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Hissed and grabbed in the pouring rain

April 21, 2011 By Contributor

It was pouring rain in New York yesterday and freezing cold. I was unprepared and left my umbrella and rain jacket at home, so I was already soaking when a strange man started making hissing sounds at me across the street from the Metropolitan Museum of Art.

I glance in his direction to see what the noise was and then continued walking when I saw it was some gross man. He then continued the hissing sounds and approached me, really quickly, it seemed, and said something like, “I got what you need” or some shit. I was extremely upset with just being hissed at and followed, and said “Don’t talk to me!”

But then he started grabbing at my hip. I was so shocked to have my physical privacy violated a stranger that I again screamed in his face, “Don’t talk to me!! Are you fucking kidding me??” and ran down the block, where I saw a crosstown bus waiting, and got on. I didn’t look back.

The worst part was that I noticed other people around me from the corners of my eyes and no one did anything to help.

– Anonymous

Location: 5th and 79th, New York City, New York

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Filed Under: Stories, street harassment Tagged With: assault, rain harassment, street harassment

A history of “aggressive male street flirts, or ‘mashers'” in the U.S.

April 20, 2011 By HKearl

Via Stanford University, this image is from 1906

An article on a Stanford University blog about the research of historian Estelle Freedman, the Edgar E. Robinson Professor in U.S. History at Stanford University, brings to light the long history of women’s resistance to street harassment. I include an excerpt below and bold some of the parts I found the most fascinating.

“Aggressive male street flirts, or “mashers,” were a widespread and vexatious problem for American urban women in the pre-suffrage era. [Freedman] recently encountered the term in old newspaper articles and editorial cartoons, while doing research for a book on the history of sexual violence in America. Unlike the stereotypical black rapist in the white press and in the 1915 film, The Birth of a Nation, mashers usually were depicted as well-dressed white men whose behavior was more irritating or comical than menacing. In this way, Freedman explained, the masher scare minimized the sexual threat of white men while leaving intact dominant fears of black men as violent rapists.”

“In America the term ‘masher’ initially applied to married men who approached women in public, or who frequented brothels. By the 1880s more sinister representations of mashers appeared. Cartoons showed them ogling women ominously in public spaces like Coney Island, which were becoming popular.”

The rise of the masher phenomenon reflected changes in American demographics. As industry supplanted agriculture, more single men were leaving their families for work in the cities. At the same time, more women were entering the public sphere on their own as shoppers, students and wage earners “Matrons ventured downtown to go to the new department stores, where they would encounter an increasingly young female sales force,” Freedman noted. “En route downtown, both shoppers and shopgirls might encounter the masher.”

One of the most interesting things about the masher problem, Freedman said, was the evolving public response to it. At first newspapers urged respectable men to play a stronger role in protecting women from ogling and catcalls. Gradually though, women began taking matters into their own hands. One of the masher cartoons shows an outraged shopper beating her tormentor with an umbrella.

When a crime wave terrorized Chicago in 1905, the Tribune helpfully reprinted stories from around the country about women who had fought back successfully. “One told of a Philadelphia stenographer who took boxing lessons from her brother and then knocked out the man who was forcing his attentions on her,” Freedman said. “Another told of a Japanese visitor to New York who used jujitsu against an electrician who tried to speak to her on the street.”

The masher threat also impelled more women to exercise in city parks not to improve their health or looks or even to provide the brute strength to fend off an attack, said Freedman, but to give them a “keener intuition of what her assailant” might be planning, noted the Tribune article.

On an institutional level, cities from New York to Los Angeles began hiring female police officers specifically to protect young women. “By 1920,” Freedman noted, “almost 300 women were serving on police forces in over 200 cities, many of them acting as quasi social workers.” Victims of street harassment also were encouraged to prosecute men who had tormented them, despite the notoriety a public court appearance might bring.

Interestingly, public outrage over mashers seemed to decline significantly after women got the vote in 1920. As Freedman observed, “In the new sexual era taking shape, public flirtation ceased to be as offensive as it had once been.” Movies popularized the adventurous flapper, while radio stations filled the airwaves with titillating songs about flirting. At the same time, “a more aggressive ideal of manhood was replacing the chivalrous protector and the respectful gentleman of the late Victorian era,” she said. “Guardians of street morality seemed outdated . . . The street pickup became comic and normative.”

It wasn’t until the women’s liberation movement of the 1960s and ’70s that mashing again became a matter of public interest – only by this time the behavior had a new name: street harassment. As with the anti-masher movement, outrage over street harassment emerged at a time when more women were venturing into historically male spaces. And just as at the turn of the century, “Fighting back physically and legally represented a forum of female resistance to sexual threats,” Freedman said, “and insistence on full economic and political citizenship.”

I love learning about our predecessor resistors. It’s kinda depressing though to think about how long women have been putting up with and fighting street harassment. But let’s keep on going. A better future depends on our work.

Social Class Matters

I also want to note that when I think about history and street harassment, I always think about how street harassment is something lower class women have always had to deal with because they are the ones who’ve had to leave their homes to work, to go to the market, to run errands, etc, both for their families and perhaps for middle and upper class women’s families.

During different time periods, including ours today, whenever large numbers of upper and middle class women (and in the US, this often means white women) leave their homes unaccompanied by men to go places like work, school, and stores, they encounter street harassment, too. That’s when suddenly (some) people care about street harassment (but not enough). Class privilege. This was apparent to me in the Standford blog post and you can see it in articles like:

  • Patricia Cline Coehn’s “Safety and Danger: Women on American Public Transport, 1750-1850.” In Gendered Domains: Rethinking Public and Private in Women’s History
  • Susan Drucker and Gary Gumpert’s “Shopping Women, and Public Space.” In Voices in the Street: Explorations in Gender, Media, and Public Space.
  • Judith R. Walkowitz’s “Going Public: Shopping, Street Harassment, and Streetwalking in Late Victorian London.”
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Filed Under: street harassment Tagged With: Estelle Freedman, mashers, sexual harassment, Stanford university, street flirts, street harassment

Winners of the Hey, Shorty! drawing + help fund Hey, Shorty! book tour

April 20, 2011 By HKearl

I’m trying to be more interactive-y so I filmed the drawing of the names of the people* who won copies of the new book Hey, Shorty! A guide to Combating Sexual Harassment and Violence in Schools and on the Streets and a copy of the Hey…Shorty! documentary, both from Girls for Gender Equity.

(If you watch the drawing, you’ll notice something I didn’t while filming… one of my dogs is licking himself on the couch behind me. Whoops, sorry about that folks! But I can’t redo a drawing, so you’re getting real, unedited life. You can also spot my second dog on the couch on the other side of me. At one point I smile at her.)

I hope everyone who didn’t win will check out the Hey, Shorty! book. You can read one of its latest book reviews on the Ms. blog today.

Also, one of the authors of the book, Mandy Van Deven, needs your help as she works to fund a national book tour. Please consider donating to the book tour so that more people around the country can learn about the important issues the book covers. Mandy and I will co-speak at any of the events that are in my area, so if you’re on the East Coast, you may get to hear from authors of two of the only books that address street harassment! Learn more and donate.

*Jeff Stutsman and Sara Cannon won copies of the book, Dienna Howard won a copy of the documentary

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“[He] decided to lay down and basically hump the pile of sand that he was sitting on”

April 20, 2011 By Contributor

A couple of summers ago my son and I had been going to a beach close to our house. Near the end of the summer he went to visit some relatives for a week. I was a little uneasy to go to the beach by myself but I really like swimming and love being outdoors. I decided to go.

I found a place on the beach to put my things down and went for a swim. I got out of the water and sat down on my towel.

Then a man came up from behind me and sat down right next to me. This made me very uncomfortable and it was very much unwelcomed.

He was very friendly and after he said how much he liked the ocean and what a nice day it was, he told me that he was open to all kinds of sexual experiences and, with no encouragement from me, started to tell me about some of them. I was trying to stay calm while looking for my chance to make a run for it. Around this time I could “clearly see” that he enjoyed hearing himself talk, so much so that he started to touch himself.

The whole time he was acting like this was totally normal.

I, however, was looking over my shoulder at the police department that is on the beach not to far away from where I was. I wondered if anyone would even notice if things got worse. He then decided to lay down and basically hump the pile of sand that he was sitting on. I saw my chance, I quickly got up and grabbed my things and headed for the sidewalk. He didn’t come after me (something that has happen to me in the past).

I have so many of these stories, it is why I hesitated to go in the first place. This total loser took part of the beach away from me. It is not really safe anymore.

– Anonymous

Location: Redondo Beach, California

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Why can’t guys wear skirts?

April 20, 2011 By Contributor

Not sure if you’ll be interested in my story, but I’ll tell you anyway in the hope that someone out there might understand and change their attitudes. It’s not of a specific occurrence, more a general description.

I am male – a male with what might be described as a ‘girly’ taste in clothes. I like to wear skirts, more often than not with knee length boots. I’m not a ‘goth’ and don’t identify with any ‘fashion group’ within society – neither am I gay – neither do I dress to appear to be a girl.

So why is it that whenever I go out wearing what I want to wear, I get abuse of the ‘trannie’, ‘gayboy’ and ‘queer’ variety – usually from males ? Do those same males abuse girls wearing jeans/trousers as being ‘lesbians’ ? If not, why not – their logic to me is exactly the same!

– Anonymous

Location: In the city streets

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Filed Under: male perspective, street harassment Tagged With: gender policing, street harassment

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