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“Make it public, make their behaviour visible.”

May 15, 2015 By Contributor

I was rated by a group of middle-aged builders as I was walking home. After spotting me they started to shout numbers and loudly ‘rate’ my attractiveness out of ten. Pretty sad and intimidating to be walking along and a group of adults actually stop work and start loudly proclaiming your perceived value at you. They do this because they think they can get away with it but also because society at large has allowed this type of behaviour to continue/be acceptable. Nobody said anything to them.

Another builder in Bristol shouted patronizing comments at me as I walked down a side road near the University. The pavement had been blocked but I couldn’t see that from where I was walking. I heard, “Oh, well done sweetheart” (sarcastically) and when I did see the sign he shouted, “Well done, that’s it” (sarcastic). Absolutely no problem was caused by my actions. There was no need at all for a professional to shout such sarcastic comments except for the fact he knew he would get away with it and I am a woman in the street, therefore fair game.

There have been a depressing amount of times in my life where similar instances have occurred. I know this is also true of many female friends.

Optional: What’s one way you think we can make public places safer for everyone?

I honestly believe that men (but people generally) conduct poor behaviour in the street towards others because they feel they have a right to/can get away with it/society doesn’t do anything to them. Men who go for women in the street know there behaviour is not challenged in society. This is the root cause of much of street harassment – no punishment or shame comes back on those that do it.

We need to educate people in schools/universities, but make it visible in society generally, that any form of street harassment is just that: Harassment.

Educate that such behaviour isn’t correct but further, ask those around the people who do harass to step up. If a guys mates actually told him to stop, that would be powerful.

If someone in any professional capacity harasses you, do not be submissive. Take a picture of the person/where it happened or a company van or whatever and contact that company directly explaining what happened and make a complaint. Write a review explaining what happened on their company website. Make it public, make their behaviour visible.

– Miss Student

Location: Bristol UK

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“Hid in the grounds for three hours before I felt safe enough to come out.”

May 14, 2015 By Contributor

I am a transgender man (pre-hormones and surgery) and I have been homeless since November 2014. I have spent some time on the streets and one day I was sitting under a shelter at the beach, smoking a cigarette and taking in the sea air and just relaxing for a while before having to think about finding a place to sleep for the night.

These two young cisgender men came and sat on the bench next to the one I was sitting on, in spite of there being other free benches further from me, and I felt uneasy about them from the second they sat down. Maybe because they were both drinking beer and being quite brash in their manner. I didn’t want to move though in case they followed me, so I put in my headphones and just stared ahead at the water, although I could feel their eyes on me as they talked to each other in what sounded like South African accents.

Eventually I couldn’t help but look back at them because they’ve been gawping at me for the past 20 minutes, and one of them says, ʺAre you going to get yourself sorted out?ʺ gesturing to my backpack and sleeping bag. I feign ignorance and say, ʺWhat do you mean?ʺ He says ʺI see you have a sleeping bag thereʺ, and I tell him I’ve been camping. He wants to know where, and I tell him it’s none of his business and look away. But I know they have clocked me as a rough sleeper and by now I am really scared because I don’t know what their intentions are. I want to leave but I am still afraid of them following me, so I watch a long YouTube video on my phone and try to distract myself while sending out very clear ʺI don’t want to talkʺ vibes.

The video was 45min long and when it was finished they were still there, still looking. I took my headphones out and one of them asked me if I’m all right and they didn’t mean to make me uncomfortable. (Evidently they knew what they were doing, and if they cared that much they would have moved or at least stopped ogling me!). I lied and said they didn’t, and then said, ʺI am going home nowʺ and got up and started walking off. The seafront road is long and straight and I could feel them watching me still. I tried to walk confidently and forced myself not to look back until I could turn off the main road. They hadn’t followed me, but even so I ducked into a church and hid in the grounds for three hours before I felt safe enough to come out.

I do not identify as female, but I am still read as female and as such I face many of the same issues. One day I will start hormones and eventually I will pass as male 100% of the time. When that happens I will be even more mindful of how I interact with women and those with feminine gender expressions in order to ensure their comfort and safety. I just wish I had told those men that yes, they WERE making me uncomfortable and I would appreciate being left alone. But maybe if I had, the outcome would have been worse. Who knows?

I am moving to a new town soon and will no longer be homeless homeless, and when I am settled I will become involved in starting a new Hollaback group. I want people to know that street harassment is not something that only happens to women and for other trans/queer people to see one of their own community at the forefront of this issue.

Optional: What’s one way you think we can make public places safer for everyone?

Make harassers directly and immediately accountable for their actions. Introduce on-the-spot fines for street harassers and make citizen’s arrests an option, with incentives to encourage intervention and prevent ‘bystander syndrome’. If the harassment occurs from a vehicle, the offender should incur penalty points on their driving licenses. The UK has so much camera surveillance already in place that gathering evidence should not be a problem in most areas.

– Vince

Location: Worthing, England

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“Told him that was disgusting”

May 12, 2015 By Contributor

Yesterday, Monday, May 11, 2015, I was running errands in my neighborhood after a yoga class. As I was walking, I saw a boy of about 13 or 14 years old walking towards me. He was holding an ice cream cone. As he approached me, he licked his cone, and then leaned towards me and stuck his ice-cream covered tongue out at me in a lewd, sexual manner. I turned around as he passed me and told him that was disgusting. He laughed at me and said, ʺI know, that’s why I did it.ʺ

This incident made me feel humiliated, powerless and also completely enraged. I have a right to walk in my neighborhood and my city without my dignity being infringed upon and made a mockery of by others.

Optional: What’s one way you think we can make public places safer for everyone?

Encourage men to speak out against, and confront street harassment when they see their peers committing these violations.

– LCS

Location: Upper West Side, NYC, NY

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UK: London Needs Anti-Harassment Posters

May 7, 2015 By Contributor

For many women, the streets are not ‘public’ spaces. Rather, they are places where our actions and clothes are judged by others, and our feelings of security are put into question. This often occurs in the form of sexual harassment or assault, an encounter which is intimidating, demeaning, invasive and frustrating. I would like to add here that I fully acknowledge that various forms of sexual harassment and assault are also suffered by men and transsexual people.

These experiences don’t stop when we step from the street onto London’s public transport and so I was relieved when I heard of an initiative called Project Guardian. As stated on its website, it is a ‘long-term project involving British Transport Police (BTP), Transport for London (TfL), Metropolitan Police and the City of London Police, which aims to reduce sexual assault and unwanted behaviour on public transport in London’. Apart from the name, which implies that women need to be protected rather than needing to be given a platform and the agency to strengthen and empower themselves, it is a wonderful and much needed project.

Given that Project Guardian has been running for nearly two years, when I excitedly mentioned it to friends of mine living in London I expected them to be aware of it, yet none of them were. I wondered if these responses represented a wider trend and so I created a survey in January 2015 asking Londoners of their knowledge of Project Guardian. The results were shocking: 84.3% of respondents using London transport ‘daily’ or ‘once or twice a week’ ‘have not heard of [Project Guardian] & don’t know what it is’ and 13.8% of respondents ‘have heard of it but don’t really know what it is’. Equally 72.8% did not know that ‘lewd comments or leering’ are reportable offences. Yet, when the initiative was explained almost all of the respondents were supportive of its aims and thought it to be a valuable and needed service.

My findings contrasted with an article in the Guardian from October 2013, written by Laura Bates, who’s illuminating Everyday Sexism project helped to advise the Project Guardian team. The article implied that the ‘20% increase in the reporting of sexual offences on the transport network’ was due to the launch of Project Guardian in April that year. However, I doubt the reliability of this claim because my findings show that very few Londoners have even heard of Project Guardian.

This trend is not surprising given that no posters advising passengers of what Project Guardian is and how to use it exist on the London transport network. I started to wonder why this was so, given the endless stream of TfL posters advertising other safety and security issues. I contacted TFL asking if there was a planned poster campaign, given that in September 2014 it was reported in the Londonist that Boris Johnson and Peter Hendry (Transport for London Commissioner) had said that such a campaign was planned. Their response was that ‘an integrated communications campaign is in development’. This came in April 2015 in the form of a social media based campaign called ‘Report It To Stop It’. On the launch day, BTP said that there are no plans for posters in the pipe line but ‘we have more than 300,000 handouts ready plus a big digital campaign to spread the word’.

Whilst a positive move by the Project Guardian team, this recent effort seems insufficient. Aside from the absence of a trigger warning on the rather graphic short film, it is also problematic as it is ‘aimed at women aged between 16 and 35’. I am campaigning for Project Guardian posters on the London Transport system because this way, a zero tolerance policy surrounding sexual harassment and assault will be clearly stated to all members of this public, including potential perpetrators. This would be more effective than a campaign only directed at potential victims. A short film and a few thousand leaflets can’t compete with the publicity generated by a widespread and permanent poster campaign.

Aside from the practical advantages of a poster campaign, I want to see Project Guardian given equal priority to combating other safety and security issues. There are currently 40 different poster campaigns on the transport network including those telling passengers ‘Please don’t play your music too loud’ and to be ‘Beware pickpocket’s tactics’. While these are valid safety & wellbeing concerns, it is outrageous that an issue so serious as sexual harassment and assault is not deemed worthy of a poster campaign. It’s ironic to note that TFL recently allowed the body-shaming adverts from Protein World on Tube platforms, but they don’t think Project Guardian posters are needed. This seems to echo the universal lack of recognition for women’s issues and the often contradictory messages surrounding them.

I did not start this campaign because I believe that law enforcement is the only, or most important, means of change. However, I believe that as a society we have normalised this form of violence against women and therefore posters informing the public that these are reportable offences are needed. Not only do the perpetrators need to know that this will not be tolerated, but those who have experienced sexual harassment or assault need to know that they will be listened to, taken seriously and supported in their responses by both police and surrounding members of the public. It needs to be clearly communicated that reportable offences include sexual touching, exposure, outraging public decency, lewd comments, leering and harassment, for which Project Guardian provides a specialist phone and text line through which to contact them.

Please help to support this campaign by following our Twitter page and tweeting us with your photos of TfL’s current posters and ask them why there aren’t any for #ProjGuardian.

Please tell friends and family about Project Guardian and keep your eyes out for the petition coming soon!

Matilda campaigns for women’s rights and against street harassment, founded Underreported Street Harassment and is a recent graduate from University of Leeds, UK. 

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“I’m moving immediately”

May 4, 2015 By Contributor

I’m moving immediately. I’ve lived all over the world and I’ve never encountered the type of men that are in Alabama. They’re vile, evil like vermin. They follow you around stores until you leave, sometimes even with groups of their friends. Can you imagine 6 guys following you around snickering, gawking, muttering rudest things they can think of just to see your reaction and mocking your attempts to make them leave.

I’ve had people follow me into parking lots , physically scrunching to peek into my car window, I’ve waited in long lines having to endure they’re commentary about me on how my face looks, how my boobs look , how fat I am, and I’ve even dealt with people taking my picture without my permission.

So I’m done. I’m moving. I am human and there is only so much I can take. I dealt with this for 3 years and I’m done, these men truly disgust me . They’ve been degrading my self worth and my sanity for a while now. I’m clinically depressed, agoraphobic, and have terrible anxiety issues and now I’m just… done. It’s tiring frustrating, and I don’t want to do it anymore so I’m moving to somewhere that I can live my life in peace.

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& yes I know it’s not every man in Alabama

– Anonymous

Location: Huntsville, AL

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