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How to Be a Good Guy on the Sidewalk

February 24, 2012 By HKearl

“A number of men have asked us the same question recently: if you’re walking on a dark street near a lady, how can you let her know you’re not a threat? So this week, we offer some tips for dudes who’d like to help women feel more comfortable in public spaces,” writes Anna North on Jezebel.

In her article, you can find suggestions for how men can be non-threatening to women. The advice is given by Neal Irvin, executive director of Men Can Stop Rape, Joanne Smith, executive director of Girls for Gender Equity, Emily May, executive director of Hollaback!, and me, founder of Stop Street Harassment.

Here’s one example of the advice:

“Make a call.

Irvin described a time when he was walking behind a woman who was becoming visibly agitated by his presence. One trick he tried to set her at ease was calling his fiancee on his cell phone. Obviously just making a phone call doesn’t mean you’re not a threat — but it could be a way of showing a woman that you’re not focused on her. Depending on the situation, this could be enough to make her feel better.”

Read the rest at Jezebel and share the article widely with all the good guys out there!

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Filed Under: male perspective, News stories Tagged With: be a good guy, girls for gender equity, hollaback, jezebel, men can stop rape

DC Metro does not track sexual harassment complaints

February 21, 2012 By HKearl

Tomorrow a group of Washington, DC-area residents and activists will share their experiences of sexual harassment on the DC metros and buses during the DC City Council’s performance hearing of Washington Metropolitan Area Transit Authority (WMATA). Chai Shenoy, co-founder of Collective Action for Safe Spaces/Holla Back DC! will open the testimonies and I’ll conclude them.

If you’re a DC resident who has been harassed or seen harassment occur on WMATA, you can still sign up to testify tomorrow (it will take place approximately 1-3 p.m. at the John A. Wilson Building) or write up to a 2 page testimony to submit for the record. RSVP ASAP to shannon AT collectiveactiondc DOT org

Apparently WMATA does not even track sexual harassment on their system and there is no dedicated hotline for reporting it. Unsurprisingly then, they have no PSA campaign as do many other major commuting cities. Consequently, we have three main recommendations when we testify tomorrow, including requesting a dedicated line for reporting sexual harassment and a PSA campaign telling people not to harass and what to do if they are harassed.

On Sunday, the Washington Post covered our intended action – and the story was reprinted today in the commute paper The Express. I want to respond to the following excerpt from the article (and please read the response of Collective Action for Safe Spaces and the response of a writer for the Washington City Paper.):

“Metro Transit Police Deputy Chief Ron Pavlik said his department takes reports of sexual harassment and sexual assault incidents seriously. He says the transit police have have not seen an increase in reports of indecent exposure, rape or other types of sexual assaults.

According to Metro, 84 cases involving sexual offenses were reported to Transit Police last year. They included one rape and 40 cases of indecent exposure or other sexual acts. Of the 40, 12 involved arrests.

Officials said Metro does not track sexual harassment complaints. But Pavlik said passengers who think that they have been sexually harassed should report the incident to Transit Police. Officers receive sensitivity training in handling such complaints, he said.

He cautioned, however, that a variety of behaviors could be considered harassment.

“Someone telling another person: ‘You look good. Can I have your phone number?’ — you may not like it, but I can’t arrest the person,” Pavlik said.

Reports including sexual assault and indecent exposure are investigated, he said.”

My response:

1. Wow, only sexual assaults and indecent exposure is being tracked? That’s not good enough. Most harassment is what they’re not tracking: sexual comments, sexual noises, leers, and whistles. No wonder Metro doesn’t think this is a problem — they don’t allow the full range of experiences to be reported/tracked.

2. Most gropes/grabs, a form of sexual assault, is not reported as a sexual assault because many people don’t realize that’s what it is. 84 reports of sexual offenses is likely quite low compared to the reality, then, especially when rape itself is so under-reported.

3. Without sexual harassment being tracked/reported, I guess Deputy Chief Pavlik had to use his own imagination to explain what women face: being told they look good, followed up by a polite request for their phone number. Or at least I hope that’s why he gave the example he did and not because he purposely wanted to downplay or dismiss the seriousness of sexual harassment. Regardless of his reasons, this is the outcome:

a) He simplified and distorted what actually happens in cases of harassment. Instead of someone saying,”You look good. Can I have your phone number?” (which, yes, is legal) street harassers tend to include sexually explicit language that’s inappropriate to use with a stranger and/or they often will not leave the woman alone after getting a “no” or a blank stare. Instead, the person will leer, follow, grab or continue with verbal comments until the woman feels harassed.

b) He ignored the context. A woman who has been grabbed, followed, attacked, mastrubated at or on and verbally harassed before (and most women have) may be pretty suspicious of any guy who approaches her and says a line like that, whether he intends to harass her or not.

c) He bristled up at the thought of “hitting on someone” being considered harassment and he supported the sexist idea that it’s fine (or at least legal) in all contexts to approach a woman and evaluate her looks and ask for her phone number. I bet 95% of women who ride the bus or the metro are just trying to get from Point A to Point B, not trying to get asked out on a date or have a stranger comment on their appearance. And if they do want to get asked out, they may want to be asked a few things about themselves first or have some light chitchat. Real life is not a movie or a gum commercial.

Again, if you’re a DC resident who has been harassed or seen harassment occur on WMATA, you can still sign up to testify tomorrow (it will take place approximately 1-3 p.m. at the John A. Wilson Building) or write up to a 2 page testimony to submit for the record. Let’s show them that sexual harassment is a real, widespread problem and that it constitutes more than just “Can I have your number” comments and thus, deserves real attention from WMATA and the city council. RSVP ASAP to shannon AT collectiveactiondc DOT org

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Filed Under: News stories Tagged With: chai shenoy, collective action for safe spaces, Deputy Chief Pavlik, sexual harassment, street harassment, WMATA

Snapshot of street harassment stories, news, announcements & tweets: February 19, 2012

February 19, 2012 By HKearl

Read stories, news articles, blog posts, and tweets about street harassment from the past week.

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Street Harassment Stories:

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HarassMap Egypt

Resist Harassment Lebanon

Many of the Hollaback sites

In the News, on the Blogs:

* Hura, “For the Harassers Only: Yemeni Women are not Prostitutes“

* The Sydney Morning Herald, “Low expectations, not necklines, to blame for misogyny“

* Jezebel, “Woman Gets Super Sweet Valentine’s Day Note Asking Her Not to Dress Like Such a Whore“

* Daily News & Analysis, “These women will bring you to your knees“

* Maps4Aid, “Street Sexual Harassment: 20 year old Student saves sister from molesters, beaten up.”

* IAfrica.com, “Miniskirts paralyse Joburg” and Washington Post, “South African women wear miniskirts, march through Johannesburg to protest sexual harassment“

* Khaama Press, “Afghan women suffer street harassment“

* NZHerald, “Friend watches girl’s ‘violent’ assault“

* The Morung Express, “A view on Dimapur“

* Women’s Web, “Talking about Street Sexual Harassment“

* Oppression is Yucky, “trigger warning sexual assault, street harassment, disordered eating, mental health.”

* Women Speak, “I felt like the perpetrator“

Activism Announcements:

New:

* College men in the USA share tips on how men can stop street harassment

* Women in South Africa marched against street harassment; women in Afghanistan held an event showing art and a documentary about street harassment

Reminders:

* SSH founder Holly Kearl is quoted in the March 2012 issue of Cosmo magazine with advice on dealing with gropers. Read an extended version of her advice on the blog.

* If you live in the Washington, DC-area, you can testify about harassment on the Metro system at a hearing on Feb. 22. Details.

* What were you wearing when you got stared at or street harassed? Submit your photo

* Start planning for International Anti-Street Harassment Week, March 18-24

* The Adventures of Salwa campaign has a hotline for sexual harassment cases in Lebanon: 76-676862.

* In Bangalore, India, there is a helpline for street harassment 080 – 22943225 / 22864023

10 Tweets from the Week:

1. @SpookSquad I can relate to that very high level of stress. MT@hkearl: woman w/PTSD says #streetharassment can cause her 2 have panic attacks, disassociate

2. @froovyjosie I think I am going to write a blog post about street harassment. And how f*cking frustrating/scary it can be. ARGH

3. @Lailaelrefai writing dissertation about sexual harassment in #egypt. sources are hard to find. please link me to any reports or books you know of. #EndSH

4. @iHollaback We’re on a call with our site leaders developing a cross-site cross-culuture survey on #streetharassment!

5. @NadaHKandil Walking to the bus stop with my neighbour,got followed by a construction worker who only stopped when a taxi driver shouted at him :/ #EndSH

6. @dopegirlfresh street harassment begins seems to have one source: a sense of entitlement. nobody owes you a hello. IDGAF what you think.

7. @WomenSpeakPro Street harassment makes women change their routine, become defensive and wary, as if they’re the perpetrators. womenspeak.tumblr.com/post/177142043…

8. @tanya_elena @hkearl actually, #sexualharrassment is much better on #wmata than Ny #mta. If only so much wasn’t from agency staff…

9. @jesseadamsstein Good opinion by @Jo_Tovey on sexual harassment on the street: as women well know, it’s not about what you’re wearing bit.ly/x2VpiI

10.  @jatshea I frequently give the finger to men who catcall me.

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Filed Under: Advice, hollaback, News stories, street harassment, weekly round up

Marching in South Africa, Art Exhibit in Afghanistan

February 17, 2012 By HKearl

March protesters, via Africa Review

Here are exciting updates about activism that took place today in South Africa and Afghanistan.

South Africa: Six weeks ago, two teenagers wearing miniskirts were harassed and groped by a group of 50-60 men at a taxi rank. This was reminiscent of a sexual assault on a woman wearing a miniskirt in the same area in 2008. That attack led to a huge march. Well, the most recent bout of harassment has too.

Via BBC News:

“Hundreds of South Africans have marched in Johannesburg [today]…The organisers said they wanted to end “patriarchal views still entrenched in parts of South Africa’s society”.

South Africa has one of the world’s highest incidences of rape.

Some men, particularly from traditional and rural backgrounds, believe women should not wear revealing clothing, says the BBC’s Pumza Fihlani in Johannesburg.

Minister Lulu Xingwana is going all out fighting for women's rights. PHOTO: TEBOGO LETSIE

The ruling African National Congress Women’s League said it had called the march to emphasise that women had the right wear whatever they wanted without fear of victimisation.

Several cabinet ministers and the governor of Gauteng province were amongst those taking part.

During the march, Women’s Minister Lulu Xingwana warned that she would close down the taxi rank if such harassment continued.”

It’s encouraging to see so many government officials involved, condemning the harassment. Via Mail and Guardian:

“”The scourge of women abuse threatens to erode many of the hard-earned gains of the liberation struggle. It denies women their birth rights. It condemns them to a life of fear and prevents them from being productive members of society,” said Minister of Women Lulu Xingwana.

Afghanistan: Young Women for Change (YWC) is hosting an art exhibit and poster sale today and tomorrow (2-5 p.m. each day) to raise money to create a safe, harassment-free Internet cafe for women (donate online). Many of the pieces of art and posters address the issue of street harassment in Afghanistan.

They’re also airing a new documentary on street harassment called, “This is My City too,” produced by Anita Haidary, YWC Co-founder and a film student at Mt. Holyoke College in the USA.

Via YWC - members of the group select the posters to display in the exhibition
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Filed Under: News stories Tagged With: Afghanistan, south africa, street harassment, Women's Minister Lulu Xingwana, young women for change

Snapshot of street harassment stories, news, announcements & tweets: February 12, 2012

February 12, 2012 By HKearl

Read stories, news articles, blog posts, and tweets about street harassment from the past week.

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Street Harassment Stories:

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HarassMap Egypt

Resist Harassment Lebanon

Many of the Hollaback sites

In the News, on the Blogs:

Image via The Guardian

* Common Ground, “On the revolution’s anniversary, men stand up for women’s rights in Egypt“

* Lauren Bravo is My Real Name, “In which I launch Operation Creep-be-Gone“

* Human Rights First, “Egyptian Women Face Setback at “Virginity Tests” Trial“

* Al Jazeera, “Egypt’s feminists prepare for a long battle“

* Thought Catalog, “Dear Gross Dude In The Club, Please Stop Touching Me“

* IBN Live, “Father dies after being thrashed by eve-teasers“

* The Guardian, “Uni Lad website closure highlights the trouble with male banter“

* PC Advisor, “Video: Commuter crush? Snap photo, post to new network of sites“

Activism Announcements:

New:

* Read an interview with Ghaidaa al-Absi, an anti-street harassment activist from Yemen who founded the Safe Streets Campaign.

* Read an interview with photographer Hannah Price, whose images of street harassers were displayed at the Philadelphia Museum of Art last fall.

* SSH blogged about an offensive Fiat ad that aired during the Super Bowl last weekend which made light of street harassment and objectified women. The post brought a record number of viewers to the SSH website.

* SSH founder Holly Kearl is quoted in the March 2012 issue of Cosmo magazine with advice on dealing with gropers. Read an extended version of her advice on the blog.

Reminders:

* If you live in the Washington, DC-area, you can testify about harassment on the Metro system at a hearing on Feb. 22. Details.

* What were you wearing when you got stared at or street harassed? Submit your photo

* Start planning for International Anti-Street Harassment Week, March 18-24

* Sign the Petition: “Demand Justice for Two Men Killed Trying to Stop Street Harassment“

* Read a Baltimore, Maryland, college student’s thesis on street harassment

* The Adventures of Salwa campaign has a hotline for sexual harassment cases in Lebanon: 76-676862.

* In Bangalore, India, there is a helpline for street harassment 080 – 22943225 / 22864023

10 Tweets from the Week:

1. EmptyNestExpat stunned today to learn a good friend is leaving #Istanbul because she doesn’t feel safe on the street due to street harassment.

2. sarahhuny I’m really tired of some men thinking that a woman should automatically be grateful and flattered by his attention #streetharassment

3. DaliaHosny Please report any sexual harassment incidents to 6069, if you got harassed during marches today . @harassmap #endSH #Feb11 #harassmap

4. iHollaback The Dept of State wants to come and visit us and learn more about #streetharassment! Very cool.

5. DesignerTi Catcall of the day: (me: walking and looking at my phone) Fool: u trying up call me? Me: who are u?

6. MareeGPhotos When your gonna catcall to a point where it pisses me off yes, I will make you look stupid.

7. hollabackWY Did you know Wales now has its first hollaback site to fight street harassment? Check them out here @GwynHollaback

8. MadamJMo Reading ‘Ann Veronica’ by HG Wells, written 1909. She has moved to London and experienced #streetharassment but won’t be frightened. Yep.

9.  MaiiNewaishy What’s amazing to me is the shock on a harasser’s face when the woman stands up for herself, yes we’re not silent anymore #endSH

10. ilibico #Tripoli #Libya the stop street harassment campaign “don’t tell me what to wear, tell them not to harass me” pic.twitter.com/uwxTHbGu

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