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Because I wore a skirt that day

April 15, 2016 By Contributor

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I still get a nervous feeling in the pit of my stomach at gas stations when I’m alone. I would pull over constantly months after the occurrence while driving, in fear I was being followed again. I stopped wearing dresses and skirts for a while, my favorite things to wear. I was blamed for what had happened to me…

A man watched me at a gas station. I paid no attention, pumped gas in my car, and left as quickly as possible. I thought I was being my usual worry-wart self when I sensed he was following me. Through stoplights, unexpected turns, and neighborhood streets all the way to my then college campus I could see that man in his car in my mirror still lingering behind. After calling 911 and luckily having a faculty member help me, he sped away. Once when recounting this experience, it was suggested to me that this occurred because I was wearing a skirt that day and that is why he followed me after spotting me at the gas station.

So when I am out running in jogging pants and a sweater, I am getting whistled at because of what I am wearing? When I am in the grocery store parking lot in winter clothes and a scarf and getting inappropriate comments yelled my way, it is because of what I am wearing? When friends and I are hollered at when walking in the dark, it is because of what we are wearing?

He harassed me that day because of a skirt?

Street harassment is a learned behavior. How can it be addressed when we are focusing on the victim instead of the harasser?

Street harassment continues its prevalence towards anyone, wearing anything, anywhere. I cannot count the number of times I have been catcalled in my 21 years and it is disgusting at how frequent this occurs to myself and those around me. Hearing “smile, beautiful” or a whistle or “it was a compliment” just makes me cringe. Street harassment has become a social norm among cultures where this behavior is considered tolerable. Victims are the ones left to alter their actions and behaviors expecting these interactions to occur.

Although I think back often to that experience any time I feel anxiety creeping up or may feel even the slightest hesitation leaving the house in a skirt, I know now that I was the victim. I know I am not alone in the world with people experiencing street harassment daily. It may be difficult to think about your experience, let alone write it for others to read- but someone who reads it could relate it to their own experience and think “there’s nothing I could have done to prevent it from happening, it wasn’t my fault, and it wasn’t because of the way I was dressed.” At least I try to remind myself that and sharing your story could remind others too.

Jill Santos is a 21-year-old college senior, a califoregon girl. Follow her on Instagram @jiillionaire

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Women Should Not Be Harassed at UK Clinics

April 15, 2016 By Contributor

Earlier this week, author and Everyday Sexism founder Laura Bates spoke at an Abortion Rights event in Parliament on protecting women from harassment and abuse at UK clinics. She gave me permission to share the speech here, as part of International Anti-Street Harassment Week:

UK parliamentLet’s be very clear –this is not a debate about abortion. That debate already takes place, vociferously, elsewhere, from our parliament to our media to our universities to our streets.

This is not about freedom to have a conversation that is already happening widely. This is about harassment. It is about the aggressive, intimidating, upsetting experience of women being harassed at the point of access to a wide variety of different healthcare services, including reproductive healthcare.

This is not about protest, which could take place anywhere, it is about bullying women, making them feel anxious, creating a hostile and unpleasant environment for both service users and healthcare workers.

This is not a debate about abortion.

Because anybody who wants to have a real impact on abortion recognises that place to do so effectively is not at the point of access, but in and outside parliament, where policy is debated, not outside clinics where women already have the legal right to access services and should be able to do so without fear, harassment and intimidation.

The impact on women at what may be a very vulnerable, private and personal time must not be underestimated. Harassment doesn’t have to include shouting, threats or abuse to be deeply impactful and upsetting. Simply being shown some of the extremely graphic and sometimes inaccurate images protesters often hold, being filmed against one’s wishes at this private time, or being made aware that somebody is actively praying against you can cause huge emotional turmoil and distress. When a United Nations Delegation on human rights visited an abortion clinic in Alabama and experienced anti-choice protesters outside, they described it as “a kind of terrorism”.

Writing about their experiences of clinic harassment on Twitter, women said:

It made me feel like I was taking the walk of shame

It made me feel sick

I’ve never seen anything like that in real life

The protesters scared me

One woman wrote:

I used to work at an abortion clinic. Now I’d be too scared.

There is no reasonable argument that such harassment is necessary or effective, because there can be no reasonable argument that any woman reaching the point of attending an appointment with an abortion provider hasn’t already heard the arguments against abortion – because we live in a society where these arguments are everywhere. No woman grows up thinking of her control over her own body as complete and unchallenged, because we do not live in a society where that notion goes without loud and vigorous debate, and indeed, because we live in a society where our sisters in Northern Ireland, for example, are still denied such basic rights.

In fact, women are forced to hear other peoples’ opinions about abortion throughout their lives, as these Everyday Sexism Project entries show:

“While in year 10 my science teacher felt it appropriate to share his views on how he believed abortion was too flexible and should not be allowed up to 24 weeks. After telling him that I believed that it should be allowed up to 24 weeks he looked at me in disgust and told me that ‘those’ women should not be allowed to have children at all.”

“A male colleague told me men should decide about abortion law and time limits because women are too emotional and have a personal bias which is why we have 24 weeks which he says is “really late” and puts too much focus on “what the woman herself wants”.”

“In my 1st year at University I remember a young man standing up and announcing: “I would never date a woman who has had an abortion, this is disgusting, these kind of women are damaged goods.”

“My husband said that a women should be able to decide to take her top off for men if she wants to that she should have control over her own body but that a woman should not be able to have an abortion because that is murder”

“I was watching a discussion of abortion on a political panel show. There was one woman who kept trying to speak up while the men around her loudly spoke against abortion. She even tried to start sentences like ‘well since this is an issue that particularly affects women…’ but the man next to her said ‘hold on a second, let me finish’. The show went to commercial and moved on to a new subject before she got to speak at all.”

Across society, the voices we hear least in debates about abortion are those of people who have actually had one. Women are shouted down in these conversations because a lot of these conversations are driven by thinly veiled misogyny. The sexist idea that bearing children is a woman’s sole purpose and responsibility. The patriarchal notion that society has a greater right to dictate what happens to a woman’s body than she does herself. The misogynistic idea that women’s lives are less important.

That’s why it is so vitally important that at the point when a woman is accessing the reproductive healthcare which is her legal right, she is, in that moment, at the very least, able to do so safely, without harassment, bullying, shaming or intimidation.

This is not a debate about abortion. It is about harassment, misogyny and bullying.

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Day 6: International Anti-Street Harassment Week

April 15, 2016 By HKearl

WPNight_2_1000Hey there, Day 6!

Here are photos from the week  | Here are the media hits

It’s the International Night of Wheatpasting, hosted by Stop Telling Women to Smile!

 

Ottawa
Ottawa, Canada

North London, UK
North London, UK

New Hampshire, USA
New Hampshire, USA

Here are some of the other events that will be taking place:

  • Canada: Hollaback Vancouver did wheatpasting. They will also held a party with Good Night Out Vancouver to celebrate consent and spaces free from harassment.
  • Canada: Hollaback Ottawa hosted a community event, including an info fair (6:30-7:30 p.m.) and a moderated panel with rad, local folks & a community discussion on street harassment and intersectionality (7:30-9 p.m.)
    4.15.16 HB Ottawa - site director @JulieSLalonde kicks off the panel with guests @Cupcakes_n_Rap and @ChelbyDaigle
  • Guatemala: OCAC Guatemala held an awareness-raising event.
  • 4.15.16 PDH Guatemala event 2Nepal: Youth Advocacy Nepal gave a presentation of their street harassment study findings at the National Women Commission including to the deputy Prime Minister, Shrijana Sharma.
4.15.16 presentation of 'Rapid Assessment Report' on street harassment at National Women Commission. Nepal 6 4.15.16 Naren Khatiwada and deputy prime minister, Shrijana Sharma - Nepal 4.15.16 presentation of 'Rapid Assessment Report' on street harassment at National Women Commission. Nepal 3
  • California: The Cat Call Choir organized a group of irreverent but hopeful women sang street harassment quotes to the tune of nursery rhymes.

4.15.16 CatCallChoir

  • Missouri: Students, including Actio (the feminist activism student group) at St. Louis University, did chalking and handed out resources at a main entrance to campus for a “Take Back the Streets: Stop Street Harassment” event.
4.15.16 St. Louis University - The Politics of the Street class diid sidewalk chalking. Missiouri 8 4.15.16 St. Louis University - The Politics of the Street class diid sidewalk chalking. Missiouri 4.15.16 St. Louis University - The Politics of the Street class diid sidewalk chalking. Missiouri 3

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Day 5: International Anti-Street Harassment Week

April 14, 2016 By HKearl

Hello Day 5!

Here are photos from the week  | Here are the media hits

Watch the Google+ Hangout Panel with activists from Kenya, Romania and USA.

There was a #CASSchats twitter chat with Collective Action for Safe Spaces and Me=You: Sexual Violence Awareness (MYSVA).

CASS Chats_

Here are examples of the events that took place today:

  • Bahamas: Hollaback Bahamas held a “Chalk ‘n’ Chat”

4.14.16 Bahamas

  • Canada: Women in Cities International and Interviewer Noémie Bourbonnais  and Sound Recorder Lucie Pagès did on-the-street interviews about street harassment and sidewalk chalking in Montreal.
4.14.16 WICI Montreal -Interviewee (left), Interviewer Noémie Bourbonnais (centre left), Sound Recorder Lucie Pagès (centre right), and Camerawoman Kathleen Ellis (right)) 4.14.16 WICI Montreal - Interviewer Noémie Bourbonnais (right) discussing street harassment with an interviewee (left) 4.14.16 WICI Montreal - chalking 3
  • France: Chalking in Lyon, flyering in Toulouse
4.14.16 Stop HDR Lyon France 6 4.14.16 Stop HDR Lyon France 7 4.14.16 Stop HDR Lyon France

4.14.16 Toulouse, France

  • Nepal: Youth Advocacy Nepal (YAN) – in partnership with various like-minded social organizations – organized an interaction on “Harassment and violence towards women in public spaces and legal issues” at National women commission hall, Bhdardrakali.
4.14.16 -2Youth Advocacy Nepal (YAN) in partnership with others organized 'Harassment and violence towards women in public spaces and legal issues' 2 4.14.16 -3Youth Advocacy Nepal (YAN) in partnership with others organized 'Harassment and violence towards women in public spaces and legal issues' 4.14.16 Youth Advocacy Nepal (YAN) in partnership with others organized 'Harassment and violence towards women in public spaces and legal issues'
  • Yemen: To Be for Rights and Freedom will host an event in connection with an anti-street harassment campaign. At the event, NGOs will display relevant survey results, films, and share stories. [RESCHEDULED DUE TO FLOODING]
  • Iowa: End Street Harassment – Iowa City will host a support group for individuals who have experienced street harassment to share their experiences in a safe environment. Participants can create posters and other art projects for display to raise awareness and protest street harassment. Meet in Room E on the second floor of the downtown public library, 123 S. Linn Street. [6:30 – 8 p.m.]
4.14.16 Iowa City support group 4.14.16 Iowa City support group 9 4.14.16 Iowa City support group 11
  • New York: Brooklyn Movement Center will host an event at which participants will use improv and storytelling techniques to reimagine ways they would have responded to harassment, with time travel and community support on their side [6:30 – 8:30 p.m., Friends and Lovers, 641 Classon Ave, Brooklyn, NY]
  • Pennsylvania: Students at Temple University in Philadelphia put up posters around campus.

4.14.16 Temple University signs - Philadelphia, PA

Virtual Efforts:

Afghanistan:

4.14.16 Streetharassment prevents women and girls and their families from getting an educationStreet harassment prevents women and girls and their families from getting an education Afghanistan “Harassing women is not entertainment. It is a crime.”“Harassing women is not entertainment. It is a crime. 4.10.16 Afghanistan - i have the right to go shopping without being harassed

Belgium:

Free Tai-Ji Movement Pepingen Belgium
Free Tai-Ji Movement Pepingen Belgium

Ecuador:

4.14.16 Hollaback Cuenca - Ecuador 2 4.14.16 Hollaback Cuenca Ecuador 4.14.16 Hollaback Cuenca - Ecuador 8

South Africa:

4.14.16 ActionAidSouth Africa 4.14.16 ActionAid South Africa
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Google+ Hangout TODAY on Global Street Harassment Activism

April 14, 2016 By HKearl

Stop Street Harassment Google Hangout, 04-14-16_Page_1 Join the Google+ Hangout on April 14, 12 p.m. ET.

Get inspired by activists from three continents on what street harassment looks like in their countries and how they’re fighting to end this form of violence. You can ask questions during the event or beforehand here.

Participants:

Holly Kearl (USA) is an expert on the topic of gender-based violence, including street harassment and sexual harassment in schools and on college campuses. She is the founder of the nonprofit organization Stop Street Harassment, a published author and a consultant for organizations like the United Nations, the Aspen Institute, and the US State Department.@hkearl @StopStHarassmnt @NoStHarassweek

Jerin Arifa (USA) is the President and Founder of National Organization for Women (NOW) first virtual chapter: Young Feminists and Allies. She proposed and co-created the City University of New York domestic violence and sexual-assault policy for 550,000 students. Arifa is on the board of the Bella Abzug Leadership Institute, which trains mostly underserved girls to become leaders. A first generation Bangladeshi American, her activism began in childhood when she facilitated a literacy program for homeless kids in Bangladesh. She has 10-plus years of marketing and communications experience working with a variety of organizations ranging from commercial real estate to nonprofits.@JerinArifa

Simona-Maria Chirciu (Romania) is the Vice President of a feminist NGO – FILIA Center – and a PhD Candidate in Political Sciences, working on a thesis on gender-based street harassment in Romania. She has a BA in Political Sciences from the Faculty of Political Sciences, NSPSPA, with a theme on Islamic Fundamentalism in Iran (2012) and a Master Degree in Policy, Gender and Minorities, Faculty of Political Sciences, NSPSPA, with a thesis on street harassment in Bucharest (2014). Simona’s main research interests are in gender-based street harassment, sexual violence and other forms of violence against women, feminist theory, gender and poverty, gender equality, equal opportunities, and social justice. Currently she works as a gender equality expert on sexual violence against women in Romania. Also, she is an activist and she organizes numerous public actions (marches, flash-mobs, protests) against sexual harassment and street harassment against women.

Stop Street Harassment Google Hangout, 04-14-16_Page_2Munibah Choudhry (USA) is a Pakistani American Muslim born and raised in Queens, New York. She is currently a senior at the City College of New York majoring in Psychology. In the Fall she will be starting her Clinical Doctorate in Physical Therapy and is interested in bringing physical therapy to the underserved South Asian community. Munibah is a feminist, aspiring social activist, amateur film photographer, and avid Bernie Sanders supporter. She hopes to shed light on the negative psychological effects of street harassment one angry Facebook post at a time.

Naomi Mwaura (Kenya) has over 4 years in the public transport industry in Kenya focusing on prevention of sexual harassment and violence. Naomi was a lead organizer in the #MyDressMyChoice protest that saw thousands of women in Kenya protest the rampant cases of sexual violence in the Kenyan public transport industry.

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