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Why isn’t a “no” enough?

May 4, 2009 By Contributor

[Editors Note: On May 1, I participated in Blogging Against Disability Day and one commenter on my post shared the following about her experiences with street harassment and I thought it deserved its own post.]

Unfortunately, I do think that people with disabilities are quite vulnerable to this kind of harassment. Luckily, I have not experienced any sexualized harassment since needing to use my wheelchair, but I do get the people who just move you, who think nothing of pushing your chair out of their way, as if you weren’t a real person for them to have to even acknowledge – the fact that it’s your body they are moving means nothing to them.

However, back before I acquired my current disability, I was a dancer, one with fragile ankles. Once, after I’d broken my ankle and was hobbling along on my crutches, making my way to school, a man in a car pulled up along side me and offered me a ride. I was 14, and he was, at the very least, 40. I didn’t know him and politely declined, thanked him and kept on hobbling. He started to follow me, kept asking me why I was being so stubborn, how he could see that I was in pain, and he kept pressuring me to get into the car. I started to get more and more uncomfortable, even though he hadn’t said or done anything overtly threatening. (besides not taking my “no” as an answer, that is).

As I turned the corner to a one way street, he continued to follow me, going in the wrong direction, even. It was then that I went from creeped out to totally terrified: I could not have escaped him in my condition, and I think he realized that he was frightening me, because his demeanor changed from cajoling to demanding very quickly. He started calling me names, and making lewd suggestions; my ‘hurried’ pace made him laugh and taunt about how he’d have to drive faster now to catch me. Another car happened to be coming the right way down the street, at just the right moment, and the other driver honked at him, then yelled out his window to ask me if I was alright, so the driver who had followed me quickly backed up and drove away. Although nothing physically happened to me, that feeling of being threatened was just so intense, and I still think I owe that other driver a huge debt of gratitude.

–NTE

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Filed Under: Stories Tagged With: BADD, blogging against disability day 2009, bystander help, dancer, followed, sexual harassment, street harassment, wheelchair

Why isn't a "no" enough?

May 4, 2009 By Contributor

[Editors Note: On May 1, I participated in Blogging Against Disability Day and one commenter on my post shared the following about her experiences with street harassment and I thought it deserved its own post.]

Unfortunately, I do think that people with disabilities are quite vulnerable to this kind of harassment. Luckily, I have not experienced any sexualized harassment since needing to use my wheelchair, but I do get the people who just move you, who think nothing of pushing your chair out of their way, as if you weren’t a real person for them to have to even acknowledge – the fact that it’s your body they are moving means nothing to them.

However, back before I acquired my current disability, I was a dancer, one with fragile ankles. Once, after I’d broken my ankle and was hobbling along on my crutches, making my way to school, a man in a car pulled up along side me and offered me a ride. I was 14, and he was, at the very least, 40. I didn’t know him and politely declined, thanked him and kept on hobbling. He started to follow me, kept asking me why I was being so stubborn, how he could see that I was in pain, and he kept pressuring me to get into the car. I started to get more and more uncomfortable, even though he hadn’t said or done anything overtly threatening. (besides not taking my “no” as an answer, that is).

As I turned the corner to a one way street, he continued to follow me, going in the wrong direction, even. It was then that I went from creeped out to totally terrified: I could not have escaped him in my condition, and I think he realized that he was frightening me, because his demeanor changed from cajoling to demanding very quickly. He started calling me names, and making lewd suggestions; my ‘hurried’ pace made him laugh and taunt about how he’d have to drive faster now to catch me. Another car happened to be coming the right way down the street, at just the right moment, and the other driver honked at him, then yelled out his window to ask me if I was alright, so the driver who had followed me quickly backed up and drove away. Although nothing physically happened to me, that feeling of being threatened was just so intense, and I still think I owe that other driver a huge debt of gratitude.

–NTE

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Filed Under: Stories Tagged With: BADD, blogging against disability day 2009, bystander help, dancer, followed, sexual harassment, street harassment, wheelchair

Street Harassment Round Up – April 26

April 26, 2009 By HKearl

Stories:

A contributor on Holla Back DC wrote about getting harassed by a UPS employee. She reported him and received support from the person she spoke to at UPS.

HollaBack Toronto reported that two men abducted and sexually assaulted a young woman in the Younge St-Davisville Road area earlier in the week. Visit their site to learn more — anyone with information can call Crime Stoppers at 416-222-8477.

Reports:

MBTA released information about their sexual harassment campaign on their subway system (the T) in Boston. They feel it’s been successful in raising awareness about how to deal with the problem as groping complaints went up 74 perecent from the previous year and police arrested 24 people for indecent assault and battery (up 85 percent from the year before).

Upcoming Events:

April 29: Holla Back DC‘s Official Blog Launch Party, 6 – 8 p.m. at Cafe Citron

May 2: Girls for Gender Equity’s “Hey…Shorty!” documentary will be featured at the 8th Annual Women of African Descent Film Festival at 11 a.m., in the Spike Lee Screening Room of Long Island University, Brooklyn Campus in New York. Cost: free

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Filed Under: Stories Tagged With: 8th Annual Women of African Descent Film Festival, brooklyn, catcalling, girls for gender equity, Hey...Shorty, hollaback dc, hollaback toronto, MBTA, sexual harassment, street harassment, UPS

Fines for unnecessary honking

April 25, 2009 By Contributor

A common scenario is walking on the sidewalk on a highly trafficked road and getting honked at. It can leave you feeling powerless, because by the time you hear it and process it the one who did it is long gone. It can be jarring, scary and then make you wonder why you were singled out at all. Was it what you wore? Just the fact that you were walking on the sidewalk? This is unacceptable. Fines for unnecessary honking should be enforced.

-anonymous

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Filed Under: Stories Tagged With: car honking, drive by harassers, sexual harassment, Stories, street harassment

Leg grabber in Los Angeles

April 22, 2009 By Contributor

I was on a crowded bus in LA (express line, commuter hour) when a man sat next to me on my right side. He had a coat draped over his left arm. I assumed he was injured or disabled (he was an older gentleman) so I dismissed it and went back to my book. A few moments later I felt something on my leg. I looked up from my book and noticed that he was using the coat to disguise the fact that his hand was on my thigh – a few inches higher and it would have been in my crotch. Luckily when I’m grossed out I tend to reflexively scream and flail rather than freeze, so I screamed and flailed. He got up and quickly left the bus before I could get anyone’s attention (we were at a stop). I stood or sat alone for the rest of the ride and felt sick to my stomach.

-anonymous

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Filed Under: Stories Tagged With: groping, los angeles, public transportation, rush hour, sexual harassment, street harassment

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