I was walking through a bar on the boardwalk.
I was going through a less crowded area when one of the two stocky guys standing against the wall yelled out to “sexy”. I continued to keep my eyes adverted and my head down.
A split second later when I had passed by, he yelled in a more aggressive tone that “I was a bitch for not saying thank you.”

I mumbled “Thank you” as I picked up my pace and was extremely shaken.
For a few years after I would respond immediately with “thank you” to any unsolicited cat call.
It wasn’t until a couple of years later that I realized I wasn’t the one who did something wrong! There’s a polite way to compliment someone and it’s rude to cat call. I don’t have to tolerate it and I surely do not need to thank anyone for that.
We must teach respect. Don’t treat people in a way that you wouldn’t want your mother, father, sister, brother, daughter, or son to be treated.
~ Anonymous
Location:
Ocean City, New Jersey
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Our board member Lani’s “Hey Baby” graphic was used last year by a Veteran Affairs (VA) center in Chicago for an anti-harassment campaign. The campaign has reduced harassment at the facility. Jenny Sitzer, the program manager, that implemented the campaign will be attending and presenting the campaign success in an internal VA conference this fall. When Lani was in town this summer, they presented her with a certificate and showed her the banners.
In June, I gave a presentation to the CDC’s Intimate Partner Violence/Sexual Violence (IPSV) Workgroup about street harassment and our two research reports, and I wrote articles for 
