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“Don’t harass women on the street anymore!”

November 9, 2012 By Contributor

I was on my way to an election party, walking down the street in my neighborhood that leads to the subway station. I call this street “The Gauntlet.”

An older man was walking toward me, pulled out his earbuds and said hello to me. I ignored him. He waved his hand in my face as he passed me and said, “Good evening to you, with your sexy ass….”

I stopped, turned around and said in a very loud voice, “That is incredibly rude!”

He stopped, apparently shocked, and shouted, “Fuck you” at me, and began an angry rant about me being a bitch, how I was crazy, etc. I countered that he was the one who harassed me, so if he didn’t want me to talk back he should have kept his mouth shut. We basically yelled over each other as he walked away. Eventually he was yelling loudly, “I don’t have any money! I don’t have any money!” as if to make people on the street think I was asking him for money or something. I simply shouted back, “Don’t harass women on the street anymore!”

Later that night I watched my country elect a man who supports strong women and women’s rights. I needed that reminder that there are still good and great men out there. So suck on that, crazy douchebag on the street.

– Rat Girl

Location: Cortelyou Road, Brooklyn, NY, USA

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“He followed her into the car”

November 8, 2012 By Contributor

Tonight some man followed my 17yr old sister from downtown Portland to 112! My mom picked her up at the bus stop and he followed her into the car and introduced himself. Obviously my mom told him to get out and he did. But needless to say she was scared.

– April Buerkle

Location: Portland, Oregon

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UCSB Student Groups Say, “Catcalling is not cute”

November 2, 2012 By Contributor

Editor’s Note: Halloween in Isla Vista, the college town where UC Santa Barbara is located, is a huge party every year. Unfortunately, some people use this as an excuse to street harass and assault people. So this year, two student groups teamed up to organize a campaign against street harassment.

Students Stopping Rape and Men Against Rape teamed up together to start a conversation within our campus community; our topic was street harassment in our college town of Isla Vista (IV), specifically during Halloween. Our motivation began as we discussed IV culture and how often times street harassment is shrugged off as typical Isla Vista behavior. We all agreed there was something seriously wrong with that, and in spite of how often it happens, people should not make others feel sexually objectified, unsafe, and humiliated.

We set out to question our culture and prepared a campaign that showed students that sexual harassment is socially unacceptable. In our attempt to challenge our community, we decided to create a flyer campaign surrounding the Halloween season. The campaign used a simple design by putting an image of one or more women in costumes and short quotes such as “Catcalling is not cute,” “Sexual assault is a crime,” and “Consent is super.”

Our campaign focused on different aspects of sexual violence, but our flyers about street harassment and catcalling caught the most attention, as well as some criticism by the student population. Some people think that catcalling is not serious, adopting a sticks-and-stones mentality. We wanted to address more than one form of violence and show people that street harassment is sexual violence and part of rape culture. We are glad that our campus took notice and that the campaign began a conversation about an issue that is often unaddressed.

We believe that this is an important issue to address because this objectification only serves as a precursor to sexual assault, such as rape. To be clear, catcalling does not cause rape, and not everyone who harasses another person is likely to commit sexual assaults.  However, research shows that the small percentages of men who do commit sexual assaults believe that all men act the way they do and hold the same attitudes towards women. When men who do not rape participate in harassment behaviors, the few men who do rape are validated in their beliefs.  By creating this mentality culture of individuals being equated to only sexual objects, the likelihood of rape is greatly increased because of this dehumanization. Catcalling allows the severity and consequences of such terrible acts like rape, sexual assault, and lack of consent, to be lessened in the public eye.

This was our first campaign and we hope that we can continue to spark conversations and be proactive in challenging unsafe social norms and ultimately changing them. Our goal is to educate our campus community in effect changing mentalities and culture surrounding sexual violence.

This guest post was co-written by Liliana Salazar, a fourth year student at UCSB and coordinator for the Students Stopping Rape organization. While majoring in Sociology and Psychology she also works at the Women’s Center and the UCSB library.

It was also co-written by RJ Thomsen, a fourth year student at UCSB majoring in Sociology and Feminist Studies and coordinator for Men Against Rape. While not working in the Women’s Center this student is an active leader in UCSB’s queer community.

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“The driver motioned to me to get in”

October 31, 2012 By Contributor

This may be very, very triggering for some people so if you get triggered by street harassment I would suggest you don’t read this.

One time I was walking down the street in a summer dress to get some bread and happened to be smiling – I remember a man in a car started yelling at me about my smile.

Another time I was walking to the tube station in a cardigan and leggings when a van pulled up beside me. I was in a nice middle-class area where people often have work done so I assumed the driver was working there and kept walking.

The van kept following me – no big deal, the driver might be going to some other place. The van pulled up besides some other workers and the driver motioned to me to get in as I passed them. I assumed he was talking to the other workers but no, he kept following me – even when I turned a corner, at which point I was getting quite terrified. The driver pulled up on the far side of the road and motioned to me to get in again. At that point I walked far more quickly into the tube station and fortunately nothing came of that.

Both times I was 16  years old.

– Anonymous

Location: Hendon, London, UK

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“Around the age of 11/12 years old the honking, catcalling, etc, from strangers started”

October 29, 2012 By Contributor

As a young woman, sexual harasment is something I’ve been experiencing since I was very young. Most girls experience it around the age they hit puberty, which is mostly around the age of 12/13 years old. Well, for me, I hit puberty at a very young age, my breasts started to grow and my hips got wider when I was 7/8 years old. My sister experienced the exact same progress going on in her body growing so fast, we got both send to the doctors but they couldn’t find anything. We were exceptions in this case. But there we sat at school, as mini-women who didn’t liked their changing bodies at all.

I didn’t get harassed on the streets back then, but at school. The other kids noticed I had growing breasts; they made fun of me by groping them multiple times or calling me ‘Big Boobs.’ Not only boys would make fun of me, girls would do the same thing. Laughing behind my back with it, gossiping around it (there was this one gossip going around back then that I would have gone to the doctors and had surgery to make sure they wouldn’t grow any bigger anymore) and also groping my breasts as well.

I felt absolutely horrible about having breasts and wide hips at such a young age. Being a 7/8 year old, I should have been enjoying childhood, not having to worry about puberty, and I didn’t feel like a child anymore. And the bullying went on and became worse every year. At the end of Elementary school I didn’t experience harassment anymore since the other girls of my class had grown a good pair of breasts and wide hips themselves, I didn’t felt alone anymore, however- the years there for where a hell to go through.

Once, a girl who was a bit younger than me, got her brother and his friend to insult me and they groped my breasts, walking away laughing, how they liked insulting me with doing such a horrible thing. I went to the director’s office to tell him what happened; a lot of people had seen what was going on, I couldn’t be lying. The man reacted shocked and told me it was absolutely unacceptable for those kids to do something like that to me. But has he ever punished them for what they did to me? No. Did the kids get punished for groping my breasts, laughing in my face for it? No. I didn’t tell my teachers what was going on, but I’m sure they secretly knew I was getting bullied because I was becoming a woman. No one did ever interfere when some kid groped one of my breasts again at the playground. One time the teacher used me as an example to say why I couldn’t breastfeed yet because a boy in my class said: ‘Sophie has breasts, that means she can feed a baby already!’ Why use me as an example for a subject like this?

I also remember the times we went to the swimming pool and I got a lot of stares from kids from other schools. My classmates didn’t ask about it after a while; they were used to it by then. But kids from other schools got curious, they stared at me, pointed fingers at me, laughed with it, you name it. I always hided my breasts behind my arms until I got into the swimming pool, once I got out of the water, they got hidden again.

I will never forget the day my period once came though on a school day, I was 9 years old. Every Friday we went to the swimming pool for swimming class, unfortunately my period came earlier than expected, making me forced not to go swim anymore. Everytime I couldn’t go swim I said to my classmates that I wasn’t feeling well, they didn’t got suspicious since they didn’t knew what menstruation meant. But this time, I was in tears because I looked forward to go swimming and I was in complete shock that my period had come this early. But it was a few months later and one of them knew what it was. The guy told everyone I had my period, in just a few minutes the whole school was aware of my little ‘problem down there’. Then people asked me what a period was, people stared at me, and whispered while I walked by, giving insults, you name it. All that because that ‘time of the month’ came too early for me.

Around the age of 11/12 years old the honking, catcalling, etc from strangers started. The stories about all the street harassment I endured during the years is too much to sum all up, but it made me feel even more horrible about my body and myself. I didn’t understand, I wasn’t provoking anything, I was a child who didn’t wanted this at all. I never asked for this sort of attention, not as a little girl and not as a young woman!

Is this the price I had to pay to be a woman? Breasts getting groped by other kids, gossip going around about me, getting nicknames like ‘Big Boobies’, etc. I had to endure all that because I hit puberty earlier than all the other kids, because I was becoming a woman, and apparently I needed to get punished, as I still get punished by men for walking down the street. I only just realized ever since the sexual harassment-stories are coming up I’ve been sexually harassed ever since I was a little girl.

I wish I could send this story to all the kids who bullied and groped me back then and let them think of all the horrible things they did to me and that they are no better than the men who still honk at me down the streets. Hopefully they became better human beings than they were back then. I really do.

-Sophie

Location: Belgium

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