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India: Festivals & Street Harassment

September 9, 2013 By Correspondent

By Pallavi Kamat, Mumbai, India, SSH Correspondent

India is a diverse country; people of all faiths, religions, castes and creeds openly practise their way of life here. Needless to say, celebrating various festivals is an important part of life.

In Mumbai, the city where I stay, it is not unusual to find several places of worship almost adjacent to one another – be it a temple, a mosque, a church or a gurudwara (a Sikh place of worship).

Some of the most important festivals which this city witnesses are Holi (the festival of colours), Dahi Handi (which comprises a human pyramid constructed to break an earthen pot strung above), Ganpati (where the elephant headed-God is worshiped over a period of 10 days), Dassera (the celebration of the victory of Ram over Ravan), Diwali (the festival of lights) and Christmas (the birth of Jesus Christ).

You may now wonder what these festivals have to do with street harassment. You will be surprised!!!

The festival of Holi is traditionally believed to be a time of celebrating spring as also the divine love of Radha for Krishna. However, the festival takes an ugly turn as people look at it as an opportunity to indulge in all sorts of harassment including pelting women with water balloons as they walk down the street and rubbing colour on women’s bodies, including women who are not known to the men. There have been several incidents where women, who were pelted with these balloons on the train journey, have lost a part of their eyesight or gone bad. Due to such risks, a lot of women, including me, fear stepping out of the house as the festival comes near. Specially, on the day of the festival, I do not leave the comforts of my home till evening after all the revellers would have gone home.

The scene is no different during Dahi Handi. Truckloads of men move from one part of the city to another in their eagerness to form higher and higher pyramids to break the pot and win the prize money. Sometimes, these men tend to harass women passers-by en route; they pass lewd comments and do not hesitate to indulge in absolutely disgraceful behaviour. As a result, women, who would usually have been a part of these festivities to see who is finally able to claim the prize, hesitate to stick around.

Ganpati is my most favourite festival of all – it is when Lord Ganesha comes into our humble abode and stays with us for 10 days. It is also celebrated in a big way on a common platform – localities have a common idol complete with a theme and decorations. Going from one mandal (locality) to another – mandal-hopping – is a common thing for families in Mumbai and it continues late into the night. However, this seems to be marred somehow with the increasing incidences of eve teasing and molestation against women. In fact, this year the Mumbai Commissioner of Police has asked all the Ganpati mandals to ensure that there is no case of sexual harassment. As the accompanying picture illustrates, there are hardly any women on the last day of the festival – when Lord Ganesha is given a teary farewell by the city and exhorted to come again sooner next year.

While the kind of harassment faced by women during Holi is unique to the festival, the one faced during the other festivals is more to do with the sheer number of people out on the streets. The perpetrators of different acts of harassment simply take advantage of the crowds knowing well that it is next to impossible for them to be caught by the authorities. Also, if a woman does raise her voice, say against inappropriate touching, they can always plead innocence under the guise of there being little space as hundreds of thousands of people have descended onto the streets.

What men, however, fail to realize is that women have as much of a right as them to enjoy each and every part of the festivals that is so intrinsic to our culture. Women should not fear stepping out of their own homes worrying about harassment or molestation. If such acts continue, we would soon have celebrations which would feature only men.

Men need to make these festivals and their celebrations safer for women. If each one of them took a pledge to ensure a harassment-free experience for women at each of these events, it would make a world of difference, and not just to the women!

Pallavi is a qualified Chartered Accountant and a Commerce Graduate from the University of Mumbai, India, with around 12 years of experience working in the corporate sector. Follow her on Twitter, @pallavisms.

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“Asked me to get into his car and was asking me how much”

September 8, 2013 By Contributor

I had just left my boyfriend at around 8 p.m. and I was walking home. Just as I turned off the main street, a big posh looking car drove past, then the brakes went on suddenly and it pulled over near me. The window went down as I walked past and a middle-aged man asked me to get into his car and was asking me how much. Out of anger and humiliation I simply stuck my middle finger up and ran off.

The most upsetting part was afterwards, my first reaction was to call my boyfriend and ask him if I dressed slutty this evening. I was wearing thick black leggings and long baggy t-shirt. But even if I was dressed differently I shouldn’t have been ashamed. More so – I shouldn’t have been MADE to feel shame for walking down a street at 8 p.m. in the evening. It makes me sick to think that he is probably still looking for some poor woman to do as he says.

Do you have any suggestions for dealing with harassers and/or ending street harassment in general?

Education – Young men should be educated in the humiliation it causes women, and hopefully they don’t follow men who have done this before them.

– Anonymous

Location: London – near Westbourne Park

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Support for standing up against street harassment

September 6, 2013 By Contributor

It is not often that I get support from bystanders when standing up against street harassers.

I was walking up 11th Street and turned left on the corner to get on G Street, and I passed two men who were walking on 11th. One of them said, “Ooh, moody moo!” at me. I have no clue what that means, but said, “NO!” at him. A woman who was nearby smiled in support of me standing up to him.

Then as I proceeded on G, I passed a man who was sitting on the sidewalk and asking for change. He mumbled something weird and was looking lustfully at my ankles. I once again said, “NO!”, and when the harasser kept mumbling sexual-sounding stuff, I said, “Leave women alone!”

The same woman said, “Thank god for you!” and said something about how more people need to speak up against this.

“I have to,” I said. “It [street harassment] is ridiculous.”

The woman went off another way as I waited to cross a light, and I didn’t get a chance to thank her for supporting me in standing up against harassment. Usually when people see me standing up to harassers they either ignore it, think it’s funny, or tell me that I bring this stuff upon myself for taking harassment too seriously. So when I do encounter people who support standing up against street harassment, it feels great to know that there are people who think that this is a problem.

– D

Location: 11th and G Streets N.W., Washington, DC

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“All I could do was scowl angrily”

September 5, 2013 By Contributor

On my way back home from work, I was in a good mood because I was listening to the lovable minions’ cover of “YMCA”. So, I was walking along and a guy was approaching from the opposite direction. As he passed by me, he reached his hand back and tried to grope my butt. I immediately turned around to tell him what a scumbag he was, but all I could do was scowl angrily at his back as he walked briskly off before I could even open my mouth.

Thank you, random butt-grabbing jerk, for ruining my good mood.

– hinatathekawaiimono

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Verbally abused by Chicago biker: What to do?

September 4, 2013 By Contributor

I was on a bike, stopped at a red light on my way home. Suddenly a young man crossed in front of me on his bike and began screaming at the car behind me. The car came around me and braked in the middle of the intersection. A man got out and yelled at the biker but not as fanatically as the biker was yelling at him. The biker was screaming things like, “Oh you’re in a car. You dick. There’s a bike lane” etc. Then the biker turned to me and said, “YOU’RE A WITNESS!” I just stared. The light turned green. I said, “Um, can we go?” and the woman in the car next to me said, “Yeah, that would be great.” The man got back in his car and I biked past the biker.

That’s when things got weirder. This boy biked up from behind me and slowed down really close. It was a dark and isolated part of Cortland just past an underpass. We had this exchange:

Him: Hey. Hey! Why didn’t you defend yourself?
Me: Wait, what?
Him: Why didn’t you F***ING DEFEND YOURSELF?
Me: I didn’t think I was being attacked.
Him: Yes you were. That guy was F***ING YELLING AT YOU.
Me: Oh. Um… I guess I didn’t care?
Him: F***YOU. You are a f****ing c***. You know that? YOU ARE A F***ING C***.

He then pulled out a bottle of liquid (I think water, but I’m not sure) and sprayed me in the face with it.

He called me a “f***ing c***” and sprayed me in the face with a water bottle.

I was so stunned to be assaulted by this child over something that had nothing to do with me that I just pulled around on my bike as he sped past.

He must have thought he was defending all cyclists (and maybe women) and couldn’t handle the possibility that I wouldn’t be on his side. The thing is, I wasn’t threatened. I didn’t even realize the motorist behind me was even slightly annoyed.

For someone to take an instance that has nothing at all to do with him and use it as a platform for his own rage and anger management issues is unacceptable. I was a bystander and I was sprayed in the face and called a “f***ing c***.” Can’t imagine what would have happened if we had actually been in direct confrontation over something.

I think this person is dangerous. He is in his 20’s, very pale white. Wearing a Chicago flag baseball cap and riding a road bike. He has very long black hair, many tattoos, and a septum ring in his nose.

Is there anything I can do about this one particular person? Is there anything we can do?

– WR

Location: 10 PM corner of Elston and Cortland, Chicago, IL

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