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What men need to do for women to feel safe

April 7, 2013 By Contributor

This is a guest blog post for International Anti-Street Harassment Week 2013 by Lea Goelnitz, Germany.

Street harassment is a strategy to scare women away from the public space so they do not work or go to school, earn their own money, go into politics, make decisions, claim property and take power.

I feel harassed when I receive unwanted attention in the street (for the record, basically all of it is unwanted), and the only one who decides what is unwanted is myself. When I am alone in public, I am usually going somewhere deliberately. So when strange men talk to me or stare at me, that means it is assumed that whatever I am up to do is less important than what they are doing and it is fine to interrupt me and demand my attention.

Even if that does not physically hurt me, it destroys my feeling of security and shows me that my time and me as a person is perceived as less valuable compared to others. So the message to me on a personal level is that I am made to feel uncomfortable and out of place because I dared to be in the male dominated public space, where according to them I should not be. I am being punished for participating in everyday life.

If I ask male friends what precaution they take when they step out into the street, they are confused. They do not take another way, dress differently, behave differently, try not to be too drunk and go home earlier or take a taxi instead of walking. They do not do any of these things, meaning that they feel safe enough just doing what they want.

The permanent feeling of insecurity makes women follow unwritten rules to go out in public.

They are always careful, they are made to think about what to wear (although not at all relevant as a strategy to avoid harassment), avoid going out alone, go in groups or with trustworthy male friend, avoid being out in the dark, avoid certain routes, avoid to generate attention, change their body language and attitude.

We debate on the advantages and disadvantages of pepper spray and other “weapons”, we strategize on routes to take to places and on responses we give in which situation to which men, considering what is possible to do and say in regard to the amount of men, the level of aggression and if it is daytime or night time. We applaud each other when we managed to react in a way, which did not leave us feel powerless.

For all these efforts we are neither rewarded by feeling safe, nor are these restrains publicly acknowledged.

The women-focused victim-blaming approach did NOT result in a decrease of harassment, rape, murder and other gender-based violence. More women might report more crimes. But clearly they do not feel safer.

The women-only compartment in the Delhi metro inspired the Safe Urban Space Initiative I started with a friend in a Delhi neighborhood. Obviously, a women-only zone is backwards and no long-term solution. So the plan was to create women-friendly zones instead of women-only zones, in which men could enter, but in order to secure and to enforce a street harassment-free environment, these (half-seriously meant) opposite rules of what women follow in order to be safe, applied;

1. Men are not allowed to come in groups
2. Men have to be escorted by a woman, so that other women can see that he is ok.
3. Men are not allowed to approach and speak with unknown, in case there is need for communication, this can happen via the women who escorts him.
4. No cameras, no mobile phones, so that men cannot take pictures of women.
5. No staring!  If men are unsure if they are still creating an atmosphere of harassment, they have the option to be blindfolded
6. There is a total ban for men to be outside from 7.30 p.m. to 7.30 a.m.

The approach is perpetrator-based and solely focuses on what men need to do/ need to stop doing in order for women to feel safe.

Back in Germany, I got increasingly annoyed with the media coverage of gender-based violence outside of Europe. It is easier to talk about a (far away) country and portray that as barbaric and then not address the same issues at home, but instead using the same victim-blaming arguments.

This actually inspired a new initiative “There is no dress code for street harassment,” an online- exhibition of clothing. 

In order to shut down the re-occurring argument of blaming women for the way they dress, “provoking” men, the aim of the campaign is to visually demonstrate the range of clothing women are wearing when harassed.

Lea became an anti-street harassment activist when living in Delhi. Now living in Berlin, she is also involved in some anti- street harassment action.

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Film: “I AM THE MACE”

March 19, 2013 By HKearl

Kelly Gallagher is a filmmaker and animator working on her MFA at the University of Iowa. She makes radical and colorful films about resistance, revolution, and struggles against patriarchy, racism, capitalism, and colonialism.

SSH: What inspired your current film?

Kelly Gallagher: I’ve been wanting to make a film about street harassment for awhile, as it’s something that I’ve inevitably had to deal with for years since I’m a woman and we live in a violently misogynistic, patriarchal society. For me, “I AM THE MACE”  is about identifying myself as a weapon against street harassment. Like the mace that I carry with me, I too, as a woman can viscerally and aggressively fight back against street harassment.

“I AM THE MACE” is about tapping into our justified anger, and utilizing it to holler back, to look our harassers straight in the eyes and assertively and confidently shut them down immediately. Making films that explore ways in which we as women can visualize our own power and strength is so imperative because sometimes visualizing our own agency is what reminds us and inspires us to utilize it.

Find more of Kelly’s work on her website and her Vimeo page.

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New PSA: “Make a Woman Smile”

March 11, 2013 By HKearl

 Watch a new PSA called “Make a Woman Smile,” by Temple University student Kara Lieff.

SSH: I know you created another PSA for a college class, was this PSA for a class too?

Kara Lieff (KL): Yes, this was also for a class project at Temple University.  This PSA was made to fulfill a project requirement to use a form of filming called the Steadicam, so the class requirement part just relates to the style of filming.  I hope to make more outside of class in the near future.

SSH: Was there a particular incident that inspired your PSA?

KL: There isn’t a specific incident that caused me to make this PSA, but I have seen more and more people speaking out (through online articles I’ve read, clothing designs, and art) about this specific problem of women being expected to smile.  I wanted to contribute to this conversation, so I made this PSA to express my opinion that women shouldn’t need to smile for a stranger’s benefit or because women are expected to be pleasant at all times.  I hope to address a variety of specific street harassment issues with future PSAs.

SSH: Thanks!

Watch more of Kara’s work here.

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Song: “My Dress is Not a Yes!”

February 10, 2013 By HKearl

Listen to the new song, “My Dress is Not a Yes!” by Feminist Princess.

Lyrics:

My dress is not a YES, and I don’t want your compliments
So just leave me the fuck alone, yeah just leave us the fuck alone
I’m not cravin your desire, so ignore my sexy attire
Realize you think i’m smokin, but you gotta quit your gropin

I’m not tryina be rude, I just enjoy my solitude
Didn’t do this for your starin, just what I chose to be wearin
Don’t harass me on the street, make me feel like a piece of meat
When you ‘hey baby” me, tell me to smile, want me to stop and flirt a while

My dress is not a YES, and I don’t want your compliments
So just leave me the fuck alone, cuz I’m just trying to so straight home
I’m not cravin your desire, so ignore my sexy attire
Realize you think i’m smokin but you gotta quit your gropin

I’m just trying to avoid you, not your toy, got nothing for you
If you wanna stop and talk, just back right off cause i wanna walk
we’re not tryin to be rude we just don’t like your attitude
your street harassment’s gotta stop, you’re not exempt cause you’re a cop

My dress is not a YES, and I don’t want your compliments
Don’t touch my ass you’ve got no class, and you say “nice guys finish last”- yeah right!
The street’s not for catcallin, all the girls you wish you’re ballin
Realize you want my sex now but this dress is not a yes – heck no

When I asked her why she wrote the song, she said, “When I first heard the term ‘street harassment’, it really resonated with me. I wanted the lyrics to really illustrate the points we are making against street harassment; that it is unwanted and frightening to a large portion of women, that it is no longer tolerable in our society, and that our choice of clothing is not an indication of being open to or deserving of harassment.”

YES!

Feminist Princess is a feminist from Toronto who wrote this song from a position of frustration after experiencing street harassment since the age of 12. Follow her on Twitter & find more of her songs on SoundCloud.

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Interview with UK Researcher

February 4, 2013 By Contributor

Editor’s Note: Fiona Elvines is Operations Coordinator at Rape Crisis South London where she helps people who have experienced rape and/or childhood sexual abuse. She is also in her final year of PhD research at London Metropolitan University where she is studying street harassment.

Hollaback Edinburgh recently conducted an interview with her about her dissertation (The Great Problems are in the Streets: Women’s Experiences of Male Stranger Intrusion) and they kindly allowed me to excerpt some of it here. You can read the full interview on their site.

1. What led you to this research?

I came to this research initially through my work at Rape Crisis and thinking about how the impact of the routine intrusions women encounter from men on the street make it incredibly difficult to feel like you can move past an experience of criminalised sexual violence like rape. I wanted to know more about what women who have experiences along the continuum of sexual violence feel about intrusion from male strangers in public space, and how we strategise or make sense of ourselves through it. I was also really frustrated by the victim blaming I encounter in working in rape prevention and wanted to develop an evidence base for the numerous ways in which women already limit and adapt our daily movements based on men’s intrusive practices.

2. Why do you think this is under-researched?

I think that the study of all forms of male violence against women is still really young and that feminists have worked hard to capture the evidence needed for policy change on issues like rape, domestic abuse and childhood sexual abuse. As much as I think this focus has been and is necessary, I feel it’s resulted in a loss of interest in the routine aspects of men’s intrusive practices, missing a crucial aspect of women’s everyday experience. I also think male stranger intrusion is normalised, minimised and trivialised, and that the sheer frequency of intrusive encounters means forgetting is brought in as a natural coping strategy. The women I’ve spoken with have told me how, when they have spoken out about what they’ve experienced be it to friends or parents or a partner, they have been met with a response that minimises their experience of it, reframes the intrusion as complimentary, or simply tells her it’s just part of growing up. All of this has resulted in a lack of understanding in terms of the scale of the problem and the impact it has on women’s daily decision making, sense of safety and relationship to our bodies and our self. This is starting to change, particularly with the rise of blogs such as Hollaback and Everyday Sexism, which have meant that we are starting to get a sense of the extent to which women are negotiating men’s intrusion in public space and beginning to hear experiences that might help to validate our own.

3. What kind of response did you get when you put the call out for participants?

The response was amazing. I received over 150 emails from women within 2 hours of my call being tweeted.

4. Were you surprised by the response?

Completely. I really wasn’t expecting to speak to more than 20 women. I ended up with 51 participants who completed an initial conversation with me and then kept a diary of their experiences from 2 weeks to 2 months before talking to me again or sending through feedback about their findings and any changes or discoveries they had made during the course of the research. I feel the response itself demonstrates the extent to which women experience such encounters as meaningful in particular ways, and illustrates how spaces for us to talk about the meaning they have for us are difficult to find.

5. What would you say to people who have been street harassed?

The most important message to get out there I believe has to do with countering these early responses. You get to decide what does and doesn’t count as violence or intrusion or harassment. Your experience of it is valid and you get to choose the meaning that it has. I would also say that no one can tell you how you should, or if you should, respond, react or manage each encounter. Everyone I spoke with does some version of an escalation calculation to strategise their response based on perceived safety and personal contextual factors such as history, mood or simply tiredness. We can only benefit from an increase in women talking about experiences the whole way along the continuum of sexual violence. Hopefully moving us towards a more complete understanding of the complexity, impact and motivations behind men’s intrusive practices, and women’s resistance and resilience in the face of them.

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