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He tried to grab my arm
You don’t have to be walking on the street or use public transportation to be harassed it can also happen in the perceived safety of your car. I realized this the other day when I was waiting at an intersection that is on a service road that runs alongside the freeway. The on ramp isn’t that far from where my residential street ends and people will frequently sit there for minutes at a time trying to turn across three lanes of traffic to get to the on ramp lane at 7am in Houston. In the amount of time that they’re waiting to do this, they could have just turned right and gone through the light to the next ramp. After waiting for three minutes (because some people really are that obnoxious) I honked at the guy in front of me. He looks into his rear view mirror and immediately goes into action. (Mind you, if I had been a guy he wouldn’t have done what he did next.) He gets out of his car with an enraged expression and holds his arms out a s if to say, “What bitch?” I responded, because my windows were already down and I have no AC. “I’m in a two-ton vehicle and you look threatening. What am I going to do?”
I have another incident that really bothered me. It wasn’t necessarily on the street but it was still public harassment. I’m an introvert (read: quiet and introspective but not shy) and I can usually get away with sticking my nose in a book if I want to be left alone. I was out because I like doing karaoke, and I usually read between my songs. My usual tactic of trying to shut people out by reading wasn’t working this time because some asshat sat down next to me and eventually got to the point I knew was coming. He invited me to go home with him and I told him no numerous times. Finally, in order to escape him, I had to move a few seats down. When I was called up for my next song, he tried to grab my arm and I moved out of his reach. I found out later he had been harassing someone else too. I told the establishment about it and they kicked him out thankfully.
– Anonymous
Location: Houston, TX
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Weekly Round Up April 18, 2010
Stories:
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- On this blog, a woman declares she is not “walking sex” and decries street harassment, a man chased a woman on the subway platform in Hollywood, CA, a man treated a woman waiting at a bus stop in Dublin as if she were a prostitute, a woman shares her views on street harassment and declares no woman deserves such behavior, a Japanese man dry humped a woman on a train in Japan, a man yells at a woman in DC about her dog, a taxi driver and man on the street harassed another woman in the DC area, a man in Boston harassed a woman as she was getting ready to ride her bicycle, and a 13 year old girl in the UK says how upset she is that men harass her all the time.
- On HollaBackNYC a guy harassed a woman from his SUV,
- On HollaBack DC! a woman shares how HollaBack DC! helped her feel empowered to fight back against a street harasser, another sees a crotch grabber on the metro, and a man treats a woman like a dog with the way he whistled at her.
In the News:
- What does eve-teasing have to do with clothes?
- NYC Tracks reports on the rise in subway harassment.
Announcements:
- HollaBack NYC is looking for summer interns
- April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month. Here are 10 activism ideas for how you can raise awareness about this widespread problem and/or help raise funds for preventative programs and resources for survivors.
- Take two street harassment surveys and help researchers studying this problem.
- The submission deadline for an anthology on Queering Sexual Violence is extended until May 1, 2010.
- If you’re interested in becoming a RightRides driving team volunteer, email volunteer@rightrides.org – orientations will be occurring throughout April.
Events:
- If you’re in DC, attend Speak Up, Speak Out! on April 29.
- Sign up for Washington, DC, based Defend Yourself’s annual class on dealing with street harassers, being held on May 22.
Resource of the Week:
- The recently updated harassment map
“Give us a look”
I’m just 13 and from the UK and I’m sick of harassment too! I have large boobs which aren’t my fault, what do men expect me to do chop them off?! I should not be persistently harassed because of them.
Just yesterday me and my friend were walking up her street, there were two boys/men of between 20-25 in front of us. Suddenly one of them turned round, looked me directly in the eyes and wolf whistled. I, being used to this sort of thing ignored it but I could tell my friend was a little shocked. We walked passed them and then I heard the boy singing “Get your tits out, get your tits out. You’ve got big boobs you’ve got big boobs, give us a look” again and again. By this point me and my friend were a little scared and holding hands and to top it off there was another group of about 5 boys of about 15 ahead who kept looking. Suddenly the first boy ran ahead of us and screamed “I want you, how old are you? I want you” and my friend told him to please leave us alone. He wouldn’t so we began to practically run down the street, thankfully the boys ahead turned around and asked if we were ok and told us to walk ahead of them they “had our backs” but really we found the whole experience terrifying. If those boys hadn’t been there I dread to think what would have happened!
I don’t want to put up with this for the rest of my life. When will men learn it’s not cool, or funny? It’s demeaning and scary and HAS TO END!!!!
– Isadora
Location: UK
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He kept looking back toward me
Last night I had a pretty uneventful ride home on the Red Line, until I was close to my transfer at Metro Center. At Farragut North, some kid boarded the train. He clunked down next to some woman across the aisle from me, but immediately got up and sat next to me, asking if he could sit next to me after he did. I don’t own the train and people can sit wherever they want, but I knew this boy had different intentions. I immediately got up and said “I’m getting off at the next stop,” which was true, but even if it weren’t I didn’t want this kid sitting next to me.
As I waited near the door to exit, that boy would not stop grinning at me. Even my giving him dirty looks and rolling my eyes didn’t give him the hint that I was not interested.
He then started singing loudly, not realizing how annoying he was. Then I noticed him walk to the opposite end of the train car—I knew he was going to get off at Metro Center also! I started watching him like a hawk.
At Metro Center, I noticed he was walking slowly and kept looking back towards me. I came to a standstill because I did not want to walk past this kid. He finally started walking again, and when he was far enough ahead of me I proceeded again.
The kid was still in the vicinity and he wouldn’t leave people alone. I caught him checking out one woman, he hovered around another woman, and he stood next to the escalator, seeming to be waiting for me. In retrospect I wish I would’ve spoken up when I saw what he was doing, but remembering how people reacted the last time I called harassers out I did not want to go through that again.
I think he had some kind of mental issue because I sensed a cluelessness about him in his actions, but regardless, he freaked me out.
– Tired of Being Harassed
Location: Red Line, Washington, DC
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