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“You’ve got nice legs but your nose is too big”

April 14, 2017 By Contributor

I was 12 years old. I was walking along a busy street with my mother. A man leaned out of a car and shouted, “You’ve got nice legs but your nose is too big”. It made me feel scared and ashamed, and suddenly conscious of my appearance.

Optional: What’s one way you think we can make public places safer for everyone?

Educate everyone about equality, and how harassment affects people. Make misogyny a hate crime.

– Anonymous

Location: London, UK

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Northern Ireland: “There’s no Excuse to be Doing Nothing”

April 13, 2017 By Correspondent

Elaine Crory, Belfast, Northern Ireland, SSH Blog Correspondent

A striking image taken in the city of Birmingham, England, went viral this week; a young woman, Saffiyah Khan, facing down a man from the far-right, xenophobic English Defense League (EDL). In the photo we can glimpse at least two EDL members, their jaws set, chins tilted up, they appear to be speaking to – or shouting at – Khan. We can also see a Police Liaison Officer, speaking to one of the EDL members. The young woman, however, is smiling serenely at the enraged man who is addressing her.

The image captured imaginations, and the story behind it is one activists can learn much from. It transpires that Khan was a bystander who stepped up to defend another woman, young British Muslim Saira Zafar, who was surrounded by EDL members, shouting at her to go back to where she came from. Both Khan and Zafar, not coincidentally, were born and raised in Birmingham. Birmingham is a large and diverse city, an industrial giant in its time, exactly the sort of place that the EDL believe is theirs, given their stated aim to whip up tensions between the Muslim population and the white population. With a smile, Khan showed them how wrong they are.

Bystander intervention is one of those things that anti-street harassment activists have been advocating for a long time. In surveys, most people who have experienced public harassment have said that they wish someone had intervened on their behalf. It doesn’t happen much, though. It’s not hard to see why in a way, sometimes it seems dangerous, sometimes we’re in a hurry, the whole thing is more trouble than it’s worth. At the most basic level, though, I suspect it’s because we are raised in a world that puts individual before community always, or that sees community as something narrow and divisive, us’uns versus them’uns, in local Belfast parlance.

But things have shifted recently. After the Brexit vote in the UK, there was an immediate increase in hate crime incidents. After Donald Trump’s victory in the U.S. Presidential Election, sexist and xenophobic incidents increased, many citing Trump’s victory as evidence that “political correctness” had been defeated. One U.S. politician was arrested for grabbing a female colleague, pinching her genitals from behind, reminiscent of the president’s infamous “grab her by the pussy” comments. He did so after arguing with the woman in question and saying, “I love this new world. I no longer have to be politically correct”. The far right is on the march all across Europe, and while Geert Wilders was defeated in the Netherlands and Marine Le Pen looks likely to lose the French Presidential election, the levels of support they have found is worrying, and it is spreading.

In this new world where racists, xenophobes, homophobes and misogynists feel emboldened, we can no longer stand by when people get assaulted and harassed daily on the grounds of race, gender and LGBTQ+ status. This is this generation’s great activist moment; in the words of Saffiyah Khan, interviewed along with Saira Zafar a few days after the incident, “there’s no excuse to be doing nothing”.

We must educate ourselves about intersectionality, too, and understand that oppression often thrives where identities intersect, making a woman of colour more likely to be targeted than a white woman, for instance. When we speak of bystander intervention, we often urge male allies to be aware of their power to step in and divert harassment, and to speak to their peers about the sexist attitudes that underpin street harassment. This applies to all of us; we must be aware of how and where we wield power, when our actions might have most impact. And once we have armed our minds, we must be willing to act.

Hollaback! Ottawa chalking on April 9

Hollaback! is currently hosting online webinars on bystander intervention, and you can sign up here. They have also produced useful infographics that we can learn from and share in our networks, summarising briefly the basics of bystander intervention; the 5 D’s:

  1. Direct – directly confronting or addressing harassers, as Khan did, provided it’s safe to do so
  2. Distract – get in the way, ask for directions, speak to the victim about something other than what’s happening
  3. Delegate – ask for assistance from a third party, a security guard or transport worker for instance
  4. Delay – after an incident has happened, check in with the victim, ask if they need any help, etc
  5. Document – use your phone to photograph or video what is happening, and make sure you approach the victim with your record to see if or how they want to use it

This is necessarily brief, and the tip of the iceberg. During International Anti-Street Harassment Week, activists the world over shared inventive ways of tackling the problem. The goal now must be to spread the knowledge, widen the practice, and stand up against the tide of hatred which challenges the progress we have made as a society. Psychologists have long observed the “bystander effect”, whereby the probability of a victim being helped is inversely proportional to the number of people who witness the abuse or harassment. Saffiyah Khan bucked that trend, standing up to a gang of thugs in the midst of a large crowd with nothing but a smile and the power of being on the right side of history. We can, indeed must, learn a lot from her.

Elaine is a part-time politics lecturer and a mother of two. She is director of Hollaback! Belfast, co-organises the city’s annual Reclaim the Night march, and volunteers with Belfast Feminist Network and Alliance for Choice to campaign for a broad range of women’s issues.

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Thank You! Anti-Street Harassment Week 2017

April 11, 2017 By HKearl

If you participated, thank you so much for putting in the time and effort to join the 2017 International Anti-Street Harassment Week! Nearly 200 groups in 40 countries took part!! From marches to rallies to workshops to chalking to online campaigns and media interviews, thanks to YOU, millions of people were made more aware about why street harassment is a problem — and how we can work to stop it.

You can read highlights from each day (with photos) on our blog:

  • Day 1
  • Day 2
  • Day 3
  • Day 4
  • Day 5
  • Day 6
  • Day 7

People all over the world joined the Global Tweetathon on April 4 (see the Storify) and the various tweet chats.

We partnered again with Stop Telling Women to Smile for the International Wheatpasting Night. People participated from Berlin (Germany), Duluth (Minnesota), Albuquerque (New Mexico), New Orleans (Louisiana), Chicago (Illinois), New York (New York), London (UK), Bristol (UK) and Toronto (Canada).

You can see more photos from the Week + see the media coverage.

Thank you to Britnae Purdy & Elisa Melo for their help and thank you to all of our guest bloggers, tweet chat hosts, and event organizers!!!

WHAT DID YOU DO?
I’m creating the annual wrap-up report — please help out by completing this form so your actions can be captured. If you haven’t already e-mailed me photos (hkearl@stopstreetharasmsent.org) or tagged SSH in your photos, please do so!

SAVE THE DATE:
Next year the Week will be held from April 8 to 14, 2018!

WRITE FOR US:
Apply to be part of our next Blog Correspondents cohort! Selected members will write one article per month from May to August.

Please keep in touch and let SSH know if we can collaborate with or help promote your initiatives and efforts this year!

-Holly

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Microaggressions, Major Impacts

April 11, 2017 By Contributor

Guest blog post by Lindsay Linning

To write is the only form of catharsis I can find. Because as a coping mechanism, often all I can do in the moment is mentally file away the harasser, the location, the feeling, into the annexes of my mind, to ferment nicely until the time comes when I take to my keyboard to document and immortalise the incident. It is my small victory, using the fury it invokes to fuel a creative pursuit like writing.

In doing the research for my dissertation on males’ perceptions of street harassment in the UK, I have read countless accounts, many atrocious in nature, of instances of street harassment that have escalated into something more sinister. Sexual assault, rape, physical violence, for example. These stories serve as proof of why we must never perceive street harassment as innocuous fun.

In my own life I have been at the receiving end of stalking, public masturbation, and violence. This handful of incidents punctuate my otherwise mundane personal history of harassment in public by men, and are typically the anecdotes I refer to when substantiating my arguments for why this phenomenon must be taken more seriously by certain individuals. They are the incidents which invoke a look of shock, disdain or disgust in the face of the listener, or are met with a degree of incredulity – ‘There’s no way in my beautiful city that this could happen!”

Sensational stories involving sex and violence have a cinematic quality, stimulating the voyeur within us. They are the incidents which have made the men I know sit up, take note, and imagine for a moment or longer what it is like to be a typical female, leading a typical life, in the world today. They are valuable.

But what about those more frequent, more mundane, innumerable microaggressions? The ones we label as ‘not that bad’ and forget and accept because that’s what the world has conditioned us to do as women and girls? These too are valuable. The risk we run is that daily experiences are invalidated, overwritten and pushed out of focus by the more extreme stories we have become accustomed to considering more worthy of our attention. There needs to be space to acknowledge the seemingly mundane alongside the major.

It has been this accumulation of daily micro-harassments across my life that has collectively instilled a building fury within me towards the lived reality we contend with on a daily basis as females, rather than the more shocking and obscene experiences I’ve had.

My problem lies with men in cars. The car affords men a certain power in instances of harassment. With a car, no sooner have you been intruded upon than the perpetrator has sped off, leaving you powerless on the pavement. You can’t retaliate, you have no agency, and are left to shake off the incident, awash with anger and/or fear.

Sometimes I wonder if vehicles allow men to behave more audaciously in public in a manner akin to how the internet enables online trolls to unleash a side to their personalities that would remain unseen were it not for the anonymity afforded to them by the internet. People can use the internet and vehicles as tools to provoke, intimidate and threaten without bearing any consequences: they never come face to face with their victim. It’s a highly unequal game of cowardice. This is reflected in how some feel entitled to glare, ogle, shout ,gesticulate and blast horns from their cars to an extent I have found does not happen face-to-face on the street. Harassers in cars have led me to feel physically assessed, menaced, taunted and panicked. There are different nuances every time. If these men did this walking down the street, there would be repercussions: I could retaliate, report them, or alert fellow passers-by. Safely cocooned within their cars, however, harassers feel a sense of liberty and their safe space enables them to strip others of their own sense of safety.

Efforts must be sustained to ensure microaggressions of street harassment are not overlooked or dismissed. Because they too have a cumulative effect on the victim and while they may not escalate into more pronounced forms of violence, they chip away at women, reminding us that we are not out in the world on an equal footing with the men around us. Until the harm of living in this day-to-day reality is acknowledged, I’ll keep writing.

Lindsay is an MSc student at the University of Edinburgh in Sociology and Global Change. She’s working with the Edinburgh branch of Hollaback! and is researching street harassment for her dissertation.

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“He slowed right down and drove alongside me”

April 10, 2017 By Contributor

I was 7 months pregnant. I was walking home one evening. A man, who runs local estate agency, Besley Hill, was driving towards me on an otherwise empty street. He slowed right down and drove alongside me, leaning out of his car window, leering at me. I felt scared.

Optional: What’s one way you think we can make public places safer for everyone?

Make men think about their actions.

– Anonymous

Location: Chelsea Road, Bristol

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