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Let’s Catch up to Egypt and Yemen
Dear Stop Street Harassment Supporters,
Every day I comb the news and social media for information about street harassment, and I often find inspiration from other countries, like Egypt and Yemen.
Both Egypt and Yemen have had national studies on street harassment (83% and 99% of women experienced it, respectively) and activists are successfully using the statistics to galvanize the media, the public and their governments to support anti-harassment initiatives. Just Monday, the Egyptian Prime Minister said a new law against street harassment was in the works.
Rampant Problem
The USA does not have a national study yet and no national government officials are addressing the issue. From stories shared online, however, we know that street harassment is a rampant problem in the USA. Women are evaluated by strangers, masturbated at, rubbed against, told to smile, asked if they want a boyfriend if they’re in public alone, told to do sexual acts, and sexually assaulted. New research shows it’s a problem most men who are gay or bisexual experience. Transgender individuals face some of the most violent forms of harassment – including murder.
We need national statistics to help us better understand the issue and to prove to policy-makers, law enforcement, and educators that this is a serious issue that must be addressed. We also need statistics to help us craft new policies. My master’s program in public policy included a course on statistics and that’s because it’s often stories + statistics + public support that = policy changes.
Donate Today to Fund a Study
Stop Street Harassment is now a 501c3 organization. Up to this point, I have self-funded all of the work of SSH. But now I am asking for YOUR help. Please donate today so that the USA can have its own nationally representative study. (Learn more about the survey.) The survey firm I plan to use is very reputable and in my day job at AAUW, we used them for a 2011 national study on sexual harassment in schools, which the white house recently called a “gold standard” for studying the topic.
While I have sent out letters of inquiry for a few grants, most places specify “no research” for what they’ll fund, so I am very reliant on the donations of people like you. The Razoo campaign ends in one week, so please donate today. (Scroll down to see what you get for donating and to learn how the data will be used.)
Thank you for all of your support,
Holly Kearl
SSH Founder
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“Rub against me and I’ll expose you”
Phase Two of the Ad Campaign
Last February, during a DC City Council Hearing, several brave Washington, DC commuters shared their experiences of being sexually harassed on the Metro buses and trains. At the same time, many of us – led by Collective Action for Safe Spaces – pressured the Metro into taking action on this issue (with lots of support from area blogs). Thankfully, the DC transit authority responded to the stories and campaigning. Among the many changes they’ve made, launched an anti-harassment public service announcement campaign in April.
At first the ads were on buses and subway platforms. Now they’re also on Metro cars and tonight, on my way home from work, I looked up and saw one! New ads will continue to be rolled out every few months to keep the content fresh.
I am very excited that commuters can see this ad and know that sexual harassment isn’t tolerated on the Metro system and that there is a way to report incidents that happen.
The Reports Are In
Here’s another piece of news about the campaign — One change we suggested the transit authority make was to start tracking ALL types of sexual harassment, not just types deemed criminal offenses (e.g. sexual assault). They agreed to do this and even created an online form to make it easier for people to report harassment incidents.
Recently, they released information about the number of reports they’ve received through September: there were 78 reports, including 39 incidents that were criminal. It’s impossible to compare numbers to the previous year since the tracking criteria and system is different but we now have a starting point to which we can compare future numbers.
I think this is all great progress and I’m really grateful I live in an area where I can look up during my commute and know that action is being taken to make the Metro system safer for everyone.
Hateful men set Sharmeka Moffitt on fire
UPDATE: In a weird twist, the FBI just announced that Sharmeka staged the whole thing. She set herself on fire. I still wish her a speedy recovery, both physically and mentally.
Imagine going to the local park for a run/walk, happy and healthy, and then leaving the park in an ambulance, with 60 percent of your body covered in burns because three men in white hoods set you on fire.
It’s horrific to imagine, let alone to live through. Sharmeka Moffitt, a 20-year-old woman in Louisiana, would know.
On Sunday, this happened to her. Not only did the three men set her on fire, they also wrote the initials “KKK” and a racial slur on her car. She is now in critical condition at a hospital.
“A Winnsboro Police officer who responded to her 911 call found no suspects or vehicles at Civitan Park where the attack allegedly happened, and the park has no surveillance cameras. Lewis said the state crime lab was analyzing several pieces of evidence.
Franklin Sheriff Kevin Cobb called it “a horrific event” and said authorities would “follow the facts and seek justice.”
Otis Chisley, the president of the local branch of the NAACP, said he was in touch with Moffitt’s distraught family. He said he was waiting for more facts before drawing any conclusions about what happened and that “everyone wants to move with caution.”
Regardless of the investigation’s outcome, Chisley said that racism and KKK activity remain a fact of life in the state.
“It’s prevalent throughout Louisiana,” he said. “It’s hidden but it exists.”
We do NOT live in a post-race, post-gender society. We live in a society where racism, sexism, and hate rear their ugly heads on a regular basis.
Crunk Feminist Collective has a powerful piece about this attack and its context as well as the following:
“And for all the folks who think Black women don’t use public parks for exercise because we want to maintain our hair styles, let this be an object lesson. Maybe Black women with modest resources who can’t afford to go to the gym don’t use public parks because those spaces are unsafe.
As of this point, the coverage of Moffitt’s attack has been minimal. I knew about it only because folks back home were posting info from local news sources. I guess it is left up to social media to convince the world yet again that violence against Black women matters. And I hope Black folks remember, too, that Sharmeka’s life deserves the same energy that we gave to the Jena 6 and to Trayvon Martin.
Sharmeka, you are not invisible to us. We stand with you in your fight.”
Amen. The Stop Street Harassment community stands with Sharmeka and wish her a fast recovery.
“This is the first time I’m sharing these stories”
Aly Neel is an American journalist and women’s rights activist based in Istanbul, Turkey. She regularly writes about street harassment and gender-based discrimination and violence and the social movements fighting to end them. You can find her on Twitter. This is a monologue she wrote and performed this weekend.
It’s New Orleans, and I’m hiding behind a chair. Holding my breath. Counting the seconds, minutes, hours that seem to creep by. It’s kind of like hide and seek, except I’m 22 years old and I’m hiding from my dad.
I swear I can my heart throbbing against my rib cage. He must hear me. He must know I’m here.
I remember every detail of that stupid chair. OK, it was a beautiful chair. Victorian, in fact. Mom really likes antiques. My hands are shaking, so I rub my palms along the green fuzzy but now kind of hard with age fabric. Dark wood. Smells a little like mothballs.
I remember laughing at myself for hiding behind a fucking chair. And then hating myself for it. I remember crying, silently though. And then really hating myself.
My dad never laid a hand on me. I’ll tell you a secret, though. Sometimes I kind of wish he had. Just once, maybe. It’d sure make the abuse seem more real. My feelings more legitimate somehow. More black and white.
No, there was just lots of rum.
Screaming. Rum. Cursing. Broken glass. More rum.
The other day I found a list on a crumpled up napkin. I love lists. But this one was different. Instead of wake up and do yoga, it started with “spoiled” and “lazy.” And where take a shower and cook breakfast should have been were instead “bitch,” “whore,” “slut,” “chicken shit,” “unsuccessful.” It was a list I wrote of all the things dad said to us growing up. So I wouldn’t forget. It worked. Every word triggers another nightmare, another screaming match we didn’t want the neighbors to hear.
Rum, yelling, Rum, dented cars, beaten-in cupboards.
The last two bullet points kill…”I wish you’d never been born,” he had said to my youngest sister with for once sober conviction and then one word, “unlovable,” which he told me after a really painful break-up.
After an especially bad fight – we call it Mississippi because my dad nearly killed us in a car crash on the border — I remember sickly sweet daisies forced in our hands and apologies fed to us. “We were so much happier before you girls,” he’d say if we hesitated. I was 9. I remember, at the age of 12, begging, tears running down my face, mom not to divorce dad. And she didn’t…at least for another decade.
But we didn’t talk about it outside the house. No, we were the perfect little family. Goes to church together, walks in the park together and then nearly kills one another behind closed doors.
I’ll never forget the day – it was exactly three months ago — that I realized no matter how much time passes, the scars from my dad’s abuse will remain with me. It’s been years since he moved out, and I still feel like I’m hiding behind a chair wishing he would just leave.
It took me nearly two decades to realize my relationship with my dad wasn’t normal. It wasn’t normal, and it was wrong.
I’ve been getting really drunk lately. Where each night I drink ends with me feeling impossibly, epically sick but somehow sicker than the time before.
The other night I went out with my friend Peter and his two friends passing through. I wasn’t even supposed to go out that night. But it’s just drinks, right? What started out as wine at the apartment turned into raki at the pub. And then someone ordered a round of tequila. I suck at tequila. I mean, I don’t know anyone who’s awesome at tequila, but I really suck. Somehow we ended up a reggae bar.
More shots. I lost count. The bar was completely empty except for two French girls in the corner. But we stayed. Parts of the night are fuzzy, but I remember never leaving the dance floor. Swing. Dip. Twirl. Shots…and then suddenly there was arguing. Peter took me home.
I learned what actually happened the next, head-pulsing morning. What I thought had been a relatively tame night of us all getting stupidly smashed and swing dancing at a reggae bar on a Tuesday night had actually been a bit more planned. For the last couple hours, I learned I was the only one taking shots. I was so plastered I had no clue. Oh and both of Peter’s friends made out with me on the empty dance floor. I honestly don’t remember a damn thing. Peter said he poured out at least four shots and took me home when it was “getting out of hand.”
At least nothing bad happened, he said, sounding relieved.
But it doesn’t feel like nothing had happened. Maybe I wasn’t assaulted, but I still feel used. And I’ve thought about it every day since.
But hey, you’re no victim if you’re drunk off your ass and making out with strangers, right? That’s what another friend told me.
Then there’s what happens every day when I walk out the door.
I could tell you another story about street harassment, but there’s no point. And which one would I choose? There’s hundreds. I’ve been leered at, growled at, spit on, stalked, called a prostitute. A couple weeks ago I was assaulted by a group of teenaged boys 20 feet from my front door.
Yeah, one incident of street harassment is traumatic enough but what really wears on you and whittles you away is that, like verbal or physical abuse, it never relents. It happens every day, everywhere. And, if you’re not careful, it can grinds on you so hard that at some point you can’t remember who you were before it.
It’s funny. People say I’m confident. Optimistic. Happy. And I am. But they don’t know.
I’m Aly, and I’m a victim of violence. I was never hit with punches. But I was hit with language every day at home, a word that has always been synonymous with fear, dread and rum. I was never raped but I was taken advantage of. On the dance floor with “friends” and then on the street everyday with complete strangers.
And the only thing worse than being harassed or abused is being re-harassed or re-abused. Every time people ask me what I was wearing when I am harassed or when friends told me, “He’s your dad after all,” when I confided in them or when a friend joked about the night at the reggae bar, I feel like it is happening all over again. And I just want to hide behind the stupid Victorian chair.
This is the first time I’m sharing these stories, and I don’t know any of you. For me that’s a big deal.
But I’m not alone. That’s the point. That’s why this matters. Because violence against girls and women isn’t always so black and white. It can be grey, insidious, barely audible and yet mind-numbingly deafening. That’s why, as incredibly heart-wrenching as it is, we have to talk about it and condemn it all – the harassment, abuse, violence – for what it is – wrong.