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“We have sent a Man to the Moon, and Women walk around with Mace in their handbags”

April 13, 2011 By Contributor

Lets see what have we done.

We’ve come a long way. Man on the moon, Satellite in space, heart transplants, liver transplants, all possible.

And yet, when we walk on the road, we do not look at each other, nod and smile.

When was the last time you walked to the market and smiled and nodded to every woman you met on the way?

You simply don’t. Men have done so much street harassment that each woman walking on the street, going to work, driving to work, going to the market, going shopping or simply going for a walk thinks that the man coming in front of her will pass a remark or stare at her breasts or try to at least brush past her.

And it is not unfair to say that men have earned this tag of being synonyms of harassers. It is a badge we have earned over the years after having stared at the breasts of almost every woman we pass by on the street.

Take a minute. Read this. Sit down. Think.

When was the last time your wife/daughter/sister went on a public transport and came back without even a single strange male trying to touch her indecently.

When was the last time you yourself were on a bus/train and saw some random man try and get close to a random woman and you made an effort to raise a voice against that man?

Most probably, you just turned the other way around and thought to yourself this happens everyday.

When was the last time you stood in the aisle while in a bus or a train and did NOT try to peek inside the shirt of the woman sitting on the seats?

Men must realize that every action they do nonchalantly does hurt the sentiments of someone a lot. We have created this whole big mess for ourselves wherein just because we do not speak out against injustice happening on the streets in the form of harassment we too get stressed. Every time the wife of the daughter goes out she has a story to tell when she gets back home. We have started this. We must come forward together as one to stop it.

We must educate the boy child from the very beginning that it is not alright to stare at random woman on the street. We must teach them to respect the fairer sex as much as they would respect a their own mothers. It’s not alright to pass remarks to woman on the street/bus/train/park & everywhere else. All woman are not their honey/sweetheart/sweetie.

Walk on the streets like you would expect other men to walk when your wife/daughter/sister is out walking alone. Seriously men, women’s breasts are not museum exhibits. It’s not alright to stare. It’s not alright to stare down their shirts. It’s not alright to turn back while walking and ogle at their waists and hips. It’s not alright to whistle. It’s not alright to pass remarks. They are NOT your honey. And no, she will not suck you or have sex with you or sit on your lap. Please keep your organs inside your pants. If you cannot control your urges, go help yourselves. Do not expect every random woman on the street to jump in the sack with you. They are not your playthings. Come together as one, reach out, voice out against street harassment. A little effort from all of us can go a long way in ensuring the women can feel safe on the street. It has to be a collective effort. One man alone cannot do it.

But you have to stop staring and ogling. You have to start re-thinking your actions. There is a very thin line between a gentle flirtatious glance and a stare that would make someone uncomfortable. If you don’t get the difference between the both of them, please do neither and help keep some women’s sanity intact.

Do we realize what have we done to this world? We have sent a Man to the Moon, and the Woman walk around with Mace in their handbags.

I would suggest, let’s send all the men to the Moon. At least Mace would be able to concentrate on manufacturing other toys that kids could use.

– @TbgDgc in Delhi, India

Visit his blog at: Desi Ghee and Coffee

This post is part of the weekly blog series by male allies. We need men involved in the work to end the social acceptability of street harassment and to stop the practice, period. If you’d like to contribute to this weekly series, please contact me.
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Propositioned outside the Ballston Metro

April 11, 2011 By Contributor

A man saw me as I exited the Ballston Metro, lit a cigarette, and walked over to stand next to me. He began by asking a question about a metrobus and then asked me if I liked him. He continued, saying he was on the DL, liked my voice, and thought I was sexy and wanted to know if I liked big black cock. Then he asked if I wanted to see his. After repeatedly telling him that I was not interested he finally left me alone and walked away, probably to prey on another guy.

– Anonymous

Location: Ballston Metro, Arlington, Virginia

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Female police officer’s dilemma

April 10, 2011 By Contributor

I find street harassment such a difficult subject, not because what I experience is particularly harrowing or serious, but hard to handle because of the nature of my job. I work as a Police Community Support Officer in an estate. When I am not with my beat partner, and especially in the summer months, I experience a great deal of shouting and very inappropriate comments. In an ideal world, the uniform should make me ideally placed to deal with these situations. In actuality it makes it so much more difficult. When someone makes these comments, as a female, you have two options, either to ignore it and walk away, which makes you the weaker sex, admitting defeat and allowing that behaviour, or you confront the person in question, which makes you a shrew, someone who is clearly over-reacting and that as a female is clearly only a step away from hysteria. Either way, you are normalising the harassers’ behaviour. In uniform this becomes so much worse. Should I ignore it, scuttle away and look meek and timid in front of the people that I am supposed to be policing? Or do I call them out on it, look like the heavy handed arm of the law, and possibly make a large incident out of what started as an inappropriate comment. I cannot imagine myself having to call for a van to pick up an offender because they cat-called me – “well sarge they said they wanted to pinch my arse.”

I am lucky in that most of the time I am with my beat partner, and on the rare occassion that someone will call out when he is there, he normally responds with a “oh you’re too kind”, or, “i’m taken sorry mate”, which is the best way yet of diffusing the entire situation.

I hate the way that as a strong independent female, doing a job that takes resilience and strength of character in incidents of street harassment it is clearly a no win situation. It seems all i can do is cross my fingers for a shift in culture.

– Anonymous m

Location: Southampton. United Kingdom

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No, officers, harassment, following and assault does not equal “flirting”

April 9, 2011 By Contributor

I was on my way back home from a party with some of my girlfriends when two cars stopped and the drivers began to call us disgusting names and asked us if we wanted to have sex with them. Not knowing what else to do we spit at the car of the men and continued our way as fast as possible. They became very angry about that and started to follow us, throwing things after us.

Even though we were a lot of girls, we felt instantly really scared and started to run, but they didn’t let go. When a police car passed by we ran on the street to stop it and asked the officers for help.

But after having checked the men’s licence they told us that they just wanted to “flirt” with us and that they saw no reason for further actions against them. When the police car drove away it was the first time in my life I realized that this kind of behaviour is tolerated and supported by considering it as normal.

Being left alone by the police we asked some male friends to accompany us home, which was like a second embarrassment, I think everybody of us just felt really bad and conscious of our physical inferiority which seemed to legitimate every kind of behaviour. We sweared to ourselves that next time we’ll make sure to be able to protect us ourselves.

– P.M.

Location: France

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“Being your natural self is obviously a crime”

April 8, 2011 By Contributor

I’ve really had enough! I only posted a story on here last week and yet here I am again.

You’re probably getting fed up of seeing my name! But this is the only place where I can share my harassment experiences and express how it makes me feel.

So, I haven’t really been harassed on the street. But I have been BULLIED on an internet site. And it’s starting to affect my life. The problem is, Im addicted to this site. I’ve been trying to come off the site but I’ve found it very hard.

I have a condition called OCD – Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. This means I get obsessed with things and cam easily become addicted to something. Luckily I don’t smoke or take drugs so Im not addicted to something thats putting my health at risk.

Anyway, on this website, I have got some good friends and there are nice people to talk to but there are also some very nasty people on there too. I can’t count how many times I’ve been insulted and critisised either because I rejected a man’s advances or had a disagreement with something. I would say 90% of the bullies were men.

I have seriously had it with people. I am a tall, curvy girl with a blonde bob. Because of these three things, I’ve been tormented over it. I’ve been called fat, ugly, miss piggy, porky, orca whale, basin head etc. Day in, day out I am insulted at least once. I am not the only victim.

Also, most of the time it is sexist insults e.g. slag, slut, whore etc. I have had rape, death and violence wished on me and Im constantly being told that Im worthless and stupid. This has made me feel bad about myself. I have zero confidence and Im always putting myself down.

Then to top it off, I get regularly harassed on the street – usually snickers, stares, snide remarks and catcalling. So that doesn’t help. I hate going out on my own. Im sensitive about the way I look. Guaranteed if I pass a gang or group of teenagers, they will laugh, whisper something or give me filthy looks.

I wish I could stop going on that site. It’s making me depressed.

I’ve started to feel that I should change. Because society does not seem to accept me for who I am. I am considering on losing some weight, growing my hair long and perhaps wear some make up. Being your natural self is obviously a crime…

– Clarice

Location: Wales, UK

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