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New Campaign in Costa Rica

April 16, 2016 By HKearl

ItsaBigDeal6Launched this week for International Anti-Street Harassment Week, It’s A Big Deal campaign “aims to raise awareness about street harassment, worldwide.

“It’s also about getting men to talk about it, because they are directly involved and it affects them as well.

Most of the time not taken seriously, street harassment is seen as a joke or an inoffensive game. However, its consequences are much more important than we think. Street harassment is a sign of structural violence that exists toward women in most societies; it perpetuates gender inequality and is a source of insecurity.

Because it is the problem of everybody (women and men), we need to talk about it. It’s A Big Deal!

It’s A Big Deal campaign was born on the campus of the University for Peace in Costa Rica. It is a project realized by two students for a course in “Gender and Media”.

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Filed Under: anti-street harassment week, male perspective, Resources, street harassment Tagged With: Costa Rica, engage men

Watch: “I Smile Politely”

April 16, 2016 By HKearl

Newly released this week, check out Ness Lyon’s spoken word piece “I Smile Politely,” performed by actress April Hughes. Director of Photography & Editor: Luke Bartlett.

Ness wrote about the back story for The Pool, here is an excerpt:

“I’d been harassed in the street personally as a young woman, and professionally I’d handled sexual harassment cases as an employment solicitor, but it wasn’t until I experienced street harassment in my role as a mother that I felt compelled to publicly speak out.

Last year, on a family holiday in Southeast Asia, the part of the world I grew up in and which I adore, a man in the street made a sexual remark to my 10-year-old daughter that left her feeling terrified. I asked her how she reacted to the man’s comment and she answered, ‘I just smiled politely and quickly walked away.’ I felt a surge of anger: how dare that man make my child feel she had to respond to being sexualised with a polite smile. I told her that if someone made her feel uncomfortable, she shouldn’t feel she had to smile. But then I hesitated, remembering the times in my teens and twenties when I’d been subjected to humiliating, provocative and threatening comments by strangers. Sure, sometimes I’d sworn or glared in response. And on one memorable occasion, merely responded with a look of pure disbelief when a man shouted at me to “smile love for God’s sake, it might never happen’…. when I was in a hospital. ON CRUTCHES.  But a lot of the time, I too had simply smiled politely, not wanting to offend….

I wanted to explore this issue the best way I knew how: by writing about it. I started by having lots of conversations with a diverse group of women, hearing about the various ways they all ‘smile politely’.

I wrote a spoken word piece about it, performed by actress April Hughes (at WOW Festival and in a video to mark Anti-Street Harassment Week)….

My daughter’s phrase of ‘I smiled politely’ was a refrain echoed by nearly every woman I spoke to about street harassment. I want us to change that conversation: why, when we talk about politeness in these situations, is the word usually in relation to the woman in the scenario, and not the man? Instead of expecting us to simply smile, men need to learn to ‘speak politely’.

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Filed Under: anti-street harassment week, Resources, Stories, street harassment Tagged With: spoken word, UK, young age

Day 7: International Anti-Street Harassment Week

April 16, 2016 By HKearl

It’s our final day!!

Here are photos from the week  | Here are the media hits

Check out the events that happened today…

India Tweetathon

Read the Tweet Chat Storify, by Safecity.

  • Canada: Hollaback Peterborough did chalking in the main downtown area.
4.16.16 chalking organized by Hollaback Peterborough - Canada 5 4.16.16 chalking organized by Hollaback Peterborough - Canada 3 4.16.16 chalking organized by Hollaback Peterborough - Canada 4
  • Chile: OCAC Chile will organize an event called Festival Respeto Callejero (Street Respect Festival). They will have music, stand up comedy, workshops, self-defense class, and activities for children [April 16, time TBD, Parque Bustamante]. ** THIS WAS POSTPONED DUE TO WEATHER**

Chile festival of respect April 16 2016

  • Costa Rica: UPEACE members did sidewalk chalking and more. Video by Sewon Choi.

    4.16.16 Upeacer class doing street action in San Jose, Costa Rica 5 4.16.16 CostaRica 4.16.16 Upeacer class doing street action in San Jose, Costa Rica

  • Ecuador: Hollaback Cuenca is hosting Café-Tertulia por Espacios Públicos Seguros and women came together to share their street harassment stories over coffee.

4.16.16 Ecuador event

  • France: HDR held an awareness event at a bookstore in Paris.
4.16.16 bookstore HDR Paris, France 4.16.16 bookstore flyering HDR Paris, France 4.16.16 HDR Paris France evening discussion 2
  • Germany: ProChange distributed cards against sexism and homophobia across Dortmond.
April 2016 ProChange card distribution, Germany 2 April 2016 ProChange card distribution, Germany 5 April 2016 ProChange flyers in Germany
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  • Guatemala: OCAC Guatemala did street action.
4.16.16 Ocac Guatemala street action 4.16.16 PDH Guatemala street action 4.16.16 Ocac Guatemala street action 2
  • India: 13 girls from Bandra Plot occupied a space generally used by boys – Safecity. Also, youth in Sanjay Camp and Dakshinpuri in India came together for a screening of a film on understanding gender roles.
4.16.16, 13 girls from Bandra Plot occupied a space generally used by boys - Safecity India 5 4.16.16, 13 girls from Bandra Plot occupied a space generally used by boys - Safecity India 2 4.16.16 youth in Sanjay Camp and Dakshinpuri in India came together for the screening of a film on understanding gender roles, Safecity
4.16.16, 13 girls from Bandra Plot occupied a space generally used by boys - Safecity India 9 4.16.16, 13 girls from Bandra Plot occupied a space generally used by boys - Safecity India 3 4.16.16 youth in Sanjay Camp and Dakshinpuri in India came together for the screening of a film on understanding gender roles, Safecity 2
  • Nepal: Numerous groups held a march against street harassment in Kathmandu
4.16.16 March in Kathmandu, Nepal - Naren Khatiwada 4.16.16 March in Kathmandu, Nepal 2 4.16.16 street play in Kathmandu, Nepal
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  • Philippines: UN Women Safe Cities and the Quezon City local government worked with the Tricycle Drivers Association to train 100 tricycle drivers (tuktuk drivers) on gender sensitivity and to come up with joint solutions for addressing sexual harassment and sexual violence against women and girls in public spaces. The workshop  facilitated identification of the role of tricycle drivers as partners in ending street harassment and promoting the new city law passed to increase fines and penalties against all forms of sexual harassment in public spaces.
  • Romania: FILIA Centre held a picnic to create a safe-space to talk about issues of street harassment and also distributed flyers.
4.16.16 FILIA Centre flyering and picnic in Romania 54.16.16 FILIA Centre flyering and picnic in Romania 12 4.16.16 FILIA Centre flyering and picnic in Romania 9 4.16.16 FILIA Centre flyering and picnic in Romania 4
  • Massachusetts: The Warrior Queen Initiative did chalking in Boston.
4.16.16 Boston chalking by Warrior Queen Initiative 2 4.16.16 Boston chalking by Warrior Queen Initiative
  • Georgia: Slutwalk Atlanta hosted a street event to raise awareness about street harassment.
4.16.16 Slutwalk Atlanta street action in Georgia 16 4.16.16 Slutwalk Atlanta street action in Georgia 17 4.16.16 Slutwalk Atlanta street action in Georgia 12
4.16.16 Slutwalk Atlanta street action in Georgia 22 4.16.16 Slutwalk Atlanta chalking 4.16.16 Slutwalk Atlanta street action in Georgia 13

  • Louisiana: Hollaback New Orleans did sidewalk chalking
4.16.16 Hollaback New Orleans chalking in Louisana 2 4.16.16 Hollaback New Orleans chalking in Louisana 3 4.16.16 Hollaback New Orleans chalking in Louisana
  • Maryland: Hollaback Bmore and Collective Action for Safe Spaces held a rally at the Ynot Lot, 4 W North Ave. in Baltimore.
4.16.16 Jessica Raven Bryanna A. Jenkins, Qiara Butler, Jessica Raven and Leah Michaels. Hback Bmore rally, MD 4.16.16 HB Bmore leaders Lean and Brittany. Maryland  4.16.16 Stop Stret Harassment board members Maureen Evans Arthurs and Holly Kearl, HB Bmore rally, MD
IMG_2797 4.16.16 Hannah Brancato - FORCE table, HB Bmore rally. MD IMG_2795
  • New York: Hollaback! hosted their annual rally against street harassment in New York City in Tompkins Square Park.
4.16.16 NYC spottheharassment 3 4.16.16 NYC rally - prepare inc 2 4.16.16 NYC rally - prepare inc 3
4.16.16 NYC rally 10 4.16.16 NYC rally - Hollaback HQ team‎ 4.16.16 NYC rally 7
  • Ohio: People’s Justice League did chalking.
4.16.16 Ohio - People's Justice League chalking 6 4.16.16 Ohio - People's Justice League chalking 7 4.16.16 Ohio - People's Justice League chalking 3
  • Washington, DC: Defend Yourself held a workshop called “Dealing with street harassment.”

4.16.16 Defend Yourself street harassment workshop in Washington, DC

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Because I wore a skirt that day

April 15, 2016 By Contributor

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Image by Jill Santos

I still get a nervous feeling in the pit of my stomach at gas stations when I’m alone. I would pull over constantly months after the occurrence while driving, in fear I was being followed again. I stopped wearing dresses and skirts for a while, my favorite things to wear. I was blamed for what had happened to me…

A man watched me at a gas station. I paid no attention, pumped gas in my car, and left as quickly as possible. I thought I was being my usual worry-wart self when I sensed he was following me. Through stoplights, unexpected turns, and neighborhood streets all the way to my then college campus I could see that man in his car in my mirror still lingering behind. After calling 911 and luckily having a faculty member help me, he sped away. Once when recounting this experience, it was suggested to me that this occurred because I was wearing a skirt that day and that is why he followed me after spotting me at the gas station.

So when I am out running in jogging pants and a sweater, I am getting whistled at because of what I am wearing? When I am in the grocery store parking lot in winter clothes and a scarf and getting inappropriate comments yelled my way, it is because of what I am wearing? When friends and I are hollered at when walking in the dark, it is because of what we are wearing?

He harassed me that day because of a skirt?

Street harassment is a learned behavior. How can it be addressed when we are focusing on the victim instead of the harasser?

Street harassment continues its prevalence towards anyone, wearing anything, anywhere. I cannot count the number of times I have been catcalled in my 21 years and it is disgusting at how frequent this occurs to myself and those around me. Hearing “smile, beautiful” or a whistle or “it was a compliment” just makes me cringe. Street harassment has become a social norm among cultures where this behavior is considered tolerable. Victims are the ones left to alter their actions and behaviors expecting these interactions to occur.

Although I think back often to that experience any time I feel anxiety creeping up or may feel even the slightest hesitation leaving the house in a skirt, I know now that I was the victim. I know I am not alone in the world with people experiencing street harassment daily. It may be difficult to think about your experience, let alone write it for others to read- but someone who reads it could relate it to their own experience and think “there’s nothing I could have done to prevent it from happening, it wasn’t my fault, and it wasn’t because of the way I was dressed.” At least I try to remind myself that and sharing your story could remind others too.

Jill Santos is a 21-year-old college senior, a califoregon girl. Follow her on Instagram @jiillionaire

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Women Should Not Be Harassed at UK Clinics

April 15, 2016 By Contributor

Earlier this week, author and Everyday Sexism founder Laura Bates spoke at an Abortion Rights event in Parliament on protecting women from harassment and abuse at UK clinics. She gave me permission to share the speech here, as part of International Anti-Street Harassment Week:

UK parliamentLet’s be very clear –this is not a debate about abortion. That debate already takes place, vociferously, elsewhere, from our parliament to our media to our universities to our streets.

This is not about freedom to have a conversation that is already happening widely. This is about harassment. It is about the aggressive, intimidating, upsetting experience of women being harassed at the point of access to a wide variety of different healthcare services, including reproductive healthcare.

This is not about protest, which could take place anywhere, it is about bullying women, making them feel anxious, creating a hostile and unpleasant environment for both service users and healthcare workers.

This is not a debate about abortion.

Because anybody who wants to have a real impact on abortion recognises that place to do so effectively is not at the point of access, but in and outside parliament, where policy is debated, not outside clinics where women already have the legal right to access services and should be able to do so without fear, harassment and intimidation.

The impact on women at what may be a very vulnerable, private and personal time must not be underestimated. Harassment doesn’t have to include shouting, threats or abuse to be deeply impactful and upsetting. Simply being shown some of the extremely graphic and sometimes inaccurate images protesters often hold, being filmed against one’s wishes at this private time, or being made aware that somebody is actively praying against you can cause huge emotional turmoil and distress. When a United Nations Delegation on human rights visited an abortion clinic in Alabama and experienced anti-choice protesters outside, they described it as “a kind of terrorism”.

Writing about their experiences of clinic harassment on Twitter, women said:

It made me feel like I was taking the walk of shame

It made me feel sick

I’ve never seen anything like that in real life

The protesters scared me

One woman wrote:

I used to work at an abortion clinic. Now I’d be too scared.

There is no reasonable argument that such harassment is necessary or effective, because there can be no reasonable argument that any woman reaching the point of attending an appointment with an abortion provider hasn’t already heard the arguments against abortion – because we live in a society where these arguments are everywhere. No woman grows up thinking of her control over her own body as complete and unchallenged, because we do not live in a society where that notion goes without loud and vigorous debate, and indeed, because we live in a society where our sisters in Northern Ireland, for example, are still denied such basic rights.

In fact, women are forced to hear other peoples’ opinions about abortion throughout their lives, as these Everyday Sexism Project entries show:

“While in year 10 my science teacher felt it appropriate to share his views on how he believed abortion was too flexible and should not be allowed up to 24 weeks. After telling him that I believed that it should be allowed up to 24 weeks he looked at me in disgust and told me that ‘those’ women should not be allowed to have children at all.”

“A male colleague told me men should decide about abortion law and time limits because women are too emotional and have a personal bias which is why we have 24 weeks which he says is “really late” and puts too much focus on “what the woman herself wants”.”

“In my 1st year at University I remember a young man standing up and announcing: “I would never date a woman who has had an abortion, this is disgusting, these kind of women are damaged goods.”

“My husband said that a women should be able to decide to take her top off for men if she wants to that she should have control over her own body but that a woman should not be able to have an abortion because that is murder”

“I was watching a discussion of abortion on a political panel show. There was one woman who kept trying to speak up while the men around her loudly spoke against abortion. She even tried to start sentences like ‘well since this is an issue that particularly affects women…’ but the man next to her said ‘hold on a second, let me finish’. The show went to commercial and moved on to a new subject before she got to speak at all.”

Across society, the voices we hear least in debates about abortion are those of people who have actually had one. Women are shouted down in these conversations because a lot of these conversations are driven by thinly veiled misogyny. The sexist idea that bearing children is a woman’s sole purpose and responsibility. The patriarchal notion that society has a greater right to dictate what happens to a woman’s body than she does herself. The misogynistic idea that women’s lives are less important.

That’s why it is so vitally important that at the point when a woman is accessing the reproductive healthcare which is her legal right, she is, in that moment, at the very least, able to do so safely, without harassment, bullying, shaming or intimidation.

This is not a debate about abortion. It is about harassment, misogyny and bullying.

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Filed Under: anti-street harassment week, public harassment Tagged With: abortion, bullying, everyday sexism, harassment, laura bates, parliament, UK

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