to buy fruits and vegetables, he emphasized that I must be going to buy “exotic” produce and that I looked like a “nice girl” (I am Asian American).

At this point I had reached the farmer’s market and began looking at plums and mangoes pointedly, trying not to look up in case he was still following me. I walked a block farther, checking to make sure he hadn’t tailed me. Thankfully, he hadn’t. I had left that morning to go grocery shopping, so I did that, but I took a circuitous route there to make sure he wasn’t waiting for me somewhere. Even after I got home, I felt rattled.

Optional: Do you have any suggestions for dealing with harassers and/or ending street harassment in general?

I’d love to say that women being harassed should either take the high ground and explain why street harassment is hurtful and violent, but I know that confronting harassers can be terrifying. Ignoring comments, trying to end conversations politely, and entering highly public places seem to be the best strategies I have found.

– JC

Location: Gillespie District, Sarasota, FL

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USA: ‘Hamilton’ and Reflections on Stop Street Harassment

August 8, 2016 By Correspondent

Deborah D’Orazi, LMSW, NY, USA, SSH Blog Correspondent

Image via BuzzFeed
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Lin-Manuel Miranda’s Hamilton is one of the most popular musicals on Broadway and is continuously gaining accolades the world over for its music and multi-racial and gender inclusive casting. In creating an alternative to the typically white male narrative American history often presents as the norm, Miranda constructs a piece of theater that creates a nuanced critique of who and what is deemed most important in American history and society. Women and people of color not only tell the story of Alexander Hamilton, the American Revolution, and the early American Republic, they tell the story of the very men who often ordered their subordination and inferiority through philosophy, politics, and violence.

More importantly, they represent the stories of the very people and experiences purposefully erased and forgotten in order to create American society. This is a narrative demonstrating the United States’ founding ideals and oppressions on full display through expert storytelling and representation that not only represents a critique of the Founding Fathers and ideals, but of the progress made and still needed for those still experiencing oppression in our society.

One of the ways in which oppression is explored in Hamilton is through the presence and absence of women in public life due to racial and gender norms. While women of all races are featured in the ensemble, the only prominent female characters are the Schuyler Sisters (Angelica, Eliza, and Peggy—prominent, upper class white women played by women of color). Most of the songs in the play demonstrate the women’s influence in Alexander Hamilton’s life and the frustration that they have such little influence on their own. Father’s must approve marriages and the only political influence they have is through corresponding and talking to men. And, what is most telling, is that the only song where the women are by themselves, and in a public place, is when they are subjected to street harassment.

The Schuyler Sisters is a song introducing the three women exploring Manhattan on the eve of the American Revolution, despite their father’s warnings. While Peggy worries about the inevitable oncoming violence, Eliza and Angelica express enthusiasm for the revolutionary ideals being expressed throughout the city and colonies. The women state they are “looking for a mind at work” and while the male narrator and ensemble seem to suggest they are looking for a suitable male partner, there is a lack of acknowledgement from the men of the times (and in the play) that women and people of color may actually be looking for a say within the narrative of revolutionary politics. This willful ignorance and prejudice comes into full force when Aaron Burr interjects his harassment into the women’s narrative:

[BURR]
Wooh! There’s nothin’ like summer in the city
Someone in a rush next to someone lookin’ pretty
Excuse me, miss, I know it’s not funny
But your perfume smells like your daddy’s got money
Why you slummin’ in the city in your fancy heels
You searchin for an urchin who can give you ideals?

[ANGELICA]
Burr, you disgust me

[BURR]
Ah, so you’ve discussed me
I’m a trust fund, baby, you can trust me!

[ANGELICA]
I’ve been reading Common Sense by Thomas Paine
So men say that I’m intense or I’m insane
You want a revolution? I want a revelation
So listen to my declaration:

[ELIZA/ANGELICA/PEGGY]
“We hold these truths to be self-evident
That all men are created equal”

[ANGELICA]
And when I meet Thomas Jefferson
I’m ‘a compel him to include women in the sequel!

[WOMEN]
Work!

This dialogue represents many things. On one hand, it demonstrates the underrepresented historical narrative that street harassment existed for many centuries before it became noticeable in popular culture and within the Stop Street Harassment movement. As a form of racial, homophobic, and gender violence, street harassment has been used to discourage and harm people fighting for civil rights, suffrage, or any personal or human rights issue. As a woman, LGBTQ individual, or racial minority, etc. even existing in a public place or taking part in a public activity or using a public space becomes an act of resistance when people use harassment to question your right to live and exist within a space near or with them. Thinking of events like the Orlando Club Shooting, the death of Sandra Bland, and the shooting of Malala Yousafzai by the Taliban only highlight even more strongly how existing and living and/or advocating in public for yourself and others can lead to harassment, violence, and death.

The question then becomes, how do we deter attitudes like Aaron Burr’s? How do we change the default where people are willfully ignorant and prejudiced about the many people and voices that exist in this world? That would be willing to use street harassment to quiet those using and existing in public spaces that they wish to use for their own gain or harm?

And I ask the Stop Street Harassment community,

  • How do we create a more inclusive world and environment in our movement to make sure we are advocating for all people and to have a more inclusive discourse?
  • Do you think more historical introspection and education on harassment would be useful to help combat harassment?
  • How does art become an useful tool in combatting harassment and other forms of oppression?

Deborah is a recent MSW graduate who also received certification from American University’s Women and Politics Institute and Rutgers’ Center on Violence Against Women and Children. In addition to social work, Deborah is looking to pursue an MPP/MPA and she is also extremely passionate about the arts (theater, writing, film, television, fine art, poetry, performance art), history, and Hamilton.

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“WHERE ARE OUR ALLIES? WHERE ARE OUR MALE COMRADES?”

August 7, 2016 By Contributor

I’ve been travelling with my boyfriend for an entire summer, and we have traveled together every day. We’ve visited Indonesia, India, Morocco, and France so far. In our travels, I have received absolutely 0 street harassment because I have been accompanied 100% of the time by a man – my partner.

Today was the first day that we ventured out on our own; I walked around the city and visited a few cafes. For the first time in months, I experienced four instances of unwanted street harassment. We’ve been in vastly different parts of the world this summer, and I am horrified to realize that I’ve basically been chaperoned the entire time – temporarily veiling me from the street harassment I’m otherwise accustomed to living in Washington, DC.

I’ve gotten used to the surreal, problematic feeling of having a man ever-present, shielding me from objectification by other men. This summer, I’d forgotten what it feels like to walk around afraid. Why should I need a chaperone to move about the world? When I’m not accompanied by a man, why do I become fair game like a deer strolling through an open meadow? I’m disgusted. I’m even more disgusted that when I turned to my boyfriend for support once we got back to our apartment, almost in tears from rage at these advances, he paid me little attention. He washed his face, got ready for bed nonchalantly, looked at his Instagram.

WHERE ARE OUR ALLIES? WHERE ARE OUR MALE COMRADES? The solution lies with all of us, but most certainly with them. We can’t continue moving through a world where our safe harbor from “bad” men is only promised at a dock tended by “good” men. Ending street harassment is a question of recalling humanity.

We need those in positions of power and privilege (MEN) to act courageously – on a systemic AND a day-to-day basis – to create an environment where women feel safe in every space. This ear th was intended for us all to walk upon with safe passage.

Optional: Do you have any suggestions for dealing with harassers and/or ending street harassment in general?

Call back. Keep calling back. Fight back, short-term and long-term. Carry rocks and knives.

– RLM

Location: Paris, France

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“Called me a stupid slut when I didn’t respond”

August 6, 2016 By Contributor

I was walking down 5th Avenue on my lunch break when I was approached by two large men trying to sell demo CDs. One tried to hand the CD to me and I said, ‘No thank you’ and continued walking. Both followed me and yelled at me and called me a stupid slut when I didn’t respond. This is on ultra-busy 5th Avenue in Midtown Manhattan on a weekday during lunch an no one said anything to these men. It took me 20 minutes to stop shaking.

– LH

Location: 5th Avenue between 37th and 38th Street, NYC

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“I repeatedly say no”

August 3, 2016 By Contributor

I was catching the bus early in the morning before 8 a.m. I was alone at the bus stop. I was unable to drive because of expired registration. I am 38 and I live alone. I seldom travel early mornings or at night because of this. Women are not respected and I often find that I am targeted because I am alone. An old man in his sixties pulls up and repeatedly tells me to get in his car. I repeatedly say no. He refuses to leave. Meanwhile, a bus arrives and stops across the street. Some people get off. One of them crosses the street, he is a man near my age. I asked him when he came near to call the police. He goes near the old man and tells him to leave. Another man joins him. The old man still would not leave until the other two threatened to call the police.

– MW

Location: Atlanta, GA

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