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“He tried to drag me along”

February 5, 2010 By Contributor

My stories are pretty tame compared to others. My advice below is what is more important to publish. I was standing at a street light and a group of men in there 20’s walking past. One man put his arm around my neck and asked me to follow the group. He tried to “drag” me along but I shook him free. I was shocked because this was in broad daylight with plenty of people around. Some men have no shame anymore.

Like you say in your home page, there needs to be a cultural shift so women are not treated like sex objects. Everyone needs to be taught the lesson of respecting ourselves and others in primary and secondary school. But with the media, internet, music saturated with women as sex objects, this is pretty hard to change. But things we can all do is fight advertisers and the media to stop showing sexist advertising and to ensure we censor the web to get rid of porn. Porn, girlie clubs, prostitutes are degrading to women.

Also, if women want respect, they can’t dress like prostitutes. One simple thing women can learn to do is NOT dress sexy in public. I see many young girls now wearing skimpy clothes including dresses so short they barely cover their bum crack. Honestly, how can you expect men or women to respect you when you dress like sex is on offer? “Dress with respect” is the motto I would be graffitting everywhere. Women can dress pretty, classy but not sexy and definitely not slutty. The golden rule of thumb is the more flesh you expose and/or the tigher the clothing, the more sexy/slutty you look and hence the more respect you will lose. Just remember, dress like a sex object and you will be treated like one.

– anonymous

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[Blog admin’s note: Just want to state my belief that the way a woman dresses is NOT an invitation to harass or assault her or to treat her disrespectfully. Dressing “like a prostitute” is not an invitation to be harassed and women who are sex workers deserve respect and should not be harassed or treated poorly either. Men harass women wearing all types of clothes and even some women who are veiled get harassed. Changing how women dress is not the answer to ending harassment – ending the socialization of men to think it’s okay to harass and ending a culture of disrespect for women is the way]

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Filed Under: Stories, street harassment Tagged With: respect for women, sexual harassment, Stories, street harassment

Hell’s Kitchen Pervert

February 4, 2010 By Contributor

I was walking home from graduate school at around 2 am, on 9th Ave and 54th St, wearing a large sweater, leggings and rain boots. Then, a middle-aged white man in business attire, who was standing outside a bar said, “excuse me.”

I thought he was going to ask for directions, so I replied politely, “Yes?”

Instead, the pervert said, “Can I squeeze your little titties?”

I was so shocked that all I could say was, “You are disgusting,” and walked away. I looked back to see if he was following me, but thankfully he just kept standing there like a creep.

– LD

Location: 9th Ave and 54th St, New York City

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Disneyland Groper

February 3, 2010 By HKearl

“Violated. I just think, ‘How can anybody do that? It’s Disneyland,” said Christina. “I’m there to spend time with my daughter, not to be assaulted like that.”

A man allegedly groped a woman on a Disneyland ride in California. She was at the park with her 12 year old daughter. The  man and his friends had been leering at the two in the line and then during the ride the man reached over and grabbed the woman’s breast, cheered on by his friends. She pushed his hand away and he apologized.

The woman reported him to the park authorities and filed a police report; the man fled the scene. Anaheim police are asking that if you recognize either men in the photo (see video), to call Anaheim Police at (714) 765-3439.

The story is on ABC news and currently it is the most viewed. I’m glad it’s getting so much attention. This kind of crap happens more than people would like to believe. Good for her for reporting him and bringing attention to this problem. I hope he gets caught.

Jezebel covered the story too: “To Catch a Predator: How to React to Guys who Grope”

(Thanks Liz and B for the story tip)

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Harassment on buses in Pakistan

February 2, 2010 By HKearl

Via Islamabad Metblogs

Sadly, many girls and women in Islamabad, Pakistan, report feeling unsafe when waiting at bus stops and when riding the bus. Bus drivers were commonly cited culprits in a Daily Times article, with girls and women saying they used their mirrors to ogle women and blasted sexually vulgar music. Women and girls who must sit in the front seat also can be groped or otherwise touched indecently by the driver.

Because taxis are expensive but they do not want to be harassed either, some women and girls try to wait until the buses aren’t so crowded to ride them, but then that can make them late and otherwise inconvenience them.

The article says the government has considered women-only transportation, a cop-out and band-aid fix many other countries have opted to have in their big cities. The downside of course is they do nothing to check harassing men’s behavior and still leave women who wait at bus stops or who do not live along women-only bus routes vulnerable.

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Hey baby, baby/Whatcha want, you’re stalking me

February 1, 2010 By HKearl

Today I came across an anti-street harassment song called “Cat Calling” by The Dollyrots. Thoughts?

“No! No!
No! No!
No! No!
No! No!

Hey baby, baby
Whatcha want, you’re calling me
Dumb standing around the lunch truck so greedily

Hey baby, baby
Just another dog I see
Rolling in the dirt you’re barking up the wrong tree

So maybe you’re crazy
Never get a bone
Ooh you’re just too much man for me
Yeah maybe you’re crazy

Never catch me
You can’t make me

Had enough
I’ve had enough

Cat cat calling and I just don’t care
Cat cat calling so I’m out of here

No! No! Never gonna hear you
No! No! Never to be near you
Never to be near you

Hey baby, baby
Whatcha want, you’re stalking me
Bang bang your hammer
Caveman sensibilities

Hey baby, baby
Acting out a fantasy
I’ll get you so bad you’re crying for my sympathy”

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