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Is Stop Street Harassment available at your library?

September 27, 2010 By HKearl

I love visiting libraries and checking out books.

Growing up, on Saturday afternoons my sisters and I usually accompanied our dad while he ran errands. Often the first stop was the local library.

My sisters and I would pick out several books and start reading them as soon as we got to the car. Sometimes it was hard for my parents to get us to put them down again. In one family photo, I’m captured on film at age 10 vacuuming the house (one of my Saturday jobs) with a book in hand, trying to read and vacuum at the same time.

In college, I felt the best part about writing research papers was having an excuse to walk up and down the library stacks. I spent hours browsing through books, not infrequently finding myself sidetracked from the paper topic.

Today I still visit my local library at least once a month to stock up on books to read during my 2-2.5 hour round-trip daily work commute.

I appreciate that over my lifetime, I’ve been able to read hundreds of books for free. If I had had to buy every book I wanted to read, I simply wouldn’t have been able to afford it (what book lover would)?

And now my love of books has led me to write my own about a topic I am very passionate about: street harassment.

My book is relatively expensive (you can find it for 20% off online at Amazon and Barnes and Noble), and I know that $35 or $45 for a book is not realistic for everyone.

Thank goodness library books are free!

Does your library carry Stop Street Harassment in its catalog?

If not and if you want to become better informed about street harassment and learn how you can help stop  it, & if you want people in your community to as well, consider requesting Stop Street Harassment:  Making Public Places Safe and Welcoming for Women for your local library.

On your local library’s website, they likely will have a page called “Suggest a Title” or “Suggest a Book.” To request the book, you will need to provide your library card number, the book title (above) and author’s name (Holly Kearl). If they need an age range, it’s for teenagers and adults.

“Golden Silence,” a woman who has shared several of her street harassment stories on this blog, requested Stop Street Harassment for her library and she just informed me that the library agreed to order it. So, folks in Arlington, VA, you can check it out in 4-6 weeks 🙂

I hope that you, too, will request the book for your library. It’s a fast, easy, and free way to help make this information accessible for everyone in your community.

(And if you happen to have an extra copy or are done with yours, you can always donate it to the library. When so many libraries, including mine, are facing budget cuts, that is one way to ensure your library can carry a copy.)

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Filed Under: street harassment Tagged With: catcalls, i love library books, libraries, sexual harassment, stop street harassment book, street harassment

You did NOT just make my day

September 21, 2010 By Contributor

I was sitting in my car at an intersection, when a truck full of guys pulls up and noticed me and my sister next to them. One of the guys started yelling out his car at us, the whole, “Hey ladies, how you doing” scenario. We ignored him, which must have embarrassed him in front of his friends because then he yelled, “Hey I just made your day”. Not a chance.

– Anonymous

Location: Massachusetts

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Filed Under: Stories, street harassment Tagged With: catcalls, harassment is not a compliment, sexual harassment, street harassment

Weekly Round Up: August 15, 2010

August 15, 2010 By HKearl

Story Submissions Recap:

I accept street harassment submissions from anywhere in the world. Share your story!

  • Stop Street Harassment Blog: 3 stories from a woman in Edmonton, Canada, 1 from a woman in Virginia, and 1 from a woman in California
  • HollaBack DC!: 5 new stories
  • HollaBack NYC: 7 new stories
  • HollaBack UK: 7 new stories

In the News, On the Blogs:

  • CNN, “Twitter photo helps nab suspected flasher“
  • WPIX, “Cops search for suspect in Astoria sexual assault“
  • Jezebel, “What were you wearing when you were sexually harassed?” and the poll results
  • Real Zest, “Street Harassment: Why Don’t Guys Understand It?“
  • Frisky, “How do you handle a pervert?“

Events:

  • Sept. 2: Stop Street Harassment Book Release Event in Washington, D.C.
  • Sept 10: Stop Street Harassment Book Release Event in NYC
  • Sept. 16: “Hey, You, Can I Get a Smile?” One-Woman Show, NYC

Announcements:

  • Vote for HollaBack DC! in the Pepsi Refresh Challenge
  • Vote for HollaBack NYC in the Paperless Choice Digital Fundraising Challenge
  • HollaBack NYC is looking for interns
  • Call for Artists: Women and Mobility in the City Exhibition (via Jagori)
  • RightRides is looking for volunteers in NYC
  • The book Stop Street Harassment is out in August. Pre-order it today!

10 Street Harassment Tweets from the Week:

  • peterdaou The fight for gay rights, women’s rights, human rights: if one person is oppressed, we’re all oppressed. #lgbt #women
  • jennpozner No, 19yrold douchebag following me home at 1:30 am, I am not going to invite you back to my apt. #MoveItAlong #StreetHarassment
  • WenJoMath srsly, what do you think yelling “hoochi” at me from across the street is going to get you? #streetharassment
  • Lvn2SrvHim Thank you Mr. Construction Guy. Your catcall as I walked by definitely made me feel like a puppy…a cheap one.
  • gabriellle Loves when guys in cars whistle/catcall while nearly plowing her down on the sidewalk. Nothing turns me on like you almost taking my life.
  • sararoxyoursox My rant about street harassment when I’m running. http://savemywetlands.blogspot.com/2010/08/open-letter.html
  • hkearl: when it comes 2 #streetharassment why do we have 2 spend so much time saying women don’t “ask for it” or like it? http://tinyurl.com/37s3vlt
  • piathabia Sometimes, I really hate men. #streetharassment
  • ABookishBeemer Don’t care what your excuse is. Think you have a right to talk to a woman on the street? No. You don’t. Not sorry. #streetharassment
  • Hello_Ladies I was only in NYC 10 minutes when I witnessed street harassment. Amazing.

Resource of the Week:

Men’s Anti-Violence Council

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Filed Under: Events, hollaback, Stories, weekly round up Tagged With: can i get a smile, catcalls, groping, hollaback, sexual harassment, stop street harassment book, street harassment

“Guys, catcalls are never cool”

March 19, 2010 By HKearl

Micah Toub wrote a thoughtful, great article on street harassment for Toronto’s The Globe and Mail called “Guys, catcalls are never cool.” He discusses how women feel about street harassment and some of the reasons why men do it. His conclusion for how men can flirt without being a harasser:

“The thing I was thinking after these conversations, is that a smile – even if underneath it lies a more carnivorous urge – can at least be interpreted by its receiver any way she wants. Or ignored. So in the same way that women have attempted to take back the street, I’d suggest that the good men out there take back the street flirt, by starting again from square one.

When it comes to expressing springtime desires, less is definitely more.”

Image from Globe & Mail

I chatted with Micah last week and was very pleased by the quotes he included from me. A few times in the past I’ve been misquoted in articles and was not in this one. I also love the quotes from Dr. Michael Kimmel. I find that he always has interesting information on masculinity issues.

What are your thoughts? What constitutes acceptable flirting and unacceptable harassment?

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Filed Under: male perspective, News stories, street harassment Tagged With: catcalling, catcalls, flirting, globe and mail, holly kearl, micah toub, michael kimmel, street harassment

I am harassed every day

August 19, 2009 By Contributor

I am harassed every day, no matter what route I take to walk to work. I have been followed to my home by a crawling car, jeered at, spit at, and pretty much made to feel uncomfortable in the public realm. Its been this way for a few years and now I am just as confrontational back. I have learned that telling them to eat shit usually shuts them up.

– MK

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Filed Under: Stories Tagged With: catcalls, sexual harassment, stalking, Stories, street harassment

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