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Transgender Day of Remembrance

November 20, 2009 By HKearl

This has been Transgender Awareness Week and today is Transgender Day of Remembrance.

“Said Lambda Legal Executive Director Kevin Cathcart, ‘In all the work we do at Lambda Legal, we are fighting for a basic principle: everyone has the right to be true to their sexuality, gender identity and gender expression and to live, work and love with dignity and equality. This is a core American value. Yet transgender people in this country too often face harassment, discrimination and physical violence. This is unacceptable and must end.’

Transgender folks face a lot of street harassment, from both cismen and ciswomen (“cis” means people who identify with the gender identity they were assigned at birth).

For example, you may remember earlier in the year I wrote about assault incidents by cismen against transwomen in Queens. Two men assaulted Leslie Mora with a belt buckle in a targeted hate crime. Less than a month later, men shouted anti-gay slurs and threatened to slit the throat of Carmella Etienne. They also threw rocks and a beer bottle at her, and the resulting injuries left her in the hospital. The New York Daily News reported that “Etienne is now afraid to leave her home” and quoted her as saying, ‘The law will hopefully bring them to justice. I love being myself.’”

It is unfair and not right that just being oneself can mean so much hate and violence.

In the context of the work I primarily do (men harassing women), I want to share a few people’s thoughts.

On the Community Feministing blog, contributor Josh T. wrote about the specific harassment and difficulties transpeople face in public spaces.

I am trans bashed on the street constantly. People who present as cismen will start yelling, getting upset, moving to the other side of the street as if I am scary, a threat. Groups of teenagers will discuss me as I walk by; what ‘it’ is… I also experience this strange highbred of bashing and catcalling when someone simultaneously mocks my presentation and sarcastically expresses attraction. My experience is different from what ciswomen experience on the street. Ciswomen are followed and targeted by cat calling because of their proximity to fitting into the predefined role of men’s inferior. Trans folk have these experiences because we don’t fit. But both groups are targets of the everyday vocalizations that reassert male supremacy because we are the other. We are not men, so we are objects.

Blogger Bird of Paradox also wrote about street harassment a few months ago.

Street harassment happens. To me and to other trans women. Every day, everywhere. It’s cissexist and trans-misogynistic. It’s hate speech and it’s violence….Possibly the worst thing about it, in those moments when it happens and in thinking about it later, is the sense of helplessness coupled with the awareness of just how exposed, how vulnerable, how much of a minority we are. It’s depressing that cis people feel entitled to lash out with such casual violence in the first place – because, for them, there are no consequences for their hate speech. They’re not the ones who have to try to make their way through a life where they’re outnumbered by a ratio of thousands to one, a life where hostile scrutiny of their every move is the default.

To date, there have been 99 recorded murders of transgender persons in the United States for 2009. Outrageous. Yet there are police officers who trivialize and dismiss the harassment and assault experiences of transwomen. This is true for many ciswomen too, but officers also may unfairly judge a transwoman or question her identity, deterring transwomen from seeing law enforcement as a viable option for seeking justice and staying safe.

Rebecca Ashling wrote a comment about this on a Bird of Paradox’s blog post. “It would never occur to me to actually make any complaints about transphobic harrasment [sic] to the police. I know instinctively that I don’t belong to any of the categories of people they would take seriously.”

A positive recent change is that through The Matthew Shepard and James Byrd, Jr. Hate Crimes Prevention Act, crimes against transgender people are now recognized as hate crimes. This is the first time a federal law has included protections for transgender people.

Mara Keisling, the Executive Director of the National Center for Transgender Equality, said about the occasion, “Every day transgender people live with the reality and the threat of personal violence, simply because of who they are. This must end and it must end now. The new law provides for some vital first steps in preventing these terrible crimes as well as addressing them when they occur.”

I hope that the law does lead to an improved climate of acceptance and non-hostility toward all transpeople, including on the streets. And I hope that awareness weeks and days of remembrance like today can help, too.

Also, here are is good info for cispeople on how to be good allies and transgender 101 info.

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Don’t Grab An Ass Day!!

November 18, 2009 By HKearl

HollaBack DC! alerted me to the Facebook event “Grab an Ass Day!” scheduled for tomorrow, Nov. 19.  I looked it up. There are over 20,000 confirmed guests and 4,000 more who are maybe’s. I also found a Facebook group called “National Grab Ass Days” with nearly 300 members.

I hope that the 20,000+ people who say they plan to grab an ass tomorrow are joking and won’t. Because, wow, how inappropriate, how illegal (in many contexts), and how upsetting to the person being grabbed if s/he did not explicitly give their consent.

Regularly reading stories from girls and women who have had traumatic experiences where random men grab their ass and other body parts while they’re in public, like on public transportation, makes me extra not okay with this event. Sure, if you’re among friends and everyone agrees (w/out peer pressure) to do this, whatever, it’s your life. But will people really seek consent before grabbing? And an event like this, portrayed in a light-hearted joking way, detracts from the seriousness of sexual assault and the way it negatively impacts people’s lives.

What would be better than Grab An Ass Day is a Don’t Grab An Ass  Day. Get a huge facebook group of people who vow NOT to grab an ass that day (unless they have consent) and raise awareness about the problem of  unwanted groping and other forms of sexual assault. Hell, why not take it a step further and get people to vow not to commit any form of sexual assault? That would really be a day I could get behind (lol).

(By the way, I posted a message on the Facebook event page saying I hoped people wouldn’t participate and it’s inappropriate etc and someone just sent me a message saying “grab an ass.” No thanks.)

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Celebrating FIVE YEARS of building safer communities

September 4, 2009 By HKearl

I’m happy to pass along news about an exciting milestone and celebratory event for my NYC friends RightRides. RightRides offers LGBTQ folks and women safe, free rides home Friday & Saturday nights. Co-founder and executive director Oraia Reid says,

“We’ve reached incredible milestones this year – 2,000 safe rides home and five years of service!…RightRides is made possible thanks to over 150 driving team and dispatching volunteers, our vehicle sponsor Zipcar and the generosity of supporters like you! Please celebrate with us at the Friends of RightRides Social!”

Friends of RightRides Social

Tuesday, September 22nd, 2009
Anthony Lawrence–Belfair Showroom
53 West 23rd Street, 9th Floor
New York, New York
6 – 9 p.m.

Roaring ’20’s and 30’s swing music provided by Michael Arenella and his Dreamland Orchestra. Hors d’oeuvres will be served plus complimentary wine and spirits from St-Germain, Smirnoff, Tanqueray, Admiral Imports. There will be a silent auction, awards ceremony, VIP special reception and more! Semi-formal or business attire requested.

With the Distinguished Defender Awards honoring:

Joanne Smith, Executive Director & Founder,
Girls for Gender Equity

Sonia Ossorio, President,
New York City Chapter, National Organization for Women

2 RightRides Volunteers (to be announced)

Tickets

  • $125 VIP ticket rate, includes private event reception, drink specials, incredible gift bags and more!
  • $50 general admission ticket offered until Tuesday, September 15th $75 thereafter and at door
  • Are you a RightRides volunteer? You receive complimentary admission and can bring a guest for a discounted ticket rate. Are you a student or do you work in the non profit sector? We can offer you a discounted ticket rate too. Please contact us for more info!

All funds raised directly support RightRides, offering women and LGBTQ individuals a free, late night ride home to address gender-based assault. $15 of every ticket is non-deductible. For every general admission ticket sold, RightRides can provide 5 safe rides home. Thank you for your support. Thank you to our Supreme Supporter Sponsor Citi Community Relations and our Progressive Protector Sponsor Zipcar.

Learn more or purchase tickets

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Anti-Street Harassment Summer Camp in IL

July 23, 2009 By HKearl

CTADATE: Saturday August 1st
TIME:
11 a.m. to 5 p.m.
LOCATION:
University of Illinois at Chicago Forum, 725 W. Roosevelt Road, Chicago, IL
MORE:
This event is FREE and open to youth and adults.  Registration is REQUIRED.  RSVP to rpywat@hotmail.com.

Anti-Harassment Summer Camp Program

Understanding Street Harassment
11 a.m. to 12:30 p.m. — Street Harassment 101

Dealing with Street Harassment
12:45-2:00 p.m. — How to Launch Your Own Anti-Street Harassment Campaign in your Community.

2:15-3:15 p.m. — Self-Defense Workshop by Impact Chicago

3:30-5:00 p.m. — Design a Citywide Anti-Street Harassment Public Education Campaign (including PSAs, Posters, etc….).

If you are an artist, photographer, videographer, graphic designer, etc… we could use your help on August 1st. Please contact Lillian at 773-759-1634. For more information about YWAT, visit www.youngwomensactionteam.org.
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Street Harassment Photography Contest/Show: Enter Now!

July 20, 2009 By HKearl

Calling all photographers!

In October 2009, Washington, DC, will be the site of the first annual Holla Back DC! Make DC Harassment Free day-long summit addressing gender-based public harassment, or street harassment. The conference will attract hundreds of activists, educators, and individuals from the DC Metro area (& beyond) for conversations about the problem and what we can do to make public spaces in DC harassment free.  Prior to the summit, we are hosting an opening reception where selected photographs from this competition will be displayed to raise awareness and prompt dialogue about the issue.

This photography contest is open to all individuals who can capture gender-based public harassment photographs in the DC metro area.  We encourage all entrants to be as creative and realistic as possible with their submissions. You may submit up to three photographs by midnight, August 12, 2009.  We will notify selected photographers by August 19, 2009.

Let your photographer friends and family know and encourage them to participate.  For more information and official rules, please go to: http://makedcharassmentfree.com/contest/index.htm

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(Note: I am one of the conference organizers and we are still looking for a conference site. If you have any suggestions of locations downtown DC that can hold at least 150 people and is low cost to free – so that we can keep attendence to the conference free – please contact me)

(& also, special thanks to my good friend Kira for designing the conference logo)

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