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Harassed age 12

September 8, 2014 By Contributor

debo decir que desde hace ya mucho tiempo tengo muchas inseguridad a la hora de transitar por la vía pública esto desde que un día cuando tenía 12 anos de edad iba caminando tranquila y sin ningun miedo a nada, un hombre manejando una bici paso junto a mi, de repente senti como golpeo mi nalga y se burlo de mi, despues del acto huyo y su gorra se le cayó, al observar que se le cayo su gorra se regreso por ella valiendole que estuviera cerca de la gorra y que pudiera golpearlo o hacerle algo, el sinismo fue lo que hasta ahora no he entendido, no tienen miedo o respeto por las mujeres.

– LORENA

Location: querétaro

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BikeWalkKC wants Safe Streets in Kansas City!

September 6, 2014 By HKearl

Our Safe Public Spaces Mentoring Site BikeWalkKC in Kansas City, Missouri, USA, is already in the thick of their project.

1 – They are working to pass an anti-harassment ordinance in Kansas City. From their website:

“Many pedestrians, cyclists, and other vulnerable road users are experiencing harassment on Kansas City streets, and it’s hindering their right to a safe trip.

Mothers walking children to school, cyclists biking to work, and individuals waiting at the bus stop are just a few examples of the countless people who have become targets on our streets and in our neighborhoods, and it’s time for a change.

Harassment is illegal in many US states. Most states — including Missouri and Kansas — have statutes explicitly prohibiting “harassment.” These laws ban behavior like using “coarse language” or committing a “threatening, intimidating, or alarming action.” Many states also make disorderly conduct or disturbance of the peace offenses.

The problem is that — except for the most serious actions, like groping and assault — street harassment behaviors are rarely explicitly prohibited. That lack of specificity means that something like a suggestive comment or taunting, sadly, is often not legally recognized as harassment.

BikeWalkKC is dedicated to making our streets safe for walking, cycling, and other modes of transportation. As we build new bike lanes and sidewalks, tighter laws and education will be equally important. BikeWalkKC is working in concert with other organizations to pass Safe Streets KC, an ordinance that defines and prohibits street harassment.”

You can help out by SIGNING THEIR PETITION | TAKING THEIR SURVEY (if you’re in Kansas City)

2 – They are partnering with the University of Missouri-Kansas City Women’s Center to hold a workshop on bicycling, September 25, 4 p.m. It’s open to the public!

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News Round-Up: Sept 6, 2014

September 6, 2014 By HKearl

Check out the new group “Random Acts of Harassment”

Once again there have been a lot of really good street harassment articles lately. Here is a sampling:

Egyptian Streets:

“Colette walked down the Kasr El-Nil bridge, secretly recording with an iPhone. She held it by her mouth with headphones plugged in and pretended to talk on the phone. She pretended to be deep in conversation, looking straight ahead of her. Whenever she felt eyes on her, she turned the phone slightly towards them. The clip was filmed in a single 5 minute walk around sunset, as people often gather on the bridge after the temperature cools down.”

“I’m Polite, Middle-Class and Harassed By Police. Here’s Why.” American Prospect

“If we were really trying to do something about diversity and inclusion why wouldn’t you start young? Why not include diversity as a core part of the early learning curriculum?

After the police killings of Eric Garner on Staten Island, New York, and Michael Brown in Ferguson, Missouri, people have been talking again about diversity training for police officers. That may soothe the public’s perception of the problem, but that won’t solve the problem of police profiling of non-whites.

Teaching these principles to children while they are young might counteract negative beliefs. We try earnestly to believe now that it doesn’t, but these recent reports of police brutality show that we have yet to gain that gold star. If children are given the space in school to properly navigate diversity within the peers that they interact with, we might finally have a chance at building that post-racial society.”

“One Woman’s Lessons from Living on the Streets.” NPR

“Lesson One: Don’t Look Like A Woman

“It’s not easy to be a woman on the streets, OK?” Susan says. “We tend to hide our features. In other words, we will wear more than one sweatshirt to look more like a man than a woman.”

When darkness falls, Susan pulls out her dark and bulky clothes.”

Think Progress:

“Two pieces of content from Playboy.com have been noticed by the feminist blogosphere over the last week, garnering praise from an otherwise skeptical audience. One is an article about leaked nude photos of celebrities, entitled, “Jennifer Lawrence Is Not A Thing To Be Passed Around.” The other is a flowchart demonstrating when it is acceptable for a man to cat-call a woman. (The answer: never, unless you have her consent.)…

But the  company’s senior Vice President for digital content Cory Jones says the publication didn’t mean to rebrand with a feminist bent. “I never even saw that as a feminist flowchart, I saw that as a human decency flowchart,” he said in a phone interview. “Like, guys, don’t be jerks. Stop yelling at women on the street. It’s kind of depressing that that’s the state of feminism, that we say don’t yell at women on the street and that’s considered feminism.”…

But there’s historical — and current — skepticism over whether Playboy can successfully bridge the barrier between sexualizing women and empowering them, and it’s still really unclear whether Playboy.com can become a site that overcomes the jokes about being read ‘for the articles’ and actually be, well, read for the articles. FORCE’s Rebecca Nagle thinks that one thing that would help is if the magazine continued on its current trajectory and really embraced women’s empowerment — not just how it’s defined by men.”

Yale Gazette:

“For students who choose residence off campus, street harassment might be the final frontier of a still-skewed sexual climate at Yale. Because the issue typically flares up beyond campus boundaries, it’s easy to excuse this kind of activity as not within University jurisdiction or concern. But many Yalies do engage with the surrounding neighborhood; of those who don’t, few make it through four years without a Stop and Shop run or dinner at Sally’s Apizza. Street harassment is essentially an issue of a woman’s ability — or inability — to comfortably navigate the campus area. That makes it a Yale issue….

Yale still has a long way to go in repairing our own sexual climate, and the relationship between Yale and the New Haven community is complicated as-is — so addressing these microaggressions around campus will be no small task. But if we intend to make real changes when it comes to the safety and comfort of women and LGBTQ students, we can’t afford to leave street harassment out of the conversation.

Today’s Zaman:

“In İstanbul, women have to deal with harassment on a daily basis. Men feel that it is acceptable to make comments as women pass by. On public transportation, women are stared at and made to feel uncomfortable and unsafe. They are subjected to groping hands in crowded metros, buses and trams. Walking down the street, women must deal with even more stares and comments, as well as cars that slow down as they pass, with men often hanging out of their car windows to make insulting, indecent and sexist comments.”

The Gazette:

“Stella Hart, a student at Drake University in Des Moines, was walking to class in 2010 when someone leaned out of their car and yelled something at her.

‘I don’t remember what they said, but I remember feeling really threatened by that and uncomfortable,’ said Hart, now an Iowa City resident.

She called her mom, who told her to take it as a compliment. But Hart couldn’t understand how a compliment ‘could feel so awful.’

After hearing countless stories from friends with similar encounters, the 24-year-old said she wants to do something about it. Hart has organized an ‘End Street Harassment in Iowa City’ forum on Sept. 3 at the Iowa City Public Library where people can come to share their experiences with harassment.” More.

Women’s Web:

“This week, two teenage girls in Haryana, Nikita and Madhu, committed suicide by consuming poison.

Venue – their coaching class [in India].

Reason – they were being stalked.

The stalkers? – Some young men of the vicinity who were following them ( on two wheelers, at times), as they left the coaching class.

Action taken – some boys have been arrested now, after the suicides”

Huffington Post:

“Sometimes it’s hard for even the most empathetic of men to understand the level of street harassment most women face. So if you ever need to explain it to someone, this comic may come in handy.

Ursa Eyer, an artist based in New Orleans, was inspired to create a piece about catcalling after she had a particularly frustrating exchange with a male peer.

catcalling

“I made this comic in response to a conversation with a young man I met at a party,” Eyer told The Huffington Post in an email. “We ended up having the same conversation I’ve had a hundred times over, part of which includes the detriment of catcalling… I was inspired to illustrate my personal history of catcalling to show what it actually looks and feels like to someone who may have never experienced it before.”

University of Hamburg:

“Awesome Comebacks to Street Harassment” (In German)

Open letter to the gaming community

“We believe that everyone, no matter what gender, sexual orientation, ethnicity, religion or disability has the right to play games, criticize games and make games without getting harassed or threatened. It is the diversity of our community that allows games to flourish.

If you see threats of violence or harm in comments on Steam, YouTube, Twitch, Twitter, Facebook or reddit, please take a minute to report them on the respective sites.

If you see hateful, harassing speech, take a public stand against it and make the gaming community a more enjoyable space to be in.”

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Australia: The Slippery Slope of Street Harassment

September 6, 2014 By Correspondent

Corina Thorose, Melbourne, Australia, SSH Blog Correspondent

Street harassment is a hot topic at the moment. It seems like everywhere I look, people are discussing it. What it is, who commits it, whether it is an offence, or whether it is actually a compliment. I watched a segment on a panel show the other day, when the subject came up, and to my surprise, every single one of the women on the panel, declared wolf whistles to be a compliment. The women in question ranged from forty to seventy years of age, and each one said that they wish they still got whistles, that at this stage in their lives, they were no longer appreciated as being attractive, or deemed worthy of a cat call.

Well, this was food for thought.

I’m in my late twenties, and it’s never occurred to me what it would be like to be someone who doesn’t turn heads. What it must feel like to be undervalued because of your age. I felt bad for not considering every angle. But then something else happened.

One of the women asked, “Why do we have to pester men to change all their behaviour?”

Why?

Because f*ck you, that’s why.

Because the first time I got whistled at, I was twelve years old. My breasts had just come in, and maybe I looked a little older, but I can’t explain the feeling of shame that came over me as I heard that holler for my body.

Because the second time I experienced street harassment, I was thirteen. A road worker leered at me for so long, I felt frightened, even though he didn’t say anything to me. Did he know how young I was? Did he care?

Because when I was fourteen, a carful of teenager boys pulled over and asked me if I wanted a lift. What on earth possessed them to do that? What part of their brains told them that that was a good idea? And what would have happened to me if I had said yes?

Because when I hear a whistle, or am the subject of a look that lingers way too long, I feel devalued. Great, you think I’m attractive. I’ll file that under things I don’t give a f*ck about and move on. By all means, take a look. I looked at you. We’re programmed to notice members of the opposite sex, or even members of the same sex if we are so inclined. But we are not programmed to behave like horny animals. We don’t grunt and mark our territory. We have evolved.

Let’s say we stop “pestering the men about their behaviour.” Let’s say we okay the wolf whistle. If we okay that, let’s okay the the comment on my skirt. Let’s okay the narrative on how hot my tits look today. Let’s okay the guy who touched my arse because I’m wearing tight pants. Let’s okay the guy who won’t take no for an answer because he bought me the drink and I had a cheeky pash with him.

It’s a slippery slope. Street harassment is not a compliment. It needs to stop being the norm. It is a crime.

Corina is a journalist who is currently in a Masters’ program in Professional Writing. Follow her work on social media: @BrandosBride, www.facebook.com/theirownbells, instagram.com/theirownbells

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“I shouldn’t have to fight anyone off”

September 5, 2014 By Contributor

I was out one evening at a local pub, enjoying some live music with friends. We were off in a corner by ourselves, doing our own thing, dancing, and having a good time. A man came up to me and started dancing behind me. I sort of swayed for a minute while I debated my options and then I stepped forward and away from him. He grabbed my arm and pulled my back against him, pinning my arm to my chest. I pulled against him again and tried to pull away and he held onto my rest. Finally, my friends noticed what was happening and one of my male friends pulled me away from the guy and forced the guy to leave.

I’m not sure what I would have done had my friends not been there. The guy was drunk and wouldn’t let me go. I had bruises on my arm the next day and I was angry. What gives anyone the right to touch me without my consent? The fact that I’m a foot shorter than you, that I’m smaller than you, doesn’t give anyone the right to manhandle me.

It made me realize that I need to learn to protect myself, because I can’t use strength alone to fight someone off. The saddest part is, I shouldn’t have to fight anyone off. There is so much disrespect in putting hands on someone that never gave you permission to and it makes me so angry!

– ET

Location: Florida/Pub

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