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Video: Erin Explains Why Street Harassment is NOT Okay

March 12, 2013 By HKearl

Check out this great episode on street harassment by Erin, one of Stop Street Harassment’s blog correspondents AND new social media volunteers. Go Erin!

(This is the UC Berkeley area news story she mentions in the opening.)

Stay tuned for part two next week.

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“…said no self-respecting woman ever”

March 7, 2013 By Contributor

By: Talia Weisberg, SSH Correspondent

Please note that this is a piece of satire, intended to showcase the ludicrousness of those who believe that street harassment is complimentary or not a big deal.

Personally, I love it when guys make unsolicited, off-color comments about me when I walk past them on the street. It just completes my day. My morning commute wouldn’t be the same if the group of construction workers (that I make sure to pass, of course) didn’t yell “hey, baby!” and make a comment about my physical appearance. It really boosts my self-confidence to know that they approve of the way that I look.

And when some strange guy on a crowded subway purposely rubs against me? It’s a high like no other. I know some people think it’s freaky and gross, but I prefer to take it as a form of flattery. Knowing that this guy appreciates my body so much that he wants to grope it just makes my heart sing.

I particularly enjoy when I notice a guy following me on the street. Awww! He thinks I’m so beautiful that he just has to follow me home and look at me for as long as he can. Isn’t that sweet? It’s like Edward and Bella’s relationship in Twilight!

But my all-time favorite is when a guy passes me on the street and slaps my behind. I’ll swoon if he also makes a comment about how pert my buttocks are, or something to that effect. The only thing that can top it is when a guy wolf-whistles while I walk by and stares at my chest. A guy who does that is beyond attractive. There’s nothing sexier a man can do.

Those uppity feminists who call this sort of behavior street harassment, and say that it makes them feel humiliated, need to get over themselves. Take the compliment where you can get it, ladies! If a guy likes your breasts, why shouldn’t he yell his appreciation at you across the street for the entire world to hear? What part of that is embarrassing? Why in the world would that make you feel even the slightest bit violated?

…said no self-respecting woman ever.

 Talia Weisberg is a Harvard-bound feminist hoping to concentrate in Studies of Women, Gender, and Sexuality. Her work has appeared in over 40 publications and she runs the blog Star of Davida blog (starofdavida.blogspot.com).

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USA: The Aftermath of Harassment

March 5, 2013 By Contributor

Photo by Allison Riley

By: Allison Riley, SSH Correspondent

Recently, I started working as a Community Organizer/Canvasser for the Rape Assistance and Awareness Program (RAAP) here in Denver. My job is not only to fundraise for RAAP, but also to educate the public on sexual violence, keeping in mind that everyone in the Denver community is a potential juror on rape cases that enter the courtroom. Indeed, when myths about such violence are perpetuated, it disempowers us as a community.

My seventh day of training as a Canvasser covered the topic of sexual harassment. The first part of the training covered what I already knew—i.e. that most victims never report incidents of sexual harassment because they fear retaliation or they assume that reporting won’t do any good. However, the second part of the training, “Effects of Sexual Harassment,” really resonated with me.

According to the RAAP training manual, emotional reactions to harassment may include “fear, hostility toward the harasser, anger, confusion, frustration, hopelessness, powerlessness, depression, humiliation, a feeling of dirtiness, fear of crowds, fear of being alone, denial and sadness.” The manual also cites AAUW’s Hostile Hallways study, which describes effects as feeling self-conscious, less sure or less confident, afraid, doubting the possibility of ever having a romantic relationship, and confusion or self-doubt. According to AAUW, such feelings play themselves out through behavior; thus negatively impacting a student’s education. For example, those who are frequently harassed talk less in class and have a hard time studying.

RAAP’s training manual also says that physically, a harassed person may experience nightmares, loss of sleep or loss/increase in appetite, not wanting to be touched or feeling the need to be touched, and stress-related disorders such as stomach/muscle/headaches, rashes and ulcers.

I loved how this training dedicated time to the effects of sexual harassment on victims, mainly because I can check off all that I have experienced. However, due to the tendency to dismiss sexual harassment as a minor annoyance, sadly I am questioning the degree to which society would consider these effects serious or valid. Here we reveal the significance of sharing harassment stories—sure they provide proof, but more importantly, they emphasize the degree to which harassment is harmful. I would hope that any decent human being would agree that symptoms of anxiety, stress, and sickness are certainly not the proper result of “harmless flirting”. If it was truly harmless, none of us would have to be sharing our frustration.

Overall, I have a greater understanding of the fear-producing aspect of harassment and how it can escalate beyond unease. Further, that the words and gestures of a harasser can also escalate into sexual assault and other physical violence. This is not to say that it happens to every single victim, nor is it assuming that each victim reacts the same way to harassment. Regardless, I encourage all of us to continue abolishing harassment and rape culture altogether through raising consciousness of not only the experience, but also the consequences of being harassed.

Do you have a harassment story to share? Did you experience any of the symptoms mentioned in this blog? Submit your experience here!

Allison is a 2012 graduate of Metropolitan State University of Denver where she majored in Journalism with a minor in women’s studies. Follow Allison on Twitter at @a_wonderlandd.

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USA: Let Me Do My Job!

March 4, 2013 By Contributor

By Lauren Duhon, SSH Correspondent

Recently, I read a blog post about a journalist who has experienced consistent harassment online through social media and e-mails after she broke the news about Jerry Sandusky at Penn State. The writer of the blog states that women who write about unpopular subjects are often subjected to threats, sexual taunts or harassment. From my experience, it doesn’t even have to be about a subject that is considered to be unpopular or controversial. As a photographer and a writer, men have constantly harassed me on the job.

Several times on interviews, sources have found it necessary to call me names that leave me feeling uncomfortable or comment on my physical appearance, such as noting a feature on my blouse that just happens to be near my breasts. Particularly, it creeps me out when a male source will touch my leg as a means of literally grabbing my attention. When I’m out taking photos, I’m usually confronted with men asking me for a private photo session or I hear them yelling “Hey, pretty photographer lady, that’s an awfully big camera you have!” Thanks for letting me know, stranger. I obviously did not realize I have a huge camera in my possession. Way to be creepy!  I’ve heard everything from sweetheart to dollface or received comments asking me “What’s a pretty girl like you doing at a place like this?” I’m capable of doing my job just like anyone else, regardless of the situation. The comments and scenarios vary, but it is always unwarranted.

However, when the subject matter has been more controversial or unpopular, I have found that sources tend to take me less seriously. Maybe because I am a student? Who knows? My thought is that they usually humor me because I’m a young woman. The second I ask questions, I don’t matter and they dismiss my existence.

It isn’t always like this, but being a woman often impacts my ability to do my job. According to the 2012 Byline Survey Report, more than 60 percent of newspaper employees are men. Having to earn respect in a field dominated by men is enough of a challenge, let alone having to defend myself when I am confronted with awkward situations and harassment. I fortunately haven’t had to deal with harassment in the work place, but I have read stories from female journalists about co-workers or editors who have invaded their privacy on a daily basis.

I also came across a tumblr page called Said to Lady Journos that compiles comments about female journalists who have experienced harassment on the job. One woman was asked whether or not she was studying to earn her master’s degree. When she said no, the man replied with,”you’re the perfect example of why there aren’t any women on the board,” when referring to a university’s board of regents. Another example is a comment from a contractor to a female journalist at a US military base in Iraq. He tells the reporter that, “if you got shrapnel in your ass, I’d be happy to take it out.” Out of line, obviously. One of the worst ones I read was about an Indian female reporter that was told by a café owner that she was a “cute little thing,” but she should be “running a 7-Eleven or something” instead.

The point is that I want to be able to go out on an assignment and take photos or write an article without unnecessary comments. To quote Joel Mathis, the writer of the previously mentioned blog post, “Women journalists shouldn’t have to be afraid to do their jobs because they’re women.” There is a level of respect that needs to exist, and this goes for any profession. Just because I’m a young woman and you see me out in public with a notepad or a camera does not mean you can approach me and say or do whatever you want. I have several colleagues of mine who often complain about similar situations.  Treat us as professionals, because everyone deserves it.

Lauren Duhon is a student journalist from LSU in Baton Rouge, La.

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USA: Free Lurkers with Gym Membership

February 27, 2013 By Contributor

By Natasha Vianna, SSH Correspondent

Photography by Randy M Ury Corbis

A few years ago, I signed up for a gym membership for the first time in my life. It was exciting! I am a mom so getting back to working out, losing the baby weight, and feeling good was all an amazing concept. And that’s all it ever was, a concept. By the end of my first gym visit, I hated the gym because of the men.

Day one at the gym included some cardio, some zumba, and some weights. What I didn’t realize is that my membership not only granted me access to the gym and childcare center, but it also included creepy stares from lurky men and free, new unwanted nicknames from the desperate.

My first day was horrifying. As I was on the treadmill, I felt so uncomfortable as I watched two guys walk behind me to just stand there and stare at my ass. And when I walked to the water fountain, someone strategically met me there at the same time to watch me bend over for a sip.

I never felt so uncomfortable in my life. The experience and the staring were in no way flattering to me. In fact, when I went home, all I could do was look for workout clothes that weren’t clingy. At one point, I even asked myself if I was dressing too sexy for the gym.

One evening, the scariest perk of my co-ed gym membership surfaced. A man from the gym followed me to my car at night. As I carried my 3 year-old daughter, he walked only a few steps behind us and I didn’t notice him until I was already opening my car door. Nervously, I locked her inside and asked him what he wanted. He insisted I give him my phone number and when I said no, he told me that he wouldn’t take no for an answer.

Not even a moment later, someone from the gym walked outside and startled him. I smiled and waved them over. He looked back at me and told me he would try again tomorrow. I never went back to the gym again.

So today, when I was talking to a male friend, I told him I couldn’t go to co-ed gyms anymore. He asked me why and I told him the story. His first few comments included: “Why would you go to a gym filled with guys?” and, “What were you wearing?”

I pulled out his male privilege card and reminded him that I was a woman and he was a man. Never in his life would he be asked those questions if a woman harassed him. Never in his life would he be asked if he was wearing clothes that were too tight after complaining about someone following him to his car. Yet, here I stand constantly talking about the types of harassment I endured and the first thing some people ask is how I evoked or provoked my mistreatment.

Women should be able to wear anything anywhere without worrying about a man’s ability to control himself. Women should be able to go to a co-ed gym and work out peacefully. Gyms should have zero tolerance for sexual harassment and should be concerned about the safety and well-being of their members. Some co-ed gyms have implemented designated areas of the gym for women with the machines women are more likely to use. While this seems like a solution, it’s a joke. The machines are usually shitty and only 1/10 of what is offered in the gym.

How awesome would it be to see a sign on every wall reminding members that sexual harassment is not tolerated? Or if a portion of every single person’s contract included a sexual harassment clause?

Have you ever been harassed at the gym? Share your story.

Natasha Vianna, a fearless activist and young feminist, is a freelance writer and blogger based out of Boston, MA. Follow her on twitter!

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