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“I have been followed with a video camera pointed at my butt”

October 19, 2014 By Contributor

I used to live in DC and the harassment is obnoxious. I have been followed with a video camera pointed at my butt while leaving a grocery store. I have had guys park their car and sit at the bus stop and harass me to get my number. One time when I was only 16, a metro bus driver in Northeast D.C flicked his tongue at me in a sexual way when I boarded the bus and when I got off of the bus. It made me feel so uncomfortable. I couldn’t believe that a grown man could behave like that even in a professional setting.

– RJ

Location: Washington, DC

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USA: Building a New Culture of Consent at NYCC

October 17, 2014 By Correspondent

Katie Bowers, NY, USA, SSH Blog Correspondent

Last week we discussed New York Comic Con’s shiny, new anti-harassment policy.  Over Saturday and Sunday at the convention, I got to see the policy in action.

Thanks to the efforts of Geeks for CONsent, The Mary Sue, and others, New York Comic Con 2014 featured a plethora of reminders that “Cosplay is not Consent”.  Prominent black and red standees stood throughout the Javits Center’s main lobby – a major site for amateur and professional photographers looking to grab a shot of attendee’s incredible costumes.  The policy, which also covered a full page of the program booklet, forbids a wide range of harassment including unwanted physical touching and gestures, verbal comments, stalking and intimidation, and photos taken without consent.  Offenders, the standees and program booklets proclaimed, run the risk of being kicked out of the convention.

I spent the weekend dressed up as one of sci fi’s favorite red heads: Special Agent Dana Scully.  To my knowledge, everyone who took my picture asked for my permission – and everyone asked with enthusiasm.  This isn’t a new phenomenon.  In general, anyone excited enough about your costume to want a picture also wants to share their excitement – but one interaction in particular stuck out to me.

A man approached me on the show floor and asked to take my photo.  “Sure,” I said and went to set down my stuff.  My badge and bag got tangled and it took a minute to unhook the two.  “Sorry, hold on,” I told him.

“No, no, I’m sorry,” he said quickly.  “I don’t want to make you uncomfortable.  You don’t need to be sorry.”

In a place where people walk around on stilts and stilettos, strap proton packs to their back, and squeeze through overcrowded aisle ways, comfort is generally not the first thing on anyone’s mind.  His response was totally surprising and wonderfully welcome.

In addition to visual reminders, NYCC also hosted “#YesAllGeeks”, a panel about harassment in convention spaces with Diana Pho of Beyond Victoriana, , Marlene Bonnelly of comics.tumblr.com, writer and prolific tweeter Mikki Kendall; Emily Asher Perrin of Tor, writer and #YesAllWomen creator Kaye M, and Robert Anders, a nurse practioner speaking about the psychological effects of harassment. The panelists did a great job of breaking down why having anti-harassment policies are so important:

* Obviously, a strong policy helps victims to recognize harassment when it happens to them and provides them with an immediate course of action.  It can also help women, people of color and members of other frequently harassed groups feel more welcome – an important consideration as conventions grow larger and more diverse.

* With a well-publicized policy, harassers can be held accountable.  It’s hard to convincingly claim ignorance when standing next to an 8-foot tall standee and holding the full text of the anti-harassment policy in your swag bag.

* Policies can also open up opportunities for bystanders.  Often, bystanders witness harassing behavior but don’t step in.  They’re not sure what to do, and they don’t want to be harassed themselves.  With a policy in place, bystanders have more options.  They can ask the victim if they are okay, if they’d like help, if they’d like to report, and even if they have heard about the “Report Harassment” feature of the NYCC app.  Or, if it feels safe, they can remind the harasser about the “Cosplay is not consent” policy.

So there are lots of good reasons to create and publicize strong anti-harassment policies – but Mikki Kendall pointed out that the most important reason of all isn’t action and reaction.  It’s prevention.  When asked how we can make fan communities safe spaces, Kendall advised that we need to be communities that respond appropriately and immediately to unacceptable behavior. When we speak out against harassment and oppression – at conventions, online, or even in the media that we geek out about – we make our communities better and safer.  We hold ourselves and other members of the community to a higher level.  Or, since we’re at Comic Con, you could say we “level up”.

This weekend, NYCC became the most highly attended convention of the year with 150,000 fans walking through the front door.  Those 150,000 fans saw costumes, sneak previews, art, comics, panels – and a new message: it’s time to level up.

Want to see the panel in its entirety?  Visit Beyond Victoriana!  Or read more at The Mary Sue.

Katie is a social worker and community educator interested in ending gender-based violence, working with youth to make the world a better place, and using pop culture as a tool for social change. Check out her writing at the Imagine Better Blog and geek out with her on Twitter, @CornishPixie9.

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Bulgaria: Harassment-free schools: Whose responsibility is it anyway?

October 16, 2014 By Correspondent

Diana Hinova, Sofia, Bulgaria, SSH Blog Correspondent

Public schools are public spaces. Schools are also one of the places where we learn, ‘by doing’, about what public space is and what behaviors are acceptable in it. It is no secret that there can be serious problems with bullying and harassment in schools. In Bulgaria, though, teachers and school officials –underpaid and often burned out – tend to ignore anything that is happening between students and does not lead to serious bodily injury. They try to just focus on their job, insisting that they are responsible for educating, not protecting or disciplining the students.

So, a lot goes on in Bulgarian schools to ‘teach’ girls that they cannot count on their bodies being respected or their rights protected. Being groped and verbally harassed by classmates on a regular basis just seems to be part of the public school experience. When Bulgarian women who had experienced physical or sexual violence since age 15 by someone other than their partner were asked details about the most serious such incident, 22% cited someone from a school context as the perpetrator (European Study on Violence Against Women, 2012).

The message that girls cannot count on their bodies being respected or their rights protected is reinforced by street harassment. Bystander passivity compounds it. When they experience and witness street harassment, in their daily commutes to school and other activities, girls come to understand that this behaviour is seens as tolerable not only for their rowdy peers, but for any man. Boys similarly see that there is no incentive to stop harassing women.

As long as sexual harassment goes on between classmates, school officials will turn the other way and focus on their ‘educating’ work. This realization was certainly part of my stints in Bulgarian public school, and one of the most memorable at that. Is it any wonder then that some of these boys carry the same attitudes and behaviors out into the street? Or that we continue not to talk about gender-based violence as adults? A huge opportunity to break the cycle of tolerated harassment is missed.

A small proportion of cases though, in public school settings, are such where the perpetrator is not another student. An alleged case of this variety captured Bulgaria’s attention this week: the parents of a 13-year-old girl became aware that there was misconduct by staff against their daughter, probably of a sexual nature, at a special-needs school in Sofia. The immediate response by school officials was, in essence, ‘[shrug], I don’t know, I wasn’t there, and, nobody would believe an autistic kid, anyway’. The parents filed complaints with the relevant child rights agencies and the Ministry of Education, public protests and press statements ensued.

What bitter irony that this year the State Agency for Child Protection, along with similar national authorities elsewhere, marks “2014: Year of Child Rights”! It is on the occasion of the 25-year anniversary of the Convention of the Rights of the Child, ratified by Bulgaria in 1991. The Convention guarantees children, among other things, protection from physical and sexual violence and exploitation. In addition, while many school officials may not be aware of this fact, a coordination mechanism between the SACP, Ministry of Education, and law enforcement institutions, stipulates that anyone aware of potential violations of these rights bears responsibility for reporting these concerns to the relevant authorities.

As it turns out, there are (on paper) fairly adequate systems for dealing with sexual harassment and more serious offenses in Bulgarian public schools. It’s just that no one wants to take on the added responsibility for using these means.

There is a movement among young parents in Sofia to consider various forms of alternative education. How to educate your children is a huge decision – these people take it quite seriously. And they find themselves pushed away from the public school system not only because of what they perceive as poor quality education, but to a large extent also because it does not provide a safe environment.

They do not want their children to become either victims or aggressors by default, or to internalize the norms tolerant to violence. But Bulgarian public schools at present pretty much guarantee that they would.

Diana has a Master’s in Public Policy from Georgetown University and works as a consultant to INGOs. Follow her on Twitter @dialeidoscope or letnimletni.blogspot.com.

 

България: Училище без тормоз: Чия е отговорността?

Държавните училища са публични пространства. Училищата са и места, където научаваме, ‘от опит’, що е то публично пространство и какво поведение се приема в него. За никого не е тайна, че в училищата може да има сериозни проблеми, конфликти и насилие между връстници. В България, учителите и персоналът – обикновено с недодстатъчно заплащане и претръпнали – не обръщат внимание на отношенията между учениците, стига да не се стига до сериозни физически наранявания. Стараят се да се концентрират в работата, като настояват, че те трябва да обучават, а не да защитават или възпитават учениците.

Така много неща в училище “обучават” момичетата, че не могат да разчитат телата им да бъдат неприкосновени или правата им да бъдят защитени. Това съучениците ти да те опипват, задавят нежелано и обиждат, редовно, е просто част минаването през държавното училище. От българките изпитали физическо или сексуално насилие извършено от друг, а не техен партньор, 22% са посочили извършител от учебната си среда (Европейско Изследване на Насилието над Жени, 2012).

Идеята, че момичетата не могат да разчитат на уважение, заради телата си, или на правата си, се подсилва от уличния тормоз. Апатичните наблюдатели я потвърждават. Когато биват тормозени на улицата или наблюдават такива случки в ежедневното си придвижване, момичетата осъзнават, че такова поведение се толерира не само сред бурните им връстници, но от страна на всеки непознат. Момчетата също не виждат пример и причина да противостоят на такова поведение.

Стига сексуалният тормоз да се случва между учениците, персоналът на училищата извръщат поглед и се концентрират да ‘образоват’. Това прозрение със сигурност го изпитах лично в държавните училища и то остава най-яркият ми спомен от времето прекарано там. Да се учудваме ли, че момчетата после излизат на улицата и в обществото със същите нагласи и поведение? Или че продължаваме да не говорим за половото насилие и като възрастни? Пропускаме огромна възможност да спрем цикъла на толериран тормоз.

В малък процент от случаите на сексуален тормоз в училищна среда, все пак, извършителят не е друг ученик. Такъв е случаят на 13-годишната Ана-Мария, чиито родители повдигат въпроса за сексуален тормоз извършен от служител пред настоятелите на училището. Сблъскват се първоначално с отговора “Не зная какво е станало, не сме били там, а и никой няма да и повярва, защото е аутист”.

Каква горчива ирония – Държавна Агенция за Закрила на Детето (ДАЗД) в момента отбелязва “2014-та: Година на правата на детето!” по случай 25-годишнината от Конвенцията за правата на детето, която България ратифицира през 1991-ва. Конвенцията гарантира на децата, наред с други права, закрила от физическо и сексуално насилие и експлоатация. Освен това, въпреки нехаенето на болшинството служители в училищата, координационният механизъм на ДАЗД, Министерство на Образованието и Науката и органите на съдебната власт, задава задължение на всеки информиран за потенциално нарушение на тези права да сигнализира компетентните институции.

Излиза, че (на хартия) има сравнително адекватна система за сексуален тормоз и други сериозни нарушения в Българските училища. просто никой не желае да поеме отговорността да я използва.

Има една тенденция сред младите родители в София да търсят алтернативни методи за образование за децата си. Изборът на образование е много значимо решение, което тези хора приемат съвсем на сериозно. И се усещат отблъснати от държавната образователна система не само защото оценяват образователната програма като некачествена, но и до голяма степен защото не смятат, че осигурява безопасна среда.

Те не искат децата им да се превърнат в жертви или агресори по предопределеност, или да възприемат толерантността към насилието, на която българските държавни училища почти гарантирано ще ги научат.

(Развития по случая на Ана-Мария offnews и резултати от проверката на ДАЗД)

Следвайте автора в Twitter @dialeidoscope или на блога letnimletni.blogspot.com.

 

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“I believe that is a fundamental issue in our society today”

October 16, 2014 By Contributor

The other night I went to visit my sister at her college, and the next night they were having a night out at a nearby rollerskating rink. I went with her and was desperately trying to teach her how to skate so I pulled her off to the side while we laughed at her clumsiness.

As I stood with my sister, an obnoxious guy skated by quickly and turned to face my sister and me as he called, “Hey there baby!” And laughed with his friend as they skated away. My first reaction was to think, “It’s a compliment, just take it as a compliment.” But the thing is, it’s NOT a compliment. Viewing me for my sexuality alone is not flattering! And more importantly, I do NOT have to accept it! I am entitled to my body, and no one else. I am fifteen years old, and that guy was probably at LEAST twenty!

Calling me things like “hot” or “sexy” or “baby or “princess” does not make me anymore interested in you. I hate the words hot and sexy, I absolutely LOATHE them. It is incredibly objectifying to call anyone a name based off of their sexuality alone and how they appeal to you in that way.

The only people who can call me ANYTHING are people who I CARE about, people who I know and think twice about. Not sick, perverted, raving rape culture enthusiasts on the street or otherwise. I wouldn’t even give that guy the time of day.

Optional: What’s one way you think we can make public places safer for everyone?

The first thing we need to do is band together, we need to vow to stand with our sister/brother in the scenario that they are being harassed. The second thing we need to do is educate young boys and men about how to view and treat a woman, because I believe that is a fundamental issue in our society today.

– Brianna

Location: Greenville SC, at a rollerskating rink

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Street Harassment and the Law: Global Edition

October 15, 2014 By HKearl

Via Hollaback!

“A new report released today offers the first ever global legal resource on street harassment. Led by NGO Hollaback! and the Thomson Reuters Foundation and coordinated by global law firm DLA Piper, the “Know Your Rights” guide compiles the latest legal definitions and information on all forms of street harassment across 22 countries and in 12 languages. A monumental undertaking, the guide involved the efforts of 11 legal teams working in collaboration around the world.

You can download a PDF of the guide here: Street Harassment – Know Your Rights‘”

If you’re in the USA, you can find state-by-state information in our Know Your Rights: Street Harassment and the Law released last December. It’s also available as a PDF.

 

 

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