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“I’m done with people thinking that street harassment is a joke”

December 4, 2014 By Contributor

Three times a week I take the bus home from my job as a nanny back to my house. The bus stop is located on a busy street, comprised of many people returning home from work at the end of the day. I am never waiting for more than about 10 minutes at this stop, and I can count at least 10 grown men staring at me from their cars every single day. These men range from men in pick up trucks, men in suits in fancy cars, or a group of 18 year old boys who think they’re going to impress or compliment me by smiling/nodding/staring/harassing me.

Today was the worst day; I’m a 22 year old woman and a 50 year old man yelled at me from three lanes over ʺI have an extra seat in my car for you!ʺ and smiled creepily. When I gave him a look of disgust he just laughed and rolled up his window. About five minutes later a group of three younger men rolled up and stared at me, one even having the audacity to stick his head out the window. Annoyed and tired of the harassment I said ʺCould you be a little more obvious?ʺ and they replied, ʺWe aren’t trying to beʺ and as they drove off yelled ʺsee you around.”

Do these idiots know how much this makes me hate riding the bus?

I have a RIGHT as a woman and a human being to utilize public transportation without being harassed. I have a RIGHT as a woman and a human being to read my book on a bench without being asked to hop in your car. I have a RIGHT as a woman and a human being not to be treated as an object. Obviously, these people don’t respect that.

These men don’t realize that this isn’t a funny joke. It’s not something I take lightly. I don’t like it, I don’t want it, LEAVE ME ALONE.

So frustrated and sick and tired and annoyed and done with people thinking that street harassment is a joke.

Optional: What’s one way you think we can make public places safer for everyone?

Have bus stops that are covered or at least somehow sheltered from the passing cars. The single bench on the side of the street makes me an ideal candidate to be yelled at.

– A

Location: Sydney, Australia

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16 Days of Activism: Day 10

December 4, 2014 By HKearl

Our board member Dr. Laura S. Logan and the Radical Notion, the campus feminist student organization at Hastings College in Nebraska, are handing out oranges today. Each orange has a statement or statistic about gender violence to help raise awareness on campus. (Laura and the organization’s president Kaitlyn Ayres are pictured.) #16Days#orangeurhood

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Bulgaria: Running while female – public response

December 3, 2014 By Correspondent

Diana Hinova, Sofia, Bulgaria, SSH Blog Correspondent

In an earlier post I outlined the findings from the Runners’ Survey on perceptions of safety in Bulgaria. In short, when asked about specific forms of street harassment while running, 15% of men and 51% of women report having experienced at least one form.

A lively discussion followed when the results were shared in the public Facebook group Running for fitness. Competitions. Below are some excerpts of the public discussion, in my own translation, names removed.

In my opinion there are some downright absurd interpretations, delusions and overblown comments (oh, the internet). Many runners were open to a discussion of the topic and its gender dimension, and it is encouraging to see some male runners sensitively try to understand where such concerns come from.

But please: take a look and make your own conclusions. One final word before I leave you to it – @takebackthetech is running an open video campaign on whether and how women’s voices and women’s issues around violence are silenced online.

A (man): This seems to me like a serious issue. 50% of women have been harassed in one way or another…

B (woman): Absolutely. It happens to me all the time, especially when running after dark.

C (man): I think it’s no smaller problem that it’s happened to 15% of men also?!?

D (man): And I worry that I startle people when I’m running in the park… haha. There’s no way to eliminate these obnoxious guys. If you encounter them, signal to the nearest fellow-runner! He will help you. After all not many women run after dark. Ladies, I suggest you run with a friend! Thank God I’m a man!

E (woman): That percentage among women seems exaggerated to me. I mean I take it many of them are just lying.

F (woman): Why would they lie ???

E (woman): Hahaha why do you think? For attention and to be popular. I’m at the gym right now. No one ever bothers me and in the gym.

There’s no unwanted attention. There are subconscious signals for attention, and poor selection of the place and time for sports. Well I’m not going to the local gym at Lavov most with the arabs and the gypsies. I’m not making sexy eyes at every man and I’m not “fearing rapists”. I’m not picking crappy clothes. Things like that.

G (man): Imagine someone has recently started running. They’re not sure what they’re doing to begin with, let alone look convincing to others. Usually it shows and maybe this contributes to malicious interest. People who have ingrained training habits since childhood probably don’t have this problem, but there are others too.

H (woman): [E], unfortunately no one is 100% safe. I’ve been assaulted twice (luckily with no consequences apart from the fright) and both times it was daylight and in populated areas. I wasn’t dressed provocatively, nor did I look insecure.

F (woman): I agree with [H], just didn’t want to argue with [E] because that’s a lost cause. Both assaults on me happened in daylight during the summer. […]

C (man): If the goal was rape, then that sounds really scary, not that getting mugged is a picnic, but…

If this is really the case and you encounter these guys so often … I don’t know, but somehow we have to bring attention to this matter. It may already be known, but not acknowledged…

Diana has a Master’s in Public Policy from Georgetown University and works as a consultant to INGOs. Follow her on Twitter @dialeidoscope or letnimletni.blogspot.com.

 

България: Да си тичаща жена – обществен отзвук

Според Анкета на тичащите за усещането за безопасност (виж тук), 15% от мъжете и 51% от жените са срещали уличен тормоз по време на тичане в България.

Данните провокираха разгорещена дискусия в публичната група във Фейсбук Бягане за здраве. Състезания. По-длу са някои от коментарите в публично достъпната доискусия, имената са премахнати.

Според мен има някои направо абсурдни реакции, илюзии, и преувеличени коментари (е, това е интернет все пак). Други бегачи са по-открити за обсъждане по темата и ролята на пола в нея. Окураващо е, че някои бегачи мъже се опитват наистина да разберат причините за подобни протеснения.

Но моля: прочетете и си напрвете свои изводи.

А (мъж): Top of Form

АА Това на мен ми изглежда като огромен проблем. 50% от жените са били закачани по един или друг начин…

Б (жена): Абсолютно. И на мен ми се случва постоянно, особено като бягам вечерно време

В (мъж): На мен ми се струва не по-малък проблем, че 15% от мъжете – също ?!?

Г (мъж): Aз пък се притеснявам, че понякога бягайки стряскам хората в парка…  haha Няма начин такива нахални субекти да липсват. Ако видите такива подайте сигнал на най-близкия колега-бегач!Той ще ви помогне. Все пак не са много бягащите жени в тъмното. Госпожиците, съветвам, да бягат с другарче! Господи благодаря ти че съм мъж!

Д (жена): За мен този процент при жените изглежа завишен.
Т.е. приемам че доста от тях просто лъжат .

Е (жена): Защо им е да лъжат ???

Д (жена): Хахаа а защо според теб ?
За внимание и за да се правят на интересни .
В момента съм в залата . Сама . Никой никога не ме закача и в залите .
Няма нежелано внимание. Има несъзнавани знаци за внимание , и лоша подборка на местата и времето за спорт . Е няма да ида в кварталната зала на Лъвов мост при арабите и циганите .
Няма да гледам прелъстително всеки мъж .няма да се “страхувам от насилници ” .няма да подбирам кофти дрехи . Е такива неща .

Ж (мъж): Предтавете си, че човек тича от скоро. Той самия още не е сигурен какво прави, камо ли да изглежда убедителен за околните. Обикновенно това личи и може би създава повод за злонамерен интерес. Хора с изградени спортни навици от деца едва ли имат този проблем, но има и други.

З (жена): [Д] , за съжаление никой не е застрахован. Мен са ме нападали 2 пъти (за щастие без последствия като изключим страха) и и 2та пъти беше през деня и на места, на които има хора. Нито съм била облечена предизвикателно, нито съм изглеждала неуверена.

Е (жена): Съгласна съм с [З] просто не исках да споря с [Д], защото там каузата е загубена. И моите две нападения са били по светло и през лятото. Едното на пътя след табелата Стара Загора, а другото в града по път, по който минават сравнително малко коли и който води до парка. Добре, че бягам сравнително бързо както вече казах…. Радвай се [Д], че не са те нападали…..

В (мъж): Какво значи нападали са ви? Искали са да ви оберат или нещо по-лошо? Ако целта е била насилване, това звучи доста страшно, не че обира е нещо незначително, но …

Ако на истина е така и ако такива индивиди са толкова често срещани … не знам, но трябва по някакъв начин да се привлече внимание към проблема. Ако и той да е негласно известен …

 

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#GivingTuesday 2014

December 2, 2014 By HKearl

Consider helping us in 2015 by investing in our work. Your tax deductible donation will be MATCHED.

 In 2015, your funds will help us lead 10 Safe Public Spaces Mentoring teams, our Blog Correspondents Program, an even larger Meet Us On The Street: International Anti-Street Harassment Week, a website redesign and overhaul, and more!

THANK YOU!

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Two Sisters Cause Harassers to Flee

December 1, 2014 By HKearl

Via BBC:

“A video of two sisters beating up three men, who were allegedly sexually harassing them on a moving bus in India, has gone viral on social media.

The men have been arrested and charged with assault, police said.

Friday’s incident, recorded by a passenger on a mobile phone, took place in the northern state of Haryana.

Violence against Indian women has been in the spotlight since the gang rape and murder of a student on a bus in the capital, Delhi, in December 2012.

The attack caused outrage and prompted India to introduce stringent anti-rape laws.

The latest incident happened in Rohtak district when the two students, 22-year-old Aarti and 19-year-old Pooja, were on their way home.

Younger sister Pooja told BBC Hindi that the three young men “threatened us and abused us”.

“The men started to abuse me and touch me. I told them ‘if you touch me again, you’ll get beaten up’. They called a friend on the phone and told him to ‘come over because we have to beat up some girls’,” Pooja said.

She said they decided to take on the attackers when other passengers did not come to their help.

“No one came forward in the bus to help us. So we took out our belts in self-defence [and hit the men]. If only the other passengers had helped us, we would not have needed to retaliate in this way,” she said.

However, the video of the incident shows at least one male passenger repeatedly trying to separate one of the men from the women.

The sisters said the men pushed them out of the bus when it came to a halt after some distance and attacked them again.

They said they retaliated by throwing a brick at the men who then fled.”

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