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USA: #YouOkSis Street Harassment Tweet Chat

July 14, 2014 By Correspondent

Kirstin Kelly, Monterey, California, USA, SSH Blog Correspondent

As an editor for The Women’s International Perspective, I often find myself involved in Twitter chats and campaigns that deal with social issues, especially issues pertaining to the treatment of women around the world.  On July 11, I participated in one such chat using #YouOKSis (here is the recap). It quickly became clear that this was not your ordinary Twitter chat.

The sheer numbers of trolls and naysayers making themselves heard was truly astounding.  The #YouOKSis chat was intended to be a discussion about street harassment faced by Black women.  In particular, it called for men of color to engage in bystander intervention when they witness women of color being harassed.  These kinds of conversations are important.  Stop Street Harassment’s recent National Street Harassment Report demonstrated that persons of color face harassment at higher rates than their white counterparts and that overwhelmingly it is men who do the harassing, regardless of the victims’ gender.

The #YouOKSis chat aimed to address this problem on two fronts.  It first and foremost provided a space for women of color to share their experiences.  #YesAllWomen, a campaign in which I also took part, similarly invited women to share their experiences.  However, it did not address how race plays a role in a person’s experience with street harassment the way #YouOKSis did.  The second critical component of the #YouOKSis chat which is largely absent from other similar conversations is that it attempted to educate men on how they can actively become part of the solution by intervening on behalf of people facing harassment.

Participating in both of these conversations provided me with a tiny window into the complexities of issues that are both racial and gendered.  #YouOKSis drew a level of harassment I could not have expected.  Not only were people complaining in the usual manner that women sharing their experiences were creating problems where previously there hadn’t been any, being whiny, or failing to recognize that not everyone is guilty of harassment, but many of them were critiquing participants for turning on their own race.

The viciousness of these attacks is exactly why campaigns like #YouOKSis are important.  We need to do more to create safe spaces for people to share their stories about how race, sexism, and classism affect their lives because without fostering a better dialogue, any attempt made to solve these problems will be limited by the experiences of the organizers.

Furthermore, a lot of the criticism was coming from men who felt attacked, pointing out that not all men are guilty.  To me, it seemed the larger point of the conversation was not to hate on men for harassing women, but rather to help educate men that are not allies yet and to further empower those that already are by giving them more to go on than simply “don’t harass people.”  For social issues that are gendered, engaging the entire population, those with group identities most common to aggressors is critical.  Male allies are just as important to changing the norms of acceptable behavior as women; they do make up half the population after all!

My guess is that allies both from within and outside of racial groups are similarly critical in creating the changes that are so desperately needed.

Kirstin is a Master’s Student in Nonproliferation and Terrorism Studies at the Monterey Institute of International Studies and a news editor at the Women’s International Perspective (The WIP). You can follower her on Twitter at @KirstinKelley1, where she regularly posts about human rights issues around the world.

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Belgium: Interview with Ingrid of Hollaback! Brussels

July 14, 2014 By Correspondent

Dearbhla Quinn, Dublin Ireland/Brussels, Belgium, SSH Blog Correspondent

ChalkWalk N°2: @night, June 2012. Credit: Ingrid Vanderhoeven / Hollaback! Brussels

Street harassment is a fact of life for women and LGBQTIA people living in cities all over the world, however, since arriving in Brussels, I have experienced more street harassment than ever before and it was my frustration with this that inspired me to volunteer to contribute to this blog.

Hollaback! an international organisation of activists dedicated to combatting street harassment, works to empower those who are harassed, and Ingrid Vanderhoeven, one of the four founders of the Brussels branch, kindly agreed to discuss their work with me.

Ingrid explains that while Hollaback! is “an international movement with local volunteers and activists”, it is also a method “to respond to street harassment. It’s responding in a way that suits you and it started out as a blog, but now it’s turned into an international movement …Through the internet, but also through on the ground activism, through street actions and yeh, stuff like that.”

Ingrid was born in Brussels, grew up in Flanders and speaks Dutch, and it was only upon arriving back Brussels for university that she first encountered consistent street harassment.

“I had one particularly bad incident in which a group of men followed me and one grabbed my eh… vagina,” she said. After this and other incidents, Ingrid began to change her own behaviour in an attempt to avoid these unpleasant encounters. However, upon returning to Brussels after some time away, her perspective changed.

“(I realised) how much I’d given up my freedom and it was only just coming back into Brussels (that) I decided to do something about it.”

When Ingrid attended the Brussels ‘Slutwalk’ in 2011, she discovered a like-minded community both on and off-line. On the Slutwalk Facebook group “there was a German girl (Angelika Hild) that posted something about Hollaback, and we started a conversation and there with two other girls I didn’t know…one was American (Anna Whaley) and another one was also Belgian (Julie Richel), like me, but from the French speaking part…we just came together in a café and we just discussed if we could start one in Brussels, and that’s how Hollaback Brussels started.”

Inspired by their experience at the ‘Slutwalk’, which Ingrid described as an “empowering… demonstration against rape culture”, these four girls were ambitious in their desire to make Hollaback more than just an online platform.

“When we started we had these ideas of creating empowering experiences for women by sharing our stories of street harassment together, like our experiences, in a sort of sharing circle, and then going back to the spot where it happened. And we started doing and then writing in chalk on the pavement that this was the place where I was street harassed, but also leaving a message for their harasser,” she said.

“Chalk Walks” have become something of a Hollaback! Institution, and hearing these same methods and sentiments from Ingrid as I’d heard from Vanessa of the Dublin branch, I got a strong sense of the unity existing within this network of feminist activists and like Vanessa, Ingrid is confident in her identity as a feminist. “There seems to be a reluctance to identify with the word ‘femme’ in feminist, people want to be called humanists… But I do consider myself a feminist,” she stated.

Quentin Daspremont : Hollaback! Brussels’ current Co-Director and French Coordinator. Credit: Ingride Vanderhoeven

Hollaback! Brussels is currently in a stage of renewal as Ingrid is the only remaining original member still living in Brussels. This renewal makes it clear that feminism is not just for femmes. “There’s now a guy that joined, which is nice. So it’s just me and Quentin at the moment and there’s three new people joining, so I think we’ll be going through a change, because when they join they will have new ideas, new plans.”

Ingrid and her team seem to have no shortage of new ideas, from branching out from collecting stories, to using this experience to conduct a research, to visiting schools. “We have a little creative project for school, that when we find the funds, that we would like to do” as well as “developing a box with cards that can be given to harassers…we wanted to provide people with a sort of reacting kit.” It is no exaggeration when Ingrid concludes, “We have a lot of ideas.”

Dearbhla graduated from BESS (Business and Sociology), in Trinity College Dublin, last year. She currently lives in Brussels, Belgium, where she has a think-tank internship working in the areas of gender, equality, and employment. Follow her on Twitter @imoshedinheels and her blogs.

TRANSLATION BY SENNA REES:

Straatintimidatie maak deel uit van het dagelijkse leven van vrouwen en LGBTQIA mensen over de hele wereld. Maar sinds mijn aankomst in Brussel heb ik meer straatintimidatie moeten ondergaan dan ooit, en dit vormde de bron van mijn inspiratie om een bijdrage aan deze blog te leveren.

Hollaback, een internationale organisatie toegewijd aan de bestrijding van straatintimidatie,  streeft ernaar de slachtoffers een stem te geven, en Ingrid Vanderhoeven, een van de vier oprichters van de Brusselse afdeling, was zo vriendelijk om hun werk toe te lichten.

Ingrid leg uit dat hoewel Hollaback! “een internationale beweging met plaatselijke vrijwilligers en activisten” is, het ook een manier is om ‘om te gaan en te reageren op straatintimidatie’. “Het is een reactie geven op je eigen manier die jou het beste past, en het begon allemaal als een blog, maar nu is het een internationale beweging geworden… Dankzij het internet, maar ook door plaatselijke acties en acties op straat, en jah, zulke dingen.” Ingrid groeide op in Brussel en leerde straatintimidatie te aanvaarden als een constante van het leven, totdat ze op een dag een zeer nare ervaring meemaakte. “Het was voornamelijk door een zeer ongewenst voorval, waarin een groep mannen me volgde en een ervan graaide naar mijn…euhm… vagina.” Na deze en andere ervaringen, begon Ingrid haar gedrag te veranderen in de hoop deze onaangename confrontaties te vermijden. Maar bij haar terugkeer in Brussel na een tijdje weg te zijn, begon haar perspectief te veranderen: “ik besefte hoeveel vrijheid ik had opgegeven en het was bij mijn terugkeer naar Brussel dat ik besloot om er iets aan te doen”.

Toen Ingrid de Brusselse versie van de “Slutwalk” in 2011 bijwoonde, ontdekte ze een gelijkgestemde gemeenschap zowel on-line als offline. “En zo deed ik mee in die Slutwalk en was er een Facebook event en een Facebook groep en daarin zat een Duits meisje (Angelike Hild) die iets poste over Hollaback, en we begonnen een discussie en er waren twee andere meisjes die ik niet kende… eentje was een Amerikaans (Anna Whaley) en de andere een Belgische (Julie Richel) zoals ik, maar uit het Franstalige gedeelte. We ontmoetten elkaar in een café en we besproken of we eentje in Brussel zouden kunnen oprichten, en zo begon Hollaback Brussels.”

Geinspireerd door haar ervaring tijden de “Slutwalk”, die Ingrid beschrijft als een krachtige demonstratie tegen de rape culture, waren deze vier dames ambitieus om Hollaback om te vormen tot meer dan een online platform. “Toen we begonnen hadden we enkele ideeën om daadkrachtige ervaringen te creëren voor vrouwen, door het delen van onze eigen verhalen van straatintimidatie, in een soort van kring, en dan terug te gaan naar de plaats van het voorval. En dat deden we en dan schreven we ook in krijt op de stoep ‘dit was de plek waar ik werd lastig gevallen op straat”, en lieten we ook een boodschap na voor de dader.’

‘Chalk Walks’ zijn zowat een Hollaback! gebruik geworden, en toen ik dezelfde methodes en opvattingen hoorde van Ingrid zoals die van Vanessa van de Dublin afdeling, kreeg ik een zeer sterke indruk van eendracht binnen dit netwerk van geëmancipeerde activisten. En net zoals Vanessa is Ingrid overtuigd van haar identiteit als feministe. “Er lijkt wel een afkeer te zijn om geïdentificeerd te worden met het woord ‘femme’ in feminist, mensen worden liever humanisten genoemd… Maar ik beschouw mezelf als feminist.’ Hollaback! Brussel doorgaat in feite een stadium van hernieuwing, want Ingrid is de laatste van de vier stichtende leden die nog in Brussel woont. Die hernieuwing maakt duidelijk dat feminisme niet enkel voor ‘femmes’ is: “er is dus nu een man die erbij is gekomen, wat leuk is. Het is dus nu enkel ik en Quentin op dit moment, en er zijn drie nieuwe leden, dus ik denk dat er verandering op til is, want met hun erbij zullen er ook nieuwe ideeën en nieuwe plannen ontstaan.” Hollaback! Brussel en hun associatie met holebi verenigingen zijn een goed voorbeeld van hoe feministische organisaties partneren met andere verenigingen om steun te bieden aan de slachtoffers van gendergerelateerd geweld.

Ingrid en haar team hebben geen tekort aan nieuwe ideeën, gaande van het inzamelen van verhalen, het gebruiken van die ervaringen om onderzoek te verrichten, tot het bezoeken van scholen. “We hebben een creatief projecteren voor op school dat we zouden willen gebruiken als we de fondsen ervoor verwerven” “We willen ook een doos met kaarten ontwikkelen om die te geven aan de daders… We willen mensen een soort van ‘reactie kit’ geven. Het is niet overdreven wanneer Ingrid besluit dat ze “heel veel ideeën” hebben.

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“Who do you think you are?”

July 14, 2014 By Contributor

I was 14 and walking down the street to the local store, and a guy drove by slowing and whistled at me. I brazenly yelled, “Shut the fuck up!” to which he frighteningly yelled back, “Who do you think you are??! Fucking bitch! You aren’t even all that!” and threatened to get out of his car. Luckily he drove off, but it was a close call that could have ended very violently.

Optional: What’s one way you think we can make public places safer for everyone?

Educate men all throughout school that it’s NOT OK, and have all men  go through mandatory sexual harassment situations.

– RS

Location: San Pedro, CA

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“Perhaps they wanted my autograph”

July 13, 2014 By Contributor

Once again walking to my train along a main road. It’s summer.. so why am I wearing a suit jacket, knee-length skirt plus a scarf? Here’s why.

Along come two white vans. First one – no problems. Second one has three men in it who decide to start honking the horn, windows down, screaming at me over my headphones (which I use as a blocker).

Perhaps they wanted my autograph. Unfortunately all they got was me flipping the bird.

God I am SICK of this.

– SJJ

Location: Treforest, Wales, UK

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“I’m too old for this shit”

July 13, 2014 By Contributor

Recently, a man drove past me as I was getting in my car. My car has had a ding in the front fender for several years. He called me Sweetie. He shouted for me to let him fix my car, explained that he didn’t have a business car, but that he worked at a body shop, but didn’t want to say which one, and that he was trying to save me a lot of money by banging out the ding on the street right that moment, if I would only let him, and that he would charge me a certain amount of money, but if that was too much, how much was I willing to offer. He was relentless.

He pulled up next to me, with a passive, much younger female in the passenger seat, who never looked at me. I said NO from the start, clearly and distinctly. I said: No, thank you, I’m not interested, I’ve had this ding for years and it doesn’t bother me, I don’t understand the process of what you want to do to my car, and I don’t know you, or where you work, or who you are.

Finally, after growing more and more irate, he drove away super aggressively, furious in his face, body language, driving. I felt assaulted. He started off calling me Sweetie, and yelling/patronizing/berating me that I should let him do something for me, or else I was in the wrong. It felt exactly like dates I’ve had where I was treated with rage for saying NO. A few days later, I was unloading my massage table (I’m a licensed massage therapist) from my car, and a very young man, perhaps half my age (I am 46), asked if I would like some help. I’ve unloaded my table thousands of times after fourteen years in practice. I am twice this kids age. Still, he got angry, too, and turned on his heel, and angrily said, “I was only trying to help you!”

Two times where men/boys were trying to help me and furious at me for not allowing them. The age difference added insult to injury for me. I’d actually prefer to be called ma’am then this crap. I used to be street harassed constantly in the summer, due to having a curvy figure, and am thrilled with growing more invisible with getting older. I’m too old for this shit.

– Anonymous

Location: Seattle, WA

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