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Song: “My Dress is Not a Yes!”

February 10, 2013 By HKearl

Listen to the new song, “My Dress is Not a Yes!” by Feminist Princess.

Lyrics:

My dress is not a YES, and I don’t want your compliments
So just leave me the fuck alone, yeah just leave us the fuck alone
I’m not cravin your desire, so ignore my sexy attire
Realize you think i’m smokin, but you gotta quit your gropin

I’m not tryina be rude, I just enjoy my solitude
Didn’t do this for your starin, just what I chose to be wearin
Don’t harass me on the street, make me feel like a piece of meat
When you ‘hey baby” me, tell me to smile, want me to stop and flirt a while

My dress is not a YES, and I don’t want your compliments
So just leave me the fuck alone, cuz I’m just trying to so straight home
I’m not cravin your desire, so ignore my sexy attire
Realize you think i’m smokin but you gotta quit your gropin

I’m just trying to avoid you, not your toy, got nothing for you
If you wanna stop and talk, just back right off cause i wanna walk
we’re not tryin to be rude we just don’t like your attitude
your street harassment’s gotta stop, you’re not exempt cause you’re a cop

My dress is not a YES, and I don’t want your compliments
Don’t touch my ass you’ve got no class, and you say “nice guys finish last”- yeah right!
The street’s not for catcallin, all the girls you wish you’re ballin
Realize you want my sex now but this dress is not a yes – heck no

When I asked her why she wrote the song, she said, “When I first heard the term ‘street harassment’, it really resonated with me. I wanted the lyrics to really illustrate the points we are making against street harassment; that it is unwanted and frightening to a large portion of women, that it is no longer tolerable in our society, and that our choice of clothing is not an indication of being open to or deserving of harassment.”

YES!

Feminist Princess is a feminist from Toronto who wrote this song from a position of frustration after experiencing street harassment since the age of 12. Follow her on Twitter & find more of her songs on SoundCloud.

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Filed Under: Activist Interviews, street harassment

Egypt: 1000s March Today, Feb 12 Protest Planned

February 6, 2013 By HKearl

Today’s Protest. Image via @Gsquare86

During the Jan. 25 protests this year in Cairo, Egypt, there were numerous instances of mob sexual violence against women (read some of their stories). Various anti-harassment groups patrolled Tahrir Square and volunteers were able to help break up most of the mobs but even still, many women required medical attention after they were safe.

Today, more than 1000 people marched in Cairo to protest the violence against women. View photos.

Anti-harassment groups are asking people worldwide to rally in front of Egyptian Embassies on Tuesday, February 12, at 6 p.m. (in whatever time zone you’re in) to protest what they see as the government’s lack of support for stopping such attacks and for perhaps hiring impoverished men to initiate attacks.

Stop Street Harassment is proud to be one of the supporting groups of this effort. If you live near an Embassy, I urge you to show your support and add your presence/voice/body to amplify these efforts.

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Filed Under: street harassment Tagged With: Cairo, Egypt, embassy, marches, protest, Tahrir

Egypt: #Jan25 Survivors Speak Out

February 5, 2013 By HKearl

Trigger Warning

On January 25, the two-year anniversary of the Egyptian Revolution, thousands of Egyptian gathered at  Tahrir Square in Cairo. Since such mass protests can be hotbeds for men to sexually harass and assault women, the collective group Operation Anti-Sexual Harassment/Assault sent members (identified by bright vests) out to patrol to prevent incidents and to help people being attacked.

It was a good thing they were there. Not including run-of-the-mill harassment, there were at least 19 cases of mob sexual violence and at least six women needed medical attention afterward. The Operation Anti-Sexual Harassment/Assault group was able to assist many of the women.

During the 10 days since the protest, they have been collecting stories from survivors and volunteers. This story from a survivor brought me to tears, here is an excerpt:

“…My pants were being pulled down again. Shortly after I saw a man, wearing one of the Operation Anti Sexual Harassment t-shirts and I started shouting louder. Luckily he saw me and made his way towards me. He grabbed me and held me and told me he would help me. He pulled me toward where I had spotted the two women and further. I fell again, the guy helped me up and I stepped into buckets of water and fell again. I got up and was surrounded by women and men of the Anti Harassment group. They asked me to sit down and wait with them….

All of this happened two days (25th of January, 2013) ago. Yesterday I was examined by a gynecologist. Luckily, I do not have any internal injuries. Just bruises and today the muscles in my entire body are hurting. When trying to recall what happened on Friday, I noticed that there must have been things happening, people saying things, etc. that I do not remember. I have barely any audio-memory, just the feeling of hands everywhere. I also don t recall any face around me.

The story of another survivor, who was a female volunteer, angers me so much:

“…My friend and I were squashed between the people and the foul cart (she was carrying the bag on her back and I was holding tightly on to the straps of the bag). She held onto me by my shoulders tightly and said calmly and reassuringly (unfortunately, this experience had happened to her before and her understanding of the situation was far calmer and better than mine) “We are being attacked right now and the most important thing is that we stay together, no matter what happens.” Nothing else mattered to her other than reassuring me, and she kept saying “We’re going to get out of this, we’re going to get out of this, don’t be scared, we’re together.” She kept repeating “We’re together, don’t separate us,” again and again. I held onto her tightly and felt all the hands groping every part of my body. After that I didn’t feel anything other than that they were pushing me. In the midst of the terrible numbers and the horrible shoving, we moved away from the foul cart (that had been protecting our backs). Suddenly we were in the middle of the street, and the five pairs of hands became many more. They were grabbing me everywhere on my body and trying to put their fingers in my behind over my pants and in the fly of my pants with the utmost violence and savagery….”

They had to use hairspray and hide in a store to get away. She says, “The attempt to terrorize us will not succeed, our anger and determination have doubled. I am truly sorry for all the girls who have experienced anything like this, I promise we will not be silent.”

Another brave volunteer shared his story on this blog a few days ago.

If you can stomach it, this video captures a mob attacking a woman. Near the end you see the Operation volunteers beating off the men. Sickening.

Everyone should have the right to protest and participate in political action without fearing for their safety, for their life. The actions of the mobs of men is inexcusable and abhorrent. I applaud the Operation team for persevering, for going into known danger and for helping so many women.

They are organizing an event this Sunday to train and prepare for future protests and events so they can do even more to protect women and stop sexual violence in the streets of Cairo. I hope even more people join them. They need all the help they can get, the problem is so vast. Tahrir Bodyguards are  organizing several self-defense classes. Contact them for information.

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Filed Under: public harassment Tagged With: anti-harassment, body guards, Egypt, Jan25, Tahrir

“Actually knowing the victim and the perpetrator shakes everyone”

February 5, 2013 By HKearl

*Trigger Warning*
I saw this status update through  my Facebook feed — if you’re in Delhi, India, you can take action tomorrow at 2 p.m.
“One of our tech center girls was sexually assaulted and tried to be killed. A screwdriver was forced into her mouth. Hearing about other people’s cases from outside is one thing. Actually knowing the victim and the perpetrator shakes everyone. The young girl is in serious condition in AIIMS. We are organizing a march in the community tomorrow at 2 pm to show our solidarity for the victim and to help the girls of the tech center talk to their community members about their rights and their fears. Join us tomorrow at 2 pm at Jalvihar Bus Terminal, Lajpat Nagar 1.”
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Delhi Flash Mob against Delhi Gang Rape 2013

February 5, 2013 By HKearl

Beautiful:

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Filed Under: street harassment Tagged With: #delhigangrape, delhi, flash mob

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